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Health Smart Virginia Sample Lessons 2018
Grade 10 – Violence Prevention/Healthy Relationships
Unit 9 SOLs:
10.1.s Evaluate potentially harmful and abusive relationships, including dangerous dating situations. Title: Love Shouldn’t Hurt Objectives/ Goals:
● Students will be able to explain healthy relationship characteristics. ● Students will be able to identify the warning signs of an abusive relationship. ● Students will have knowledge on how to help someone who is an abusive relationship.
Materials:
● Love Shouldn’t Hurt -ppt ● Relationships Exist on a Spectrum ● Relationship Spectrum Kahoot.it Click Here (https://play.kahoot.it/#/k/c329469e-58c8-
4e92-89a1-8738c74c15b6) ● Projector, screen, and computer ● Devices or computers to play Kahoot.it
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Health Smart Virginia Sample Lessons 2018
Procedure:
[Lesson: 60 mins]
Step 1: Introduction
Show Relationships Exists on a Spectrum on the projector screen. As students are walking into class
have them read through Relationships Exists on a Spectrum. Spend about five minutes having kids read
it and discuss if necessary.
Step 2: Hook
The Relationship Spectrum Kahoot.it game:
Open Love Shouldn’t Hurt-ppt on computer and put on the projector screen and go to Slide #2. Open
the Kahoot.it link https://play.kahoot.it/#/k/c329469e-58c8-4e92-89a1-8738c74c15b6 and choose the
“Individual Player” option. A Kahoot code will show up on the screen. Students use their
device/computer and go to Kahoot.it and log in with the code on the screen to play (from the link the
teacher pressed in slide #2). Make sure the students use their real names (can be used to take
attendance; if students put an inappropriate name on the screen the instructor can scroll over name and
delete it). Discuss questions and answers between Kahoot questions. Encourage kids to participate in
each questions discussion.
The Relationship Spectrum Kahoot.it game will get the students thinking about healthy versus
unhealthy characteristics in a relationship. All relationships exist on a spectrum, from healthy to
abusive to somewhere in between.
Step 3: Presentation
Return to the Love Shouldn’t Hurt ppt and go to Slide #3. Watch video and continue viewing
remaining slides. Present all slides, discussing and taking questions as they come. At slide #24
(“Click Here to View Safety Plan”), click on the link and review the poster with students. The poster
is designed to be printed and can be done so before the lesson. After poster has been presented,
continue with rest of presentation.
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Health Smart Virginia Sample Lessons 2018
Assessments:
● Print the Safety Plan Poster onto a sheet of paper and hand to students after presentation. ● Instructor will provide professional emergency contacts for their geographical location in the
space provided at the bottom of the poster ● Students will add at least two of their own emergency contacts at the bottom of the sheet in the
space provided References, & Sources:
● Ryan and Jade Teenage Relationship Abuse Advert [full version] (2013, March 4). Home Office Retrieved from https://youtu.be/zOLAelTPs6c.
● Steiner, Leslie. (2013, Jan. 25). Why domestic violence victims don’t leave? TED Talk. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=1&v=V1yW5IsnSjo
● The Line. (2008, October 19). Love is Respect. Retrieved June 18, 2018, from https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=1&v=dNvt_zSiIkg
● Types of Abuse - loveisrespect. (n.d.). Retrieved from http://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/types-of-abuse/
● Relationship Spectrum Kahoot.it https://play.kahoot.it/#/k/c329469e-58c8-4e92-89a1-8738c74c15b6
● http://www.loveisrespect.org/ ○ http://www.loveisrespect.org/educators-toolkits/
Kimberly Ohara-Borowski M.Ed. Ocean View High School
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re:
Com
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You
talk
open
ly ab
out p
robl
ems,
lis
ten
to e
ach
othe
r and
resp
ect e
ach
othe
r’s o
pini
ons.
Res
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ful:
You
valu
e ea
ch o
ther
as
you
are.
You
re
spec
t eac
h ot
her’s
em
otio
nal,
digi
tal a
nd s
exua
l bo
unda
ries.
Trus
ting:
You
beli
eve
wha
t you
r par
tner
has
to s
ay.
You
do n
ot fe
el th
e ne
ed to
“pro
ve” e
ach
othe
r’s
trust
wor
thin
ess.
Hon
est:
You
are
hone
st w
ith e
ach
othe
r, bu
t can
still
ke
ep s
ome
thin
gs p
rivat
e.
Equa
l: Yo
u m
ake
decis
ions
toge
ther
and
hol
d ea
ch
othe
r to
the
sam
e st
anda
rds.
Enjo
ying
per
sona
l tim
e: Y
ou b
oth
can
enjo
y sp
endi
ng ti
me
apar
t, alo
ne o
r with
oth
ers.
You
re
spec
t eac
h ot
her’s
nee
d fo
r tim
e ap
art.
You
may
be
in a
n un
heal
thy
rela
tions
hip
if on
e or
bo
th p
artn
ers
is:
Not
com
mun
icat
ing:
Whe
n pr
oblem
s ar
ise, y
ou
fight
or y
ou d
on’t
disc
uss
them
at a
ll.
Dis
resp
ectf
ul: O
ne o
r bot
h pa
rtner
s is
not
cons
ider
ate
of th
e ot
her’s
feeli
ngs
and/
or p
erso
nal
boun
darie
s.
Not
trus
ting:
One
par
tner
doe
sn’t
belie
ve w
hat t
he
othe
r say
s, o
r fee
ls en
titled
to in
vade
their
priv
acy.
Dis
hone
st: O
ne o
r bot
h pa
rtner
s te
lls lie
s.
Tryi
ng to
take
con
trol
: One
par
tner
feels
their
de
sires
and
cho
ices
are
mor
e im
porta
nt.
Onl
y sp
endi
ng ti
me
with
you
r par
tner
: You
r pa
rtner
’s co
mm
unity
is th
e on
ly on
e yo
u so
cializ
e in
.
Abus
e is
occu
rring
in a
relat
ions
hip
whe
n on
e pa
rtner
:
Com
mun
icat
es in
a w
ay th
at is
hur
tful,
thre
aten
ing,
in
sultin
g or
dem
eani
ng.
Dis
resp
ects
the
feeli
ngs,
thou
ghts
, dec
ision
s,
opin
ions
or p
hysic
al sa
fety
of t
he o
ther
.
Phys
ical
ly h
urts
or i
njur
es th
e ot
her p
artn
er b
y hi
tting
, slap
ping
, cho
king,
pus
hing
or s
hovin
g.
Bla
mes
the
othe
r par
tner
for t
heir
harm
ful a
ctio
ns,
mak
es e
xcus
es fo
r abu
sive
actio
ns a
nd/o
r min
imize
s th
e ab
usive
beh
avio
r.
Con
trol
s an
d is
olat
es th
e ot
her p
artn
er b
y te
lling
them
wha
t to
wea
r, w
ho th
ey c
an h
ang
out w
ith,
whe
re th
ey c
an g
o an
d/or
wha
t the
y ca
n do
.
Pres
sure
s or
forc
es th
e ot
her p
artn
er to
do
thin
gs
they
don
’t w
ant t
o do
; thr
eate
ns, h
urts
or b
lackm
ails
their
par
tner
if th
ey re
sist o
r say
no.
All r
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nshi
ps e
xist o
n a
spec
trum
, fro
m h
ealth
y to
abu
sive
to s
omew
here
in b
etw
een.
Belo
w, w
e ou
tline
beha
viors
that
occ
ur in
hea
lthy,
unhe
althy
and
ab
usive
relat
ions
hips
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& C
hara
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Unh
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latio
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Dat
ing
Abus
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6
War
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Sig
ns o
f Abu
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7
How
to H
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Your
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love
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empo
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you
ng p
eopl
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end
abu
sive
relat
ions
hips
. It
is a
proj
ect o
f the
Nat
iona
l Dom
estic
Vio
lence
Ho
tline
and
Brea
k th
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cle.
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with
us!
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r abu
se, a
nd n
o on
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serv
es
to b
e ab
used
. For
sup
port,
info
rmat
ion
and
reso
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w lo
veisr
espe
ct o
n so
cial m
edia
for i
nfor
mat
ion
and
upda
tes
to s
hare
with
you
r frie
nds
and
fam
ily.
Face
book
/lov
eisre
spec
tpag
e
Twitt
er @
love
isres
pect
Inst
agra
m @
love
isres
pect
officia
l
Ever
y da
y m
illion
s of
lives
in th
e U.
S. a
re d
evas
tate
d by
vio
lence
. On
aver
age,
24
peop
le a
min
ute
are
victim
s of
phy
sical
violen
ce, r
ape
or s
talki
ng b
y an
intim
ate
partn
er. T
hat a
dds
up to
mor
e th
an 1
2 m
illion
wom
en a
nd m
en a
yea
r. Th
e re
ality
is th
at th
is do
esn’
t onl
y aff
ect a
dults
. The
re a
re
milli
ons
of y
oung
peo
ple
in th
is co
untry
, man
y of
who
m m
ay b
e st
uden
ts o
f you
rs, w
hose
lives
are
aff
ecte
d—so
met
imes
sha
ped—
by v
iolen
ce.
The
Fact
sO
ne in
thre
e ad
oles
cent
s in
the
U.S.
is a
vict
im o
f em
otio
nal,
phys
ical o
r sex
ual a
buse
from
a d
atin
g pa
rtner
, a fi
gure
that
far e
xcee
ds o
ther
type
s of
you
th v
iolen
ce.
Onl
y 33
% o
f tee
ns w
ho w
ere
in a
vio
lent r
elatio
nshi
p ev
er to
ld a
nyon
e ab
out t
he a
buse
.
Datin
g ab
use
affec
ts a
roun
d 1.
5 m
illion
teen
s an
nuall
y.
As a
n ed
ucat
or, y
ou a
re in
a p
ositio
n to
influ
ence
, mot
ivate
and
lead
chi
ldre
n an
d yo
uth.
As
a m
ento
r and
role
mod
el to
you
r stu
dent
s, y
ou p
lay a
crit
ical r
ole
in s
hapi
ng th
eir a
ttitu
des
and
beha
viors
. You
hav
e th
e ab
ility
to h
elp th
em g
et a
n un
ders
tand
ing
of h
ealth
y re
latio
nshi
ps a
nd le
arn
to re
cogn
ize th
e sig
ns o
f an
unhe
althy
or a
busiv
e re
latio
nshi
p. B
y lev
erag
ing
class
room
disc
ussio
n,
spec
ial p
rojec
ts a
nd m
odeli
ng th
e ap
prop
riate
beh
avio
rs th
roug
h yo
ur o
wn
wor
ds a
nd a
ctio
ns, y
ou
can
have
a tr
emen
dous
impa
ct o
n ho
w y
our s
tude
nts
grow
to u
nder
stan
d an
d ap
prec
iate
safe
, he
althy
and
resp
ectfu
l rela
tions
hips
.
It is
our h
ope
that
you
will
feel
free
to u
se th
is gu
ide
beca
use
we
belie
ve th
at th
e w
ay to
pre
vent
and
en
d do
mes
tic v
iolen
ce a
nd d
atin
g ab
use
is th
roug
h ed
ucat
ion.
Hea
lthy
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tions
hip
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ator
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REL
ATIO
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IPS
EXIS
T
ON
A S
PEC
TRU
M
A he
alth
y re
latio
nshi
p m
eans
that
bot
h yo
u an
d yo
ur p
artn
er a
re:
Com
mun
icat
ing:
You
talk
open
ly ab
out p
robl
ems,
lis
ten
to e
ach
othe
r and
resp
ect e
ach
othe
r’s o
pini
ons.
Res
pect
ful:
You
valu
e ea
ch o
ther
as
you
are.
You
re
spec
t eac
h ot
her’s
em
otio
nal,
digi
tal a
nd s
exua
l bo
unda
ries.
Trus
ting:
You
beli
eve
wha
t you
r par
tner
has
to s
ay.
You
do n
ot fe
el th
e ne
ed to
“pro
ve” e
ach
othe
r’s
trust
wor
thin
ess.
Hon
est:
You
are
hone
st w
ith e
ach
othe
r, bu
t can
still
ke
ep s
ome
thin
gs p
rivat
e.
Equa
l: Yo
u m
ake
decis
ions
toge
ther
and
hol
d ea
ch
othe
r to
the
sam
e st
anda
rds.
Enjo
ying
per
sona
l tim
e: Y
ou b
oth
can
enjo
y sp
endi
ng ti
me
apar
t, alo
ne o
r with
oth
ers.
You
re
spec
t eac
h ot
her’s
nee
d fo
r tim
e ap
art.
You
may
be
in a
n un
heal
thy
rela
tions
hip
if on
e or
bo
th p
artn
ers
is:
Not
com
mun
icat
ing:
Whe
n pr
oblem
s ar
ise, y
ou
fight
or y
ou d
on’t
disc
uss
them
at a
ll.
Dis
resp
ectf
ul: O
ne o
r bot
h pa
rtner
s is
not
cons
ider
ate
of th
e ot
her’s
feeli
ngs
and/
or p
erso
nal
boun
darie
s.
Not
trus
ting:
One
par
tner
doe
sn’t
belie
ve w
hat t
he
othe
r say
s, o
r fee
ls en
titled
to in
vade
their
priv
acy.
Dis
hone
st: O
ne o
r bot
h pa
rtner
s te
lls lie
s.
Tryi
ng to
take
con
trol
: One
par
tner
feels
their
de
sires
and
cho
ices
are
mor
e im
porta
nt.
Onl
y sp
endi
ng ti
me
with
you
r par
tner
: You
r pa
rtner
’s co
mm
unity
is th
e on
ly on
e yo
u so
cializ
e in
.
Abus
e is
occu
rring
in a
relat
ions
hip
whe
n on
e pa
rtner
:
Com
mun
icat
es in
a w
ay th
at is
hur
tful,
thre
aten
ing,
in
sultin
g or
dem
eani
ng.
Dis
resp
ects
the
feeli
ngs,
thou
ghts
, dec
ision
s,
opin
ions
or p
hysic
al sa
fety
of t
he o
ther
.
Phys
ical
ly h
urts
or i
njur
es th
e ot
her p
artn
er b
y hi
tting
, slap
ping
, cho
king,
pus
hing
or s
hovin
g.
Bla
mes
the
othe
r par
tner
for t
heir
harm
ful a
ctio
ns,
mak
es e
xcus
es fo
r abu
sive
actio
ns a
nd/o
r min
imize
s th
e ab
usive
beh
avio
r.
Con
trol
s an
d is
olat
es th
e ot
her p
artn
er b
y te
lling
them
wha
t to
wea
r, w
ho th
ey c
an h
ang
out w
ith,
whe
re th
ey c
an g
o an
d/or
wha
t the
y ca
n do
.
Pres
sure
s or
forc
es th
e ot
her p
artn
er to
do
thin
gs
they
don
’t w
ant t
o do
; thr
eate
ns, h
urts
or b
lackm
ails
their
par
tner
if th
ey re
sist o
r say
no.
All r
elatio
nshi
ps e
xist o
n a
spec
trum
, fro
m h
ealth
y to
abu
sive
to s
omew
here
in b
etw
een.
Belo
w, w
e ou
tline
beha
viors
that
occ
ur in
hea
lthy,
unhe
althy
and
ab
usive
relat
ions
hips
.
HEA
LTH
Y U
NH
EALT
HY
ABU
SIVE
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
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DEF
ININ
G H
EALT
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ATIO
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IPS
Relat
ions
hips
can
all l
ook
diffe
rent
, but
hea
lthy
relat
ions
hips
hav
e a
few
thin
gs
in c
omm
on: o
pen
com
mun
icatio
n, m
utua
l res
pect
and
hea
lthy
boun
darie
s.
Com
mun
icat
ion
is a
key
part
of b
uild
ing
a he
althy
relat
ions
hip.
The
firs
t ste
p is
mak
ing
sure
bot
h pa
rtner
s in
a re
latio
nshi
p w
ant a
nd e
xpec
t the
sam
e th
ings
—be
ing
on th
e sa
me
page
is v
ery
impo
rtant
. The
follo
win
g tip
s ca
n he
lp
your
stu
dent
s cr
eate
and
main
tain
a h
ealth
y re
latio
nshi
p:
Spea
k U
p. In
a h
ealth
y re
latio
nshi
p, if
som
ethi
ng is
bot
herin
g th
em, i
t’s b
est
to ta
lk ab
out i
t ins
tead
of h
oldi
ng it
in.
Res
pect
Eac
h O
ther
. Eac
h pa
rtner
’s w
ishes
and
feeli
ngs
have
valu
e.
Let e
ach
othe
r kno
w th
ey a
re m
akin
g an
effo
rt to
kee
p th
eir id
eas
in m
ind.
M
utua
l res
pect
is e
ssen
tial in
main
tain
ing
healt
hy re
latio
nshi
ps.
Com
prom
ise.
Disa
gree
men
ts a
re a
nat
ural
part
of h
ealth
y re
latio
nshi
ps,
bu
t it’s
impo
rtant
that
they
find
a w
ay to
com
prom
ise if
they
disa
gree
on
som
ethi
ng. T
hey
shou
ld tr
y to
sol
ve c
onflic
ts in
a fa
ir an
d ra
tiona
l way
.
Be
Supp
ortiv
e. O
ffer r
eass
uran
ce a
nd e
ncou
rage
men
t to
each
oth
er in
a
relat
ions
hip.
Also
, par
tner
s sh
ould
let e
ach
othe
r kno
w w
hen
they
nee
d th
eir
supp
ort.
Healt
hy re
latio
nshi
ps a
re a
bout
bui
ldin
g ea
ch o
ther
up,
not
put
ting
ea
ch o
ther
dow
n.
Res
pect
Eac
h O
ther
’s P
rivac
y. J
ust b
ecau
se s
omeo
ne is
in a
relat
ions
hip
do
esn’
t mea
n th
ey h
ave
to s
hare
eve
ryth
ing
and
cons
tant
ly be
toge
ther
.
Setti
ng H
ealth
y Bo
unda
ries
Healt
hy re
latio
nshi
ps re
quire
spa
ce. C
reat
ing
healt
hy b
ound
aries
is a
goo
d w
ay to
kee
p re
latio
nshi
ps h
ealth
y an
d se
cure
.
By s
ettin
g bo
unda
ries
toge
ther
, par
tner
s ca
n ha
ve a
dee
per u
nder
stan
ding
of
the
type
of r
elatio
nshi
p th
ey e
ach
wan
t. Bo
unda
ries
are
not m
eant
to m
ake
anyo
ne fe
el tra
pped
or l
ike th
ey a
re “w
alkin
g on
egg
shell
s.”
Crea
ting
boun
darie
s is
not a
sig
n of
sec
recy
or d
istru
st—
it’s a
n ex
pres
sion
of
wha
t mak
es s
omeo
ne fe
el co
mfo
rtabl
e an
d w
hat t
hey
wou
ld lik
e or
not
like
to
happ
en w
ithin
the
relat
ions
hip.
Hea
lthy
boun
darie
s sh
ould
n’t r
estr
ict s
omeo
ne’s
abi
lity
to:
• G
o ou
t with
their
frien
ds w
ithou
t the
ir pa
rtner
.
• Pa
rticip
ate
in a
ctivi
ties
and
hobb
ies th
ey lik
e.
• No
t hav
e to
sha
re p
assw
ords
to th
eir e
, soc
ial m
edia
acco
unts
or p
hone
.
• Re
spec
t eac
h ot
her’s
indi
vidua
l like
s an
d ne
eds.
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t6
DEF
ININ
G U
NH
EALT
HY
REL
ATIO
NSH
IPS
&
DAT
ING
AB
USE
Relat
ions
hips
that
are
not
hea
lthy
are
base
d on
pow
er a
nd c
ontro
l, no
t eq
uality
and
resp
ect.
In th
e ea
rly s
tage
s of
an
abus
ive re
latio
nshi
p, y
our
stud
ents
may
not
thin
k th
e un
healt
hy b
ehav
iors
are
a b
ig d
eal.
How
ever
, po
sses
siven
ess,
insu
lts, j
ealo
us a
ccus
atio
ns, y
ellin
g, h
umilia
tion,
pul
ling
hair,
push
ing
or o
ther
neg
ative
, abu
sive
beha
viors
, are
—at
their
root
—ex
ertio
ns o
f po
wer
and
con
trol.
Rem
embe
r tha
t abu
se is
alw
ays
a ch
oice
and
you
des
erve
to
be
resp
ecte
d. T
here
is n
o ex
cuse
for a
buse
of a
ny k
ind.
Datin
g ab
use
is a
patte
rn o
f des
truc
tive
beha
vior
s us
ed to
exe
rt p
ower
an
d co
ntro
l ove
r a d
atin
g pa
rtner
. Whi
le w
e de
fine
datin
g vio
lence
as
a pa
ttern
, tha
t doe
sn’t
mea
n th
e fir
st in
stan
ce o
f abu
se is
not
dat
ing
violen
ce.
It ju
st re
cogn
izes
that
dat
ing
violen
ce u
suall
y in
volve
s a
serie
s of
abu
sive
beha
viors
ove
r a c
ours
e of
tim
e.
Dat
ing
viol
ence
can
hap
pen
to a
nyon
e, re
gard
less
of a
ge, r
ace,
gen
der,
sexu
al or
ienta
tion
or b
ackg
roun
d.
Drug
s an
d alc
ohol
can
affe
ct a
per
son’s
judg
men
t and
beh
avio
r, bu
t the
y do
no
t exc
use
abus
e or
vio
lenc
e. A
ltern
ative
ly, if
a p
erso
n us
es d
rugs
/alco
hol
it do
es n
ot m
ean
they
des
erve
abu
se o
r ass
ault.
Dat
ing
viol
ence
can
be:
Phys
ical
: hitt
ing,
slap
ping
, cho
king,
kick
ing,
gra
bbin
g, p
ullin
g ha
ir,
push
ing,
sho
ving
Emot
iona
l/Ver
bal:
putti
ng y
ou d
own;
em
barra
ssin
g yo
u in
pub
lic (o
nlin
e or
off)
; thr
eate
ning
you
in a
ny w
ay; t
ellin
g yo
u w
hat t
o do
or w
hat t
o w
ear;
thre
aten
ing
suici
de; a
ccus
ing
you
of c
heat
ing
Sexu
al: p
ress
urin
g or
forc
ing
you
to d
o an
ythi
ng s
exua
l you
’re n
ot
com
forta
ble
with
and
/or d
o no
t con
sent
to, i
nclu
ding
sex
ting;
rest
rictin
g
acce
ss to
birt
h co
ntro
l; un
wan
ted
kissin
g or
touc
hing
Fina
ncia
l: de
man
ding
acc
ess
to y
our m
oney
; pre
vent
ing
you
from
wor
king;
in
sistin
g th
at if
they
pay
for y
ou, y
ou o
we
them
som
ethi
ng in
retu
rn
Dig
ital:
send
ing
thre
ats
via te
xt, s
ocial
med
ia or
em
ail; s
talki
ng o
r em
barra
ssin
g yo
u on
soc
ial m
edia;
hac
king
your
soc
ial m
edia
or e
ac
coun
ts w
ithou
t per
miss
ion;
forc
ing
you
to s
hare
pas
swor
ds; c
onst
antly
te
xtin
g or
call
ing
to c
heck
up
on y
ou; f
requ
ently
look
ing
thro
ugh
your
pho
ne
or m
onito
ring
your
text
s/ca
ll log
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t7
WAR
NIN
G S
IGN
S O
F AB
USE
War
ning
Sig
ns o
f Abu
se
Beca
use
relat
ions
hips
exis
t on
a sp
ectru
m, i
t can
be
hard
to te
ll whe
n a
beha
vior c
ross
es th
e lin
e fro
m h
ealth
y to
unh
ealth
y or
eve
n ab
usive
. The
fo
llow
ing
are
war
ning
sig
ns o
f a re
latio
nshi
p go
ing
in th
e w
rong
dire
ctio
n:
• Co
nsta
ntly
putti
ng s
omeo
ne d
own
• Ex
trem
e jea
lous
y or
inse
curit
y •
Expl
osive
tem
per
• Iso
latin
g so
meo
ne fr
om th
eir fa
mily
or f
riend
s, d
ictat
ing
who
they
can
see
or h
ang
out w
ith
• M
ood
swin
gs (n
ice o
ne m
inut
e an
d an
gry
the
next
)•
Chec
king
som
eone
’s ce
ll pho
ne, s
ocial
med
ia or
em
ail w
ithou
t per
miss
ion
• Ph
ysica
lly h
urtin
g so
meo
ne in
any
way
•
Poss
essiv
enes
s •
Tellin
g so
meo
ne w
hat t
o do
or w
hat t
o w
ear
Not
sur
e if
one
of y
our s
tude
nts
is
in tr
oubl
e?
You
mig
ht n
ot s
ee d
ram
atic
war
ning
sig
ns lik
e bl
ack
eyes
and
bro
ken
bone
s, s
o it
can
be d
ifficu
lt to
kn
ow fo
r sur
e if
they
are
exp
erien
cing
abus
e in
their
re
latio
nshi
p. B
ut if
you
kno
w th
e sig
ns to
look
for,
you
mig
ht b
e ab
le to
reco
gnize
an
abus
ive re
latio
nshi
p be
fore
it e
scala
tes.
To
star
t, lis
ten
to y
our i
nstin
cts—
you
prob
ably
wou
ldn’
t be
wor
ried
with
out g
ood
reas
on. A
lso, l
ook
for t
hese
red
flags
:
• Pr
oblem
s w
ith s
choo
l atte
ndan
ce, p
artic
ular
ly if
it
is
a ne
w p
robl
em
• La
ck o
f int
eres
t in
form
er e
xtra
curri
cular
act
ivitie
s
• Su
dden
requ
est f
or a
cha
nge
in s
ched
ule
• Un
expl
ained
cha
nges
in b
ehav
ior,
grad
es
or
qua
lity o
f sch
oolw
ork
• No
ticea
ble
chan
ge in
weig
ht, d
emea
nor
or
phy
sical
appe
aran
ce
• Iso
latio
n fro
m fo
rmer
frien
ds
• Li
ttle
socia
l con
tact
with
any
one
but t
heir
datin
g pa
rtner
• Un
expl
ained
bru
ises
or in
jurie
s
• M
akin
g ex
cuse
s or
apo
logi
zing
for t
heir
datin
g
pa
rtner
’s in
appr
opria
te b
ehav
ior
• Ne
w d
iscip
linar
y pr
oblem
s at
sch
ool,
such
as
bully
ing
othe
r stu
dent
s or
act
ing
out
• Na
me-
callin
g or
beli
ttlin
g fro
m a
dat
ing
partn
er
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t8
HO
W T
O H
ELP
YO
UR
STU
DEN
TYo
u ca
n pl
ay a
n im
porta
nt ro
le in
help
ing
stud
ents
reco
gnize
abu
se a
nd g
et
the
help
they
nee
d. C
onsid
er th
ese
tips
as y
ou tr
y to
mak
e a
posit
ive c
hang
e in
you
r stu
dent
s’ liv
es:
Be
clea
r: Te
ll you
r stu
dent
s th
at a
buse
is u
nacc
epta
ble
and
that
this
is an
iss
ue y
ou ta
ke v
ery
serio
usly.
Enco
urag
e di
scus
sion
: Ask
stu
dent
s w
hat t
hey
thin
k ab
out a
buse
. En
cour
age
them
to th
ink
critic
ally
abou
t the
impa
ct o
f vio
lence
—in
their
ow
n re
latio
nshi
ps a
nd s
ociet
y at
larg
e.
List
en: L
isten
to w
hat s
tude
nts
tell y
ou a
nd w
hat y
ou s
ee a
nd h
ear.
Let t
hem
kn
ow y
ou c
are,
that
you
are
ther
e fo
r the
m a
nd th
at y
ou a
re p
ayin
g at
tent
ion.
Be
prep
ared
: Be
awar
e of
man
dato
ry re
porti
ng re
quire
men
ts th
at a
pply
to
you
as a
teac
her a
nd n
otify
you
r sch
ool c
ouns
elor w
hen
you
susp
ect a
buse
.
Spre
ad th
e w
ord:
Enl
ist y
our c
ollea
gues
and
adm
inist
rato
rs in
raisi
ng
awar
enes
s of
teen
dat
ing
violen
ce.
If yo
u ar
e ce
rtain
that
you
r stu
dent
is in
volve
d in
an
abus
ive re
latio
nshi
p, h
ere’s
wha
t yo
u ca
n do
:
Tell
your
stu
dent
that
you
’re c
once
rned
for t
heir
safe
ty. P
oint
out
that
wha
t’s
happ
enin
g isn
’t “n
orm
al.” E
very
one
dese
rves
a s
afe
and
healt
hy re
latio
nshi
p. A
fter
cons
ultin
g w
ith th
e st
uden
t’s p
aren
ts, o
ffer t
o co
nnec
t the
m w
ith a
pro
fess
iona
l, lik
e a
coun
selo
r or a
ttorn
ey, w
ho th
ey c
an ta
lk to
con
fiden
tially
.
Be s
uppo
rtiv
e an
d un
ders
tand
ing.
Stre
ss th
at y
ou’re
on
their
sid
e. P
rovid
e in
form
atio
n an
d no
n-ju
dgm
enta
l sup
port.
Let
you
r stu
dent
kno
w th
at it
’s no
t the
ir fa
ult a
nd n
o on
e “d
eser
ves”
to b
e ab
used
. Mak
e it
clear
that
you
don
’t bl
ame
them
an
d yo
u re
spec
t the
ir ch
oice
s.
Belie
ve th
em a
nd ta
ke th
em s
erio
usly.
You
r stu
dent
may
be
relu
ctan
t to
shar
e th
eir e
xper
ience
s in
fear
of n
o on
e be
lievin
g w
hat t
hey
say.
As y
ou v
alida
te th
eir
feeli
ngs
and
show
you
r sup
port,
they
can
bec
ome
mor
e co
mfo
rtabl
e an
d tru
st
you
with
mor
e in
form
atio
n. B
e ca
refu
l not
to m
inim
ize th
eir s
ituat
ion
due
to a
ge,
inex
perie
nce
or th
e len
gth
of th
eir re
latio
nshi
p.
Hel
p de
velo
p a
safe
ty p
lan.
One
of t
he m
ost d
ange
rous
tim
es in
an
abus
ive
relat
ions
hip
is w
hen
the
victim
dec
ides
to le
ave.
Be
espe
cially
sup
porti
ve d
urin
g th
is tim
e an
d try
to c
onne
ct th
e st
uden
t to
supp
ort g
roup
s or
pro
fess
iona
ls th
at c
an
help
kee
p th
em s
afe.
Rem
embe
r tha
t ulti
mat
ely
your
stu
dent
mus
t be
the
one
who
dec
ides
to
leav
e th
e re
latio
nshi
p. T
here
are
man
y co
mpl
ex re
ason
s w
hy v
ictim
s st
ay in
un
healt
hy re
latio
nshi
ps. Y
our s
uppo
rt ca
n m
ake
a cr
itical
diffe
renc
e in
help
ing
your
st
uden
t find
their
ow
n w
ay to
end
their
unh
ealth
y re
latio
nshi
p.
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t9
HEA
LTH
Y R
ELAT
ION
SHIP
S C
UR
RIC
ULU
M
DIS
CU
SSIO
N G
UID
ESTh
ese
lesso
n gu
ides
are
des
igne
d to
help
you
intro
duce
issu
es re
lated
to te
en d
atin
g vio
lence
and
hea
lthy
relat
ions
hips
in th
e cla
ssro
om a
long
with
sug
gest
ed
scen
ario
s, q
uest
ions
and
a g
uide
d di
scus
sion
for e
ach.
The
y do
not
nee
d to
be
deliv
ered
in o
rder
, and
the
scen
ario
s ca
n be
inte
rcha
ngea
ble
amon
g th
e to
pics
, in
cludi
ng h
ow to
reco
gnize
hea
lthy
and
unhe
althy
relat
ions
hips
, how
to c
omm
unica
te e
ffect
ively
and
how
to d
eal w
ith c
onflic
t res
olut
ion
amon
g pa
rtner
s.
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t10
CO
MM
UN
ICAT
ING
EF
FEC
TIVE
LY
Intr
oduc
tion
Ope
n, h
ones
t com
mun
icatio
n sh
ould
be
part
of e
very
hea
lthy
relat
ions
hip.
It’s
okay
to g
et
angr
y in
a re
latio
nshi
p—ev
eryo
ne d
oes
at s
ome
poin
t! W
hat’s
impo
rtant
is to
reso
lve c
onflic
t in
a
healt
hy w
ay.
It is
impo
rtant
to o
pen
up th
e ch
anne
ls of
com
mun
icatio
n be
twee
n pa
rtner
s. C
omm
unica
ting
isn’t
alway
s ea
sy. S
ome
of th
e tip
s th
at w
e w
ill di
scus
s in
this
lesso
n m
ay fe
el un
natu
ral o
r aw
kwar
d at
fir
st, b
ut th
ey w
ill he
lp s
tude
nts
com
mun
icate
bet
ter a
nd b
uild
hea
lthy
relat
ions
hips
.
As y
ou a
re d
iscu
ssin
g th
is le
sson
, you
sho
uld
high
light
that
if s
omeo
ne li
sten
ing
is in
an
unhe
alth
y or
an
abus
ive
rela
tions
hip,
they
mus
t be
care
ful.
Rem
ind
them
that
they
kno
w
thei
r rel
atio
nshi
p be
st a
nd if
any
of t
hese
tips
wou
ld p
ut th
em in
dan
ger,
don’
t try
them
.
Ove
rvie
w
Stud
ents
lear
n ho
w to
pro
perly
com
mun
icate
with
oth
ers
thro
ugh
vario
us c
hann
els in
ord
er to
bu
ild a
nd s
usta
in h
ealth
y re
latio
nshi
ps
Educ
ator
s ha
ve a
n op
portu
nity
to g
uide
stu
dent
s in
to u
nder
stan
ding
wha
t is
a he
althy
ver
sus
unhe
althy
relat
ions
hip
and
how
to c
omm
unica
te th
eir n
eeds
effe
ctive
ly
Scen
ario
Rece
ntly,
you
and
you
r par
tner
hav
e be
en d
isagr
eein
g a
lot,
and
it of
ten
leads
to a
rgum
ents
. Eve
ry ti
me
you
try a
nd ta
lk to
them
abo
ut h
ow y
ou’re
feeli
ng th
ey s
ay
it’s n
o bi
g de
al, y
ou’re
ove
rreac
ting,
or t
hey
just
don
’t w
ant t
o ar
gue
anym
ore.
You
feel
that
the
issue
s ar
e im
porta
nt a
nd w
ant t
he c
hanc
e to
say
how
you
feel
with
out h
avin
g to
arg
ue. A
fter a
day
of n
ot s
peak
ing,
yo
u te
xt y
our p
artn
er a
nd te
ll the
m y
ou w
ant t
o ta
lk no
w o
r the
relat
ions
hip
is ov
er. T
hey
text
bac
k an
d sa
y th
ey w
ill ta
lk w
hen
they
’re re
ady.
Que
stio
ns
1. Is
it o
k to
com
mun
icate
by
text
to tr
y an
d re
solve
a
co
nflict
? W
hy o
r why
not
?
2. Is
not
talki
ng a
t all b
ette
r tha
n ha
ving
an a
rgum
ent
w
ith y
our p
artn
er?
Why
or w
hy n
ot?
3. D
oes
ange
r due
to a
disa
gree
men
t exc
use
usin
g
in
sultin
g w
ords
or b
ehav
ior?
4. D
o yo
u th
ink
it is
ok to
dem
and
an im
med
iate
resp
onse
or t
hrea
ten
to b
reak
up
with
you
r par
tner
?
Why
or w
hy n
ot?
5. Is
this
beha
vior h
ealth
y, un
healt
hy o
r abu
sive?
6. W
hat a
re h
ealth
y an
d un
healt
hy w
ays
to
co
mm
unica
te d
urin
g a
disa
gree
men
t?
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t11
Key
The
mes
For h
ealth
ier c
omm
unica
tion,
try
to:
Find
the
Rig
ht T
ime.
If s
omet
hing
is b
othe
ring
you
and
you
wou
ld lik
e to
hav
e a
conv
ersa
tion
abou
t it,
it ca
n be
help
ful t
o fin
d th
e rig
ht ti
me
to ta
lk. T
ry to
find
a
time
whe
n bo
th y
ou a
nd y
our p
artn
er a
re c
alm a
nd n
ot d
istra
cted
, stre
ssed
or
in a
rush
. You
mig
ht e
ven
cons
ider
sch
edul
ing
a tim
e to
talk
if on
e or
bot
h of
yo
u is
reall
y bu
sy!
Talk
Fac
e to
Fac
e. A
void
talki
ng a
bout
ser
ious
mat
ters
or i
ssue
s in
writ
ing.
Te
xt m
essa
ges,
lette
rs a
nd e
s ca
n be
misi
nter
pret
ed. T
alk in
per
son
or o
n th
e ph
one
so th
ere
aren
’t an
y un
nece
ssar
y m
iscom
mun
icatio
ns.
Do
Not
Att
ack.
Eve
n w
hen
we
mea
n w
ell, w
e ca
n so
met
imes
com
e ac
ross
as
hars
h be
caus
e of
our
wor
d ch
oice
. Usin
g “y
ou” c
an s
ound
like
you’
re a
ttack
ing,
w
hich
will
mak
e yo
ur p
artn
er d
efen
sive
and
less
rece
ptive
to y
our m
essa
ge.
Inst
ead,
try
usin
g “I”
or “
we.
” For
exa
mpl
e, s
ay “I
feel
like
we
have
n’t b
een
as
close
late
ly” in
stea
d of
“You
hav
e be
en d
istan
t with
me.
”
Be
Hon
est.
Agre
e to
be
hone
st. S
omet
imes
the
truth
hur
ts, b
ut it
’s th
e ke
y to
a
healt
hy re
latio
nshi
p. A
dmit
that
you
are
n’t a
lway
s pe
rfect
and
apo
logi
ze w
hen
you
mak
e a
mist
ake
inst
ead
of m
akin
g ex
cuse
s. Y
ou w
ill fe
el be
tter a
nd it
will
help
stre
ngth
en y
our r
elatio
nshi
p.
Che
ck Y
our B
ody
Lang
uage
. Mak
e ey
e co
ntac
t whe
n sp
eakin
g fa
ce-to
-face
. Si
t up
and
face
you
r par
tner
. Let
you
r par
tner
kno
w y
ou’re
liste
ning
. Sho
w th
em
you
reall
y ca
re. D
on’t
take
a p
hone
call
, tex
t or p
lay a
vid
eo g
ame
whe
n yo
u’re
ta
lking
. List
en a
nd re
spon
d.
Use
the
48 H
our R
ule.
If y
our p
artn
er d
oes
som
ethi
ng th
at m
akes
you
ang
ry,
you
need
to te
ll the
m a
bout
it. B
ut y
ou d
on’t
have
to d
o so
righ
t aw
ay. I
f you
’re
still
hurt
48 h
ours
late
r, sa
y so
met
hing
. If n
ot, c
onsid
er fo
rget
ting
abou
t it.
But
rem
embe
r you
r par
tner
can
’t re
ad y
our m
ind.
If y
ou d
on’t
spea
k up
whe
n yo
u’re
ups
et, t
here
is n
o w
ay fo
r the
m to
apo
logi
ze o
r cha
nge.
Onc
e yo
u do
m
entio
n yo
ur h
urt f
eelin
gs a
nd y
our p
artn
er s
ince
rely
apol
ogize
s, le
t it g
o. D
on’t
brin
g up
pas
t iss
ues
if th
ey’re
not
relev
ant.
How
to C
omm
unic
ate
if Yo
u Ar
e An
gry
If yo
u ge
t ang
ry w
ith y
our p
artn
er, h
ere
are
a fe
w s
teps
to ta
ke:
Stop
. If y
ou g
et re
ally
angr
y ab
out s
omet
hing
, sto
p, ta
ke a
ste
p ba
ck a
nd
brea
the.
Give
you
rself
tim
e to
calm
dow
n by
wat
chin
g TV
, talk
ing
to a
frien
d,
play
ing
a vid
eo g
ame,
takin
g a
walk
, list
enin
g to
som
e m
usic
or w
hate
ver h
elps
you
relax
. Tak
ing
a br
eak
can
keep
the
situa
tion
from
get
ting
wor
se.
Thin
k. A
fter y
ou’re
no
long
er u
pset
, thi
nk a
bout
the
situa
tion
and
why
you
got
so
ang
ry. W
as it
how
you
r par
tner
spo
ke o
r som
ethi
ng th
ey d
id?
Figu
re o
ut th
e re
al pr
oblem
then
thin
k ab
out h
ow to
exp
lain
your
feeli
ngs.
Talk
. Fin
ally,
talk
to y
our p
artn
er a
nd w
hen
you
do, f
ollo
w th
e tip
s un
der
Key
Them
es.
List
en. A
fter y
ou te
ll you
r par
tner
how
you
feel,
rem
embe
r to
stop
talki
ng a
nd
liste
n to
wha
t the
y ha
ve to
say
. You
bot
h de
serv
e th
e op
portu
nity
to e
xpre
ss
how
you
feel
in a
saf
e an
d he
althy
env
ironm
ent.
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t12
RES
OLV
ING
C
ON
FLIC
TIn
trod
uctio
n
Ther
e is
confl
ict in
all r
elatio
nshi
ps. A
nd b
y “c
onflic
t,” w
e sp
ecific
ally
mea
n ve
rbal
disa
gree
men
ts
and
argu
men
ts. P
eopl
e di
sagr
ee a
nd th
at is
n’t n
eces
sarily
a b
ad th
ing.
In fa
ct, e
very
one
has
the
right
to a
diffe
rent
opi
nion
from
their
par
tner
. In
a he
althy
relat
ions
hip,
com
mun
icatio
n is
key.
Whe
n pa
rtner
s co
mm
unica
te e
ffect
ively,
they
und
erst
and
each
oth
er b
ette
r and
that
mak
es th
eir
relat
ions
hip
stro
nger
. Whe
n th
ey c
an re
solve
con
flicts
suc
cess
fully
, the
y ar
e de
velo
ping
a h
ealth
y, m
atur
e re
latio
nshi
p. B
ut, w
hile
confl
ict is
nor
mal,
it c
an a
lso b
e a
sign
that
par
ts o
f the
relat
ions
hip
aren
’t w
orkin
g.
As y
ou a
re d
iscu
ssin
g th
is le
sson
, you
sho
uld
high
light
that
if s
omeo
ne li
sten
ing
is in
an
unhe
alth
y or
an
abus
ive
rela
tions
hip,
they
mus
t be
care
ful.
Rem
ind
them
that
they
kno
w
thei
r rel
atio
nshi
p be
st a
nd if
any
of t
hese
tips
wou
ld p
ut th
em in
dan
ger,
don’
t try
them
.
Ove
rvie
w
Stud
ents
will
learn
tech
niqu
es to
avo
id a
nd m
anag
e co
nflict
s w
ith d
atin
g pa
rtner
s
Educ
ator
s w
ill ha
ve a
n op
portu
nity
to g
uide
stu
dent
s in
add
ress
ing
confl
ict re
solu
tion
in b
oth
healt
hy a
nd u
nhea
lthy
relat
ions
hips
Scen
ario
The
pers
on th
at y
ou a
re d
atin
g fe
els th
ey s
houl
d ha
ve
a sa
y in
who
you
r frie
nds
are.
You
r par
tner
tells
you
th
at s
ince
you
are
in a
relat
ions
hip
with
them
, you
sh
ould
n’t t
alk to
you
r exe
s or
han
g ou
t with
peo
ple
your
par
tner
doe
sn’t
appr
ove
of. T
hey
som
etim
es g
et
jealo
us w
hen
they
see
you
talki
ng to
cer
tain
peo
ple
on s
ocial
med
ia be
caus
e th
ey th
ink
it is
cons
ider
ed
flirtin
g an
d co
uld
lead
to c
heat
ing.
You
let y
our p
artn
er
know
that
you
sho
uld
both
be
able
to b
e fri
ends
with
w
hoev
er y
ou w
ant a
nd th
at y
ou s
houl
d be
abl
e to
tru
st e
ach
othe
r.
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t13
Que
stio
ns
1. A
re th
e ac
cusa
tions
in th
is sc
enar
io re
ason
able?
Why
or w
hy n
ot?
2. A
re th
ere
healt
hy b
ound
aries
this
relat
ions
hip?
Why
or w
hy n
ot?
3. W
hat a
re th
e re
al iss
ues
in th
is re
latio
nshi
p?
4. A
re th
ere
poss
ible
com
prom
ises
for t
his
situa
tion?
If s
o, w
hat?
5. Is
this
beha
vior h
ealth
y, un
healt
hy o
r abu
sive?
6. H
ow w
ould
you
man
age
and
reso
lve th
is co
nflict
?
Key
The
mes
Con
flict
Res
olut
ion
in H
ealth
y R
elat
ions
hips
If yo
ur c
onflic
t is
base
d on
whi
ch m
ovie
to s
ee, w
hat f
riend
s to
han
g ou
t with
or
who
sho
uld
do th
e di
shes
, the
n us
e th
e tip
s be
low
to h
elp re
solve
thes
e ar
gum
ents
in a
hea
lthy
way
:
Set B
ound
arie
s. E
very
one
dese
rves
to b
e tre
ated
with
resp
ect—
even
dur
ing
an a
rgum
ent.
If yo
ur p
artn
er c
urse
s at
you
, call
s yo
u na
mes
or r
idicu
les y
ou,
tell t
hem
to s
top.
If th
ey d
on’t,
walk
aw
ay a
nd te
ll the
m th
at y
ou d
on’t
wan
t to
cont
inue
arg
uing
righ
t now
.
Find
the
Rea
l Iss
ue. T
ypica
lly, a
rgum
ents
hap
pen
whe
n on
e pa
rtner
’s w
ants
ar
e no
t bein
g m
et. T
ry to
get
to th
e he
art o
f the
mat
ter.
If yo
ur p
artn
er s
eem
s ne
edy,
may
be th
ey a
re ju
st fe
eling
inse
cure
and
nee
d yo
ur e
ncou
rage
men
t. Le
arn
to ta
lk ab
out t
he re
al iss
ue s
o yo
u ca
n av
oid
cons
tant
figh
ting.
Agre
e to
Dis
agre
e. If
you
and
you
r par
tner
can
’t re
solve
an
issue
, som
etim
es
it’s b
est t
o dr
op it
. You
can
’t ag
ree
on e
very
thin
g. F
ocus
on
wha
t mat
ters
. If
the
issue
is to
o im
porta
nt fo
r you
to d
rop
and
you
can’
t agr
ee to
disa
gree
, the
n m
aybe
you
’re n
ot re
ally
com
patib
le.
Com
prom
ise
Whe
n Po
ssib
le. E
asy
to s
ay b
ut h
ard
to d
o, c
ompr
omisi
ng is
a
majo
r par
t of c
onflic
t res
olut
ion
and
any
succ
essf
ul re
latio
nshi
p. S
o yo
ur p
artn
er
wan
ts C
hine
se fo
od a
nd y
ou w
ant I
ndian
? Co
mpr
omise
and
get
Chi
nese
toni
ght,
but I
ndian
nex
t tim
e yo
u ea
t out
. Fin
d a
mid
dle
grou
nd th
at c
an a
llow
bo
th o
f you
to fe
el sa
tisfie
d w
ith th
e ou
tcom
e.
Con
side
r Eve
ryth
ing.
Is th
is iss
ue re
ally
impo
rtant
? Do
es it
cha
nge
how
th
e tw
o of
you
feel
abou
t eac
h ot
her?
Are
you
com
prom
ising
you
r beli
efs
or
mor
als?
If ye
s, it
’s im
porta
nt th
at y
ou re
ally
stre
ss y
our p
ositio
n. If
not
, may
be
this
is a
time
for c
ompr
omise
. Also
, con
sider
you
r par
tner
’s ar
gum
ents
. Why
are
th
ey u
pset
? W
hat d
oes
the
issue
look
like
from
their
poi
nt o
f view
? It
is un
usua
l fo
r you
r par
tner
to g
et th
is up
set?
Doe
s yo
ur p
artn
er u
suall
y co
mpr
omise
? Ar
e yo
u be
ing
inco
nsid
erat
e?
Still
argu
ing?
If y
ou tr
y th
ese
tips
but s
till a
rgue
con
stan
tly, c
onsid
er w
heth
er
the
relat
ions
hip
is rig
ht fo
r bot
h of
you
. You
bot
h de
serv
e a
healt
hy re
latio
nshi
p w
ithou
t con
stan
t con
flict.
Con
flict
Res
olut
ion
in U
nhea
lthy
Rel
atio
nshi
ps
Whi
le co
nflict
is n
orm
al, a
rgum
ents
sho
uldn
’t tu
rn in
to p
erso
nal a
ttack
s an
d ne
ither
par
tner
sho
uld
try to
low
er th
e ot
her’s
self
-est
eem
. If y
ou c
an’t
expr
ess
your
self
with
out f
ear o
f ret
aliat
ion,
you
may
be
expe
rienc
ing
abus
e. R
emem
ber,
one
of th
e m
ain s
igns
of a
n ab
usive
relat
ions
hip
is a
partn
er w
ho tr
ies to
con
trol
or m
anip
ulat
e yo
u.
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t14
STEP
PIN
G IN
Intr
oduc
tion
Wat
chin
g a
frien
d go
thro
ugh
an a
busiv
e re
latio
nshi
p ca
n be
ver
y sc
ary,
and
it ca
n se
em d
ifficu
lt to
fig
ure
out h
ow to
help
them
. The
dec
ision
to le
ave
can
only
be m
ade
by th
e pe
rson
exp
erien
cing
the
abus
e, b
ut th
ere
a lo
t of t
hing
s th
at s
omeo
ne c
an d
o to
help
a fr
iend
stay
saf
e.
If a
frien
d is
unde
rgoi
ng th
e se
rious
and
pain
ful e
ffect
s of
dat
ing
abus
e, th
ey m
ay h
ave
a ve
ry d
iffere
nt p
oint
of v
iew th
an y
ou. T
hey
may
hav
e he
ard
the
abus
e w
as th
eir fa
ult a
nd fe
el re
spon
sible.
If th
ey d
o ch
oose
to le
ave,
they
may
feel
sad
and
lone
ly w
hen
it’s o
ver,
even
thou
gh
the
relat
ions
hip
was
abu
sive.
The
y m
ay g
et b
ack
toge
ther
with
their
ex
man
y tim
es, e
ven
thou
gh
you
wan
t the
m to
sta
y ap
art.
It m
ay b
e di
fficul
t for
them
to e
ven
brin
g up
a c
onve
rsat
ion
abou
t the
ab
use
they
’re e
xper
iencin
g.
As y
ou a
re d
iscu
ssin
g th
is le
sson
, you
sho
uld
high
light
that
if s
omeo
ne li
sten
ing
is in
an
unhe
alth
y or
an
abus
ive
rela
tions
hip,
they
mus
t be
care
ful.
Rem
ind
them
that
they
kno
w
thei
r rel
atio
nshi
p be
st a
nd if
any
of t
hese
tips
wou
ld p
ut th
em in
dan
ger,
don’
t try
them
.
Ove
rvie
w
Stud
ents
will
learn
how
to c
ultiv
ate
healt
hy re
latio
nshi
ps a
nd h
ow to
reco
gnize
and
inte
rven
e in
un
healt
hy re
latio
nshi
ps
Educ
ator
s w
ill ha
ve a
n op
portu
nity
to ra
ise a
war
enes
s ab
out d
atin
g vio
lence
and
help
pre
vent
it
by g
uidi
ng s
tude
nts
to u
nder
stan
d th
e fa
cts
and
how
to in
terv
ene.
Scen
ario
You
are
havin
g a
sleep
over
with
you
r frie
nd a
nd s
he
confi
des
in y
ou th
at s
he is
stre
ssed
out
abo
ut h
er
relat
ions
hip.
She
tells
you
how
her
boy
frien
d lik
es
it w
hen
she
send
s hi
m s
exua
lly e
xplic
it pi
ctur
es o
f he
rself
; so
she
has
done
it a
cou
ple
of ti
mes
. She
di
dn’t
see
any
harm
in it
but
now
he
dem
ands
that
sh
e do
es it
, eve
n if
she
does
n’t w
ant t
o. S
he s
ays
that
she
tries
to te
ll him
she
isn’
t com
forta
ble
doin
g it
anym
ore,
and
he
said
sin
ce s
he d
id it
bef
ore
she
has
to d
o it
again
. She
also
say
s th
at h
e te
lls h
er
since
she
is h
is gi
rlfrie
nd th
is is
som
ethi
ng th
at s
he is
ex
pect
ed to
do.
Rec
ently
he
has
told
her
that
he
will
even
leak
the
ones
that
she
has
alre
ady
sent
if s
he
does
n’t c
ontin
ue to
sen
d th
em.
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t15
Que
stio
ns
1. Is
it o
kay
that
the
pers
on y
our f
riend
is d
atin
g m
akes
her
sen
d nu
des/
sexu
ally
expl
icit p
ictur
es?
Why
or w
hy n
ot?
2. W
hat d
o yo
u th
ink
abou
t thi
s pe
rson
thre
aten
ing
to le
ak h
er p
ictur
es?
3. Is
it o
kay
for a
par
tner
to d
eman
d th
at th
e ot
her p
artn
er d
o so
met
hing
beca
use
they
hav
e do
ne it
bef
ore?
4. Is
this
beha
vior h
ealth
y, un
healt
hy o
r abu
sive?
5. H
ow w
ould
you
sup
port
a fri
end
in th
is sit
uatio
n?
Addi
tiona
l lov
eisr
espe
ct R
esou
rces
You
can
find
addi
tiona
l rele
vant
reso
urce
s on
love
isres
pect
.org
. Her
e ar
e a
few
th
at m
ay p
rove
help
ful:
Help
, My
Partn
er is
Blac
kmail
ing
Me!
The
Pres
sure
to S
ext:
Wha
t You
Nee
d to
Kno
w A
bout
Sex
ting
Coer
cion
Wha
t is
“Rev
enge
Por
n”?
How
to H
elp a
Frie
nd
FOR
STU
DEN
TS: H
ow Y
ou C
an H
elp
a Fr
iend
Don’
t be
afra
id to
reac
h ou
t to
a fri
end
who
you
thin
k ne
eds
help
. Tell
them
yo
u’re
con
cern
ed fo
r the
ir sa
fety
and
wan
t to
help
.
Be s
uppo
rtive
and
liste
n pa
tient
ly. A
ckno
wled
ge th
eir fe
eling
s an
d be
resp
ectfu
l of
their
dec
ision
s.
Help
you
r frie
nd re
cogn
ize th
at th
e ab
use
is no
t “no
rmal”
and
is N
OT
their
faul
t. Ev
eryo
ne d
eser
ves
a he
althy
, non
violen
t rela
tions
hip.
Focu
s on
you
r frie
nd, n
ot th
e ab
usive
par
tner
. Eve
n if
your
frien
d st
ays
with
their
pa
rtner
, it’s
impo
rtant
they
still
feel
com
forta
ble
talki
ng to
you
abo
ut it
.
Conn
ect y
our f
riend
to re
sour
ces
in th
eir c
omm
unity
that
can
give
them
in
form
atio
n an
d gu
idan
ce. R
emem
ber,
love
isres
pect
.org
can
help
.
Help
them
dev
elop
a sa
fety
plan
if y
ou b
eliev
e th
at th
ey a
re in
an
abus
ive
relat
ions
hip.
If th
ey b
reak
up
with
the
abus
ive p
artn
er, c
ontin
ue to
be
supp
ortiv
e af
ter t
he
relat
ions
hip
is ov
er.
Don’
t con
tact
their
abu
ser o
r pub
licly
post
neg
ative
thin
gs a
bout
them
onl
ine.
It’
ll onl
y w
orse
n th
e sit
uatio
n fo
r you
r frie
nd.
Even
whe
n yo
u fe
el lik
e th
ere’s
not
hing
you
can
do,
don
’t fo
rget
that
by
bein
g su
ppor
tive
and
carin
g, y
ou’re
alre
ady
doin
g a
lot.
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t16
ACTI
VITI
ESHe
re’s
a lis
t of a
ctivi
ties
that
you
can
enc
oura
ge y
our s
tude
nts
to im
plem
ent
appl
ying
the
conc
epts
disc
usse
d in
this
guid
e.
Teen
Saf
ety
Car
ds: P
rint a
nd c
ut th
e pa
lm c
ards
on
the
next
pag
e.
Enco
urag
e st
uden
ts to
take
as
man
y of
the
card
s as
nec
essa
ry to
give
to fa
mily
an
d fri
ends
. It m
ay b
e he
lpfu
l to
keep
a s
uppl
y of
thes
e ca
rds
in th
e co
unse
ling
office
and
nur
se’s
office
for s
tude
nts
to p
ick u
p at
their
con
veni
ence
.
Rel
atio
nshi
p Sp
ectr
um: O
n a
chalk
boar
d or
dry
era
se b
oard
, mak
e th
ree
colu
mns
labe
led: H
ealth
y, Un
healt
hy a
nd A
busiv
e. P
rint a
nd c
ut o
ut th
e re
latio
nshi
p be
havio
rs in
this
tool
kit a
nd h
and
them
out
to s
tude
nts.
Hav
e st
uden
ts d
eter
min
e w
hich
beh
avio
rs a
re h
ealth
y, un
healt
hy o
r abu
sive
by
tapi
ng th
em in
the
appr
opria
te c
olum
ns. T
his
activ
ity c
an b
e m
odifie
d fo
r a fu
ll cla
ssro
om, s
mall
gro
up o
r ind
ividu
als.
Wal
l of L
ove:
Prin
t cop
ies o
f the
“Lov
e is…
” spe
ech
bubb
le te
mpl
ate
from
th
is to
olkit
. Use
diffe
rent
col
ors
of p
aper
for v
isual
inte
rest
. Hav
e st
uden
ts c
ut
out t
he s
peec
h bu
bbles
and
writ
e do
wn
wha
t lov
e m
eans
to th
em. T
ape
the
bubb
les o
n a
boar
d or
in a
des
igna
ted
spac
e in
a h
allw
ay. S
tude
nts
can
get
crea
tive
with
how
their
spe
ech
bubb
les a
re d
isplay
ed!
Ora
nge-
Out
or P
urpl
e-O
ut: H
ave
all s
tude
nts
and
facu
lty w
ear t
he s
ame
colo
r to
signi
fy u
nity
and
sol
idar
ity in
the
fight
aga
inst
abu
sive
relat
ions
hips
. Th
e offi
cial c
olor
for d
omes
tic v
iolen
ce is
pur
ple
and
the
officia
l col
or fo
r dat
ing
abus
e is
oran
ge. P
ick th
e co
lor y
our s
choo
l fee
ls w
ould
wor
k be
st.
Rel
atio
nshi
p Bi
ll of
Rig
hts:
Prin
t the
relat
ions
hip
bill o
f rig
hts
from
this
tool
kit
and
enco
urag
e all
stu
dent
s to
sig
n it.
Sig
ning
s ca
n be
don
e at
lunc
hes
and
coul
d w
ork
in c
onju
nctio
n w
ith a
n in
form
atio
n bo
oth.
We
enco
urag
e yo
u to
pe
rson
alize
the
bill o
f rig
hts
and
whe
n st
uden
ts s
ign
the
bill,
they
can
add
their
ow
n pe
rson
al “ri
ght”
to th
e lis
t.
Teen
Saf
ety
Car
ds -
Fron
t
Teen
Saf
ety
Car
ds -
Bac
k
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t19
Rel
atio
nshi
p Sp
ectr
um -
Exam
ples
Your
par
tner
tells
you
how
spe
cial
you
are
and
how
muc
h th
ey c
are
abou
t you
.
Your
par
tner
use
s a
nam
e or
pro
noun
that
you
don
’t lik
e bu
t sto
ps
usin
g it
once
you
cor
rect
them
or a
sk th
em n
ot to
.
Your
par
tner
app
reci
ates
you
r pas
sion
s an
d en
cour
ages
you
to d
o th
e th
ings
you
love
.
You
mis
s yo
ur p
artn
er w
hen
you
go o
n va
catio
n w
ith y
our f
amily
but
yo
u ha
ve a
real
ly g
ood
time
anyw
ay.
You
had
a re
ally
goo
d da
y an
d ca
n’t w
ait t
o te
ll yo
ur p
artn
er b
ecau
se
you
know
they
will
be
exci
ted
abou
t to
hear
abo
ut it
.
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t20
Rel
atio
nshi
p Sp
ectr
um -
Exam
ples
You
and
your
par
tner
feel
like
you
can
sha
re th
ings
with
with
eac
h ot
her,
but y
ou a
lso
feel
like
you
can
kee
p so
me
thin
gs p
rivat
e.
If yo
u ha
ve a
dis
agre
emen
t you
r par
tner
use
s th
e si
lent
trea
tmen
t an
d w
on’t
talk
to y
ou fo
r day
s.
Your
par
tner
say
s yo
u do
n’t r
eally
love
them
bec
ause
you
wan
t to
go
to a
mov
ie w
ith a
frie
nd in
stea
d of
spe
ndin
g tim
e al
one
with
them
.
You
alw
ays
feel
like
you
r par
tner
’s w
ishe
s an
d go
als
com
e fir
st.
You
and
your
par
tner
agr
ee to
take
the
nigh
t off
from
text
ing
or
calli
ng e
ach
othe
r, bu
t whi
le y
ou’re
out
with
you
r frie
nds
your
pa
rtne
r cal
ls a
nd te
xts
you
mul
tiple
tim
es to
say
they
mis
s yo
u.
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t21
Rel
atio
nshi
p Sp
ectr
um -
Exam
ples
Your
par
tner
refu
ses
to s
pend
tim
e w
ith y
our f
amily
, but
stil
l exp
ects
th
at y
ou s
pend
tim
e w
ith th
eirs
.
Your
par
tner
text
s yo
u m
ore
than
you
wan
t the
m to
and
get
s an
gry
if yo
u do
n’t r
espo
nd.
Your
par
tner
con
trol
s yo
ur F
B an
d ot
her s
ocia
l med
ia a
ccou
nts.
Afte
r an
argu
men
t, yo
ur p
artn
er b
lock
s th
e do
orw
ay a
nd ta
kes
your
ke
ys to
pre
vent
you
from
leav
ing.
Your
par
tner
rand
omly
sto
ps b
y yo
ur jo
b ev
en th
ough
you
told
them
it
mad
e yo
u un
com
fort
able
.
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t22
Rel
atio
nshi
p Sp
ectr
um -
Exam
ples
Your
par
tner
thre
aten
s to
tell
othe
r peo
ple
abou
t you
r sex
life
or
shar
e pr
ivat
e ph
otos
or t
exts
.
Your
par
tner
giv
es y
ou g
ifts
but d
eman
ds s
omet
hing
in re
turn
, lik
e m
oney
or s
exua
l act
s.
Your
par
tner
dem
ands
acc
ess
to y
our b
ank
acco
unt.
Whe
n yo
u go
to y
our f
avor
ite re
stau
rant
and
ord
er s
omet
hing
di
ffere
nt, y
our p
artn
er a
cts
disg
uste
d an
d ca
lls y
ou s
tupi
d fo
r or
derin
g it.
Your
par
tner
tells
you
they
wou
ldn’
t hit
you
if yo
u ju
st d
id th
ings
the
right
way
.
Hea
lthy
Rela
tions
hip
Educ
ator
s To
olki
t23
Rel
atio
nshi
p Sp
ectr
um -
Key
Hea
lthy
Your
par
tner
tells
you
how
spe
cial y
ou a
re a
nd h
ow
muc
h th
ey c
are
abou
t you
Your
par
tner
use
s a
nam
e or
pro
noun
that
you
don
’t lik
e bu
t sto
ps u
sing
it on
ce y
ou c
orre
ct th
em o
r ask
th
em n
ot to
Your
par
tner
app
recia
tes
your
pas
sions
and
en
cour
ages
you
to d
o th
e th
ings
you
love
You
miss
you
r par
tner
whe
n yo
u go
on
vaca
tion
with
yo
ur fa
mily
but
you
hav
e a
reall
y go
od ti
me
anyw
ay
You
had
a re
ally
good
day
and
can
’t w
ait to
tell y
our
partn
er b
ecau
se y
ou k
now
they
will
be e
xcite
d ab
out
to h
ear a
bout
it
You
and
your
par
tner
feel
like
you
can
shar
e th
ings
w
ith w
ith e
ach
othe
r, bu
t you
also
feel
like
you
can
keep
som
e th
ings
priv
ate
Unh
ealth
y
If yo
u ha
ve a
disa
gree
men
t you
r par
tner
use
s th
e sil
ent t
reat
men
t and
won
’t ta
lk to
you
for d
ays
Your
par
tner
say
s yo
u do
n’t r
eally
love
them
bec
ause
yo
u w
ant t
o go
to a
mov
ie w
ith a
frien
d in
stea
d of
sp
endi
ng ti
me
alone
with
them
You
alway
s fe
el lik
e yo
ur p
artn
er’s
wish
es a
nd g
oals
com
e fir
st
You
and
your
par
tner
agr
ee to
take
the
nigh
t off
from
te
xtin
g or
call
ing
each
oth
er, b
ut w
hile
you’
re o
ut w
ith
your
frien
ds y
our p
artn
er c
alls
and
text
s yo
u m
ultip
le tim
es to
say
they
miss
you
Your
par
tner
refu
ses
to s
pend
tim
e w
ith y
our f
amily
, bu
t still
exp
ects
that
you
spe
nd ti
me
with
their
s.
Your
par
tner
text
s yo
u m
ore
than
you
wan
t the
m to
an
d ge
ts a
ngry
if y
ou d
on’t
resp
ond
Abus
ive
Your
par
tner
con
trols
your
FB
and
othe
r soc
ial m
edia
acco
unts
Afte
r an
argu
men
t, yo
ur p
artn
er b
lock
s th
e do
orw
ay
and
take
s yo
ur k
eys
to p
reve
nt y
ou fr
om le
avin
g
Your
par
tner
rand
omly
stop
s by
you
r job
eve
n th
ough
yo
u to
ld th
em it
mad
e yo
u un
com
forta
ble
Your
par
tner
thre
aten
s to
tell o
ther
peo
ple
abou
t you
r se
x life
or s
hare
priv
ate
phot
os o
r tex
ts
Your
par
tner
give
s yo
u gi
fts b
ut d
eman
ds s
omet
hing
in
retu
rn, l
ike m
oney
or s
exua
l act
s
Your
par
tner
dem
ands
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You have rights in your relationship. Everyone does, and those rights can help you set boundaries that should be respected by both partners in a healthy relationship.You have the right to privacy, both online and offYou have the right to feel safe and respectedYou have the right to decide who you want to date or not dateYou have the right to say no at any time (to sex, to drugs or alcohol, to a relationship), even if you’ve said yes beforeYou have the right to hang out with your friends and family and do things you enjoy, without your partner getting jealous or controllingYou have the right to end a relationship that isn’t right or healthy for youYou have the right to live free from violence and abuse
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