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    Achieving

    Life Goalswith Joeel & Natalie Rivera

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    TABLE OF CONTENTS 

    4 STEPS TO GOAL SUCCESS 

    STEP 1: KNOW WHAT YOU REALLY WANT 

    1. IDENTIFYING YOUR GOALS 

    SEE WORKSHEET: IDENTIFYING YOUR GOALS 

    SEE WORKSHEET: BIG ENOUGH REASON 

    SEE WORKSHEET: PURPOSE 

    4. CREATING A VISION 

    SEE WORKSHEET: VISION 

    STEP 2: BELIEVE YOU CAN ACHIEVE IT 

    5. USING THE POWER OF YOUR UNCONSCIOUS MIND 

    6. LEARNING CHANGE 

    SEE WORKSHEET: CHANGE CYCLE 

    7. FAITH IN YOURSELF 

    SEE WORKSHEET: GOOD WILL ALWAYS COME 

    SEE WORKSHEET: CHANGE RESUME 

    SEE WORKSHEET: AFFIRMATION STATEMENTS 

    STEP 3: CREATE A CONCRETE PLAN FOR

    SUCCESS 

    9. THE BRIDGE TO YOUR DREAMS 

    SEE WORKSHEET: BRIDGE TO YOUR DREAMS 

    10. SMART GOALS 

    SEE WORKSHEET: SMART GOALS 

    11. THE 30-60-365 GOAL SETTING PLAN 

    SEE WORKSHEET: 30-60-365 PLAN 

    13. CREATE ACCOUNTABILITY 

    SEE WORKSHEET: ACCOUNTABILITY 

    14. MASSIVE ACTION AND ASSESSING RESULTS 

    STEP 4: STAY COMMITTED AND MOTIVATED 

    15. SAY “NO” TO BUTS! ELIMINATING EXCUSES 

    SEE WORKSHEET: EXCUSES 

    16. COMMITMENT 

    SEE WORKSHEET: COMMITMENT 

    16. UNCONDITIONAL DREAMS AND DESIRES 

    SEE WORKSHEET: UNCONDITIONAL DREAMS 

    17. EMPOWERING BELIEFS 

    SEE WORKSHEET: EMPOWERING BELIEFS 

    18. PROCRASTINATION 

    SEE WORKSHEET: PROCRASTINATION 

    19 STIMULATING MOTIVATION 

    SEE WORKSHEET: MOTIVATION 

    21. IDENTIFY WHAT DEMOTIVATES YOU 

    SEE WORKSHEET: DEMOTIVATION 

    22. FAILURE TO SUCCESS SEE WORKSHEET: FAILURE TO SUCCESS 

    23. SMALL CHANGES LEAD TO BIG RESULTS 

    24. CELEBRATE! 

    SEE WORKSHEET: CELEBRATE 

    25. YOUR BUCKET LIST 

    SEE WORKSHEET: BUCKET LIST 

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    Without goals, your life will unfold by default. Your default will be to continue to experience thesame old patterns and to allow the outside world—your family, friends and society—to influenceyour life path. By not setting goals and allowing yourself to go for your desires and dreams, yougive away your power. This is YOUR life and it’s meant to be lived the way YOU want.

    This course is designed to give you all the tools you need to set goals for yourself that inspireyou and make life fulfilling, to plan for success, and to follow through. Most of all, this coursewill help you know how to live life to the fullest and enjoy the journey. Achieving life goals isn’tabout the achievement of the goal—getting there—it’s about the experience of reaching for thedream and becoming a better person along the way.

    This course is organized into 4 sections, based on the 4 steps required for goal success.

    4 Steps to Goal Success

    1- 

    Decide What You Really Want

    When you ask most people what their goals are or what they want out of life, they often cannotanswer. And when they do, the goals they say are often what others have influenced them towant. This course will help you determine what YOU really want out of life and how to makeyour goals achievable and inspirational.

    2-  Believe You CAN Achieve It

    Many people hold themselves back from the goals they really want because they believe theycannot have their true desires. Often people don’t reach their goals, or even try, out of fear ofchange or failure. This course will help you find evidence from your own life that you can believe in yourself and give you the confidence to know that you have everything you need to besuccessful. Anything you want is possible for you.

    3-  Create a Concrete Plan for Success

    Even the most strongly desired goal cannot be achieved without a solid, actionable plan. Often, people get discouraged when goals are not reached or attempts lead to failure. This is most often because the goal wasn’t well thought through and an effective plan wasn’t made. This courseoffers detailed, yet simple, strategies for planning a route toward your goal, while keeping youmotivated and on track.

    4- 

    Stay Committed and Motivated

    Even the best plan is ineffective if the person following it isn’t motivated. And, unfortunately,most people leave motivation to chance—waiting until the moment that they need to feelmotivated and finding it’s not there. This course helps you prepare your mind state in advance sothat your true desire and big reason for reaching for your goals are strong enough to pull youthrough those times when doubt, discouragement or procrastination threaten to zap yourmotivation.

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    Step 1: Know What You Really Want

    1. Identifying Your Goals

    See Worksheet: Identifying Your Goals

    Knowing what your goals are can be more challenging than you may think. Perhaps this is whyso many people don’t set them. You may have heard that most people don’t keep their NewYears’ Resolutions, but did you know that most people don’t even MAKE ONE? Even at during peak goal-setting season, less than half of Americans make New Year’s resolutions. So, imaginehow few people make goals the rest of the year—not many! In the University of Scranton study(http://www.statisticbrain.com/new-years-resolution-statistics/) we researched for these figures, amost important finding was discovered:

    People who explicitly make resolutions are 10 times more likely to attain their goals than people

    who don’t explicitly make resolutions.

    So what does this mean for you? It means that by taking this course you are in the very smallminority that both makes goals and is dedicated to achieving them. Congratulations!

    The first step to achieving your goal is knowing what it is—so, what is your goal? What do youwant out of life? What are your TRUE desires? We emphasize the word “true” because veryoften people’s goals are not their own, meaning they think they want what they want becausethey have been influenced by others.

    Get Other People Out of Your Head

    Ask yourself, who do you allow to direct your life? Do you do what your parents or friends think

    you should do? Do you desire things because you saw them on TV? Do you limit yourself towhat others will approve of? When’s the last time you asked yourself what YOU really want? Ifyou are going to have any chance of accomplishing the goals you set for yourself, theyabsolutely MUST be YOURS. If you don’t even really want it, how do you expect to followthrough when times get tough or the motivation’s not there?

    How Does It FEEL?

    The most important thing to determine about your goal is how it makes you feel. Do you feelempowered by it or resistant? Does it feel exciting or burdensome?

    The reason this question matters so much is because if you really think about it EVERYTHINGthat you have or will ever want in your life, everything, is because of the way you believe it willmake you feel. Really! Any goal or desire you have, don’t you want it because you believe you’llfeel better in the having of it? It will bring fulfillment, satisfaction, relief, pride, fun, a sense ofaccomplishment, freedom, joy?

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    So, what is it for you? How do you want to FEEL? Sometimes considering this question helpsyou clarify that perhaps your goal isn’t what you thought. Or maybe it just isn’t as specific.Perhaps there is more than one way to get what you want, which is to feel a certain way.

    Goal Setting

    So, now that you’ve considered the important questions regarding whether your goals are trulyyours and the feeling behind the desire, it’s time to get your goals down on paper.

    Writing your goals on paper is absolutely key. Not only do you then have a concrete object toreturn to in order to remind yourself of your goals and remain focused, you’ll also be sending amessage to your unconscious mind that YOU MEAN BUSINESS.

    It may be that you are entering into this process with a clearly defined goal already in mind. Or perhaps you’re only certainty is that you want to have goals and you need help identifying them.In either case, this activity is a foundational part of the program that helps you both identify yourgoals and solidify how they fit into the bigger picture of your life.

    The worksheet for this section walks you through the following activity.

    Take some time with a piece of paper (or Word doc) and write down as many things as you canthink of that you’d like to do, achieve, experience or have in your life. You can include all areasof life, such as relationships, career, leisure/fun, personal growth, financial, health, etc, or youcan narrow it down if you have a particular topic in mind. It’s recommend to do this activityincluding all parts of your life at some point, as it helps put everything into perspective.

    Write down at least 50 things.

    Then, if you desire, go back through and organize or combine like items if you wish, especially ifyou have an extensive list. This helps keep things simple and easy for your brain.

    Then you want to consider the timeline that all of your desires or goals fall into. Next to eachgoal (or desire cluster) write a 1, 3, 5 or 10, referring to the number of years you hope to reachthe goal in. 10 represents anything you consider “long term,” 10 years or more. 1 representsitems on your list you feel strongly drawn to NOW, or are things you’d have to accomplish before being able to accomplish other things on your list. 3 is for items you know you want inyour near future but you’re not quite lined up yet with it or know you must do 1’s first. Finally, 5years is for “in between” items. These are things you know aren’t your first priority, but you alsoknow they aren’t “long term”. Everything is relative and this activity is only meant to help you put everything into perspective.

    From your list of 1 year goals, select 1 to 4 that you find the most impactful and focus on these

    during the course of this program. You’ll also be using these goals in other parts of this program,such as Goal Planning, where you’ll get into more detail about how you’ll achieve them. Butfirst, you want to make sure you are totally certain WHY you want to achieve these goals andfully confident that you CAN achieve them.

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    2. Having a Big Enough Reason

    See Worksheet: Big Enough Reason

    Later in this course we’ll be learning about motivation and helping determine key motivationalfactors and tools. But, right away it is important to get you to start thinking about what deepermotives are behind what you are doing. In order to succeed in life and achieve your goals, youneed to know WHY you want what you want. And not only that, you have to have a BIGENOUGH reason. If you're not motivated or haven’t followed through in the past, it may be because you need to DREAM BIGGER! You want your goal(s) not just something you'd “like”to do... it's not a preference... it's not even a dream... it's a MUST! 

    Always Ask the Greater Question 

    We're asking you to dig deep and make sure you have a true understanding of the REAL reasonsyou want to reach your goals. The following is an example of a time we helped someone get tothe core of their true motivations. We're not looking for the obvious or surface level reasons;we're pushing you to go deep!

    A student in one of our classes once told us, "I can't wait to go home and start using theseefficiency techniques to make my work more effective and productive" And so we asked, "Well,why do you want to be more productive?" The student said that it would help her to get a promotion at work. We asked her why she would want a promotion and she said “So I can get araise.” So we asked again, “Why do you want a raise” and she said “Because I need the money to buy a larger home". So we asked “Why?” and she says because I want my mother and sister tomove in with me". “Why?” "Because it has been our dream to own a big house together and livetogether as a family."

    "Good, NOW you have identified what you really want. It's a large house with your family livingwith you. You don't really want to be more efficient. What you want is the experience of having

    your family living with you."

    3. Your Greater Purpose

    See Worksheet: Purpose

    Your desires or goals are what you want; your purpose is why you want it. Some people feel purpose means that they have one ultimate, specific purpose, while others believe purpose meansdoing things for a greater cause or simply feeling passionate about what they’re doing. In eithercase, having a greater purpose behind what you’re doing will infuse everything you do with

    meaning. You find yourself getting excited, heated, or inspired when you think or talk about it.So, what ads purpose to your life? Perhaps you have a certain political, social, or religious beliefthat you care deeply about, or maybe you have a particular pastime or hobby that you do inwhich you find yourself in flow. There are also areas of your life that you may place a high valueon, such as family, health, leisure, adventure, stability, or any other desire or need. Any of thesethings can be the greater purpose, the greater motivation behind what you do.

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    Achieving success can be challenging. It is your purpose and passion that will keep youmotivated when you encounter fear or other obstacles that may get in your way. Having a greater purpose helps you commit to what you're doing, but it can’t just be because you WANT it... ithas to be that you CANNOT have it any other way. THAT is what will get you through thosemoments when you face fear of what the economy’s doing or the environment around you orwhen you feel like the people in your life are standing in your way. Then it won't matter what’shappening around you…one way or another you’re going to get creative and you’re going to find

    a way to have the life that you want.

    The exercise in the worksheet will help you clarify the greater purpose and passion behind whatyou are doing. Make it so compelling you can’t help but take the first step.

    4. Creating a Vision

    See Worksheet: Vision

    After looking at the greater purpose behind your goals, take some time to see and feel yourself

    living your dream. In the vision worksheet we have a short activity where you can take whatyou've put together and write a vision statement that really captures and helps you visualize theend goal you have motivating what you are doing.

    Basic rules for writing a vision:

    •  Include various aspects of life, including: business, home, location, family, relationships,contribution, travel, leisure, etc. You can decide write a vision specifically about a certaintopic or goal.

    •  Write the tone and wording of your vision using The 4 P's:o  Personal (I, Me statements)o  Present (as if it’s already happening, not future)o 

    Positive (avoid words like “not” or “don’t”)o 

    Passion (put emotion into it)

    Do a free-writing activity where you spend at least 5 minutes writing all the details of the ideal lifeyou see and desire. Write as many things as come to you. Then, make a summarized, 1 paragraphversion. Having this vision statement can be a great tool to refer to in those moments when youneed extra motivation. You can also take your vision and make a physical representation of it,such as photos or a vision board, which can further help you stay focused on the higher purpose behind what you are doing with your life.

    Step 2: Believe You CAN Achieve It

    5. Using the Power of Your Unconscious Mind

    The content of your thoughts and beliefs exist mostly in our unconscious mind, beneath theawareness of your conscious mind. Think about your conscious mind as the Captain of your shipand your unconscious mind as the Crew. Even if the Captain is not actively directing the Crew,the Crew is busy working. And what are they doing? Without the Captain’s attention and focus,

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    they’re on autopilot. They’re reacting to the world around them, listening to what the outsideworld tells them to do, and operating old, habituated thoughts and beliefs that direct your actionsand ultimately create your life. It is important to take the helm of your ship and make sure yourCaptain is directing its Crew.

    A psychological term you may have heard is the “self fulfilling prophecy,” which tells us that wewill end up creating exactly what we believe about ourselves because of our expectations. For

    example, if you continuously worry about an upcoming test and imagine you will do poorly, youwill do poorly because of the anxiety you produce and its interference with your cognitivefunctioning. At a scientific level, the command center of your brain, called the reticularactivation system (RAS), ensures you’ll fulfill your prophecy by directing your focus towardwhat you expect.

    We are constantly surrounded by millions of stimuli at every moment. The RAS limits yourrange of focus to a small number of stimuli—about 2,000 bits of information—to keep you fromgoing crazy. By directing your RAS to seek a solution by choosing to focus on something, youare directing your brain to focus those 2,000 bits on THAT request. What we think about, expectand focus on is what the RAS will narrow our awareness onto. For example: Have you ever hada name of something you wanted to say, right there on the tip of your tongue, but could notremember, and then several hours later you are doing something else and the name suddenlycomes to your mind? That happens because you had given a command, and your mind continuedto look for the answer even though you were not aware of it, consciously. Or have you everwanted or purchased a red car (for example) and then suddenly see red cars everywhere?

    So, if the thoughts you’re thinking instruct your unconscious mind and your RAS to be on thelookout, you want to choose your thoughts carefully. In fact, you want to stay focused on yourGOALS, on the things you WANT in your life, on things that make you feel good. Why?Because you’re going to get what you focus on, whether you want that thing or not. If you focuson your failures, the things you don’t want, and things that make you feel bad, what will yourRAS be looking for?

    6. Learning Change

    All of us take the time to learn a new skill or trait, whether it is for work, school, or forsomething we enjoy. For example, you were not born knowing how to walk, tie your shoes, usewords to communicate to each other, or ride a bike, but you are pretty good at those things today.So, how are those seemingly simple things different from the areas you want to work onchanging now? They’re not. The process of change remains simple. First, recognize that there issomething that you want to change. Second, recognize that you need to do something differently

    in order for it to change—such as practicing more—just like you did when learning to tie yourshoe. Today you don’t have to put any thought into it. Your unconscious mind does the work.

    This is the way the mind works. When it learns and practices something new enough times, itdevelops implicit memory and the new behavior or response happens automatically.Automatically. We won’t get into all the technical, psychological side of it here, but it isimportant to understand how your mind works, especially when you’re looking to make changesin your life. Here’s another example: have you ever driven home from work and spaced out, and

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    when you finally got home you could not remember how you got from point A to point B? If youhave, then maybe you should stop drinking and driving… just kidding… What you experiencedhere was autopilot. This happens when your unconscious mind knows the way, releasing yourconscious mind from having to pay close attention. It may seem scary, but this is happening allthe time. Your unconscious mind quickly adapts to new, practiced thoughts, behaviors, andactions of all kinds. It’s why you brush your teeth in the same order every day (don’t you?). It’swhy you can walk to the bathroom at night in the dark or with your eyes closed without bumping

    into anything. It’s why activities you do through your job or a sport you play are so easy— you’ve changed your MIND by training it.

    All change eventually gets accommodated by your mind. Even scary changes will one day feelnormal. What starts out feeling hard will slowly become habit, second nature. New ways ofthinking and acting will eventually feel natural.

    And what does this mean? That change is only uncomfortable for a little while. Now, you justneed to learn how to make it through that challenging period at the onset of change. You need to break the Change Cycle.

    Break Through the Change Cycle

    See Worksheet: Change Cycle

     Nothing in life stands still. Science has shown us that the entire human body—every cell— completely regenerates itself within a span of about seven years. Brain scientists and psychologists have agreed that in each moment our brains are taking in new information and ourminds are constantly assimilating this information into our neural network of thoughts, beliefs,and associations.

    You cannot have a new experience without it literally changing your mind, and life cannot existwithout continuous growth and expansion. You are actually changing as you read these words.

    You are moving, growing, expanding, and changing. It is no secret that the world around you isconstantly changing as well.

    We live in a time of unprecedented change, as technology expands our reach and capabilities

    and as global connectivity transforms our borders and cultures.

    There is no question: You are changing. The wonderful thing is that you have the power andability to direct changes in your life. In fact, that’s what you’re here to do, isn’t it? Reaching forgoals, by its very nature, means making changes. . Even when you’re not actively workingtoward what you desire, what you feel, think, say, and believe about your life is constantly putting change into motion.

    You are creating your life as you go along, so you might as well create it intentionally.

    What determines your success or failure, and whether you direct your life’s change or feel like avictim of it, is a choice. YOU ARE AT A CHOICE POINT. You can choose to continue on withyour life as you currently are living it, letting the external world and your past dictate what youexperience, or you can choose to create your life to be everything that you dream.

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    Even if your gung-ho about transforming your life, there is an important obstacle you need toaddress in order to be successful. Most people find deliberate change to be a difficult process.Many well-intentioned people have changes they want to make in their lives and goals they wantto reach, but they get stuck repeating the same “change cycle” over and over again. Below you’llfind this common cycle, and you’ll most likely find it to sound oddly familiar because most people experience this process of inspiration and resistance when they face a decision to change.

    1. 

    Discontent —You grow increasingly unhappy and discontent with an area of your life.You “hang in there,” tolerate, ignore, repress, or otherwise deal with the circumstance because it is comfortable and familiar, and you fear change.

    2.  Breaking Point —Eventually your level of discontent builds high enough that you cannottake it anymore. You reach a “breaking point,” either through exhaustion or due to adramatic event occurring that triggers the break.

    3.  Decision —You decide you’re ready to change and declare that you will no longertolerate the undesirable situation. You take the first step toward change, giving you ashort-lived sense of hope.

    4.  Fear —Usually, shortly (or immediately) after your feelings of empowerment, youencounter your fear. You become uncomfortable and anxious about the idea of changing.You doubt your decision. Both options look bleak. You feel helpless, empty.

    5. 

    Amnesia —The fear of change grows strong enough that it makes the original situationlook much better than you originally thought. You perceive the original situation as lessanxiety-producing than the change. You’re used to it; it’s comfortable; it’s familiar. Plus,it has become part of your identity, so you resist letting it go. You temporarily forget whyyou wanted to change it so badly.

    6.  Backtracking —Most people choose to go back to or stick with the item they wished tochange. You essentially talk yourself out of changing.

    Inevitably, you soon will find yourself unhappy and discontent once again. Your level of painwill continue to increase until you reach another breaking point, this time even more extreme andmore painful. This cycle will continue until one of two things happen:

    1.  Extreme Pain: You have a breaking point that is severe enough to push through thechange cycle. For many people, unfortunately, it takes an extreme circumstance to pushthem to evolve, such as major financial loss, job loss, loss of a loved one, the ending of arelationship, a severe accident, or a nervous breakdown. You see, your Higher Selfknows what you truly want and will lead you to it. If you resist changing long enough,something will happen in your life that will put you in a position where you have NOCHOICE but to change.

    You do not need to wait until there’s a flood to move your home away from the shoreline.

    2. 

    Self-Honesty: You have the humbling experience of realizing that there’s a part of youthat doesn’t really want to change. You are comfortable with your habits, with what youknow. You have a lot of fear that holds you back. You have many self-limiting beliefs.You receive some sort of benefit from staying where you are. You are unhappy becauseyou want to be unhappy. You are addicted to the situation. You believe your pain is you;it’s your story. You can see your resistance to letting it go. Only after reaching this levelof self-honesty can you truly choose to change.

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    Can you see how this change cycle has impacted your life? Are you ready for it to stop? Haveyou experienced change amnesia before? If so, you know that the more you move toward thechanges you want the stronger your fear and resistance will become. Are you ready to swallowthe pill of self-honesty, even if it is hard, because you are tired of being dissatisfied? Are youready to take responsibility for your life and create the life you dream of having? Are you at the point where you will accept nothing less than what you truly want?

    Consider the following reasons you may have been allowing yourself to fall victim to thiscycle:

    You don’t want to change. You don’t really want the thing you think you want. You may betrying to convince yourself to change to appease others or conform to what you believe you“should” do. If you don’t want to change, accept it. This is very common with people who saythey want to quit smoking. They don’t really WANT to quit, they simply think they SHOULDquit. It never works. You have to want it.

    You don’t know what you want. You don’t know what you really want or you’re not allowingyourself to think about what you really want because you don’t think you can have it. So, youend up thinking you want things that aren’t what you TRULY want, and your Higher Self knows

    it. You’ll never feel inspired enough to follow through on change if it isn’t even what you want.Try imagining what you would want if time, money, and people did not limit you.

    Your dream isn’t big enough. The reward isn’t big enough. You aren’t excited. Happiness isexcitement. Passion is what makes you willing to endure to attain a goal. What would you doANYTHING to attain?

    You’re letting your fear be bigger than you. You don’t believe you can do it. You don’t trustyourself. You put everyone else before yourself. You’d rather tolerate severe pain than facetemporary discomfort. Are you really willing to settle? Isn’t the fear of being stuck in a life youdon’t want and missing out on your dreams more painful than the temporary experience of

    changing?

    You are attached to your problem. Your ego and identity are wrapped up in your problem, andyou fear that if you let go of your problem you’ll have nothing to talk about. Who would you be?Would it be better?

    You’re benefiting from your problem. The benefit you’re receiving from NOT changing is bigger than your perceived benefit from changing. It gives you an excuse and something to talkabout. It allows you to hide deeper issues from yourself and others. What are you holding onto?How does it benefit you to NOT change?

    Failure no longer has to be an option. Neither does doing nothing and staying stuck where youare. If you’re facing a potential change that’s nagging at you to be made, take some time in selfreflection and be brutally honest with yourself. Is your desire for more, for fulfillment, forhappiness finally strong enough that you are willing to encounter the obstacles and endure thefear? If so, congratulations, you will succeed—you are ready to break through!

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    7. Faith in Yourself

    When most people think about faith they tend to associate it with a religious believe. However,we neglect to think about faith as a belief in our self that is crucial for us to achieve our goals.There are several definitions of faith that you will get if you do a simple search online or in yourdictionary. The one we like is:

    Faith is the confident belief, loyalty, and trust in the truth or trustworthiness of a person, concept

    or thing with strong conviction.

    If you’ve had a history that includes failure or disappointment, it is understandable that you mayhave doubts; however your past does not define your future. Plus, one important factor wealways keep in mind about faith is that you don’t have to be 100% certain, you only have to haveyour faith overshadow your doubt.

     A note from Joeel: When I went to college for the first time, I failed. When I decided to go back

    after my brother’s death, I had unconditional faith that I would succeed, not because I had

    already proven to myself that I could do it, but because I had a greater purpose to help people in

    honor of my brother. My faith in myself and my capabilities was unbreakable.”

    Many people that have gone from rags to riches will tell you that they had no idea how theywould reach ultimate success, but they knew that if they just worked on their goal every day theright doors would open. In other words, you don’t need to see the other end of the tunnel; you just need to see the light that will guide you to the end. However, first you need to start buildingthe tunnel!

    The 2 worksheets that go with this section are designed to help you find evidence that you AREgood at change, you DO have the power to succeed and you WILL reach your goal

    7.1. Good Will Always Come

    See Worksheet: Good Will Always Come

    The change guarantee: from this situation, something good will come.

    Rest assured that no matter what happens you will be okay. Everything in your life has alwaysworked out, fallen into place… eventually. Even when something bad has happened, you havesurvived it (you are here now, are you not?) and it has most likely lead to something good orhelped you grow into the person you are now.

    The parachute always opens. Take this opportunity to remind yourself of the times your parachute has opened and prove to yourself that you have no reason to believe that it will notcontinue to do so!

    “Everything will be alright in the end, so if everything is not alright, it is not the end.”

     —The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel

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    7.2. Your Change Resume

    See Worksheet: Change Resume

    You may, like most people, feel that change is hard. You might believe that you “just aren’t goodat dealing with change.” So, to prove that you are capable at making change happen, and notonly that, you are GOOD at it, you will create your own Change Resume. In this section, list anychanges you made, helped someone with, initiated, or lived through. Feel free to add“accomplishments” or positive outcomes under each Change. It can also be helpful to look at thelives of others for inspiration. It’s no secret that “rags to riches” stories are inspirational, butsometimes they can also be used as that evidence that we’re looking for that what we want trulyIS possible. If they can do it, we can do it!

    8. Empower Your Self Talk with Affirmative Language 

    See Worksheet: Affirmation Statements

    It is no secret that the things that we tell our selves tend to create our reality. This self-talk is both internal and external. What we tell our self about our past, present, and future impacts ourmotivation because our beliefs can affect how we view our capabilities, what’s possible for us,and whether we feel we are worthy to have what we want. If we monitor our self-talk, as well ashow we talk about ourselves to others, we can become aware of the beliefs that can be limiting.

    The trick is to be able to catch yourself in conversation (with yourself or others) and turn itaround. A belief is just a thought you keep thinking, and so if we replace it with another, moreempowering and motivating thought, every time we catch ourselves, eventually our belief willchange as well.

    Think of it like a game and watch for opportunities to replace any negative belief with this newidea. What language is empowering to you? Find it and use it. Decide to choose attitudes,thoughts, beliefs, assumptions, opinions, judgments, and feelings that serve what you want tocreate. Research across the board has demonstrated that your view point will affect yourdecisions and actions. Your attitude will determine what the outcome will be in your life.

    This can be seen, even to the extreme. We were watching a documentary about a researcher whohad dedicated his life to studying witch craft, voodoo, and any form of curses that people placedon others. He talked about how he had observed that if a person told another person that theywould die in a couple of months, all of a sudden the person’s behaviors changed until theyactually created it. On the other hand, he also noticed that when the person being told they weregoing to die did not believe it at all, the “curse” would have no effect on them. The power of belief can also be seen in a book called A Man’s Search for Meaning By Victor Frankle. This book described the experience of a psychologist who was in a concentration camp and hisobservation of the fact that a person's belief system about being in that camp determined howlong the person could survive. He noticed that when a person lost hope they would quickly decay but that a person with a great attitude could survive and thrive in these conditions.

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    By choosing your words, internal and external, and belief systems you can be your own powerfulmotivator. And so, you may be wondering, how would you actually CHANGE those beliefs thatcause you to have the negative thoughts and self-talk?

    Complete the activity in the worksheet for this section, which asks you to identify your negative beliefs or self talk and re-write a positive, affirmative statement to replace each of them.Remember, that like vision statements, affirmations should be present tense, positive, personal

    (I) and passionate.

    Step 3: Create a Concrete Plan for Success

    9. The Bridge to Your Dreams

    See Worksheet: Bridge to Your Dreams

    Along the journey in this program you’ve already assessed what you really want. You’ve createda “vision”—a big picture, long-term vision of what you would ultimately like your existence to

    encompass—no limitations, just pure dream. But, sometimes this dream seems so far outside ofyour current reality that you can’t quite get yourself to believe it. Even after finding evidencethat you can, in fact, achieve it, you still need to prove it to yourself by GETTING STARTED!It’s often that first step that’s the hardest part. The good news is that when the first step is onto a bridge to your dream, you can see right away that you will get there.

    We know this because we’ve experienced it. We’re really good at thinking big, withoutlimitations, and really believing our dreams are ours for the taking. But, we’re so good at it thatwe find ourselves living in limbo—one foot here in the now and the other floating somewhere inthe ether, trying to find firm ground in that dreamland in our minds. As you can imagine, this position can leave one quite unstable.

    So, the question is, “How can you take your dream out of the clouds and make it concrete?” aswell as “How can dreams be more believable and immediately attainable?” The solution is to break down your dream into more manageable chunks—separate tiers—creating a bridge between where you are and where you want to be. That’s what this section is all about!

    The Bridge

    Visions and dreams tend to be big-picture, long-term oriented. For them to feel attainable and forone not to get stuck “waiting” to enjoy life in the process, it’s important to build a bridge. The bridge consists of 2 parts, the beginning and the middle, where the “end” is your dream or goal.

    The first part is Enjoying Today. You “get on the bridge” by finding ways to make your lifeTODAY more like what you dream. The second part is Getting Prepared. This is where youwork on YOURSELF along the journey to your dream so that you are who you need to be inorder to be ready for living your dream.

    The rest of the activities in this section break down your dreams and goals into more detailed plans. But first, you want to build your bridge so you can GET ON IT!

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    10. SMART Goals

    See Worksheet: SMART Goals

     Not all goals are created equal! Believe it or not there is a science to writing and creating yourgoals. Knowing how to create goals is one of the major differences between why some peopleare so affective in reaching their goals and why some are not. In fact, the “smart” goal principleshave been popular for quite some time, first appearing in 1981 as presented by George Doran ina business journal. However, the principles behind “smart” goals can be found in books that areover a century old. Success leaves clues, and these goal setting principals have been provensuccessful. As you go through this section, take a look at your goals and make sure that theyfollow “smart” goal principles. If they do not, then make the necessary changes.

    SMART GOALS are: S pecific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time Framed.

    Specific: It is critical that your goals are as specific as possible. Many people set goals that arevague in nature and not precise. The problem with this is that it makes it hard to determine howto get to them and how to judge when we actually achieved them. For example, a statement like“I will be wealthy” or “I will lose weight” is too vague. Ask yourself, how will you know withcertainty if and when you’ve reached your goal? In other words, you may reach your goals andstill not know that you are there or you may find that you do not have the motivation becauseyou really don’t know what you are striving for. Therefore, it would be in your best interest tohave the goals say something specific like “I will lose 5 pounds in the next month” or “I will bemaking ten thousand dollars a month in a year.” At the end of the month or year it will be simpleto take a look at your weight and look how much you are making and compare it to your goal.

    Measurable: As demonstrated in the above example, goals also need to be measurable. Forexample, if someone is going to school they may say, “I want to be more committed andinvolved in school” but that may not be measurable. How would you be able to tell the goal has been reached? What is the criteria? This person could instead state clear objectives such as “Iwill attend every class this month and study for an hour every day.” Another goal might be “Iwill sign up for a student club or organization this week.” These goals are simple and concrete.Having goals that are measurable makes it easy for you to track your progress.

    Achievable: To build confidence your goals need to be reasonable and achievable. In otherwords, you do not want to set yourself up for failure, as it will not help you achieve your goals orstay motivated. For example, if a person is trying to write a book they may tell themselves, “Iwill start and finish the book in two weeks.” However, let’s say that the person has otherresponsibilities, such as a job, family, or life; is it reasonable for them to be able to write thewhole book in 2 weeks? No. Especially if they’ve never considered all of the steps it takes.Instead, the person can take a look at their schedule, take all the steps required into account, andsay, “I will write the outline for my book this week and dedicate two hours per day for the next 2weeks. Then I will reassess my schedule and see how much more I have to go.” Again, it may bethat the person finishes the book in two weeks because they get really inspired or ended uphaving more time that they initially anticipated. However, it is better to go above and beyondyour goal than to make a goal that is not achievable and then have that demotivate you.

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    Realistic: Another aspect of goals is that it needs to be realistic. With that said, we are big believers in thinking big and stretching reality. However, you do need to understand yourcapabilities and current abilities when you are making goals. For example, we worked with asenior in high school whose goal is to become a professional basketball player, and he had noother life goals. However, he was not currently playing on a team and had, in fact, never played acompetitive sport. He didn’t practice very often and was not in the top tier of physical talent orability. Now, we’ve also met individuals with their heart set on professional sports that practiced

    at 4am every day, lived, ate, and breathed their sport, and honed their talent for years. Theseother individuals were within realistic reach of a goal of pro-ball. However, this other young manwas being unrealistic. He was looking only at the fact that he liked basketball and not at what ittruly takes to “make it big” in that field. We worked with him to examine other ways that hecould be part of the professional league that fit his abilities and preparation and used hisknowledge and passion for the game. It is important to honestly evaluate yourself. Do you havethe ability? Are you committed to making your goals a reality? Are you doing what it takes? Orcan you adjust your goals to make them more realistic? Again, the point here is to buildconfidence and not set yourself up for failure. But, by all means, if you want to dream bigger andgo for the “big time,” no matter what that is—then go for it! Just be sure you thoroughlyunderstand everything it takes to be successful.

    Time Framed: One of the most important aspects of goals is to have a time frame. Having a setamount of time to achieve the goals gives the mind the structure that it needs to help you achievethem. For example, someone may want to change jobs, start school, or start their own business.However, if they truly look at it they may find that they talk a lot about doing it but never getanything done towards that goal because they have no time frame for it. For any goal to beaffective it has to have a sense of urgency. Having a specific time frame give you the motivationneeded to get started and finish. For example, for a person that wants to go back to school, theymay set a deadline for themselves to register for classes or for financial aid. A person looking tostart a business may set a time frame for completing specific research, developing a business plan, and getting the business started.

    Remember, there are only two types of goals: the ones that we talk about but never do and theones that we are truly committed to and will achieve. The difference between them is that theachievable ones are S.M.A.R.T. goals, while the other ones may just be a way of wasting time.

     Now take a look at your goals and ask yourself if they’re SMART!

    The importance of OUTCOMES 

    When working on goals, there is a big difference between having a bunch of to-do’s and having afocus on outcomes. For example, we have worked with many people that stay busy but are reallynot getting anywhere towards their goals. It’s like they have filled up their calendar but do nottruly understand their direction or what is a priority. It reminds me of a hamster spinning theirwheel and going around in circles. It’s not enough simply to do the motions—to make a list oftasks and chip away at it. Having a lot to do may make us feel busy and productive, but it canoften be simply busy work and not productive towards our goals at all. What’s missing is anunderstanding of WHY you’re doing the task.

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    What’s the OUTCOME you’re hoping to achieve? Simply a completed task is not the outcome.For example, if someone is in sales and tells themselves “I am going to make 4 phone calls a daythis week” they may be able to make those 4 phone calls but not actually achieve what theyreally wanted—which was to make 2 sales for the week. If the OUTCOME is 2 sales a week,then THAT is his goal—and he’d probably need more than 4 phone calls.

    Here’s another example: someone is going to school and prepping for a test that has 20 words

    and definitions. They say their goal is to look over their words and definition every day for aweek. However, that goal may not get then the outcome they’re looking for—an A on the test. Itmay serve them better if their goal is to memorize 3 words and definitions every day and reviewthe ones that they learned the previous days so that by the end of the week they are guaranteed toknow all the words. It may seem like a small change, but this small change can make the biggestdifference on whether or not a person will achieve what they want. So, ask yourself are yourgoals focused on “busy work” or tasks, or are they goals that will help you create the outcomesyou want?

    11. The 30-60-365 Goal Setting Plan

    See Worksheet: 30-60-365 Plan

     Now it’s time to take everything you’ve been working on and set a foundation for its continued progress. Without putting something on paper, a new business venture will easily become “justanother good idea”.

    There’s a saying that goes: “When humans make plans God laughs.”

    There is an element of truth to this. Often we make plans and, well, plans change. But, just because we need to remain flexible so that our plan can adjust to life’s turns, doesn’t mean we

    shouldn’t make one. If you route your GPS to take you somewhere and a road block comes up,you just re-route. You don’t just avoid looking at the map all together!

    The 30-60-365 Action Plan is the tool we use to route ourselves to where we want to go. We startwith the “big picture” goals that we wish to accomplish in 1 year (365 days). Then we work ourway backwards to determine where we would need to be at a given time to be “on track” toreaching our goal. Notice, we only include a 30 and 60 day plan. The reason for this is that, predictably, plans change after about 60 days. By re-assessing our plans every 60 days, we giveourselves the commitment and accountability of a solid plan, but leave in room for flexibilityshould Life have something else in mind for us.

    Success is about creating a balance between commitment and flexibility.

    In your worksheets, start by summarizing your Dream—your larger, lifelong vision. This helpsyou remember why you’re doing all of this! Next, write down measurable goals that you wish toaccomplish in the next year. Then, ask yourself what goals you would need to accomplish by theend of 60 days in order to be on track toward your year goal. From there, consider what goalsneed to be accomplished in 30 days, and finally, what needs to be done this week. Then, pick 1to 3 actions that you can take RIGHT NOW (well, after you’re done with this program).

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    Now Get Prioritized

     Now that you have your roadmap, you’ll need to add a little more detail to your plan. Take alook at the 30 and 60 day portion of your goals and brainstorm as many of the tasks that willneed to be accomplished in that 60 day timeframe. Come up with as many things as you can.Then, reorganize them into meaningful groups. Next, highlight or circle the items that arePRIORITIES—these are items that need to be done prior to working on other items.

    After assessing everything that must be done you’ll be even clearer what needs to be done in 30days and what can wait until 60 days. Anything that seems farther off in the future than 60 days,make a not if there is any part of it that must be done sooner, and then take it off your list.Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day.

    12. Ta-Da List

    See Worksheet: Ta-Da List

    One of the greatest tools and habits you can have is to commit to a weekly planning session. Atthe beginning of every week, or even on Sunday night, take a few minutes to determine whattasks you need to accomplish during the upcoming week to stay on track toward your goals.

    You will either need a notebook, a pocket calendar, an online "ta-da" list, or a white board. Makea list of all of the tasks you can think of that you intend to do in the coming week. If items needto be completed on a specific day, note this. If items are priorities that absolutely must becompleted this week, star or highlight them and focus on these FIRST.

    As the week moves forward, it feels GREAT to be able to cross items off the list. KEEP THEMTHERE, do not erase them. This helps keep you motivated by showing you what you'veaccomplished. Remember that sometimes life happens and not everything on your list for theweek will happen. That's okay, simply move it forward to the next week!

    We like crossing things off the list so much that if we do something that hadn’t originally beenon the list, we write it on and cross it off—ta-da!

    13. Create Accountability

    See Worksheet: Accountability

    One of the biggest challenges that people find when working towards a goal is followingthrough.

    Accountability is a tool to help you keep commitments. It is about having a reason to pushyourself to continuously be motivated so that you can meet your goals. You can find ways tohold yourself accountable by doing some of the things already discussed, such as having a Ta-DaList and setting deadlines. However, going at it alone can prove to be challenging. Having othersto be accountable to keeps you on track and also helps you create the success you want.

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    “A dream you dream alone is only a dream, a dream you dream together is reality!”

     — John Lennon 

    This does not mean that you have to go into business with someone to be successful. It doesmean that you may need a network, or a couple of individuals, that can share your journey. It’shelpful to have an outside perspective from time to time, and it’s really helpful to have someonewho know what you’ve decided to do and is there to follow up with you to see how you’re doing

    For example, when we first started our business we met a couple of other people that were on asimilar journey as us. During that process we would share our experience with each other,including our progress, challenges, and intentions. We got so much out of the collaborative piecethat we decided to create what we called the “Tribe of Silence” with a few of those individuals.The Tribe got together once a week and we would have a meditation followed by a discussion.The Tribe served as a great support system and at the same time as an accountability group thathelped us stay focused in the right direction and with the right frame of mind. Because of thesupport of like-minded individuals, we continued to move forward and maintained the beliefsystem that anything that we could accomplish anything we wanted.

    Finding Accountability Partners

    Your accountability partners should be folks that can be counted on for encouragement andreinforcement of what you are trying to accomplish. These can be individuals that are friends,relatives, colleagues, or business acquaintances. These individuals do not necessarily have to beon the same path as you or share similar goals, but it does help to have at least one person thatshares your interests and can better understand your challenges. You should think of at leastthree people that would be a good source of accountability, and make a commitment to shareyour goals with at least one of them regularly.

    Sharing for Accountability

    Create a system where you can share your goals with your accountability partner and they canshare theirs. The key is to meet or talk regularly. The purpose is to share your intentions andgoals, and then because you KNOW that someone is going to be asking you about how things aregoing on a certain date, it keeps you motivated to have something good to report back to them.You can share what you will be working on today, your weekly plan, or even your bigger vision.This does not mean that you have to talk to them every day, but you should at least have aweekly time that you discuss what is going on and what you plan on doing for that week. Thiscan be done in person, by phone, or through email. Doing this will help you stay heading in theright direction. Some of these individuals may even turn into collaborative partners.

    A good example of an effective accountability partner is a workout partner. If your goal is to get

    in shape or work out and you’ve decided to exercise regularly, it’s a great idea to have workout partner to join you when you exercise. Then, on the days you may not be feeling motivated andfeel the itch to bail out, your partner will be calling you asking “see you there at 5?” You canalso play this role with them. If a physical partner is not a possibility, having someone whoshares similar fitness goals whom you talk to on a pre-determined schedule will keep you going,knowing that on Wednesday you’ll be checking in with your accountability partner and youdon’t want to report that you skipped aerobics class. This process works well for any goal.

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    14. Massive Action and Assessing Results

    Take Massive Action 

    Many times when we are reaching for a goal or something new we are tempted to take a small

    step to get our feet wet. It’s a form of indecision. It’s almost as if we are preparing for it not towork out and so don’t really go for it so that we have an excuse to not truly commit. The reasonsthat small steps do not work is because they do not truly show us what is possible, they do notcreate enough momentum, and even if we fail they do not teach us enough to be able to do itdifferently the next time. In other words, if you are truly committed to your goals the best thingyou can do is to take massive action to get the ball rolling. Taking massive action demonstratesto yourself that you have made the decision to be successful and are truly committed to achievingyour dreams and desires.

    Two of the biggest lessons we have learned from our journey and from studying truly successful people are:

    •  Never leave the scene of a decision without taking action.

    •  Indecision is a form of self abuse.

    Make decisions quickly and then immediately take massive action in that direction. Don’t worrywhether it’s the “perfect” decision or whether it’s the “right” direction. Taking action in any action in any direction get things moving. For example, if you got in your car and turned on theGPS, it may not initially lead you to the right direction if it does not recognize which way youare facing or if has not updated your location. However, as soon as your car starts moving it willget oriented and then tell you to go in the direction you need to go, even if it means turningaround. The same thing happens when you take action in life. Getting started is the hardest part, but once you make a move—any move—it becomes easier to assess if you’re going the rightway and what steps to take to correct your path. Whatever you do don’t get stuck in indecision.

    Ask yourself, “what can I do NOW?”

    The perfect time to start is now! What can you do that makes you feel “invested”? This can meaninvesting in yourself and your goal financially, physically or mentally. Once you take a massiveaction, you feel more committed. For example, you can: invest into a program, buy equipmentyou may need, buy a book, start writing ideas, make a phone call, share your idea, do researchand write what you find, or join a program. Think about it: if someone wants to lose weight orget fit they can think about it all they want or they can take immediate action by joining a gymright away, going for a walk, finding a workout partner, writing a schedule on their calendar, ordoing all of these things. It’s vitally important to take the first step now. The bigger the initialaction step, the better the results you will get long term.

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    Assess Your Results 

    One common mistake that many people make is that they rarely asses their results. They takemassive action and make a solid plan, but then they continue to take the same actions and followtheir plan even when it’s not working. At that point, their effort is pointless. They need to assesswhat aspects of their strategy are working and make changes to both their plans and actions.

    For example, we have worked with numerous parents that say they want to change their child’s behavior of screaming and hitting. When we asked them what they do to change the behavior,they commonly respond that they scream and hit the child. When we ask why they do this, theyoften say, “well, that’s how I learned from my parents.” The problem is that they are notassessing their strategy to see if it’s working or not because if they did look more closely theywould quickly realize that the problem is getting worst, not better. This same concept applies toany goal that we have. If we take the time to asses our results of our strategies, we will better beable to adjust our actions, often finding that small tweaks create major changes in results.

    Every day, ask yourself, “what did I learn? What went right? What could have gone better?” Thesame thing can be done every week. Take a day (this works well if it’s the same day you set your

    “ta-da list” for the week) to reflect on your goal strategy and asses what is not working, what isworking, and what changes you can make. Then reassess again the next week.

    When working toward your dreams and goals, it’s important to stay focused on the OUTCOMEwithout being attached to the means (the “how”) by which you get there. You want to becommitted to your goal, but you also want to remain flexible. By assessing your progress andyour strategies’ effectiveness, you stay heading toward your goals while adjusting and tryingnew paths along the way. There are dozens of ways to get there. Never give up, just trysomething new. When something’s not working, it’s not a reflection of you. But your willingnessto acknowledge and address what needs changing says you’re committed to reaching your goalsand you’re willing to do whatever it takes.

    Step 4: Stay Committed and Motivated

    15. Say “NO” to Buts! Eliminating Excuses

    See Worksheet: Excuses

    So, you have tools for success, you have made a decision to create your life, you’re willing togrow as you go along, and you’re ready to take action. But, your unconscious, limiting beliefs— your excuses—could still hold you back if you don’t nip them in the bud.

    Say “no” to “BUT”! BUT is the word that usually precedes an excuse. The dictionary defines anexcuse as: “self-justification; 'a defense of some offensive behavior or some failure to keep a promise'.” “Buts” are simply what you use to self-justify why you are not living the life you trulydesire. Below are common “buts” that many of us use. If you are honest with yourself, you willsee that these are in fact excuses and not legitimate reasons. The question is, then, why do we usethese “buts?” Each “but” serves its own purpose, but ultimately they all help us to remain safe— to stay where we’re comfortable.

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    But, it’s too hard. Is it really too hard? How would you know; have you done it? You have madeit through so-called “hard” things before, haven’t you? Saying “but” gives the illusion that whatyou want is not possible so that you can avoid doing it.

    But, it’s too risky. An intelligent decision based on a deep desire, good research, and a solid plan is not risky at all. You choose to fear risk instead of facing your other fears, like failure.

    But, it’ll take too long. What is a “long time” anyway? For that matter, what is “time?” It ismore accurate to look at time as an emotion, not a unit of measure. How “long” something takeshas nothing to do with how much clock time passes and everything to do with how you feel. So,then why does it feel like it will take so “long?” Because you feel overwhelmed! In reality, timewill pass anyway, regardless of whether or not you make the change. You say this as a way to putoff making a decision. Really, you fear commitment, not time.

    But, it’s overwhelming. If you are feeling overwhelmed it’s because you are thinking too big.It’s important to see the big picture, but you don’t want to “bite of more than you can chew.”Break it down into manageable chunks and stay focused on the positive.

    But, I don’t have time. This is the most commonly used “but,” and it is totally bogus. In “It’ll

    take too long” we discussed how time is simply an emotion. So, by saying you “don’t have time”you’re saying you feel overextend or inefficient. You may not want to admit it, but you havechosen your life situations. If you are over extended it was your choice. It's a great reason not totake action. We all make time for what is important to us.

    There are three solutions that can help you “make the time.”•  Organize your life to free up time•  Eliminate lesser important activities•  Change your perspective

    We are all guilty of using “buts,” and we all suffer the consequences—not living the life we

    really want. Use the worksheet to assess what “buts” are holding you back.

    16. COMMITMENT

    See Worksheet: Commitment

    Why do some people fear commitment? Because they misunderstand what commitment IS.Commitment is NOT obligation—something we do because we “should” or “have to”.Commitment IS choice, dedication, investment—something we are determined to do because weare motivated by genuine desire.

    There are 2 common issues people encounter with commitment: over-committing and under-committing.

    Are you over committed?

    Take a moment to reflect on whether your current commitments are due to a feeling ofobligation. Do you tend to over commit? Also ask yourself if this new goal is something you’re

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    committing to out of obligation. If so, don’t do it! People fear commitment because they fear breaking it. Continuing to commit to something you don’t genuinely feel dedicated to is a pathfor disaster. People self-sabotage themselves to get out of commitments, when the more simpleway to break a commitment is simply to break it. Making decisions isn’t always easy, but youalways have the choice. And as with any decision, not making one is like giving away your power.

    Do you resist commitment?

    Are you someone who wants all the benefits but you don't want any of the responsibilities? If so,we’re here to tell you that you can't get out of something what you're not willing to put into it.Ask yourself; are you where you truly want to be in this moment? If not, consider this: You'renot further than where you are now because you've never thrown your whole self  at

    anything in your life. 

    What would happen to your life if you put your WHOLE self in?

    The value of commitment is that it keeps you moving forward even when the inevitableroadblocks and challenges cross your path. We’re not talking doing something out of obligation

    and then depending on willpower to follow through, we’re talking giving 100% dedication tothat which you have a deep, genuine desire to do.

    What is it that you have a POWERFUL enough reason to commit to?

    The first commitment you can make to yourself is to DO THE ACTIVITIES in the Workbook!Just listening to or watching the program will not change your life. It only works if you TAKEACTION!

    These tools are only as effective as you make them… and there are no limits if you’re committedto following through.

    16. Unconditional Dreams and Desires

    See Worksheet: Unconditional Dreams

    Everything we want is because we believe it will make us feel the way we desire—good, or atleast better. We believe we must obtain CONDITIONS that we want in order to feel the way wewant… but it’s not true. We can FEEL the way we want without needing any of the conditions.We can experience the UNcondition!

    By imagining our dreams as if they’re real, or doing or thinking about other things that elicit thefeelings we want—the ones we believe we will have once we get what we want—we canexperience the end result we’re after NOW without having to wait for the conditions to change.By focusing on the emotion that is the true end result we’re after, we can practice feeling it now,rather than feeling like we have to wait until we achieve our dream or desire. By feeling it beforeit comes—experiencing the UNcondition—not only do we enjoy the journey to our dreams more,we also put ourselves in a happier, healthier state of mind which makes us more able toaccomplish our goals!

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    17. Empowering Beliefs

    Beliefs are what make the difference between a lifetime of joyous contribution and a life ofmisery. All transformation begins with a change of beliefs. So, the first thing you need to knowis YES, you can change any belief!

    Well known doctor and spiritual leader, Bernie Siegel, is often recognized for his reports ofintriguing results of studies about multiple personality disorder. In these studies, and manyothers, measurable changes in body chemistry, physical markings, and diseases such as diabetes,would appear and reappear in patients depending on which personality they were manifesting inthe moment. What this clearly shows us is that the patients' beliefs about who they were actuallyaffected their bodies! So, imagine what your beliefs do to you! 

    So what is a belief, really, anyway? Ultimately they are ideas or thoughts that are supported byreferences. Imagine the thought being a table and the evidence, or references that supports it being like the legs. The key to changing a belief is to knock the legs out from under it. And, howdo we do that? We create doubt.

    Think about it, aren't there things you used to believe, and probably would have defendedfiercely, but today you'd be embarrassed to admit you once thought that way? So, what changedthat made you stop believing? Evidence. You had enough experiences that were to the contraryof what you believed that it made you doubt your belief. You questioned it. And if you questionanything long enough you'll begin to doubt.

    So, if you want to change a belief you need to build evidence for your new beliefs. Startquestioning your old, unwanted belief. Ask yourself where the information came from andwhether you are sure it's true. Ask yourself who told you and whether you're sure they wereright. Ask yourself if you have seen any evidence that goes against what you believe. Think ofyourself like a lawyer who is cross examining your belief system. Can you prove beyond a

    reasonable doubt that it's true? If not, discard the belief... it has no legs to stand on.

    Seek positive confirmation in your own life and that of others that proves the beliefs that you DOwant true. What examples do you see that show you that what you want is possible, even if untilnow you didn't believe it was? TAKE ACTION—because every time you take a step towardsomething you want—whether you believe it's possible or not—it raises your level of confidenceand your ability to believe in it.

    You joined this program because you are ready to choose the beliefs that empower you.

    To give you some ideas to get you thinking before you do the activity in the worksheets, we'llgive you a few ideas on common beliefs that hold many people back.

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    Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

    See Worksheet: Empowering Beliefs

    Most limiting beliefs are like mind-viruses or memes that are “passed down” to us by theattitudes and beliefs of others. Below is a list of some common “phrases” that we are often toldgrowing up or hear in our community. They are so “normal” that we rarely question their validityor consider how they affect our belief systems. We all know there is a good intention behindthem, but we challenge you to see how these mind-viruses can hold back our businesses. Then,after looking at these, consider what other mind-viruses you might have that you never question because it seems so “normal” to think that way. Remember, any belief can be changed if youquestion it enough. 

    “Money is the root of all evil.” Potential limits: unconsciously avoiding or sabotaging financialsuccess to avoid the “negative qualities” you believe you’ll develop if you have money 

    “Money doesn’t grow on trees.” Potential limits: not believing you can have what you want if itinvolves having money and therefore not going for it 

    “Don’t burn your bridges.” Potential limits: not making a change or taking an opportunity whenit comes out of fear of disappointing, offending, or otherwise burning a bridge 

    “No pain no gain.” Potential limits: choosing not to make changes or go for what you want because you feel it will be difficult or painful, holding yourself back from success. This can alsolead to sabotaging to make a situation harder than it has to be.

    “Life is hard.” Potential limits: feeling discouraged and hopeless; accepting difficulties orunnecessary suffering because you believe it is normal or expected  

    “Good things come to those who wait.” Potential limits: a feeling of impatience due to focusingon the length of time and not doing something you want because it will “take too long” (soundfamiliar?). It can also lead to not taking the steps that would create rapid results because it wouldmake us question the statement if it worked.

    “You have to pay your dues.” Potential limits: feeling unworthy, you may not take opportunitiesor you may punish yourself for rewards and accomplishments you receive with ease

    18. Procrastination

    See Worksheet: Procrastination

    The Pain/Pleasure Principle 

    Everything we do we do for a reason… we’re not random creatures… we’re always either tryingto avoid pain or move toward pleasure. Always. Procrastination is when you know you should dosomething, but you don’t. The reason you're not doing it is because you see doing it as creatingmore pain than not doing it. Then, once you get close enough to your deadline, the pain of notdoing it seems greater, and so you finally do it.

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    So, you can overcome procrastination, and induce a feeling of motivation, by changing how youthink about pleasure and pain. When we procrastinate or continue any other limiting behavior it's because we're reacting to how we feel in the moment. If you want to stop doing something, like procrastination, think about how it affected you in the past and how it will affect your present infuture. If in the MOMENT it isn't causing you enough pain to stop doing it (procrastinating)then you need to link it in your mind to the pain… failure, embarrassment, disappointment,heartache... that you'll feel if you keep doing it.

    Simply put, if you don’t take action because of the pain you associate with it, start focusing onthe pain you will experience by not taking action.

    Then, associate pleasure with the outcome you want—which in this case is DOING whatever itis that you have been procrastinating about-- by focusing on how it will benefit you. This iswhere you can break out your vision statement or manifesto to remind yourself why you're doingwhat you're doing. Procrastination is a great example of why you need to have big enoughreasons behind what you're doing.

    19 Stimulating Motivation 

    See Worksheet: Motivation

    Whether you're trying to overcome procrastination or simply summons the feeling of beingmotivated, it helps to have some tools up your sleeve. One of the basic components of motivationis being able to identify what things stimulate you and motivate you to get things done on a daily basis. Sometimes having a certain routine can help us maintain balance and stay moving forward.Other tactics include triggers that give you that kick start when you need it. Sometimes youmight need a tool to “wake your butt up and see the possibilities” while other times you may justneed a tool to sustain yourself. We have compiled a list that you can consider to use in your bag

    of tricks that will motivate you to get through an ordinary, or extraordinary, day.

    Music or songs: Music speaks to our unconscious and it’s a natural language that has been passed down from the beginning of time. It is a way that our ancestors remembered things and itwas also a way to create certain emotions and belief systems. Today music can play the samerole. Ask yourself if there is a song that gets you pumped up or shifts your energy? Identify thosesongs and use them as needed. Get up and dance to it if that's what works for you. 

    Movies, videos, and documentaries: Are their specific movies, documentaries, or YouTubevideos that feed your soul, make you laugh, or inspire you? There are times that we use YouTubevideos (search for motivational videos), documentaries about people that have created success, oreven movies that inspire us to help re-align ourselves to our deeper motivations. Find some ofthese and have them handy when you need them.

    Books, audio books, and/or magazines: Are there books, audio books, or magazines that cangive you a boost? For example, we go through phases in which we're looking for inspiration or tolearn about specific information that will help us grow. We use our time on the road as anopportunity to listen to audio books that will inspire us. Other times we use drive time to have aquite space to explore our inner voice or brainstorm. For you it may be that sitting down with agood book is like a reset button. Find what works for you and USE IT! 

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    Places: There may be certain places, such as a park, beach, or social event, that helps you getgrounded, centered, or re-inspired. Finding your happy place can be a space for reflection, peace,and inspiration. Find such a place or places and make sure that you spend at least a couple oftimes a week going to them, even if it’s just for 15 minutes.

    Exercise: It has been proven that physical activity, even a short work out, can stimulate the brainand activate certain areas that create motivation. Develop a workout routine, even if it's

    something really simple and you only do it a couple times a week. Make sure it's something youLIKE! Plus, you can combine both the places where you ground yourself and your exercise bygoing for a walk or a jog somewhere you enjoy!

    Rethink your internal clock: Our bodies work in different time zones, and understanding whatworks for you is important. In our society we get taught that we should have an 8-5 schedule.This doesn’t work for everyone because it may not take advantage of your “best” time of day.Even if you have to work “normal business hours” you can focus on your goals when it’s best foryou. Are you more alert, inspired and clear in the morning? At night? In the middle of the day?To be successful you must know what schedule works for you and find ways to honor it, insteadof fighting it.

    19 Key Motivators

    Research has shown that there are some key motivational factors that inspire successful peopleand that they tend to affirm these to themselves. By signing up for this program, we alreadyknow you are motivated, in some way or another, by some of these factors. Consider whetherany of these key motivators resonate with you:

    The Self: Some people are motivated by statements and affirmations that focus on their personalidentity and belief system of who they are or how they will be perceived by others. Some may

    call this “ego”, but there is nothing wrong with acknowledging where your motivations comefrom. For example, when asked why they are entrepreneurs some may say, “I want to express my personal creativity” or “I want to be seen by others as an expert in the field”. 

    Acquisition of Knowledge: Some people are driven by exploration of truth and knowledge. Thiscan also be the thrill of learning a new skill, discovering a new insight or gaining greaterunderstanding. Beliefs or affirmations that drive the desire for growth through acquisition ofknowledge are extremely valuable for anyone working toward a goal. An example of a belief oraffirmation may be: “knowledge helps me be creative and continue to grow” or “it is fun to learnand apply new things”. 

    The Actual Work: Some people are excited by the actual adventure of doing the work towardtheir goal. The motivation may come from the excitement of the challenge, the discovery process, the thrill of risks and uncertainties, the surprises, or the gratification of the outcome of a project. An affirmation behind someone with this motivation might be: “life is a game and I win by learning how to put all the pieces together to make it work”.

    Progress: Most people are driven by the feeling of forward movement and the feeling that weare headed in the right direction. It is important to recognize that progress consists of short term

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    advancements that serve as stepping stones that create a long term movement. The motivating belief may be: “I am chipping away and creating the foundation that will lead to my ideal life”. 

    Contribution: Humans, in general, are motivated to contribute to others, but contribution is adriving force for some more than others. If you are driven by a desire to contribute, you may findyourself thinking: “because of what I do I improve the life of others”.  

    Future Dreams: Some people remain motivated by focusing on the long term impact of whatthey are creating—a vision of how it will impact their reality. The beliefs may be “my work willcreate a legacy for my family” or “by doing this I will create the abundance and lifestyle Idesire”.

    Assimilating to Key Figures: Many people are motivated by role models. This can be a publicfigure, such as a “rags to riches” story—like Oprah, or it can be someone like a parent whoseactions inspire you. The affirmations may be something like “I'm creating a similar foundationto____ and they have created success in this way” or “if this person can do it, I can do it”.

    Uniqueness: Some people are driven knowing that what they bring to the table is unique. The belief can be: “I want to create something no one has done before” or “I want to offer my

    unique, authentic self to the world”.

    21. Identify What Demotivates You 

    See Worksheet: Demotivation

    In order to stay motivated, we need to know what tends to demotivate us. We all have people, patterns, and situations that are energy sucks that drain us and keep us from what we want tocreate. Sometimes we put up with unhelpful situations for different reasons such as:

    1. 

    Feeling of obligation2.  Give us excuses for not taking action3.  Meets our copping needs

    By understanding common demotivational factors that may exist in our lives, we can be prepared by knowing what to expect and creating a powerful mind state and life environment thatminimizes the impact of these potential road blocks.

    Clutter and disorganization: Clutter and disorganization can be a killer to motivation and business. The space that you work in has to fit the energy that you want to create. Whether it’s acluttered email, home, or office it will create a cluttered mind and energy as you try to create. Byremoving clutter you will be free of unconscious tension.

    Avoidance mechanisms or bad habits: These can be behaviors like over indulging in thingsthat suck up time or energy, such as drinking, smoking, watching T.V., checking Facebook, playing Candy Crush, shopping, arguing, or busywork. We're not saying that any of those arenecessarily bad, we're just pointing out that overindulging in something can be negative and thatall of these are behaviors that distract us from something more positive and productive. If you'rehonest with yourself, you'll recognize that, in fact, you use these or other avoidance mechanisms

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    as a way to avoid doing what you know you want to do. Like what we mentioned about procrastination, you need to associate more pain to continuing these patterns than the pain youcurrently associate with stopping them. It can take a while to break patterns but it is an extremelyimportant journey to take. Ask yourself what you do to avoid working on bettering yourself, or ifyou have any habits you want to break. First you have to notice them and then commit tochanging them.

    Avoiding conflict or confrontation: We will tell you that we don’t believe in encouragingconflict and confrontation. But, there are times that you have to put your foot down and stand upfor what you believe, especially if those things are creating a situation that affects your ability to be successful. Ask yourself, "are there areas in my life that I need to put my footdown?"Avoiding confronting something that may be uncomfortable only delays, or stops, your progress. 

    Fear of letting go of responsibility or busy work: Many people take on more responsibilitythan is truly theirs. Over committing, picking up for others’ slack, saying “yes” to too manythings, and not asking for help are all things that get in the way of progress and enjoying life.Sometimes this can manifest as overworking, meaning you take on too many projects and/orhave a tendency to stay busy with little things that fill your time—aka busy work. It is importantto assess what responsibilities and requirements you place on yourself and whether any of themcan, or should, be eliminated. What do you need to stop doing? Who can you encourage to takemore responsibility to remove it from you, when it shouldn’t be yours? When do you need to say“no”? What do you need to let go that isn’t serving you?

    People’s behaviors: We always have the choice to what degree we decide to have someone inour life. We know that at times it may not seem like we have a choice, or that doing it may haveconsequences, but there is always some way to create distance from people who demotivate youor distract you from your success. It’s important to recognize that it’s their journey and if theywant to have certain patterns and behaviors that hold them back it does not mean that you have to be a part of it. It might sound harsh, but if other people's attitudes and behaviors hold you backyou need to do whatever you can to create distance and protect yourself from the distraction. Ifthis is someone who must be permanently a part of your life, consider ways you can minimizecontact and, more importantly, strengthen your emotional resolve and create healthy boundarieswith this person. Ask yourself if there is anyone in your life that is totally optional at this pointthat is currently holding you back, and if so, let them go. At the very minimum, consider if thereare people in your life that are not supportive of your dream or goals. If so, do not discuss yourgoals with them. Don’t let others’ limiting thinking knock down your dreams. Use criticism ordoubt of others as motivation to prove them wrong!

     Behind every successful person is a pack of haters.

    22. Failure to Success 

    See Worksheet: Failure to Success 

     I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is anothe