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Girlfriends Making a Difference…
Accountability Mentoring
Discipleship
Girlfriends Making a Difference…
Accountability Mentoring
Discipleship
www.lifeway.com/women • LifeWay Christian ResourcesCopyright © 2008 Janet Peavyhouse. All rights reserved
• Accountability• Discipleship• Mentoring
“Let us see how we may spur on one another toward
love and good works.”Hebrews 10:24 (NIV)
Ask some questions?????
• How are the women in my church relating to one another?
• How are they connecting?
• Are they building deep long lasting relationships in the body of Christ?
• Is there something in place that we can build on?
Components needed in a good relationship
• Openness
• Helping each other
• Investing time in each other
• Acceptance “warts” and all
• Listen
• Building each other up
• Trust—keep confidences
• Gives and takes advise
• Forgives
• Respects
• Commitment
John 15:9-16 (NIV)
“As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you obey my commands, you will remain in my love. Just
as I have obeyed my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. My command is this:
Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has on one than this, that he
lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no
longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business…
…Instead, I have called you friends, for everything 27that I learned from Father I have made know to you…
you…go an bear fruit—fruit that will last.”
How will your life reflect your
relationship with Christ? What fruit will you bear?
John 15:9-16 (NIV)
Scripture instruction:• Hebrews 10:24
• Matthew 22:39
• Titus 2:3-5
• Ephesians 4:32
• Galatians 6:10
• Matthew 18:-1-16-17
• Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
Girlfriend’s Examination…..
• #1 Accountability
• #2 Mentoring
• #3 Discipleship
“Alike Yet Different”
#1 Accountability defined…
• “walking along side a friend as together you grow in Godliness”- Heart Friends
•Webster’s - Responsible to somebody or for something: equals, answerability, responsibility, and liability…
“Helping women to establish healthy, meaningful and
intimate friendships through small group accountability.”
- Heart Friends
Accountable to who????
• God First
• One Another
Attributes of an Accountable Person
• Transparency• Honesty• Humility• Trustworthy
- Heart Friends
How do I do this…• Close friend/acquaintance• Follow scripture• Live out acceptance• Small group (two and three)• Be flexible• Be confidential• Pray
What Accountability is not…
• Mentoring• Bible study• Fellowship time • Prayer meeting• Gossip session
Format to follow
• Confession• God’s Word• Questions• Prayer
Questions to ask?????
• Are you spending time alone with God?
• Are you in studying the Bible? • Are you praying? • Is your thought life pure? • Have you lied about any of the
previous questions?
#2 Mentoring• Mentor: Wise, loyal advisor, teacher or coach, godly role model, be an example…
• Mentoring: The process or act of advising or teaching—help someone reach a god given potential…
• Webster’s: experienced adviser and supporter: trainer: adviser, counselor, guide, tutor, teacher…
- Brenda Hunter
“Someone who comes alongside, put her arm around you and says
you can do it.”
Who should mentor?
• Reverent in the way they live
• Are not slanders• Not addicted• Teaches what is good
(Titus 2:3-5)
Mentoring options….
• Needs based• Soul Mate• Secret• Discipleship• Young people
Getting Started…
• Form a mentoring committee
• Pray• Determine time frame• Compile profile Sheets• Get started
#3 Discipleship
• Discipling: “one person imparting his life to another in a close relationship.”
• Webster’s: “follower of a person or idea: original follower of Jesus Christ. Follower, believer, supporter, devotee, student, pupil, learner.”
(One-on-One experience)
What are the basicforms of discipleship?
• Spontaneous Discipleship• Academic Discipleship• Progressive Discipleship• Supportive Discipleship
“Every believer begins as a spiritual infant and needs to be nurtured by more mature believers.”
- Waylon Moore
We call this…“One-on-One” Discipleship
Beginning disciples are characterized
sometimes by…
• Erratic lifestyle• Uncertainty about life choices• Lack of basic Christian disciplines
Spiritual babies need a person to person
ministry with a spirit-led disciple in a loving
environment, the local church…
- Acts 2:41-42, 46-47
Paul called himself _______ of those he won
to Christ!
What did Paul and Peter desire for all spiritual
babies?
• 2 Peter 3:18
• Ephesians 4:15
• 1 Corinthians 4:15
Teaching New Baby Christians
• Babies must learn how to eat…
The Word…1 Peter 2:2
Act 17:11Act 20:32
• Babies must learn how to talk…
Prayer… John 16:24
Matthew 21:22 1 John 5:14-15
Teaching New Baby Christians
• Babies must learn how to walk…
Obedience… John 14:22
John 15:10 Hebrews 5:8-9
Teaching New Baby Christians
• Babies must learn how to share…
Witnessing/Testimony…
John 1:3 Acts 1:13
1 Peter 3:15
Teaching New Baby Christians
•Each new spiritual baby needs to loved, fed, protected and trained by a spiritual
parent.
“It takes a disciple to build a disciple.” - Waylon Moore
Disciple Leaders• Loves God deeply
• Are growing their relationship with God
• Want to see other lives transformed
• Are gifted by God for the work they do
• Are patient, kind, and nonjudgmental
• Are committed to doing their best
• Enjoy working with people
• Have a positive attitude
• Are trainable and flexible
Each Different…
Each Meeting a Need…
Each of Value in Building Relationships…
Resources…• Heart Friends by Shirley Moses & Margaret Kennedy• Women Reaching Women by Chris
Adams• Living God’s Word by Waylon Moore• Woman to Woman Mentoring by Janet
Thompson• A Garden Path to Mentoring by Esther
Burroughs• Apples of Gold by Betty Huizenga
www.lifeway.com/women • LifeWay Christian ResourcesCopyright © 2008 Janet Peavyhouse. All rights reserved