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Gina Giardinieri – [email protected] Flaherty – [email protected] Harris – [email protected]

Focus of book: “He’s just not the right guy for you!”› Has had enough with “He’s just not that into you”

Classifies women and men into categories› Helps you identify what type of relationship you’ve had and what you’re looking for

Baking a cake is like building a relationship› All ingredients must go into the correct order

Most important ingredient = self confidence!

Different strategies for women to build themselves› If women advance in their education or their career, their relationship will flourish due to their increase in self-confidence

According to the US Census (2000), people acquiring high school diplomas and bachelor’s degrees has risen steadily from 1940-2000.› Increase in education levels = increase self-confidence = successful relationship

Data was collected through friends of Lo Bosworth

She used the relationships that she experienced and those of her friends.

In the article Leap of Faith, Valerie Burton( 2007), communicates that it is very important to believe in oneself in order to be self confident.

You have to face your fears and go for anything that you want

“In fact, the more we want something, the more paralyzed we become”

Example used in the article about a woman named Terri

Was married for fifteen years and lived in an abusive relationship

She could not find it in herself to leave her husband because that was not the “Christian” way

Got advice from many people About leaving her husband

One day her daughter told her, “ If you can’t be in a relationship that is spiritually, physically and emotionally healthy. You shouldn’t be in it”

It is to self test your confidence level now

Some of the statements are:› Fear does not stop me from asking for what I want

› I haven’t settled for less than what I really want in my life

› Check off what you are I love myself because…….. List what you love about yourself, this is a great way to build self confidence according to Lo.

Study on reflective writing and the work-force.

Daniel - started out with great socio-economic deficit and low self-esteem

Cultivated a positive self-concept through journaling and reflecting on his experiences in his training program (Langer 2009).

(Langer 2009)

Effective for both men and women DO NOT FEAR YOUR OWN THOUGHTS! GET WRITING!

Proves to be affective and to enhance your work performance and self-esteem by recognizing your strengths and weaknesses alike (Langer 2009).

Writing = higher self-esteem = better job performance = healthy relationships!

Is the book helpful?› Yes, in a basic way but no if you are seeking professional advice.

Is the author reputable?› Has a degree in Fashion Studies from UCLA but no background experience to give advice.

Are they really an expert?› Has been on reality television for a long time

http://thelodown.com/#

Golden Rule = Believe in yourself› Different ways to do so

Get a large sample of people – not biased› Not using own experiences

Supported the data› Empowerment and advancement of women

Contributions/ Problems http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C8Tg812H8UU

In her book, The Lo Down author Lo Bosworth says states that there’s three types of goals. Which of the following is not one of them?

a. Immediate Goals B. Long Term Goals C. Daily Goals D. Exploratory Goals

› Answer: C – Daily Goals

Which method(s) is a way to boost your self-esteem?

AA. examining your strengths BB. examining your weaknesses CC. thinking you are absolutely perfect!

DD. Both A and B

› Answer: D – Both A and B

[True] or [False]› Women are advancing in their schooling when it comes to receiving high school diplomas and college degrees since the 1940’s.

› Answer: True

Burton, V. (2007). TAKE A LEAP OF FAITH. Essence (Time Inc.), 37(10), 188-192. Retrieved from EBSCOhost.

Langer, A. M. (2009). Thoughtpiece: Measuring self-esteem through reflective writing: essential factors in workforce development for inner-city adults. Reflective Practice, 10(1), 45-48. doi:10.1080/14623940802652755

U.S. Census Bureau (2002). Population 25 years and over who have completed high school or college:1940-2000. http://www.census.gov/prod/cen2000/doc/sf3.pdf

U.S. Census Bureau (2002). Differences in educational attainment by sex and age: 2000. www.census.gov/prod/ cen2000/doc/sf3.pdf