‘Getting Through Shame’

“…a painful emotion caused

by consciousness of

guilt or shortcoming; … a

condition of humiliating disgrace.”

What Shame Sounds LikeWhat Shame Sounds LikeAnd Looks LikeAnd Looks Like

Your will never amount to anythingYour will never amount to anything

Your worthlessYour worthless

Your no good anyway, you might as well live that Your no good anyway, you might as well live that wayway

Your stupid; you never get anything rightYour stupid; you never get anything right

Shame keep a young mother Shame keep a young mother chained to her emotionally chained to her emotionally traumatic past, bruised and traumatic past, bruised and

battered sexually by her battered sexually by her drunken fatherdrunken father

Shame haunts a middle-aged Shame haunts a middle-aged woman expected by others to woman expected by others to

“move on” in her life. Following her “move on” in her life. Following her husband’s reckless affair and their husband’s reckless affair and their

bitter divorcebitter divorce

Shame assails a child lost in a Shame assails a child lost in a world of confusion, brought about world of confusion, brought about

by his/her inability to learn as by his/her inability to learn as quickly as others and compete with quickly as others and compete with

peerspeers

When a person has been beaten When a person has been beaten down with that kind of undeserved down with that kind of undeserved shame, they are going to have a shame, they are going to have a hard time dealing with real guilt hard time dealing with real guilt

over real sin in any kind of healthy over real sin in any kind of healthy and godly wayand godly way

As we will see in our study today, As we will see in our study today, Jesus isn’t in the business of Jesus isn’t in the business of

beating people down. He’s in the beating people down. He’s in the business of picking them up with business of picking them up with

his love and forgivenesshis love and forgiveness

Jesus' responds to the Pharisees Jesus' responds to the Pharisees

The one without sin among you The one without sin among you should be the first to throw a should be the first to throw a stone at herstone at her

John 8:7John 8:7

The Pharisee TestThe Pharisee Test

Are you barely aware of your impatience Are you barely aware of your impatience toward other peopletoward other peopleAre you frustrated by all the slow people Are you frustrated by all the slow people that keep running into youthat keep running into youAre you quick to give adviceAre you quick to give adviceWhat comes to mind when you hear the What comes to mind when you hear the following statement “ apart from me you following statement “ apart from me you can do nothing” can do nothing”

How Did Jesus Extend Mercy And Grace to How Did Jesus Extend Mercy And Grace to The WomanThe Woman

No condemnation from those with no right No condemnation from those with no right to condemn (vv.10-11a)….to condemn (vv.10-11a)….

No condemnation from the “One” with the No condemnation from the “One” with the very right to condemn ( v. 11b)…very right to condemn ( v. 11b)…

ApplicationApplication

Those who are not qualified to condemn Those who are not qualified to condemn will… will…

The “One” who is qualified to condemn The “One” who is qualified to condemn won’t…won’t…