from frustration to victory! blooming relationships: forgive & forget?
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From Frustration to VICTORY!
BloomingRELATIONSHIPS:
Forgive & Forget?
Forgive & Forget?
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
IntroductionIntroduction
• Why is it so hard to move forward after someone has hurt me, even after I have forgiven them?
• Why is it so hard to move forward after someone has hurt me, even after I have forgiven them?
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
IntroductionIntroduction
• Why is it so hard to trust someone again?
• Is it wrong for me not to trust someone who has hurt me?
• Why is it so hard to trust someone again?
• Is it wrong for me not to trust someone who has hurt me?
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
Choosing to ForgiveChoosing to Forgive
• Ephesians 4:32 (p. 1159)
• Forgive just as in Christ God forgave you
• Ephesians 4:32 (p. 1159)
• Forgive just as in Christ God forgave you
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
Forgiving Christ’s WayForgiving Christ’s Way
• A Choice
• A Release
• A Substitution
• A Choice
• A Release
• A Substitution
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
Forgiving Christ’s WayForgiving Christ’s Way
God
HolyJust
SinfulHuman
Just Punishment
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
Forgiving Christ’s WayForgiving Christ’s Way
God
HolyJust
SinfulHuman
Just PunishmentRomans 5:8
Romans 5:8
• A Choice
• A Release
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
Forgiving Christ’s WayForgiving Christ’s Way
God
HolyJust
SinfulHuman
Romans 5:8
Romans 5:8
• A Substitution
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
Forgiving Christ’s WayForgiving Christ’s Way
God
HolyJust
SinfulSinfulHumanHuman
Remove SinRemove Sin 1 Peter 2:24
Remove SinRemove Sin 1 Peter 2:24
SinSinShameShame
PainPain
SinSinShameShame
PainPainWhen I When I
Believe…Believe…
Just Punishment
• A Substitution
Forgiving Christ’s WayForgiving Christ’s Way
God
MercyGrace
HumanHuman
SinSinShameShame
PainPain
SinSinShameShame
PainPain
Forgiveness…Forgiveness…Forgiveness…Forgiveness…
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
Forgiving Christ’s WayForgiving Christ’s Way
• A Choice:• A Choice:
To forgive or not forgiveTo forgive or not forgive
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
Forgiving Christ’s WayForgiving Christ’s Way
• A Choice:
• A Release:
• A Choice:
• A Release:Release my right to see the offender punishedRelease my right to see the offender punished
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
Forgiving Christ’s WayForgiving Christ’s Way
• A Choice:• A Release:
• A Substitution:
• A Choice:• A Release:
• A Substitution:Be willing to bear the emotional damage/pain caused by the person’s offense.
Be willing to bear the emotional damage/pain caused by the person’s offense.
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
Forgiving Christ’s WayForgiving Christ’s Way
Me
“Just Punishment”
Offender
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
Forgiving Christ’s WayForgiving Christ’s Way
Just PunishmentEphesians
4:32
Ephesians
4:32
• A Choice
• A Release
Me OffenderSinfulHuman
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
Forgiving Christ’s WayForgiving Christ’s Way
Mercy & Grace
Offender
Release Right to PunishRelease Right to Punish
Release Right to PunishRelease Right to Punish
Forgiveness…Forgiveness…Forgiveness…Forgiveness…
PainPainShameShamePainPain
ShameShame
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
Forgiving Christ’s WayForgiving Christ’s Way
PainPainShameShamePainPain
ShameShame
• Praying through Forgiveness…
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
But Remembering Still Hurts
But Remembering Still Hurts
• What do I do with the pain & distrust?
• What do I do with the pain & distrust?
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
But Remembering Still Hurts
But Remembering Still Hurts
• Remember what Christ has done for you and the riches of His grace toward you.
• Pray through the issue/offense suffered
• Be willing to feel the pain
• Remember what Christ has done for you and the riches of His grace toward you.
• Pray through the issue/offense suffered
• Be willing to feel the pain
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
But Remembering Still Hurts
But Remembering Still Hurts
• Be willing to bear the pain, releasing the offender
• As the pain intensifies, seek God’s healing
• Be willing to bear the pain, releasing the offender
• As the pain intensifies, seek God’s healing
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
But Remembering Still Hurts
But Remembering Still Hurts
• Wait on the Holy Spirit to minister to your heart
• Record healing of H.S.: the verses, word pictures, songs which the Lord gives you
• Repeat for 30 days
• Wait on the Holy Spirit to minister to your heart
• Record healing of H.S.: the verses, word pictures, songs which the Lord gives you
• Repeat for 30 days
Forgive & Forget?BloomingRELATIONSHIPS
But Remembering Still Hurts
But Remembering Still Hurts
• Trusting Again? Walking in love AND wisdom– Romans 12:17-21
– Matthew 10:16
• Trusting Again? Walking in love AND wisdom– Romans 12:17-21
– Matthew 10:16
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ConclusionConclusion
• Choosing Jesus:– For Salvation
– For Forgiveness
– For Healing
• Choosing Jesus:– For Salvation
– For Forgiveness
– For Healing
