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From Boyz to Men: Saving Our African American Males from the Streets and from Themselves P.O. Wallace Green, LICDC (216) 664-3287 Cell:(440) 570-7608 [email protected] NADCP 21 st ANNUAL TRAINING CONFERENCE July 27-30, 2015 . Washington, DC

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From Boyz to Men:Saving Our African American Males from

the Streets and from Themselves

P.O. Wallace Green, LICDC

(216) 664-3287

Cell:(440) 570-7608

[email protected]

NADCP 21st ANNUAL TRAINING CONFERENCEJuly 27-30, 2015 . Washington, DC

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From Boyz to Men:

Saving African American Males

From the Streets and themselves

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• Male by birth

• Adult by age

• Man by choice– Becoming a

better man is on going*

– H.E.A.T.

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Habilitation

Empowerment

Accountability

Therapy

The Pinwheel Group LLC

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Shhhhhh! King baby is still sleepin’!

The client’s world is OK

• King Baby’s Bubble:

– Lookin’ good.

– Sumin’ ta drink.

– Sumin’ ta smoke.

– Sumin’ ta hustle.

– Sumin’ ta sex.

– Some money to flash.

– Some boyz to hang wit.

– Car to drive.

– Music to blast.

– My worldz all right

– Soldier?

Adopted from: King Baby, Tom Cunningham Hazelden books

In whoz army?

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The job of an African American

father

• It was never about the police

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Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI)

–Teens are temp. Psychopaths

This is a passing phase but the damage can last a life time

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Manhood in other cultures:

Xhosas, Africa - boys to men ritual

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The Bar/Bat Mitzvah

• “The purpose and major task of any life cycle

ceremony must be to legitimize those changes, to

standardize and formalize a new role for the

individual within the community.”

• “Up until now the individual has been seen as

“property” and responsibility of the parents

• Society will impose coming of age responsibilities

on the child like it or not and more specifically,

ready or not; and through such a ritual the child

becomes ready

• Culture gives them a head start (13 not 18)

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Some of the founding fathers

• Tom Silverman

• David May and

• Jon Schecter

• Rick Rubin

• Keith Naftlay

• Lyor Cohan

• Jimmy Iovine

• Jerry Heller

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African America founders:

failure & personal glorification • Sylvia Branch and Joe of

Sugar Hill

• Jay – Z,

• Damon Dash

• Kareem Biggs Burke

• P Diddy

• Shug Night

• Dr. Dre

• Master P.

• Slim and Brian Williams

• Chris Lightly

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The Source: 1st Nationally

Syndicated Hip Hop Magazine

• A girl stood up and complained, “We have two white guys who have started a magazine about a black culture, which makes them gate keepers for the whole culture which they did not create. They are essentially telling us who we are. I don’t feel that is right. How do you feel about that?

From the book, ‘The Big Payback’

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From boyz to men • You have to man up

– You can’t complain them away

– You can’t march them away

– You can’t beat them down

– You have to out preform, out

compete your challengers

• If something bothers you enough to complain

about it, but not enough to do anything about it,

than you will forever be a bystander in your own

life. Rewards and success go to those who do

something about that which they don’t like.

• The ones who Man Up!

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What are American culture

manhood rituals? • Sex

• Drink

• Drug

• License

• Ink

• Prison

• Child

• Why nothing more formal, or meaningful?

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Definition of Hip Hop Culture

• A form of popular culture that started in the African American inner-city areas (Bronx), characterized by rap music, graffiti art, and break dancing. MCing, DJing, spit boxing, fashion, slang and style are also important elements of hip hop. The term has since come to be a synonym for hip hop music and rap to mainstream audiences.

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Definition of Hip Hop Culture

• The 5 elements of Hip Hop

–MC-ing

–B-Boying

–Graffiti

–DJ-ing

–Knowledge

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Why Hip Hop is not a Culture

The Cultural Litmus Test

> The unique worldviews, customs,

norms, values and patterns of behavior

that are learned through socialization

to nurture, strengthen and insure the

positive progress and development of

it’s people.

> The people who benefit from this

culture are the “The Billion Dollar

beneficiaries.” Welcome to Hip-

hopracy

• Cultural Training Institute, prepared by Victoria Winbush. (1996).

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Definition of Hip Hop Culture

• The 5 elements of Hip Hop have been replaced –MC-ing–B-Boying –Graffiti–DJ-ing–Knowledge

• Commercial Rap

• Fashion

• Alcohol

• Slang

• Smoking weed

• Strip Clubs

• Making it Rain

• Jewelry

• Style

• Cool

• Hustlin’

_________

_________

_________

_________

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My average client that this culture

has produced • 5-6th grade reading level

– No diploma

• No father (Baby mama era)– Or relationship is:

• bad,

• hateful, or

• They are ‘boyz’

• Unemployed– No Marketable skills

• 1-2 Children

• 2-3 girlfriends / hostages

• Has 3-4 hideouts

• Low self esteem– Mask of Cool Pose ?

Client age 18-25

Born during the

Crack epidemic

1990-1997

You are not talking to

Tupac

You are talking to

Tupac’s kid who has

no clue

Like 40 years in the

desert – no one

remembers Egypt

85% loved one in

prison

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Book, ‘Cool Pose’

• The aloof swagger and… unflappability projected by

young black men from inner-city urban areas is a

"cool pose," a bit of posturing that insulates them

from an otherwise overwhelming social reality, a

new report holds.

• While the cool pose is often misread by teachers,

principals and police officers as an attitude of

defiance, psychologists who have studied it say it is

a way for black youths to maintain a sense of

integrity and suppress rage at being blocked from usual routes to esteem and success.

Richard Majors, author

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Book, ‘Cool Pose’

• The cool pose is…language, mannerisms, gestures and movements that "exaggerate or ritualize masculinity,"

• “The essence of cool is to appear in control, whether through a fearless style of walking, an aloof facial expression, the clothes you wear, a haircut, your gestures or the way you talk.

• The cool pose shows the dominant culture that you are strong and proud, despite your status in American society.“

• The ability to get other people to do what you want in spite what they see, feel and know

Richard Majors, author

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December 4th by Jay - Z

• But, I noticed a change in him when me and my

husband broke up

• Now all the teachers couldn't reach me

And my momma couldn't beat me

Hard enough to match the pain of my pops not

seeing me, SO

With that distain in my membrane

Got on my pimp game

Fuck the world my defense came

Then Dahaven introduced me to the game

Spanish Jose introduced me to cane

I'm a hustler now

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Changing Levels; Developing

Character

Subject Poverty/

Hip Hop

Mid. Class

Wealthy

Man-

hoodGood

Fighter,

Lover,

Cool

Hustler

Nerve

Good

provider

Role

model

Leader

Planner

Char.

Strength

Visionary

Hustler

Generational

provider

Polit. Leader

Nerve

Char.

Strength

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Kwanzaa

Transformative Power

1. Unity

2. Self Determination

3. Collective Work and responsibility

4. Cooperative economics

5. Purpose

6. Creativity

7. Faith

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Growing up: It’s you against you

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Man Up

• Circle the top

3

• Rate yourself

• They will see

this again

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Boyz Down

• Make sure they

have these 2

listed:

– ‘F’ it

– Focusing on the

‘next’ battle

• Alternate plan

• (This is just

slowing me

down)

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King Baby

Often become angry or afraid of authority figures and will attempt to get them to work against each other

Seek approval and lose their own identity in the process

Can make a good first impression but are unable to follow through

Have difficult accepting personal criticism and become threatening, angry or escape when criticized

Have addictive personalities and are driven to extremes

Are self rejecting or self alienating

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King Baby

Are often immobilized by anger and frustration and are rarely satisfied

Are usually lonely even when surrounded by people

Chronic complainers who blame others for what is gong in their lives

Fell unappreciated and think they don’t fit in

See the world as a jungle filled with people who “aren’t there” for them

See everything as a catastrophe, a life or death situation

Judge life in absolutes black or white right or wrong you are for me or against me

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King Baby Live in the past while fearful of the future

Have strong feelings of dependency and exaggerated fears of abandonment

Fear failure and rejection and don’t try new things that they might do well.

Are obsessed with money and material things

Dream big plans and schemes but have little ability to bring them about

Can not tolerate illness, imperfections in themselves or others

Think the key is finding answers not developing skills

Focus on trying to be understood rather than trying to understand

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King Baby Are not successful because people are

either born with the "right stuff" (characteristics and they feel that they were not. Or others are just lucky

Prefer to charm superiors, and intimidate subordinates

Belief rules and laws are for others or suckers

Often become addicted to excitement, life in the fast lane

Hold emotional pain in and lose touch with their feelings

“F” it

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The Superego

• Incorporates the values and morals of

society which are learned from one's

parents and others.

• The conscience and the ideal self. The

conscience causing feelings of guilt

• The ideal self (or ego-ideal) is an

imaginary picture of how you ought to be,

McLeod, S. A. (2008). Id, Ego and Superego. Retrieved

from http://www.simplypsychology.org/psyche.html

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The Ego

• The ego develops in order to mediate between

the unrealistic id and the external real world. It is

the decision making component of personality.

• Ideally the ego works by reason whereas the id

is chaotic and totally unreasonable. The ego

operates according to the reality principle,

working our realistic ways of satisfying the id’s

demands, often compromising or postponing

satisfaction to avoid negative consequences of

society. The ego considers social realities and

norms, etiquette and rules in deciding how to

behave.

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The Id

• The id is primitive and instinctive

– It demands immediate satisfaction

– The id is not affected by reality, logic or the

everyday world.

• It operates on the pleasure principle (Freud,

1920)

– which is the idea that every wishful impulse

should be satisfied immediately, regardless of

the consequences.

– The id engages in primary process thinking,

which is primitive illogical, irrational, and fantasy

oriented.

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Hip Hop cultural views attitudes

beliefs worksheet re:

• The music (The 7D’s)

– Lust

– Gluttony

– Greed,

– Sloth,

– Wrath,

– Envy,

– Pride

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What are the cultural values

according to the music ? • Family

– Raising children

• Women

• Education

• Hustling

• Spirituality

• Getting high

• Brotherhood

• Employment

• Career

• Gangs / Click

• Respect

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Hip Hop is really the advertising arm of

the prison industrial complex!

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The field has scaled

down and opened up

• Two Chains

• Future

• Rich Homie Quan

• Chedda De Connect

• Kevin Gates I dint get tired

• Kid Ink Ride out

• Lil Boosie

• Chief Keef

• Bobby Smerda

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New wave of rappers who no

longer have to fit the profile • Kanye West

• Drake

• Kendrick Lamar

• Lupe Fiasco

• MGK

• Earl Sweatshirt

• Jasiri X

• J. Cole

• Rae Sermmund

• Young Thug

• Camron Dallas

• Jeramih

• Jidenna

• Tanashe

• K camp

• Dej Loaf

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African American males are

repeatedly reported as being older

than they are

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Civil rights attorney

Constance Rice

The current commercialized version of the Hip Hop culture puts Police on edge, to the point that ‘blackness’ is scene as a weapon

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A man does not give power to his

obstacles

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• If your house were on fire would you be focused on

the ethnicity, color, or income bracket of the

fireman with the hose and ladder?

• “I think it’s smart to get out of the fire first and if you

want to have that conversation about the causes,

we can do it then, but there are systemic problems

in the system that you need to guard against and I

wouldn’t be doing my job if we didn’t have this

discussion.”

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Keepin’ it 100: don’t look for

racism

I refuse to lose

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Fighting the right war

• Right vs. Wrong (Respect)

– Been going on before you got here

– Will be going on after you leave

– Side step, or chose wisely

– War is bigger than you

• Success vs. Failure

– Battle is on the clock (18-25)

– Opportunity lost is difficulty compounded

– War is on you

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Two Homecomings

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Hip Hop Culture has a very

Positive side: • Hustling

• Self determination

• Commitment

• Courage

• Entrepreneurialship

• Tenacity

• True understanding and development of Power, Influence, Money and Position

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Man Up! Worksheet

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3 Core and a few more Characteristics of

Manhood

1. Commitment (Hustle)

2. Honesty

3. App. Behavior

4. Respect

5. Accountable

6. Courage

7. Trust

8. Education

9. Responsible

10. Independent

11. Goals

12. Prepared

13. Spirituality

14. Consistency

15. Discipline

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5 Levels of Commitment

1. I don’t want to be here

2. I want the benefits without putting forth the effort

3. I’ll Try

1. Acceptable failure

2. Commitment is to trying

3. 30-40% pay off

4. I will do the best I

can

4. Always improving

5. 80-90%

5. I will do whatever

it takes

4. 90-99.9%

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I can show you how to fight this

fight and win…

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HONESTY

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Only one type of person fails

• “Rarely have we seen a person fail who has

thoroughly followed our path. Those who do

not recover are people who cannot or will

not completely give themselves to this

simple program, usually men and women

who are constitutionally incapable of

being honest with themselves.”

– Honesty – The ability to tell on it, before it tells

on you.

– If you can’t be honest, be honest about it

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Man UP! and L.I./E.!

Intellect

Emotion• LEARN

ITS NOT WHAT YOU SAY… IT’S WHAT YOU

CONVEY!

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RESPECT

• Deference to a right, privilege, privileged

position, or someone or something

considered to have certain rights or

privileges; proper acceptance or

courtesy; acknowledgment.

• The condition of being esteemed or honored:

to be held in respect.

• Admire (someone or something) deeply, as

a result of their abilities, qualities, or

achievements.

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Who do you listen to (respect)

with regularity?• Police, Judges, C.O.’s, Parole Officers, PO’s,?

– What do they have in common?

• They can do something TO you (Slave mentality)

• Client listens to the people who can do the most harm to us,

• He need to listen to the people who can do the most for him

who ever that is

• Name the people that you respect (listen to with

regularity) that can do something for you?

• Do you have a unique relationship with your

employer?

• How does ‘power’ figure into this equation?

– “I have a problem with authority” I don’t like being told

what to do

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What is on the internet will be on

there until the end of the earth

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“Better chance of being killed by

someone who looks like him.”

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The Choom Gang

• In his memoir, [he] talked about routinely

getting high. “Junkie. Pothead,” he wrote.

“That’s where I’d been headed: the final,

fatal role of the young would-be black

man.” …he only got high because he was

contemplating deep matters: drugs could

“push questions of who I was out of my

mind.”

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The number of African Americans killed

during the 1st four yrs. of Obama’s

presidency

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Compare that to:

Afghanistan War U.S. casualties -3,427

Iraq War U.S. causalities -4,802

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Courage

• Most of us have it twisted

– It’s not acting like you don’t give

a damn, but acting like you do

• Courage is not reckless

• Without it, you will never go

past Level 3, ‘trying’

• What will prevent you from

looking in the mirror

– you are not all that or less than

that

• Is it difficult? Than it will take

courage

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Are you worthy

of your client’s Trust?

• Be accessible

• Display honors

• Make office inviting

• Call at odd hours

• Do home visits if you can

• Call sponsor and significant others

• Have something to eat for the client durring one on ones

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Inspiration, or desperation?

• You earn a living 3 ways:

1. What you know

2. What you can do

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Consider this your

personal

invitation:

Tuesdays at 4:00pm

6th Floor Justice

Center

Justice

• To help you understand the hip hop

culture that you are a part of and to help

you differentiate the real from the fake, so

that you can embrace the positive and

avoid the pitfalls of the negative

• Equip you with the tools to navigate your

way through the system so that you can

stop being pimped by it, if that is your

choosing

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“They told me to follow the Blacks”

Go with the poor

• Don’t make anything

• Don’t own anything

• Don’t know anything

• Don’t want to know

anything

• Dependant people make

the best customers

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Looks like he’s right!

Graduation Rates Ohio 2004-2005

0

5

10

15

20

25

30

35

White Students AfricanAmericanStudents

White Students

African AmericanStudents

31.6 %

10.2 %

31.6% of the African American students in the state of

Ohio did not graduate from high school in 2005

compared to only 10.2% of the white students in the

state who did not graduate from high school.

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Put these values first…

that’s all they did!

• Family

• Education

• Career

• Spirituality

• Security

• Freedom

• Health

• Property– What made AA

successful

• Don’t hate!

• You can’t blame

others for having the

values that you

should have!

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Steve Mariotti

• In 1982, Mariotti made a significant career change and became a special education/business teacher in the New York City school system, choosing to teach in such notoriously challenging neighborhoods as Brooklyn and the “Fort Apache” section of the South Bronx.

• It was at Jane Addams Vocational High School in the Bronx that he developed the insight and inspiration to bring entrepreneurial education to low-income youth. This led to founding the National Foundation for Teaching Entrepreneurship (NFTE) in 1987.

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Key Bank saw an opportunity

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The Purpose of Goals

• To give you a

destination

• To give you a purpose

• To achieve dreams

– (Not fantasies)

• To have something to

weigh other activities

against

– What will a record

do to my employability?

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Only two types of people are

successful in this world:

• Those that are

prepared,

• Those that are

lucky

• One you chose to

do

• The other chooses

you

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Why you need spirituality

• Goal: To become

employable, graduate drug

court, get off paper etc.

• Know certain things,

– When to waking up on time,

– Display app. behave,

– Study, ask questions. etc.

• Success is guaranteed

• However, All that being said,

one day you wake up and

What happens ?

• When the client

doesn't preform

the actions in

which success is

guaranteed , what

does he ask?

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CONSISTENC

Y

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What you do, you get use to

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Independent

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Cost for one year Per state (2010)

Question: Are you worth more behind

bars, that you are on the street? State Average Daily Inmate

Population

Taxpayer Cost of Prisons

($ in 000s)

Average Annual Cost

per Inmate

Alabama 26,758 $462,507 $17,285

Arizona 40,458 $1,003,553 $24,805

Arkansas 13,369 $326,081 $24,391

California 167,276 $7,932,388 $47,421

Colorado 19,958 $606,208 $30,374

Connecticut 18,492 $929,438 $50,262

Delaware 6,528 $215,210 $32,967

Florida 101,324 $2,082,531 $20,553

Georgia 53,704 $1,129,858 $21,039

Idaho 7,402 $144,669 $19,545

Illinois 45,551 $1,743,153 $38,268

Indiana 38,417 $569,451 $14,823

Iowa 8,384 $276,039 $32,925

Kansas 8,689 $158,198 $18,207

Kentucky 21,347 $311,727 $14,603

Louisiana 39,938 $698,363 $17,486

Maine 2,167 $100,558 $46,404

Maryland 21,786 $836,223 $38,383

Michigan 45,096 $1,267,954 $28,117

Minnesota 9,557 $395,319 $41,364

Missouri 30,447 $680,487 $22,350

Source: Vera Institute of

Justice, True Cost of Prisons

survey. Taxpayer costs

include expenses funded by

state and federal revenue.

Apparent discrepancies are

the result of rounding. See

the state fact sheets at

www.vera. org/priceofprisons

for more details.

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Source: Vera Institute of

Justice, True Cost of Prisons

survey. Taxpayer costs

include expenses funded by

state and federal revenue.

Apparent discrepancies are

the result of rounding. See

the state fact sheets at

www.vera. org/priceofprisons

for more details.

Montana 2,513 $75,959 $30,227

Nebraska 4,542 $163,284 $35,950

Nevada 13,696 $282,903 $20,656

New Hampshire 2,389 $81,417 $34,080

New Jersey 25,822 $1,416,727 $54,865

New York 59,237 $3,558,711 $60,076

North Carolina 40,203 $1,204,667 $29,965

North Dakota 1,479 $58,065 $39,271

Ohio 50,960 $1,315,477 $25,814

Oklahoma 24,549 $453,356 $18,467

Pennsylvania 48,543 $2,055,269 $42,339

Rhode Island 3,502 $172,063 $49,133

Texas 154,576 $3,306,358 $21,390

Utah 6,338 $186,013 $29,349

Vermont 2,248 $111,280 $49,502

Virginia 29,792 $748,642 $25,129

Washington 17,050 $799,590 $46,897

West Virginia 6,385 $169,190 $26,498

Wisconsin 23,015 $874,421 $37,994

Total (40 states) 1,243,487 $38,903,304 $31,286

Cost for one year Per state (2010)

Question: Are you worth more behind bars, that

you are on the street?

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‘The House I Live In’

looks at the drug war:• 40 years old

• Over 1,000,000,000,000.00 Spent

• Millions of low end offences / felonies

• Very few kingpins

• 40 years later-

– Drugs are as plentiful, more potent and as

easy to obtain as ever before

• We are victimizing black, poor,

uneducated and mentally ill people

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You are going against the

grain of the United States!!

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Declaration of Independence

• “We hold these truths to

be self evident that all

men are created equal

and they are endowed

certain unalienable

rights, that among

these are life liberty

and the pursuit of

happiness. That to

secure these Rights,

governments are

instituted among men.”

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• Life– The principle or force by which animals

and plants are maintained in the

performance of their functions

• Liberty

– Freedom from external restraint or

compulsion

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The Pursuit of Happiness

Happiness is the general term denoting

enjoyment of or pleasurable satisfaction…

such pleasures are not to be despised in a

world full of pain. But happiness…[is]… a

different sort of thing. [It] comes to be

through a fulfillment that reaches the depths

of our being – one that is an adjustment of

our whole being with the conditions of our

existence – John Dewey

Webster’s 3rd New International Unabridged Dictionary, 1964

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Not to be confused with:

• Pleasure – sensual gratification

Webster’s 3rd New International Unabridged Dictionary, 1964

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Problem is you aren’t about life,

liberty and the pursuit of

happiness. More like:• Death

• Slavery – In the pursuit of

• In the pursuit of Sensual gratification:– How something looks, feels, sounds – no

learning (Drugs / Commercial Rap lifestyle)

• If you experience sensual gratification before you experience learned happiness = confusion of the two

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Discipline: The ability to do what is in

your best interest when you don’t feel like

doing it

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Remember…,

• If you want to be here, that’s good.

• If you don’t want to be here that’s

• even better!

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Motivation Vs. Discipline

• Motivation • Discipline

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Presentation Goal #1

• 3 proven methods of getting the clients to use

their ‘street hustler’ mentality to work their

program of recovery

– P.I.M.P.- Know what it really stand for and gain it

through handling your business (the Business card)

– Just like on the street, recognize the people that can

do something for you as oppose to those who can do

something to you

• Client needs an income producing fan club

– Put some money on it

• Dare the client to prove you wrong

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Program Goal #2

• 3 effective ways to motive the clients to

avoid the negative pitfalls of the Hip Hop

culture

– Inspiration or desperation?

• Listening to the music vs. trying to life the lyrics

• Developing Goals

– Using the right uniform and skill set for the right

game

– There is an internal prison that proceeds an

external one

• Helping the client to identify his internal prison

through the Boyz Down worksheets

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Presentation Goal #3

• Learn 3 effective strategies for being

more effective when working with African

American males in groups or individually

– Guard against ‘cool pose’ by helping the client

take ownership of every aspect of his program

• Make sure your not working harder than he is

– Us the library assignment to learn vital

information about the client

– If a person was playing the client like drugs and the

system was; the client would still be on the street

looking for him

• Helping the client to see how he will continue to be

manipulated by both if he doesn’t man up

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Tool Box • Films/ Videos

– Slavery by Another Name – 1hr 43min You Tube

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nGz25cOgY0U

– The House I Live In - Documentary 1hr 48 min. by Eugene

Jerecki

– Billions Behind Bars – YouTube 43 min

– Prison State – Frontline production 1 hr. 23 min.

• http://video.pbs.org/video/2365235229/

– Young Jeezy Documentary, A Hustlerz Ambition 42 min Daily

Motion

• http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xp4jxm_young-jeezy-a-hustlerz-

ambition-documentary_music

– Jay – Z Words of Wisdom 5min. 42 sec.

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1f7tX5hHpcw

– Tavis Smiley Guest – Jay Z 2min. 53 sec.

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6YcSuHNCCVY

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Tools for the Tool Box

• H.E.A.T. (Habilitation, Empowerment,

Accountability, Therapy)– Darryl Turpin and Guy Wheeler – The Pinwheel Group

• Books, – Outliers: The Story of Success by Malcolm Gladwell (Jay

– Z)

– The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield (Jay- Z)

– The Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav (Jay –Z)

– Guaranteed Success by Master P.

– The New Jim Crow by Michelle Alexander

– King Baby (Pamphlet) by Tom Cunningham Hazelden

books