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Activity Details

Victorian Curriculum

Health & PE Recognise how media

and important people in

the community influence

personal attitudes, beliefs,

decisions and behaviours

VCHPEP111

Capabilities VCCCTQ022, VCPSCSO031

Time 30 minutes

Levels 5 & 6

Equipment • Forgive or forget cards

• floor space

Forgive or forgetPurposeTo discuss and determine what types of behaviour a person is willing to

forgive in a friendship and when the boundaries have been pushed so

much that you need to forget that friendship.

Teaching notesThe term ‘forget the friendship’ is being used to highlight that sometimes

friendships or relationships have to be broken if they are not healthy.

Remind students not to share personal stories, and that the aim is to share

values and ideas.

Procedure1. Introduce the concept of the activity as being a way of discussing

certain behaviours that could arise within friendships.

2. Clear a space on the floor and have students form a circle. Arrange

students into pairs.

3. Place labels ‘challenge the person’, ‘forget the friendship’, ‘forgive’ and

‘not sure’ on the floor in the middle of the space and ensure students

understand the meaning of each category.

4. Inform students that they will be given a card that they will need to

place in one of the four categories.

5. Give each pair of students a ‘Forgive or forget’ card.

6. Ask students to place their card under either ‘challenge the person’,

‘forget the friendship’, ‘forgive’ or ‘not sure’. This can either be done:

• as a large group, one situation card at a time, with discussion as

you go, or with a discussion after they are all placed down.

• in small groups who then return to discuss the activity as a whole

class (extra cards would need to be printed out if using this

method).

7. Ask volunteers to read the situation and discuss why they chose to put

the card under a particular category.

Discussion• Is there a difference in individual perceptions of what is forgivable?

• What could a person do if they don’t want to accept certain behaviour

from a friend/partner?

• Would it be difficult to challenge a friend about their behaviour? What

strategies might be helpful in doing this?

• Why are some behaviours considered unacceptable?

• How could someone move on from an unhealthy friendship?

• What other things occur around puberty that are either acceptable or

unacceptable?

• Where/who can we go to for help or information about relationships

and puberty?

Activity: 5-6.13.3Key Message

• Within friendships and

relationships there are a

number of decisions we

make ourselves or others

make.

• These decisions have

certain consequences and

outcomes.

© Family Planning Victoria 2016


ChAllenge The Person

ForgeT The FrienDshiP

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Forgive

noT sure

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Your best friend flirts with a person they know you have

a crush on

You really like a girl/boy in your class and your best friend keeps teasing you about it

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Your boyfriend/girlfriend keeps sending text messages to

another boy/girl in your group

Your friend wants you to lie to your parents about where you're going. They get angry when you say you won’t lie

to them

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You make plans with your friend to stay over at their

place on saturday night. Your friend rings you on saturday afternoon to say you can’t

come over because they’ve been invited to someone

else’s house.

Your friend has their first girlfriend/boyfriend and stops

spending time with you. When the relationship ends,

they start ringing you up, wanting to see you again.

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Your best friend tells everyone that you're the first girl in class

to get your period

Your friends don’t invite you to a sleep over

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Your sister/brother tells your parents that they saw you at the shopping centre with your friends when you told them

you were at the library

A group of kids, including some of your friends, are whispering together and you think it’s about you.

You confront your friends, but they say they weren't gossiping, only listening.

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You walk home with your little brother/sister.

A new friend joins you, but they want you to

ditch your brother/sister so you can talk about

grown up stuff.

A couple of your friends hang out together on

the weekend. You don’t get invited and only find out when you overhear

someone talking about it.

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Your best friend writes you last on a list of their friends. When you ask them about it, they say it doesn’t mean

anything.

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