Author, Eustace, believed that she had suffered the worst divorce› Her Husband, Dean, leaving her and her two children to

marry his current wife, Tori Spelling› “Up until now, you probably thought things couldn’t get

any worse. But if you’re one of the lucky few who get to meet “the other woman” while you’re still married or in the process of divorcing, you’ve now become a member of the worldwide club, a franchise if you will, called “Dumped While Married.” (Eustace, 2009).

Through humorous excerpts she describes the ups and downs of going through a divorce. Her first hand expertise allow her to share exclusive inner thoughts of the unexpected “I want a divorce” trip.

Learn how to deal with the lose of your marriage, coping with meeting the “other woman” and explain to your children that dad is not coming home

Ultimate goal is let readers know that divorce is almost inevitable and that there other people out there going through the same thing!› Like the saying goes- “Its nice to know you’re not alone.”

The main thesis of Divorce Sucks, is to demonstrate that the hardships one may face during a messy divorce is not the end of the world, and you are not alone out there. There are others who are struggling with the similar issues and to share what you are going through with fellow divorcees can be the key to getting through the pain and heartache. With the added humor to lighten the heavy downfall of a divorce.

People in need will say:› “Divorce Sucks” is very helpful, especially if you are currently going through a divorce.

› Can give a sense of “lightening your load”, lift your spirits and show that you are not alone

Self help books?› Although after reading these self-improvement books, you might ask yourself, what grounds do these writers have to stand on, and is the knowledge common or relevant.

› Taking the advice from someone who might not be qualified to give it, may end up hurting you instead.

Mary Jo Eustace, is simply a woman who has gone through a traumatic experience and has decided to share her life with the rest of the world by writing a book on divorce and the mess that follows.

She is not:› A licensed professional- which means that her

factual evidence is not credible› Her advice is unsubstantial › Trained in self improvement, psychological matters

or counseling-other then herself as a patient. She is:

› An author, actress, singer, chef and mother to two children- Jack and Lola

› Was married for 13 years› Originally from Toronto

(Eustace, 2009).

NO WAY Sure we can always learn from others mistakes,

isn’t that history, but ones personal thoughts, feelings, and emotions may be very different from another’s.

One could argue the experience is the same, it doesn’t qualify anyone to advise someone in acting the same as they did.

The only thing someone could do is discuss their experience in the hopes to touch someone and have them see that they are not the only ones going through these hard times, and they can get through it in their own individual way.

50% of first marriages, 67% of second marriages and 74% of third marriages end in divorce (Baker, 2007).

The U.S. divorce rate is 17.7 per 1,000 married women, down from 22.6 in 1980 (Jayson, 2005).

Massachusetts has the lowest divorce rate, 1.8 divorces per 1, 000 couples (Simon, 2010).

Women with college degrees have a lower probability of separation or divorce (Cherlin, 2010).

Reasons for divorce:› Poor communication› Financial problems › A lack of commitment to the marriage

› A dramatic change in priorities

› Infidelity › (DiCaro, 2005).

Either a friend’s or random persons experience to give as insight in each chapters topic

Step by step lists of how to cope with each issue of divorce

Her own personal experiences Dr. Phil Several different television shows and

movies: CSI Miami, Facts of life, War of the Roses, Leave it to Beaver, The Amazing Race, and several others

Used very little real data: only divorce rates

(Journal of Marriage and Family, 1987)

Year

Divorces & annulments

Population

Rate per 1,000 total population

20091 840,000242,497,000

3.5

20081 844,000240,663,000

3.5

20071 856,000238,759,000

3.6

20061 872,000236,172,000

3.7

20051 847,000234,114,000

3.6

20042 879,000237,042,000

3.7

20033 927,000245,200,000

3.8

20024 955,000243,600,000

3.9

20015 940,000236,650,000

4.0

20005 944,000233,550,000

4.0

(Center for Disease Control,2009)

ABSOLUTELY NOT None of the sources of the data are reliable or reputable

› All based on opinion, fiction and non- resourceful media

› Extremely poor quality Eustace collected all of the data

› From both public knowledge sources and are from both a regional and national sample Her “examples” in each chapter came from the regional sample of California and then the media references are based on national samples

Eustace only reputable data is the one divorce rate statistic that she used in the preface of the book

“with more than 50% of marriages ending in divorce”. . (Eustace, 2009).

Future ideas?› Use factual data› Use real studies to help readers truly cope with divorce

Better way to collect data› Use a national sample› Interview divorced couples

Overall contributions?› Gave people going through a divorce comical relief› Possibly gave insight to that their divorce or situation is not as bad as other people that are out going through a divorce

Biggest problems?› Fictional data

Based on opinions of others, personal experiences and media

Eustace’s reliability for advising someone on how to cope with a divorce is irrelevant.

Used data sources such as the media, personal experience, and a step by step instruction.

Evidence/data is unsupported by viable sources. › If she had sought out help

from a professional/licensed counselor or psychologist, or used a more scholarly source for her bases of facts, than her self-help book on divorce may be more helpful rather than harmful.

According to Mental Health America, it states that when going through a divorce, one could do a number of things to cope, however it varies person to person.

With notable data and advice a source like this, would be more advisable to someone experiencing a divorce rather than reading an unreliable self-help book.

If Eustace were to collect data from a source such as this, than her motive of helping those who are struggling like she once did, would enable her to be more dependable. (Mental Health America, 2011)

Baker, J,. (2007). Marriage & divorce in america. http://www.terryreal.com/press/pdfs/marriage_divorce_in_america-FS.pdf

Center for Disease Control and Prevention, Initials. (2009, November 17). Provisional number of divorces and annulments and rate: united states, 2000-2009. Retrieved from http://www.cdc.gov /nchs/nvss /marriage_divorce_tables.htm

Cherlin, A. (2010). The marriage-go-round: the state of marriage and the family in america today. New York: Vintage Books.

DiCaro, V. (2005). Nfi releases report on national marriage survey. Fatherhood Today, 10(3), http://www.divorcereform.org/cau.html

Eustace, M. (2009). Divorce sucks: what to do when irreconcilable differences, lawyer fees, and your ex's hollywood wife make you miserable. Avon, MA: Adams Media.

Jayson, S. (2005, July 18). Divorce declining, but so is marriage. USATODAY, http://www.usatoday.com/news/nation/2005-07-18-cohabit-divorce_x.htm

Mental Health America, Initials. (2011). Coping with separation and divorce. http://www.nmha.org/go/information/get-info/coping-with-separation-and-divorce

Norton, A., & Moorman, J. (1987). Current trends in marriage and divorce among american women. Journal of Marriage and Family, 49(1),http://fa9cv9qa2b .search.serialss olutio ns.com/?genre=article&issn=00222445&title=Journal+of+Marriage+%26+Family&volume=49&issue=1&date=19870201&atitle=Current+Trends+in+Marriage+and+Divorce+among+American+Women.&spage=3&pages=314&sid=EBSCO:Academic+Search+Complete&aulast=Norton%2c+Arthur+J.

Simon, J. (2010, January 7). U.s divorce statistics. http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/2009statsUS.shtml

1. Eustace collects her data through. . .

A. Personal experienceB. MediaC. Step by step list of how to copeD. All of the above

2. Eustace is qualified by the following credentials. .

A. A licensed professional- which means that her factual evidence is not credible

B. Her advice is unsubstantial C. Trained in self improvement, psychological

matters or counseling-other then herself as a patient.

D. None of the above

3. The state with the lowest divorce rate is. .

A. MaineB. New JerseyC. MassachusettsD. California