Family Life Series

-Part 8-Love and Respect

1 Corinthians 13 | 1 Peter 3 | Ephesians 4

Family Life Series

Three Keys to Life…• My Goal in Life is To Please God– 2 Corinthians 5:9

• I Please God by being like Jesus– Matthew 3:17

• God Knows I’m not perfect but He expects me to be growing– Philippians 1:6

Family Life SeriesLove and Respect

Introduction—The Crazy Cycle• A recent book I read entitled, “Love and Respect” unpacked the

Biblical mandate that husbands are to love their wives and wives are to respect their husbands. His premise is that marriage functions best when husbands and wives follow God’s mandate (big surprise). He then introduces this concept of the “crazy cycle” which begins when husbands stop loving their wives and in response wives withhold respect from their husbands (or vice versa) and the “crazy cycle” begins! Today I would like to give some biblical, practical counsel to husbands and wives that will improve your marriage, bring God greater glory and keep you out of the crazy cycle!

Family Life SeriesLove and Respect

Love is a VERB (1 Corinthians 13)

God demonstrates his own love towards us in that while we were still sinners Christ died for us! (Romans 5:8) • Love IS patience (long fused) NOT anger • Love IS joy NOT jealousy, envy and selfishness • Love IS humility NOT arrogance • Love IS dignity NOT rudeness • Love IS truth and grace NOT guilt and condemnation

Family Life SeriesLove and Respect

Love is LEARNED (1 Peter 3:8)

Jesus increased in wisdom and stature and in favor with God and men. (Luke 2:52) • Words of Affirmation • Quality Time • Receiving and Giving Gifts • Acts of Service • Physical Touch *5 Love Languages by Gary Smalley

Family Life SeriesLove and Respect

Respect is a CHOICE (1 Peter 3:1-7)• Then He (Jesus) went down with them and came to Nazareth, and

was subject to them… (Luke 2:51) • 3 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in

lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. 4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. 5 Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, 6 who, being in the form of God, did not consider it robbery to be equal with God, 7 but made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men. 8 And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross. (Philippians 2:3-8)

Family Life Series

The Disciple-Making Father

Conclusion: James Dobson, Marriage Under Fire• She observed that I needed her to respect me, to believe in

me, and to listen to my hopes and dreams…She would often tell me, “I am proud of you, and I am glad to be part of your team. It is going to be exciting to see what God will do with us in the days ahead.” The way she looked up to me gave me confidence-I was a student who had never really accomplished anything up to that point-and empowered me to take risks professionally and to reach for the sky. She was meeting a critical need for me. I was then motivated to give Shirley what she needed from me