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  • 1.How questions influence the quality of our life and service

2. SB 1.2.5 Verse / O sages, I have been justly questioned by you.Your questions are worthy because they relate to LordKrsna and so are of relevance to the worlds welfare.Only questions of this sort are capable of completelysatisfying the self. Purport / Satisfaction of the soul can only be obtainedby questions and answers on the subject of Krsna. 3. athato brahma jijnasa One should inquire into the Supreme Now one should inquire about Brahman He inquires about the real value of life, which is calledbrahma jijnasa In the human form of life one should put manyquestions to himself and to his intelligence In the human form of life the living entity mustinquire about his spiritual identity 4. athato brahma jijnasa human life is meant for understanding the ultimatecause one should inquire about the Supreme Soul must inquire about his constitutional position one must try to inquire about lifes goal Now let us begin to inquire about the SupremeAbsolute Truth 5. ARJUNAS QUESTIONS BG 1.32-35: O Govinda, of what avail to us are a kingdom, happiness or even life itself when all those for whom we may desire them are now arrayed on this battlefield? O Madhusudana, when teachers, fathers, sons, grandfathers, maternal uncles, fathers-in-law, grandsons, brothers-in-law and other relatives are ready to give up their lives and properties and are standing before me, why should I wish to kill them, even though they might otherwise kill me? 6. Inquire Just try to learn the truth by approaching a spiritualmaster. Inquire from him submissively and renderservice unto him. The self-realized souls can impartknowledge unto you because they have seen the truth. BG 4.34 7. SRIMAD BHAGAVATAMQUESTIONS BY THE SAGES1. What is the ultimate good for people in general?2. What is the essence of all scriptures?3. What is the reason for Krsnas appearance in this world?4. In what way is Lord taking part in creating, maintaining and annihilating creations?5. Please describe different activities of different incarnations of the Lord!6. Where has dharma took shelter after Krsnas disappearance from this world? 8. THE PURPOSE OF ASKINGQUESTIONS1. Understand the devotee well2. Help them understand themselves3. Clarify what they want4. Discover new options, opportunities, possibilities and advantages5. Identify and remove obstacles6. Make an action plan7. Take action 9. WHY QUESTIONS? Great results start with great questions Questions > Thinking > Action > Results Quality of questions influences quality of life 10. WHAT QUESTIONS TO ASK? What questions we want to ask? What questions should we ask? What questions are we avoiding? What questions will benefit this person the most? 11. TYPES Open-ended and closed-ended Questions for yourself Questions for others Solution-focused Problem-focused Appreciative inquiry 12. POWER OF A RIGHT QUESTION The question that saved concentration campprisoners life. 13. EINSTEIN If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on the solution, I would spend the first 55 minutes determining the proper question to ask, for once I know the proper question, I could solve the problem in less than five minutes. 14. INTELLIGENT QUESTIONS Who am I? Why am I suffering? Why do I have to die? What happens after death? How can I become happy? Why are some people more successful than others? What do I want to be, do and have? 15. DEVOTEE QUESTIONS How can I please Krsna? How can I please Srila Prabhupada? How can I please my spiritual master? How can I please the devotees? How can I serve them? When will that day come ... ? (kabe habe bolo) 16. BENEFITS Clarity Focus Intelligence Expanding possibilities Wisdom Connection with the Supersoul 17. EXCELLENT QUESTIONS What one thing, if you would do superbly welleveryday, would make the greatest positive differencein your life? (question about personal habits / bestpractices) What can you learn from this? How can you turn this problem into an opportunity? What and who inspires you the most? Are you ready to pay the price? 18. EXCELLENT QUESTIONS What are your strengths, talents, skills, goodqualities? What do you want? What one great thing would you dare to dream ifyou knew you could not fail? (question about anexciting goal) What I am grateful for? 19. EXCELLENT QUESTIONS Whats great about this problem? What can I learn from this? How can I improve in every area of my life? What can I give today? How can I serve today? What one thing, if you would do superbly wellevery single day, would have a greatest positiveimpact on your life (or on any particular area)? 20. EXCELLENT QUESTIONS What do you want to have in your life - excusesor results? What can I do better today than I have doneyesterday? If not you - who? If not now - when? Do you spend time or invest time? What has to happen for you to feel ...successful, happy, loved, fulfilled, love? What are your rules or conditions forhappiness? 21. COUNTERPRODUCTIVE QUESTIONS Why are you so bad? Why you dont understand whats good for you? When are you going to change / shape up / growup? How could you do such a thing? 22. EXERCISEPair up and help each other discover 3 questionsthat will change the quality of life 23. Question Thinking is a system of tools for transforming thinking, action, and results through skillful question askingquestions we ask ourselves as well as those we ask others. 24. Great results begin with great questions A question not asked is a door not opened Self-questions and interpersonal questions Problem-oriented or solution-oriented Judger or Learner 25. EXERCISES1. What questions are you aksing yourself daily? What questions produce what results?2. Change thought-statement into question and see the effect 26. Judger Questions Whats wrong? Whos to blame? How can I prove Im right? How can I protect my turf? How can I be in control? How could I lose? How could I get hurt? Why is that person so clueless? Why bother? 27. Learner Questions What works? What am I responsible for? What are the facts? Whats the big picture? What are my choices? Whats useful about this? What can I learn? What is the other person feeling, needing, wanting? Whats possible? 28. Learner/Judger ChartJudger Mindsets Learner MindsetsJudgmental (of self and/or others Accepting (of self and others)Reactive and automaticResponsive and thoughtfulKnow-it-already Values not-knowingInflexible and rigidFlexible and adaptivEither/or thinkingBoth/and thinkingSelf-righteousInquisitiveAfraid of differenceValues differencePersonal perspective only Considers perspectives of othersDefends assumptions Questions assumptionsPossibilities seen as limited Possibilities seen as unlimitedPrimary mood: protectivePrimary mood: curiousWe all have both mindsets, and we have the power to choose where we operate from in any momen 29. Learner/Judger ChartRelationshipsJudgerLearnerWin-lose relationshipsWin-win relationshipsFeels separate from othersFeels connected with othersFears differences Values differencesDebates DialoguesCriticizesCritiquesListens for: right/wrong, Listens for: facts, understanding,agree/disagree, differncescommonalitiesFeedback perceived as rejection Feedback perceived as worthwhileSeeks to attack or defend Seeks to resolve and create We all relate from both mindsets, and we have the power to choosehow we relate in any moment 30. A-B-C-C Choice Process A Aware: Am I in a judger ? B Breathe: Do I need to step back, pause, and look atthis situation more objectively? C Curiosity: Do I have all the facts? Whatshappening here? C Choose: Whats my choice? 31. Judger Questions Whos to blame? How can I be in control? Whats wrong with me? Why are they so clueless Why am I such a failure and frustrating? How could I lose? How did I get stuck with How can I prove Imthe worst team? right? Why bother? 32. Switching Questions Am I in Judger? Where would I rather be? How can I get there? What are the facts? How else can I think about this? What assumptions am I making? Is this what I want to feel? 33. Switching Questions Is this what I want to be doing? What am I missing or avoiding? How can I be more objective and honest? What is the other person thinking, feeling, needing,and wanting? What humor can I nd in this situation? Whats my choice right now? 34. Learner Questions What happened? Whats useful about this? What do I want? What can I learn? What is the other person thinking, feeling, needing, and wanting? How can this be a win-win? Whats possible? What are my choices? Whats best to do now? 35. TIPS Accept Judger, practice Learner Curiosity: Fast track to Learner 36. The Top 12 Questions for Change 1.What do I want? 8.What can I learn2.What are my choices? . . . from this person or3.What assumptions amsituation?I making?. . . from this mistake or4.What am I responsiblefailure?for? . . . from this success?5.How else can I think 9.What questions shouldabout this?I ask (myself and/or6.What is the otherothers?)person thinking, feeling,10.What action stepsneeding, and wanting?make the most sense? 7.What am I missing or 11.How can I turn thisavoiding?into a win-win? 12.What is possible? 37. The 10 Tools of Question Thinking Tool 1. Empower Your Observer Tool 2. Use the Choice Map as a Guide Tool 3. Put the Power of Questions to Work Tool 4. Distinguish Learner and Judger Mindsetsand Questions Tool 5. Make Friends with Judger Tool 6. Question Assumptions Tool 7. Take Advantage of Switching Questions Tool 8. Create Learner Teams Tool 9. Create Breakthroughs with Q-Storming Tool 10. Ask the Top Twelve Questions for Success 38. What will you choose? Judger Learner Create your own favorite questions? 39. Krsna Questions What is the most Krsna conscious thing to do in thissituation? How can I see this through the eyes of sastra? What would please Krsna here? What would Prabhupada do in this situation? What would I do now if Prabhupada was watching? What is the spiritual te