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This journey is dedicated to the thirty-four mini-women on the
Tween You and Meblog who shared their stories and questions and
hopes so that your own journey can be real.
ZONDERKIDZ
Everybody Tells Me to Be Myself but I Dont Know Who I Am!
Copyright 2007, 2013 by Nancy Rue
This title is also available as a Zondervan ebook.
Visit www.zondervan.com/ebooks
Illustrations copyright 2007, 2013 by Sarah Molegraaf
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Zonderkidz, 5300 Patterson Ave. SE, Grand Rapids, Michigan 49530
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Rue, Nancy N.
Everybody tells me to be myself but I dont know who I am! / by Nancy Rue.
p. cm.
ISBN 978-0-310-73323-2
1. GirlsReligious lifeJuvenile literature. 2. Self-esteem in childrenReligious aspects
ChristianityJuvenile literature. I. Title.
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Interior Design: Sarah Molegraaf
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How to Read This BookThis book is jam-packed full with lots of info to help you.
Heres what you can expect:
HERES THE DEAL
Tons of information about why friendship stuff happens
and what you can do about it. This always comes fromquestions mini-women have asked me.
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Quizzes to help you figure out where you are on things
like BFFs and bullying and cliques. These are the kind of
tests you dont have to study for! And no grades!
!"# !"%&What God says about friendships and the way we need
to treat other people. Youll be surprised what the Bible
says about YOUR life.
YOU CAN DO IT
An artsy-craftsy way for you to try out what youve read
about. And not just you, but you AND your friends. (That
only makes sense, right?)
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A place for you to fill in some blanks about your own friend-
ship stuffor draw or doodleor even journal if you really
like to write and write and write
Mini-Women Say
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Fun facts to make you feel smarter. (Theyre good
things to talk about when you want to steer the con-
versation away from gossip!)
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Things you can do super fast to help you see how all this
friend-information fits YOU.
Lets get started!
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You Want to Come Along?
I have an invitation for you.
If you are a mini-womanthat is, youre a girl between
the ages of eight and twelveyoure invited on a journey.
Its not a trip, because once you set out you wont be com-
ing back. It isnt a vacation either. Even though parts of
it are going to be a blast for you, some of it will demand
hard work. And it definitely isnt a tour. Youll have guides
on this journey, but youll do more than see the sights
and go, How cool is that? Now when do we eat?
I promise you, though, that this journey will be worth
your while, because where were going is a place you
really cant afford to miss out on. Were going
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To your true self.
Seriously. This is a journey designed for you to dis-cover the genuine, authentic, unique person you were
made to be when God created you. Its a long one. As a
matter of fact, nobody totallygets there because some
of the things about who you are will change as you get
older. You could actually say that this is a journey of
learning how to make the journey.
So, why would you want to embark (thats a cool travel
word for start out) on such a tough, never-ending road?
Ill let your fellow mini-women answer that for you:
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!"#$ &)(Draw a tiny frowny face next to any of those statements (or
something close to them) that YOUve thought yourself.
If youve had those thoughts or others like them, that
doesnt mean youre a loser. It means youre breathing.
Youre a tween girl, and this is the time in your life whenyoure finding out that
You really arent the same as everyone else.
Not everyone automatically likes who you are.
It can be a bummer because its happening at exactly
the same time that youre discovering how much you
wantpeople to like who you are, especially BFFs (BestFriends Forever), CFFs (Close Friends Forever), and
maybe even, uh, boys. The problem is, theyre trying to
figure out the same things you are. Its a wonder any-
body ever gets there!
But you can. This book is like a travel guide to get you
started on the journey toward your true God-made self.
Its set up to help you figure out who you really-deep-down-inside are
be that person no matter who youre with.
You may be thinking, its easy for meto say you can do
those two things. Im a grown-up, after all. But Im still
on that journey, and although its a lot easier than it used
to be, there are still some bumpy roads and switchbacks
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along the way. And besides, Ive had a lot of help with
this book from mini-women who, like you, are startingout right now and are making progress. Youll see their
absolutely true stories here, and youll know you are SO
not alone.
If you think youd like to come along, lets do a little
pre-journey preparation.
!"#$ &'(When was the last time someone told YOU to just be
yourself? How far up did you roll your eyes?
!"#$ &'(Look at the list on the next page. Draw a tiny smiley face
next to each of those things YOU always, always do.
Circle the thing on that list that YOU most want to be able
to do.
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"HERES THE DEAL ABOUT BEING YOURSELF
How many times have you heard grown-ups say, Just
be yourself? Like thats supposed to prepare you for a
situation where you dont know anybody, or you dont
know what youre supposed to do, or you have that feel-
ing that you are notgoing to fit in at all.
In the first place, what do they mean by be yourself?
Theyre probably talking about a thing called authentic-
ity. When youre authentic
Youre always honest.
You dont pretend to be rich, or way smart about
something, or totally into horses (or whatever every-
body else is into) when youre not.
You dont copy the way other kids dress or talk or
laugh if it doesnt feel natural to you.
You go after the things youre interested in even if
nobody else does.
You make up your own mind by what you know is
good and true.
Easy, right? You just do all that stuff and youre
authentic.
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Uh-huh, except for these questions your fellow mini-
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"YOU CAN DO IT
At the end of each leg of your journey (legis another
cool travel word for part) in this book, youll have a
chance to do an activity that will help you get to know
and be yourself even more. On this leg, discover what
you alreadyknow about yourself deep inside by making
a collage. Thats a collection of magazine images (or pho-
tographs, if thats okay with your mom) that you pastetogether on poster board or paper to create one big pic-
ture. Well take it step by step.
What youll need:
a pile of magazines youre allowed to cut pictures
from (Be SURE to ask permission before you start.)
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scissors (or you can tear pictures out.)
paste or glue (Tape doesnt work so well.)
a piece of cardboard, poster board, or paper at least
11 inches by 14 inches
a timer (or just a clock or watch you can see easily)
a quiet place where you can think and spread
things out and not be interrupted (by pesky broth-
ers, nosy sisters, mischievous pets )
How to make it happen:
Set your timer for twenty minutes (or look at the
clock or watch and jot down what time you start).
During that twenty minutes, go through the maga-
zines. Each time you come to a picture or some
words you really like, cut or tear them out. You
dont have to have a reason to choose a picture or
words other than I just like it!
When twenty minutes have passed, put the maga-
zines aside and spread all the cut-out pictures and
words on your paper. Rearrange them, sides touch-
ing, until they create a picture that makes you go,
Thats me! You dont have to be able to explain
why you placed the images that wayit just has to
make you happy.
Glue or paste the images to the paper the way
youve arranged them.
Sit back from your completed collage and gaze at it.
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Rather than looking at each picture and word indi-
vidually, look at the whole collage as if it were onebig picture.
Try to come up with one sentence that describes
the picture. This is a picture of a person who
______________________________.For example:
! This is a picture of a person who is upbeat and
cheerful and loves life.
! This is a picture of a person who likes to be quiet
and peaceful.
! This is a picture of a person who has a lot of dif-
ferent sides to her personality, from totally wacky
to way smart.
If you need help discovering your sentence, think
about
! The colors.Are they bright and wild? Soft and pas-
tel? Black and white? What do the colors tell you
about your personality that you know is totally
the truth?
! The way youve placed things on the page. Is it
neat and orderly? Scattered and happily con-
fused? Does it make a design? What does yourplacement tell you about the way you do things
that is absolutely right on?
! The kinds of pictures you chose. Are they all of
one kind of thing? Is there a huge variety? Are
they in categories? What does that tell you about
your talents and interests and tastesthe ones
you may even keep secret from other people?
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Put your collage up in a place where you can see it
as you continue your journey.
Look at it often. See what more it might tell you. (I
know its weird, but it does kind of speak to you.)
If there is someone in your life who always accepts
you for who you are, ask him or her to look at your
collage and tell you what they see. You still get to
decide if that helps you know yourself even better.
Let your collage help you likethe real you more
and more.
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Here are some things you can write down or draw as you
consider that collage of yours.
One thing I see that I didnt know before about myself: __
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One thing I see that is exactly who I thought I was: _____
________________________________________________
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One thing I cant figure out about myself is: ___________
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