escape your blockers
DESCRIPTION
Part 1 of a 4-part series on career change. Read more here: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/do-work-you-love-a-practical-intensive-career-change-workshop-series-october-tickets-12652434773TRANSCRIPT
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DO WORK YOU LOVE
WORKSHOP ONE“Escape Your
Blockers”
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@escthecity
@adelebarlow
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THIS EVENING’S OBJECTIVES
SELF-SABOTAGE
ACTION PLAN
SELF-AWARENESS
LIKEMINDED PEOPLE
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SELF-SABOTAGE
ACTION PLAN
SELF-AWARENESS
LIKEMINDED PEOPLE
OVERCOMING BLOCKERS REQUIRES ACTING IN SPITE OF
DISCOMFORT
THIS EVENING’S OBJECTIVES
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Which means we never actually “Escape” our blockers but we can use them rather than let them stop us.OVERCOMING BLOCKERS
REQUIRES ACTING IN SPITE OF DISCOMFORT
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There is no one way.What’s true is what works for you.
- DISCLAIMER -
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There is no one way.What’s true is what works for you.
- DISCLAIMER -
Thinking this will keep us stuck!
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What we are going to talk about today is simpler
than you might imagine and hard as hell to do.
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OVERCOMING BLOCKERS REQUIRES ACTING IN SPITE OF
DISCOMFORT
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Despite years of acting outside my comfort zone we
are still learning this.
OVERCOMING BLOCKERS REQUIRES ACTING IN SPITE OF
DISCOMFORT
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PART ONE
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- EXERCISE 1 -WHY ARE YOU
HERE?
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WHY ARE WE ALL HERE?
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AUTONOMYPURPOSEMASTERY
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THE PATH OF PROBABILITY
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“An impasse: when we try to push our way forward using our old views and methods. Soon we realize this is not working and find ourselves at a dead end. Energy and inspiration begin to evaporate; our conviction seems less certain.”
- Timothy Butler, “Getting Unstuck”
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- EXERCISE 2 -WHAT DO YOU
WANT?
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If you weren’t afraid...If you knew you couldn’t
fail...What work would
you do?
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- GROUP EXERCISE -One min each.
Share with the group.
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WHAT IS STOPPING
YOU?
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- EXERCISE 3 -One Post-It Scribe per table: What is
stopping you?
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What are the forces – real or imagined – that
are stopping you?
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- EXERCISE 3 -HOW STUCK ARE
YOU?
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COMPETITIONWHO IS THE MOST
STUCK?
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DEFINE“OBSTACLE”
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“a thing that blocks one's way or prevents or
hinders progress.”
OBSTACLE
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- BREAK -
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- EXERCISE 4 -
WHAT HAVE BEEN YOUR THREE MOST
SIGNIFICANT LEARNING
EXPERIENCES?
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We learn in the same way as we overcome
our blockers – by doing new things.
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BACK TO FEAR
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Fear of the unknown is an extremely useful survival mechanism.
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"Present fears / are less than horrible
imaginings.” - Macbeth
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Fear is less useful when meaning and
fulfillment are at stake.
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We can use our fears.
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We can use our fears.And without taking
crazy risks.
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We can simply use them as
prompts.
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CASE STUDYMatt from Beerbods
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IS THIS FEAR OF A REAL DANGER OR FEAR OF THE
UNKNOWN?
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IS THIS FEAR OF A REAL DANGER OR FEAR OF THE
UNKNOWN?IT’S EITHER A CONSTRAINT
OR SOMETHING TO BE INVESTIGATED.
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- SOME PSYCHOLOGY -
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WHY DO WE GET STUCK?
Experiential Avoidance.
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- VIDEO -
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- MORE PSYCHOLOGY -
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WHY DO WE GET STUCK?
Anxious thoughts.
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MALADAPTIVESCHEMAS
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1. A broad, pervasive theme or pattern
2. Comprised of memories, emotions, cognitions
3. Developed during childhood or adolescence
4. Elaborated throughout one’s lifetime
5. Dysfunctional to a certain degree
(Young et al, 2003)
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THINK SOMETHING DIFFERENT
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DO SOMETHING DIFFERENTMini-Do’s.
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LEARNEXPERIMENT
NETWORK
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All without quitting our jobs.
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- EXERCISE 5 -IN PAIRS TURN YOUR MAIN BLOCKERS INTO
ACTIONS
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- ACTION PLEDGE -
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- PAIR EXERCISES -CHOSE FIVE GENUINE
ACTIONSThat make you feel
uncomfortable. Commit to doing them this
month.
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“An impasse is a request for us to
change our way of thinking about
ourselves and our place in the world.”
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“Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life
within us. Between the two stands Resistance”
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THANK YOU.GOOD LUCK.
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DO WORK YOU LOVEX4 WORKSHOPS
ESCAPE YOUR BLOCKERS – TONIGHT!FIND YOUR PASSION – Tuesday 9th SeptemberOWN YOUR CAREER – Tuesday 16th SeptemberMANAGE YOUR RISK – Tuesday 23rd September
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THE PASSION TRAP
Three myths that keep us stuck
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MYTH ONE“Passions are
discovered in searing moments of insight on the tube on the way to
work”
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ALTERNATIVE VIEW
“Passions are grown through the much
harder work of getting out there and doing
new things.”
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MYTH TWO“What if I don’t like the new thing? I don’t want to change until I know it
is absolutely right for me. It needs to be
perfect.”
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ALTERNATIVE VIEW
“Is it perfect now?”
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MYTH THREE“I don’t have a good
idea or plan so I’ll stay put till I figure it all
out.”
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ALTERNATIVE VIEW
“We can’t think our way to a new career, we need to DO our way
through the obstacles.”