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Enhancing Your Child’s Performance Robin Boggs Choquette, Psy.D.

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What is the Role of a Parent

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How would you define the role and expectations of a parent?

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Parental Role

RELATIONSHIP

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“I could not imagine trying to understand the individual without content of the group or environment” Dr Gloria Balague

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Mindset

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Goal vs

Process

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Components of Functioning that impact performance

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Cognitive

Emotional

Relationship/Communication

Occupation/Student/Artist/Musician/Athlete

Self Care

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Cognitive Development

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Impact performance?

Children (6-12 years of age) Concrete

Adolescences (12-18 years of age)

Abstract thinking is starting to emerge

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Emotions

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Nervous, Fearful, Angry, Etc . . .

EMOTION REGULATION

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Relationship/Communication

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The coach-athlete relationship can be impacted by personality characteristics such as the athlete’s passion for his or her sport. Where the athlete has harmonious passion, meaning the athlete has a strong desire to engage in the athletic activity freely, the coach-athlete relationship is more likely to be high-quality. On the other hand, an athlete with obsessive passion, meaning the athlete’s desire results from intrapersonal or interpersonal pressures, is more likely to have a less than optimal coach-athlete relationship.

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Occupation/Student/Artist Musician/Athlete

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Meeting Demands or Expectations?

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Self Care

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Covering the BASICS

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Effective Strategies

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Self Awareness

Modeling

Communication

Avoid Enabling

Structure and Consistency

Recognize Patterns

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Developmental Areas

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Critical Thinking Skills

Emotional Regulation

Distress Tolerance

Healthy Relationships

Effective Communication

Accountability and Responsibility

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Resources

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Changing the Game. Author John O’Sullivan No More Broken Eggs. Author Tom Morin Expert approaches to Sport Psychology. Editors Aoyagi & Poczwardowski Games Girls Play. Author Caroline Silby, Ph.D. and Shelley Smith Introducing Your Child to Sports: An Expert's Answers to Parents' Questions About Raising a Healthy, Balanced, Happy Athlete. Author Ross Flowers Perfectionism: What’s bad about being too good. Authors Miriam Adderholdt Ph.D., Jan Goldberg The Girl Who Never Made Mistakes. Authors Mark Pett, Gary Rubinstein. What to Do When Good Enough Isn't Good Enough: The Real Deal on Perfectionism: A Guide for Kids. Author Thomas S. Greenspon For parents of perfectionistic teens: Letting Go of Perfect: Overcoming Perfectionism in Kids. Authors Hope Wilson Ph.D. and Jill Adelson Mindset. Author Carol Dweck Succeed. Author Heidi Grant Halvorson Positive Pushing: How to Raise a Successful and Happy Child. Author Jim Taylor, Ph.D. www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-edge-peak-performance-psychology. Kate Hays, Ph.D. www.headinthegame.net/about-us. Charlie Brown, Ph.D. www.parentmentaltrainer.com Robert Neff, Ph.D.

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Contact Information

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Robin Boggs Choquette, Psy.D. 43 East Jefferson Street, Suite 202 Naperville, Illinois 60540 3413A North Kennicott Avenue Arlington Heights, Illinois 60004

Phone: 630.800.2432 Fax: 630.839.2333 [email protected] Twitter: Dr Robin B Choquette @robinbchoquette