Eight Truths

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1. Life is change.2. You live in your outer shell, you drive from your inner core. 3. The brain is programmed to protect you. 4. Nobody can do it for you, you can’t do it all on your own.5. It’s probably happened before.6. Relaxed awareness is the key.7. We live in an abundant world8. You have to be able to say “I want..”

Eight Truths

The Eight Truths defined here have been distilled through; observation over 30 years, of the behaviours and attitudes people display in the workplace and social situations; and investigation into the factors that drive people.

From these observations and investigations these Eight Truths have emerged as an answer to the question “How do we get what we want out of life?” It is our personal relationship to these Eight Truths that determine whether we get what we really want and lead the life we really want to lead.

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When we have to make decisions

We all reach points in our lives when we have to make difficult decisions or choices and are not sure what to do. It is our relationship to these Eight Truths that determines how we make our decisions and choices.

I hope this will help you tap into your own resources when you reach a decision point and are not sure how to move forward.

1. Life is Change When the world is changing around you, your role in the world changes with it. There is no such thing as standing still. If you cannot adapt change happens to you and you lose control. Today we have to deal with more change more quickly than any other generation. Dealing with change can be one of the most challenging things we ever have to learn.

2. You live in your outer shell, you drive from your inner core: We all have a face we show to the world, our outer shell. Our beliefs and values reside in our inner core. If the life we live in our outer shell becomes disconnected to the beliefs and values we hold in our Inner core, something’s going to give; and if the life we live in our outer shell is not in line with the beliefs and values we hold in our core we will never give 100% of ourselves to what we do.

3. Your brain is programmed to protect you:Your brain has evolved to protect you; physically and mentally. We recognise the fight or flight reaction to physically threatening situations but our inner core of beliefs and values can also be threatened. Your brain tries to protect the beliefs and values that you have developed over a lifetime. Your brain protects them in the best way it can; by warning you, through your emotions, when they are being threatened.

4. Nobody can do it for you, you can’t do it on your own:You cannot achieve your dreams and ambitions on your own – whatever they may be. The fact that it is a dream or an ambition means that you are not yet what you want to be or you don’t yet have what you want to have. This means that you have to acquire more: more skill, more money, more customers, more followers, more understanding. Only when you recognise that you need others to help you get to where you want to go will you be able to release the full potential that you have.

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5. It’s probably happened before:Whatever you’re going through or trying to do the chances are it has happened before or been experienced by someone, somewhere, sometime. In today’s connected world it is easier than ever before to learn from the experiences of the people that have gone before you.

6. Relaxed Awareness is the key: A relaxed approach opens the door to whatever course you want to take. There is a difference between being relaxed and switching off. Relaxation is not sitting in front of the TV with a glass of wine, box of chocolates or whatever is your fancy. It is a state of mind that helps you to put aside the worries and cares that drive your thoughts and actions and allows you to create calm space for your brain to work at what it does best: Looking after you.

7. We live in an abundant world:Believing in abundance means you understand that there is enough of anything that you could possibly want, to help you achieve your ambition in life AND that there is enough desire and need in the world to want what you have to offer. Whether you are a “can do” or “can’t do” sort of person comes from your relationship with the idea of abundance. The opposite of abundance is scarcity. A belief in scarcity leads to a defensive and protective approach to life; a belief in an abundance leads to openness and sharing.

8. You have to be able to say “I Want…..”:You cannot get what you want if you can’t tell yourself and others what it is. This might sound obvious but many, if not most people, find it difficult. It is only when you are clear about what you want for yourself that you can explain to others. If you can’t ask for what you want in a clear, precise and authorative manner then your chances of getting it are slim .

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The pages that follow use quotations to illustrate the Eight Truths.

We like quotations because they show us that other people have faced the same issues that we all face at some time: that they have put their minds and resourcefulness to finding a solution and that in many cases the issues and quandaries we face have been around for hundreds if not thousands of years.

Quotations can help us feel that we are not alone and that there is a way through.

1.Life is change.You must be the change

you wish to see in the world. Mahatma Gandhi

If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.

Maya Angelou

If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.

Lao Tzu

If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we aren't really living.

Gail Sheehy

Because things are the way they are, things will not stay

the way they are. Bertolt Brecht

The man who views the world at fifty the same as he did at twenty has wasted thirty years of his life.

Muhammad Ali

The pessimist complains about the wind;

the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.

William Arthur Ward

2. Live from your Heart

This above allTo thine own self be true. 

William Shakespeare

Friendship with one’s self is all important,

because without it one cannot be friends with

anyone else in the world. 

Eleanor Roosevelt

Looking back, you realize that a very special person passed briefly through your life, and that person was you.  It is not too late to become that person again.  Robert Brault

Be yourself. Everyone

else is already taken.  Oscar Wilde

When your heart speaks,

take good notes. 

Judith Campbell

Most important, have the courage to follow your heart

and intuition. Steve Jobs

3. Your brain is programmed to protect you.

I learned that courage was not the absence

of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who

conquers that fear. Nelson Mandela

Fear defeats more people than any other

one thing in the world. Ralph Waldo Emerson

Fear is just the brain’s way of saying -

“hang on a second”

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. Winston Churchill

Mistakes are always

forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them. 

Bruce Lee

Your emotions are the window to your fears. Take the time to look

through.

People can be more forgiving than you can

imagine. But you have to forgive yourself. Let go of

what's bitter and move on. Bill Cosby

4. Nobody can do it for you, you can’t do it all on your own.

If you want to go fast, go alone;

if you want to go far, go with others.

African proverb

As geese flap their wings, they create an uplift for the

bird following. By flying together in a V formation, the flock’s flying range is

71% greater than that of any bird flying alone.

Find people you can flap with.

Every team needs a hero,

every hero needs a team.

The most important single ingredient in the formula of success

is knowing how to get along with people.

Theodore Roosevelt

"There are three vital steps to partnering success: 1.Determine what it is you need but don't have2. Determine who has what you need,3. Ask them for it, but, first make sure you have something they want or need. Curtis E. Sahakian

5. It’s probably happened before.

Live as if you were to die tomorrow.Learn as if you were to live forever.

Mahatma Gandhi

Get your wisdom as cheap as you can! Stop paying the big price of pain by not

listening & learning from others that have overcome it.

Unknown

Good judgment comes from experienceSo borrow it from someone else

If I have seen further than others, it is by standing upon the

shoulders of giants. Isaac Newton

Learning from your own mistakes is smart.

learning from the mistakes of others is wise.

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The difference between education and experience...Education is when you read the fine print; Experience is what you get when you don't.

Pete Seeger

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6.Relaxed Awareness is the key.This art of resting the mind and the

power of dismissing from it all care and worry is probably

one of the secrets of energy in our great

men.Captain J. A. Hadfield

No matter how much pressure you feel at work, if you could

find ways to relax for at least five minutes every hour, you'd be

more productive.Dr. Joyce Brothers

Before you agree to do anything that

might add even the smallest amount of

stress to your life, ask yourself: What is my

truest intention? Give yourself time to let a yes resound within

you. When it's right, I guarantee that your

entire body will feel it.Oprah Winfrey

It's a good idea always to do something relaxing prior to

making an important decision in your life. Paulo Coelho

Your mind will answer most

questions if you learn to relax and

wait for the answer. William S. Burroughs

7. We live in an abundant world

Doing what you love is the

cornerstone of having abundance

in your life. Wayne Dyer

Abundance is about being rich, with or without money.Suze Orman

The world is full of abundance and opportunity, but far too many people come to the fountain of life with a sieve, instead of a tank…a teaspoon instead of a steam shovel. They expect little and as a result they get little.

Ben Sweetland

Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.

Wayne Dyer

People with a scarcity mentality tend to see everything in terms of win-lose. There is only so much; and if someone else has it, that

means there will be less for me. .... the more we develop an abundance mentality, the more we are genuinely happy for the

successes, well-being, achievements, recognition, and good fortune of other people.

We believe their success adds to…rather than detracts from…our

lives.Stephen R. Covey

8. You have to be able to say “I want.....”

The indispensable first step to getting the

things you want out of life is this:  decide

what you want.  Ben Stein

Whenever you

want to achieve

something, keep

your eyes open,

concentrate and

make sure you

know exactly

what it is you

want. No one can

hit their target

with their eyes

closed.Paulo Coelho

To be successful you have to be selfish, or

else you never achieve. And once you get to your highest level,

then you have to be unselfish.

Michael Jordan

Until you value yourself, you will not

value your time.

Until you value your

time, you will not do

anything with it.

M. Scott Peck

Desire is the starting point of all

achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but

a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything. Napoleon Hill

Ambition is a dream with a V8 engine. Elvis Presley

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I Want To Be has been created to help you develop your self-awareness so that you can express the value that you bring to the world with clarity; and in a way that is authentic, credible and engaging.

The most valuable assets you have are your personal qualities. They are what set you apart from everyone else.

Whatever your goals; it is your mindset and the personal qualities you can harness and employ that will determine how successful you are in achieving them.

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Dene has over 30 years commercial, leadership and management experience; having held director roles within major national and regional media companies. The most exciting of which was undoubtedly his time as Advertisement Director at The Daily Mirror where he enjoyed working with the charismatic Piers Morgan.Managing large teams in multi site offices gave Dene the broadest possible range of employment, team, motivational and performance issues to deal with and was the key to his interest in personal development and performance. Dene is a licensed behavioural analyst and has a BSc in Management Science from The University of Manchester, Institute of Science and Technology. His first book ResourcefulMe, was published in June 2013 and looks at the subject of resourcefulness. It identifies 184 facets of resourcefulness and how we can use them to be more effective in the work we do.

Dene Stuart: CEOiwanttobe.co.uk

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