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Coaching: What Happens After the PD (Professional Developement)?Audience: Specialty
Presented by: Kim Jackson, Conscious Discipline Master [email protected]
Effective Coaching: 7 Steps for Building Trust
1. Plan and Prepare – Have questions prepared; visualize the outcomes that you want to achieve.
2. Describe the Routine – Explaining the purpose of your visit and what it can/will look like helps the teacher to feel safe.
3. Establish Confidentiality – Information that is shared with you during coaching visits is strictly confidential; any information that needs to be shared with administration will be discussed with the teacher first and the teacher will be copied on the email correspondence.
4. Listen More Than You Talk – See things from their perspective without an agenda already established in your mind.
5. Ask REFLECTIVE Questions – Help the teacher discover their own ideas.
6. Connect – Make personal connections; share about yourself and allow them to share about themselves; be open about who you are and what you do.
7. Encourage – A transformational coach is a master at helping the teacher uncover their own strengths; validating their experiences is powerful.
NOTES:
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Coaching: What Happens After the PD?
November 27, 2019
Dear _____________,
I’m looking forward to visiting your classroom later this week to offer support for your
implementation of Conscious Discipline. Please know that when I come into your room,
my goal is to model the language of Conscious Discipline while interacting with you and
the children. My purpose is not to evaluate your implementation of Conscious Discipline.
Please complete the Pre-Arrival Survey prior to my visit and have it for me when I arrive.
This survey provides information that will help me effectively support you. On the day of
our coaching session, I would prefer to follow your scheduled daily routine, as that is best
for the children. I will focus on using the Conscious Discipline rituals, structures and skills
you noted on your survey, as well as interactions with the particular children mentioned
within it.
During my visit, I encourage you to do what you normally do, follow your normal schedule
and conduct your normal routines. I will step in where appropriate, mainly through
interacting with the children. As I move around your classroom, watch how I interact and
listen to my Conscious Discipline language. Please ask me questions while I am in your
room; I am there to support you!
Wishing you well,
Kim Jackson
Conscious Discipline Master Instructor
Sample Letter: Pre-Arrival of Coaching Session
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Coaching: What Happens After the PD?
• Absent Child
• Brain Smart® Start
• Celebration Center
• Class Meeting
• Conflict Resolution
Time Machine
• Friends & Family Board
• Greeting/Goodbye
• I Love You Rituals™
• Kindness Tree
• Picture Rule Cards
• Ritual Transition Rituals
• Safekeeper Ritual
• Safe Place™
• Social Stories
• Ways to Be Helpful
Board/Book
• We Care Center
• Wish Well
• Visual Daily Schedule
• Visual Routines
School: ____________________________________________________________________________
Teacher(s):_________________________________________________________ Date: ___________
The following Conscious Discipline Rituals and Structures are visible and being implemented in
the classroom:
Noticing Successes Noticing for Encouragement
Flipping from Negative to Positive
“You wanted____.” or “You were hoping____.”
“See his face/see her face…”
What was he/she telling you when…?
Coaching Observation Form
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I am willing to:
Be partners in learning. We will make mistakes and they will offer us rich learning opportunities.
We will learn alongside one another.
Establish a judgment free zone. We will notice when we feel difficult feelings such as frustrated,
anxious, or disappointed. As we become aware of these feelings we can practice Composure and
Wishing Well so we may manage them and establish an optimal learning environment.
Build a relationship built on trust. As the coach, I am not here to evaluate you or share what I see in
any form of evaluation tool for your administrator. Information that you share with me will not be
shared without your permission unless it is for your own well- being or the well- being of children.
Take responsibility for my own growth through goal setting and action steps. I am willing to ask for
help, ask questions, use new tools and/or practice skills that will help me continue my growth and
aid in the growth of my students.
Coach Name (printed): ____________________________________________________
Signature: _______________________________________________________________
Date: _____________________
Coaching: What Happens After the PD?
Conscious Discipline® Coaching Agreements
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Coaching: What Happens After the PD?
1. Brain Smart Start
2. Reflection
3. Feedback
4. Rubric
5. Action Steps
Coaching Debrief Schedule:
We did it!
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Coaching: What Happens After the PD?
F
ram
ewor
k fo
r Ref
lect
ive
Que
stio
ning
Que
stio
n Co
nten
t
Que
stio
n Ty
pe
Aw
aren
ess
An
alys
is
Al
tern
ativ
es
Ac
tion
Kn
owle
dge/
U
nder
stan
ding
(W
hat y
ou k
now
)
Wha
t do y
ou kn
ow ab
out…
? W
hat is
your
curre
nt un
derst
andin
g of (
topic,
sit
uatio
n)?
Prob
es (e
xam
ples)
: Ho
w did
you c
ome t
o beli
eve t
his?
How
does
that
comp
are t
o wha
t you
wan
t to
know
abou
t…?
How
is tha
t con
sisten
t with
(stan
dard
s, ev
idenc
e)…
? W
hat d
o yo
u kn
ow n
ow a
fter t
rying
…?
How
does
that
comp
are
with
what
you
origi
nally
thou
ght?
How
could
you f
ind ou
t abo
ut…?
Wha
t diffe
rent
thing
s cou
ld yo
u do t
o lea
rn
more
abo
ut …
? W
hat a
re ot
her w
ays t
o view
this
for ne
xt tim
e?
How
do yo
u plan
to le
arn m
ore a
bout.
.?
Wha
t opti
on do
you c
hoos
e? W
hy?
How
are y
ou go
ing to
put th
at int
o plac
e?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: W
hat r
esou
rces d
o you
have
? W
hat s
uppo
rts w
ill yo
u nee
d?
Whe
re w
ill yo
u get
them?
Pr
actic
e (W
hat y
ou d
id)
How
are y
ou cu
rrentl
y doin
g…? W
hy?
Wha
t kind
s of th
ings d
id yo
u do (
have
you
done
so fa
r)? W
hy?
Wha
t kind
s of th
ings d
id yo
u try?
Why
? W
hat k
inds o
f thing
s are
you l
earn
ing to
do?
Wha
t did
you d
o tha
t wor
ked w
ell?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: W
hat is
the p
rese
nt sit
uatio
n in m
ore d
etail?
W
here
does
that
occu
r mos
t ofte
n?
Whe
n did
you f
irst n
otice
this?
How
is tha
t con
sisten
t with
wha
t you
inten
ded
to do
(wan
ted to
do)?
Why
? Ho
w is
that c
onsis
tent w
ith st
anda
rds?
Why
?
Wha
t else
could
you h
ave d
one t
o mak
e pr
actic
e con
sisten
t with
stan
dard
s? W
hy?
Wha
t wou
ld yo
u do d
iffere
ntly n
ext ti
me?
How
migh
t you
go ab
out d
oing t
hat?
Wha
t diffe
rent
ways
could
you a
ppro
ach t
his?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: W
hat w
ould
it tak
e for
you t
o be a
ble to
do…
? W
hat w
ould
you n
eed t
o do p
erso
nally
in
orde
r to d
o…?
Wha
t do y
ou pl
an to
do?
Whe
n will
you d
o this
? W
hat o
ption
did y
ou ch
oose
? Pr
obes
(exa
mple
s):
Wha
t typ
es of
supp
orts
will y
ou ne
ed?
Wha
t res
ource
s do y
ou ha
ve?
Wha
t wou
ld it t
ake f
or yo
u to b
e able
to do
…?
Wha
t wou
ld yo
u nee
d to d
o per
sona
lly in
or
der t
o do…
?
O
utco
mes
(W
hat w
as
the
resu
lt)
How
did th
at wo
rk for
you?
W
hat h
appe
ned w
hen y
ou di
d…? W
hy?
How
effec
tive w
as it
to do
that?
W
hat d
id yo
u ach
ieve w
hen y
ou di
d tha
t? W
hat w
ent w
ell?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: Ho
w do
you f
eel a
bout
that?
Wha
t do y
ou th
ink ab
out…
? Ho
w mu
ch co
ntrol
do yo
u hav
e ove
r the
ou
tcome
?
How
did yo
u kno
w yo
u nee
ded t
o do
some
thing
else
? Ho
w did
that
match
(or w
as d
iffere
nt fro
m)
what
you
expe
cted
(or w
anted
) to
happ
en?
Why
? Ho
w do
thes
e outc
omes
comp
are t
o ex
pecte
d outc
omes
base
d on s
tanda
rds o
f pr
actic
e? W
hat s
hould
happ
en if
you’r
e re
ally d
oing (
prac
tice)
? W
hat b
roug
ht ab
out th
at re
sult?
Wha
t else
migh
t hap
pen w
hen y
ou do
…?
Why
? W
hat d
iffere
nt thi
ngs c
ould
you h
ave d
one t
o ge
t exp
ected
outco
mes?
W
hat m
ight m
ake i
t wor
k eve
n bett
er ne
xt tim
e?
Whic
h op
tion c
ould
get th
e bes
t res
ult?
Wha
t do y
ou pl
an to
do di
ffere
ntly n
ext ti
me?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: W
hat t
ypes
of su
ppor
ts wi
ll you
need
? W
hat r
esou
rces d
o you
have
/need
? W
here
will
you g
et the
m?
Ev
alua
tion
(Wha
t abo
ut
the
proc
ess)
Wha
t opp
ortun
ities w
ere
usefu
l to yo
u in
achie
ving…
(or i
n lea
rning
…)?
In
what
way?
How
was
it us
eful?
Why
? W
hat s
uppo
rts w
ere m
ost h
elpful
? W
hat a
bout
the su
ppor
ts we
re m
ost h
elpful
?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: Ho
w do
you f
eel a
bout
that?
W
hat d
o you
think
abou
t…?
How
was t
hat c
onsis
tent w
ith w
hat y
ou
expe
cted?
Wha
t othe
r opp
ortun
ities w
ould
be us
eful?
Wha
t opp
ortun
ities d
o you
wan
t to a
cces
s?
How
will
you a
cces
s tho
se op
portu
nities
? Pr
obes
(exa
mple
s):
Wha
t res
ource
s do y
ou ne
ed?
Whe
re w
ill yo
u get
them?
So
urce
: The
Ear
ly Ch
ildho
od C
oach
ing H
andb
ook b
y Dath
an D
. Rus
h, Ed
.D., C
CC-S
LP, a
nd M
’Lisa
L. S
helde
n, PT
, Ph.D
. Co
pyrig
ht ©
2011
by P
aul H
. Bro
okes
Pub
lishin
g Co,
Inc. A
ll righ
ts re
serve
d.
Fra
mew
ork
fo
r R
efl
ecti
ve
Qu
est
ion
ing
F
ram
ewor
k fo
r Ref
lect
ive
Que
stio
ning
Que
stio
n Co
nten
t
Que
stio
n Ty
pe
Aw
aren
ess
An
alys
is
Al
tern
ativ
es
Ac
tion
Kn
owle
dge/
U
nder
stan
ding
(W
hat y
ou k
now
)
Wha
t do y
ou kn
ow ab
out…
? W
hat is
your
curre
nt un
derst
andin
g of (
topic,
sit
uatio
n)?
Prob
es (e
xam
ples)
: Ho
w did
you c
ome t
o beli
eve t
his?
How
does
that
comp
are t
o wha
t you
wan
t to
know
abou
t…?
How
is tha
t con
sisten
t with
(stan
dard
s, ev
idenc
e)…
? W
hat d
o yo
u kn
ow n
ow a
fter t
rying
…?
How
does
that
comp
are
with
what
you
origi
nally
thou
ght?
How
could
you f
ind ou
t abo
ut…?
Wha
t diffe
rent
thing
s cou
ld yo
u do t
o lea
rn
more
abo
ut …
? W
hat a
re ot
her w
ays t
o view
this
for ne
xt tim
e?
How
do yo
u plan
to le
arn m
ore a
bout.
.?
Wha
t opti
on do
you c
hoos
e? W
hy?
How
are y
ou go
ing to
put th
at int
o plac
e?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: W
hat r
esou
rces d
o you
have
? W
hat s
uppo
rts w
ill yo
u nee
d?
Whe
re w
ill yo
u get
them?
Pr
actic
e (W
hat y
ou d
id)
How
are y
ou cu
rrentl
y doin
g…? W
hy?
Wha
t kind
s of th
ings d
id yo
u do (
have
you
done
so fa
r)? W
hy?
Wha
t kind
s of th
ings d
id yo
u try?
Why
? W
hat k
inds o
f thing
s are
you l
earn
ing to
do?
Wha
t did
you d
o tha
t wor
ked w
ell?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: W
hat is
the p
rese
nt sit
uatio
n in m
ore d
etail?
W
here
does
that
occu
r mos
t ofte
n?
Whe
n did
you f
irst n
otice
this?
How
is tha
t con
sisten
t with
wha
t you
inten
ded
to do
(wan
ted to
do)?
Why
? Ho
w is
that c
onsis
tent w
ith st
anda
rds?
Why
?
Wha
t else
could
you h
ave d
one t
o mak
e pr
actic
e con
sisten
t with
stan
dard
s? W
hy?
Wha
t wou
ld yo
u do d
iffere
ntly n
ext ti
me?
How
migh
t you
go ab
out d
oing t
hat?
Wha
t diffe
rent
ways
could
you a
ppro
ach t
his?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: W
hat w
ould
it tak
e for
you t
o be a
ble to
do…
? W
hat w
ould
you n
eed t
o do p
erso
nally
in
orde
r to d
o…?
Wha
t do y
ou pl
an to
do?
Whe
n will
you d
o this
? W
hat o
ption
did y
ou ch
oose
? Pr
obes
(exa
mple
s):
Wha
t typ
es of
supp
orts
will y
ou ne
ed?
Wha
t res
ource
s do y
ou ha
ve?
Wha
t wou
ld it t
ake f
or yo
u to b
e able
to do
…?
Wha
t wou
ld yo
u nee
d to d
o per
sona
lly in
or
der t
o do…
?
O
utco
mes
(W
hat w
as
the
resu
lt)
How
did th
at wo
rk for
you?
W
hat h
appe
ned w
hen y
ou di
d…? W
hy?
How
effec
tive w
as it
to do
that?
W
hat d
id yo
u ach
ieve w
hen y
ou di
d tha
t? W
hat w
ent w
ell?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: Ho
w do
you f
eel a
bout
that?
Wha
t do y
ou th
ink ab
out…
? Ho
w mu
ch co
ntrol
do yo
u hav
e ove
r the
ou
tcome
?
How
did yo
u kno
w yo
u nee
ded t
o do
some
thing
else
? Ho
w did
that
match
(or w
as d
iffere
nt fro
m)
what
you
expe
cted
(or w
anted
) to
happ
en?
Why
? Ho
w do
thes
e outc
omes
comp
are t
o ex
pecte
d outc
omes
base
d on s
tanda
rds o
f pr
actic
e? W
hat s
hould
happ
en if
you’r
e re
ally d
oing (
prac
tice)
? W
hat b
roug
ht ab
out th
at re
sult?
Wha
t else
migh
t hap
pen w
hen y
ou do
…?
Why
? W
hat d
iffere
nt thi
ngs c
ould
you h
ave d
one t
o ge
t exp
ected
outco
mes?
W
hat m
ight m
ake i
t wor
k eve
n bett
er ne
xt tim
e?
Whic
h op
tion c
ould
get th
e bes
t res
ult?
Wha
t do y
ou pl
an to
do di
ffere
ntly n
ext ti
me?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: W
hat t
ypes
of su
ppor
ts wi
ll you
need
? W
hat r
esou
rces d
o you
have
/need
? W
here
will
you g
et the
m?
Ev
alua
tion
(Wha
t abo
ut
the
proc
ess)
Wha
t opp
ortun
ities w
ere
usefu
l to yo
u in
achie
ving…
(or i
n lea
rning
…)?
In
what
way?
How
was
it us
eful?
Why
? W
hat s
uppo
rts w
ere m
ost h
elpful
? W
hat a
bout
the su
ppor
ts we
re m
ost h
elpful
?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: Ho
w do
you f
eel a
bout
that?
W
hat d
o you
think
abou
t…?
How
was t
hat c
onsis
tent w
ith w
hat y
ou
expe
cted?
Wha
t othe
r opp
ortun
ities w
ould
be us
eful?
Wha
t opp
ortun
ities d
o you
wan
t to a
cces
s?
How
will
you a
cces
s tho
se op
portu
nities
? Pr
obes
(exa
mple
s):
Wha
t res
ource
s do y
ou ne
ed?
Whe
re w
ill yo
u get
them?
So
urce
: The
Ear
ly Ch
ildho
od C
oach
ing H
andb
ook b
y Dath
an D
. Rus
h, Ed
.D., C
CC-S
LP, a
nd M
’Lisa
L. S
helde
n, PT
, Ph.D
. Co
pyrig
ht ©
2011
by P
aul H
. Bro
okes
Pub
lishin
g Co,
Inc. A
ll righ
ts re
serve
d.
F
ram
ewor
k fo
r Ref
lect
ive
Que
stio
ning
Que
stio
n Co
nten
t
Que
stio
n Ty
pe
Aw
aren
ess
An
alys
is
Al
tern
ativ
es
Ac
tion
Kn
owle
dge/
U
nder
stan
ding
(W
hat y
ou k
now
)
Wha
t do y
ou kn
ow ab
out…
? W
hat is
your
curre
nt un
derst
andin
g of (
topic,
sit
uatio
n)?
Prob
es (e
xam
ples)
: Ho
w did
you c
ome t
o beli
eve t
his?
How
does
that
comp
are t
o wha
t you
wan
t to
know
abou
t…?
How
is tha
t con
sisten
t with
(stan
dard
s, ev
idenc
e)…
? W
hat d
o yo
u kn
ow n
ow a
fter t
rying
…?
How
does
that
comp
are
with
what
you
origi
nally
thou
ght?
How
could
you f
ind ou
t abo
ut…?
Wha
t diffe
rent
thing
s cou
ld yo
u do t
o lea
rn
more
abo
ut …
? W
hat a
re ot
her w
ays t
o view
this
for ne
xt tim
e?
How
do yo
u plan
to le
arn m
ore a
bout.
.?
Wha
t opti
on do
you c
hoos
e? W
hy?
How
are y
ou go
ing to
put th
at int
o plac
e?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: W
hat r
esou
rces d
o you
have
? W
hat s
uppo
rts w
ill yo
u nee
d?
Whe
re w
ill yo
u get
them?
Pr
actic
e (W
hat y
ou d
id)
How
are y
ou cu
rrentl
y doin
g…? W
hy?
Wha
t kind
s of th
ings d
id yo
u do (
have
you
done
so fa
r)? W
hy?
Wha
t kind
s of th
ings d
id yo
u try?
Why
? W
hat k
inds o
f thing
s are
you l
earn
ing to
do?
Wha
t did
you d
o tha
t wor
ked w
ell?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: W
hat is
the p
rese
nt sit
uatio
n in m
ore d
etail?
W
here
does
that
occu
r mos
t ofte
n?
Whe
n did
you f
irst n
otice
this?
How
is tha
t con
sisten
t with
wha
t you
inten
ded
to do
(wan
ted to
do)?
Why
? Ho
w is
that c
onsis
tent w
ith st
anda
rds?
Why
?
Wha
t else
could
you h
ave d
one t
o mak
e pr
actic
e con
sisten
t with
stan
dard
s? W
hy?
Wha
t wou
ld yo
u do d
iffere
ntly n
ext ti
me?
How
migh
t you
go ab
out d
oing t
hat?
Wha
t diffe
rent
ways
could
you a
ppro
ach t
his?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: W
hat w
ould
it tak
e for
you t
o be a
ble to
do…
? W
hat w
ould
you n
eed t
o do p
erso
nally
in
orde
r to d
o…?
Wha
t do y
ou pl
an to
do?
Whe
n will
you d
o this
? W
hat o
ption
did y
ou ch
oose
? Pr
obes
(exa
mple
s):
Wha
t typ
es of
supp
orts
will y
ou ne
ed?
Wha
t res
ource
s do y
ou ha
ve?
Wha
t wou
ld it t
ake f
or yo
u to b
e able
to do
…?
Wha
t wou
ld yo
u nee
d to d
o per
sona
lly in
or
der t
o do…
?
O
utco
mes
(W
hat w
as
the
resu
lt)
How
did th
at wo
rk for
you?
W
hat h
appe
ned w
hen y
ou di
d…? W
hy?
How
effec
tive w
as it
to do
that?
W
hat d
id yo
u ach
ieve w
hen y
ou di
d tha
t? W
hat w
ent w
ell?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: Ho
w do
you f
eel a
bout
that?
Wha
t do y
ou th
ink ab
out…
? Ho
w mu
ch co
ntrol
do yo
u hav
e ove
r the
ou
tcome
?
How
did yo
u kno
w yo
u nee
ded t
o do
some
thing
else
? Ho
w did
that
match
(or w
as d
iffere
nt fro
m)
what
you
expe
cted
(or w
anted
) to
happ
en?
Why
? Ho
w do
thes
e outc
omes
comp
are t
o ex
pecte
d outc
omes
base
d on s
tanda
rds o
f pr
actic
e? W
hat s
hould
happ
en if
you’r
e re
ally d
oing (
prac
tice)
? W
hat b
roug
ht ab
out th
at re
sult?
Wha
t else
migh
t hap
pen w
hen y
ou do
…?
Why
? W
hat d
iffere
nt thi
ngs c
ould
you h
ave d
one t
o ge
t exp
ected
outco
mes?
W
hat m
ight m
ake i
t wor
k eve
n bett
er ne
xt tim
e?
Whic
h op
tion c
ould
get th
e bes
t res
ult?
Wha
t do y
ou pl
an to
do di
ffere
ntly n
ext ti
me?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: W
hat t
ypes
of su
ppor
ts wi
ll you
need
? W
hat r
esou
rces d
o you
have
/need
? W
here
will
you g
et the
m?
Ev
alua
tion
(Wha
t abo
ut
the
proc
ess)
Wha
t opp
ortun
ities w
ere
usefu
l to yo
u in
achie
ving…
(or i
n lea
rning
…)?
In
what
way?
How
was
it us
eful?
Why
? W
hat s
uppo
rts w
ere m
ost h
elpful
? W
hat a
bout
the su
ppor
ts we
re m
ost h
elpful
?
Prob
es(e
xam
ples)
: Ho
w do
you f
eel a
bout
that?
W
hat d
o you
think
abou
t…?
How
was t
hat c
onsis
tent w
ith w
hat y
ou
expe
cted?
Wha
t othe
r opp
ortun
ities w
ould
be us
eful?
Wha
t opp
ortun
ities d
o you
wan
t to a
cces
s?
How
will
you a
cces
s tho
se op
portu
nities
? Pr
obes
(exa
mple
s):
Wha
t res
ource
s do y
ou ne
ed?
Whe
re w
ill yo
u get
them?
So
urce
: The
Ear
ly Ch
ildho
od C
oach
ing H
andb
ook b
y Dath
an D
. Rus
h, Ed
.D., C
CC-S
LP, a
nd M
’Lisa
L. S
helde
n, PT
, Ph.D
. Co
pyrig
ht ©
2011
by P
aul H
. Bro
okes
Pub
lishin
g Co,
Inc. A
ll righ
ts re
serve
d.
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Coaching: What Happens After the PD?
Teacher:___________________________________________________________ Date: ___________
Program: __________________________________________________________________________
Conscious Discipline® Action Plan
Practice-Based Coaching Action Plan
Rubric Power/Skill/Structure: Power of Unity, Skill of Encouragement, Structure: I Love You Rituals
Goal I want to achieve:
Help children to connect with one another and with teachers through I Love You Rituals.
Steps to achieve this goal: Resources Needed: Timeline:
1. Intentionally teach I Love
You Rituals during circle as
a school family (group).
2· Children are able to do
I Love You Rituals with
a partner.
3· Begin to use I Love You
Rituals during transitions.
Review Date: _______________
q I know I achieved this goal
because:
q� I am making progress
towards my goal and will
keep implementing my
Action Plan.
q I need to change my plan to
achieve this goal by revising
the goal or change the
action steps.
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Coaching: What Happens After the PD?
T.A.G. – You’re It!
Teach Add Grow
• Believing that what we offer others, we strengthen in ourselves. What is one skill or structure you are willing to teach someone else and
pay it forward?
• Conscious Discipline is a journey. What is a strategy you are willing to add to a skill or structure to boost your implementation to the
next level?
• What challenges in your implementation do you view as your biggest opportunities
for growth?
• I am going to do the following things to grow in my
Conscious Discipline journey:
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Coaching: What Happens After the PD?
January 2020 / Visit #3
Dear _____________,
It was an absolute pleasure being in your classroom today. Experiencing the difference in the overall feeling of the room speaks to your hard work and growth over these last few months.
Below is a brief recap of the things that we discussed during our debriefing session:
Celebrations: • You and ________ both expressed feelings of gratitude for the training and coaching you have
received that has helped you make changes to your interactions and intentions in the classroom. • We reviewed your action plans from my last visit and decided where you were in terms of
accomplishing the different goals. • You feel that your connections, rituals and I Love You Rituals™ program have all been successful.
You want to continue to strengthen your use of I Love You Rituals during transition times and waiting times.
• You have been setting a timer to take composure breaks for yourself and consciously take deep breaths throughout the day to keep yourself in your executive state. You feel like you have mastered the goal of becoming more conscious of your own upset and composure.
• ________ has really settled in to the School Family culture of the room and is now interacting with the other children as well as with the adults.
• You have the following Conscious Discipline structures in place: Wishing Well, We Care Center, Friends and Family Board, School Family Jobs, Safe Place, Greetings and Goodbyes. We talked about meaningful School Family jobs and the possibility of changing one of them if it is not meaningful.
Next Steps for Moving Forward: • We discussed the importance of referencing your visual schedule throughout the day. • We discussed re-teaching “clean up” and possibly changing the music to something more calming
to help children stay focused rather than “hyping” them up. The clean up transition was really long today.
• Remember to be conscious of the time during circle time. Children can only sit for about 20 minutes – no more. It may be helpful to set a timer for yourself or to possibly split your morning meeting off from your story time.
• You wanted to work on teaching children their “Big Voice” so I have attached your next action plan for child assertiveness. Please review it and let me know if you have any additions or corrections.
• I have also attached The Coaching Rubric for Teachers. Available at: ConsciousDiscipline.com/resources/coaching-rubric-for-teachers. Please use the rubric to assess where you are with your skills development as we will use these to drive our next steps. Once you complete them, please email them back to me.
I will be back on________. See you then. Keep breathing.
Wishing you well, Kim Jackson Conscious Discipline Master Instructor
Sample Letter: Follow-up of Coaching Session
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My Plan for the First Six Weeks
Week 1:
WEEK MATERIALS
Week 2:
Week 3:
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My Plan for the First Six Weeks
Week 4:
WEEK MATERIALS
Week 5:
Week 6:
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Notes