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What’s In it for ME?
aka: Remembering that you matter when others might not
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Scott “Q” MarcusTHINspirational Speaker & Recovering Perfectionist
707.442.6243 • [email protected] • Twitter: @scottqmarcus • facebook.com/scottqmarcus
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Honest Attitude PrayerSo far today, God, I've done all right.
I haven't gossiped, haven't lost my
temper, haven't been greedy, grumpy,
nasty, selfish, over-indulgent, or told
anyone to mind their own business and
stay out of mine.
I'm really glad about that!…
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Honest Attitude PrayerBut, in a few minutes, God, I'm
going to get out of bed, and
from then on I'm probably going
to need a lot more help.
courtesy of www.wordle.net
Questionnaire Results
Pretty Good86%
Extremely Upbeat7%
Average7%
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Extremely Upbeat7%
Your AttitudeQuestionnaire Results
93%
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Pretty Good43%
Average49%
Extremely Poor7%
Co-Worker Attitude
43%6
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Pretty Good57%
Average43%
Others’ Attitude
57%7
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Others’ Attitude
Workload
Home Life Bars are not to scale
Attitude Cause
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Questionnaire Results
Albert Mehrabian [Nonverbal Communication (Chicago: Aldine-Atherton, 1972)]
Attitude Talks9
Non Verbal55%
Use of Voice38%
Verbal7%
93%
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Choice
Learned
Controllable Bars are not to scale
Attitude Beliefs
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My Responsibility to Fix
Attitude“Complex interaction
between feelings and
beliefs that affect
how we react to our
environment.”
Frustration
If I Always Do What I’ve Always Done…
I’ll Always Be Where I’ve Always Been.
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Habits
“Action or thought done repeatedly -
without analysis - in order to simplify or ease
one’s life.”
> >
> C
om
pet
ence
> >
>
< < < Consciousness < < <
1. Unconscious Incompetence
2. Conscious Incompetence
3. Conscious Competence
4. Unconscious Competence
“Oblivious”“Aware”
“Learning” “Skilled”
STRESS ZONE
Stress Symptoms Negative Thinking
Lack of Motivation
Health Problems
Poor Decision Making
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ATTITUDE!
Behavior
Result
The Cycle
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Unbreakable Link
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Example
I bet living in a nudist colony takes all the fun out of Halloween. -Age 13
The Zebra Rule
It is virtually impossible to “drop” a habit.You must replace it with a counterproductive one.
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The Zebra Rule
Inertia of Change
The Problem:
• Fear
• Force
• Pain
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The Solutions:
• Slower is Faster Than Never
• Success Is MTTN
• Small Steps Done Repeatedly
• Don’t Show Your BIG BUT
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Movement
Logical Emotional
Physical Spiritual
<<<<Change
< Activity Inspiration >
< Execution Creation >
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Attitude
Feelings Beliefs
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Response
Feelings
Experience(Observations)
Biology
Attitude
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Attitude Contagion
“Badatude People” are more used to it than you are.
Stages of Change
Honeymoon
Thrill is Gone
Lifestyle
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Moving Forward
Inspiration
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Behavior
Motivation
The Four Assumptions
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The road map is not the
terrain…
In other words…
We see our own view
of reality.
Growth
The Four Assumptions
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There is positive
intention behind every
behavior.
Growth
The Four Assumptions
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You always have
another choice.
Growth
The Four AssumptionsGrowth
There is no such thing
as “failure,”
merely “feedback.”
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The Four Assumptions
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You have all the tools
you need to accomplish
whatever you want.
Growth
Think “1st”
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Do 1 Thing
Make it Small
Focus on Today
Remember
What’s In it for ME?
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Scott “Q” MarcusTHINspirational Speaker & Recovering Perfectionist
707.442.6243 • [email protected] • Twitter: @scottqmarcus • facebook.com/scottqmarcus
