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FinalReportTroubledMarriagesintheSikhCommunityinCanada
RegionofPeelMarch1,2010
By:
Principal Researchers
Baldev Mutta
Amandeep Kaur
Dipika Patel
11730 Airport Road, Brampton, ON, L6R 0C7905.790.0808
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ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
This report is the product of sustained efforts of the Punjabi Community Health Services which
decided to initiate the research on troubled marriages in Sikh community. The research has
benefited from the expertise and efforts of a large number of individuals and organizations in the
Region of Peel and Toronto. The women and men who participated in the research study needs
to be specially thanked for providing the research team their personal and sensitive information.
Without their support and contribution, this research wouldnt have been possible. We are
thankful to all those who strongly believed in this initiative and worked with us to address the
concerns of women.
We are thankful to Mr. Baldev Mutta who conceived this project and created conditions for it to
be implemented. He made sure that the study was scientifically sound and would prove useful
information to persons and organizations working for and with women.
We are also thankful to Ms. Amandeep Kaur under whose supervision this report was completed.
Her timely suggestions, critique, and helpful hints contributed immensely towards the
completion of this report.
We are thankful to our volunteers who assisted in a variety of capacities to have this research
project completed.
We are thankful to all women and men who participated in this research study.
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Executive Summary
The research study titled Troubled Marriages in Sikh Community in Canada was an attempt
towards the development of a comprehensive service delivery system for this minority group to
tackle discrimination in their marriages. This internet based research is an exploratory study
taken with the objectives of determining the complex issues covering the marriage complications
in Sikh couples; study indicates many different issues and values for trouble marriages.
Research study was developed to identify the supportive recommendation, to discuss about the
different issues and to generate a momentum to talk about the issues in the community.
Methodology
The broad aims of the study are to gather and assess the availability of the evidence for the
community awareness
The first part of the research approach was to look at the informational pattern regardingthe culture and the community.
The research study involved Sikh community residing in Canada. The study comprisedparticipant who accepted to share their personal feelings about their relationship.
In-depth analysis encrypted to understand the issues and the problems related indissatisfaction of being married.
Definite patterns are seemed to involve in the broken marriages.Major Findings
The discrete analysis of the survey brings out the amazing results that are the major concern for
the married couples. The study analyse the fact, that majority of the participant were dissatisfied
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in their marriages and indentifies of being abuse in their relationship. Majority of participant
indicates too much of in-law interference as the biggest reason for the separation or divorce in
the marriages. Issues such as social and psychological abuse are also the major concern.
The detailed findings are complied in the report.
Major Recommendations
The study suggests the following actions to be implemented in the relationship:
Stop interference of the in-laws in the marriage life. Formal counselling by the Social Worker within the community i.e. Sikh Counsellor. (i.e.
due to language and culture barrier)
Time share, honesty and mutual understanding between the couples. Educating and spreading awareness about the abuse relations. Open mind to discuss the issues with opposite partner.
Outcome
The research study helped to identify the need to develop supportive mechanisms for Sikh
couples who experience difficulties in their married life.
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Survey Analysis:
Total of 120 people were participant in the survey. Out of which 62 were female and 58 weremale.
68 respondents were between ages of 31 to 50. The majority of the respondents were from Canada. The majority of the respondents were belonging to Sikh Religion. The majority of the respondents were married. The majority of the marriages were no inter-faith, inter-racial or same sex marriage. 55.6% of respondent were having problems in their married life. 54.5% were seeking informal counselling from priests, friends, relatives or elders. 45.5%
were under formal counselling.
Majority of 54.3% respondents were seeking problems dues to, too much of in-lawsinterferences and their spouse listening to their own family.
34.8% of the respondents experiencing physical violence in their relations. 37% of the respondents identify having too much of values differences in their relations. 30.4% of the respondents agree that their partner does not stand beside when accusations
are levelled against them.
67.6% of the respondents are separated and 65.1% seek informal counselling. 73.5% gets informal counselling by Parents, 64.7% by Relatives, 32.4% from Elders, 47.1%
from Friends and 23.5% from Work Colleagues.
77.8% demand to get counselling from Social Workers, 44.4% from Marriage counsellor andonly 16.7% from Psychologists.
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67.6% identifies that their spouse listening to own relatives as the major reason for theirseparation.
61.8% the violent abuse and 44.1% due to non- compatibility in the relation are the majorissues in their unsuccessful marriage.
95.2% identifies that the Sikh religion is the one among every religion were marriages fallapart.
83.8% identifies too much interference from the in-laws as the major reason for theirmarriage failure.
73.7% agrees that Physical abuse also failed their marriages. It is follow by 56.6% due toexternal affair, 61.65 due to addictions (alcohol or drugs) , 53.5% was marriage of convince
(i.e. married to come Canada)
76% of Sikh couples seek informal counselling. 83.1% from relatives, 62.7% from friends,44.6% from elders and 16.9% from family Physician
82.1% agrees to get formal counselling from Marriage counsellor, 60.7% by Social Worker. 87.1% prefers Sikh Counsellors over Mainstream counsellors. 92.2% suggest that spending time with spouses save marriages.
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Troubled Marriage in the Sikh Community in Canada
1. AreyouaSikh?
2. AreyouMaleorFemale?
3. Areyoubetweentheages?
0.00%
20.00%
40.00%
60.00%
80.00%
100.00%
Yes No
90.8%
9.2%
Male,
48.30%
Female
,
51.70%
0.00%
10.00%
20.00%
30.00%
40.00%
50.00%
60.00%
1830 3150 5171 Above71
57.1%
26.1
16.8
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4. AreyouresidinginCanada?
5. Areyoumarried,livingincommonlaw,orlivingtogether?
6. Wasthisanarrangemarriage?
0.00%
20.00%
40.00%
60.00%
80.00%
100.00%
Yes No
10.8%
89.2%
0.00%
20.00%
40.00%
60.00%
80.00%
100.00%
Yes No
83.9
10.8%
no
2%
Yes
98%
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7. IsthisanInterfaithmarriage?(betweentworeligion)
8. Isthisaninterracialmarriage?(betweentworaces)
9. Isthisasamesexmarriage?
0.00%
20.00%
40.00%
60.00%
80.00%
100.00%
yes no
Response
Perc
ent
89.9%
0.00%
20.00%
40.00%
60.00%
80.00%
100.00%
120.00%
yes noR
esponse
Percent
97.5%
0.00%
20.00%
40.00%
60.00%
80.00%
100.00%
120.00%
yes no
Respone
Percent
97.6%
10.1%
2.5%
2.4%
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10.Areyouexperiencingmarriageproblem?
11.Ifyes,areyouseekingmarriagecounselling?
12.Ifyes,areyouseekinginformalorformalcounselling?
Yes
55.6%
No
44.4%
0.00%
10.00%
20.00%
30.00%
40.00%
50.00%
60.00%
70.00%
Yes No
Respnse
Percent
35.2%
64.8%
40.00%
42.00%
44.00%46.00%
48.00%
50.00%
52.00%
54.00%
56.00%
infromal(Priest,friends,
relatives,elders)
Formal(SocialWorker,
marriagecounsellors,
psycologists,psychiatris)
54.5%
45.5%
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13.Areyou..................
14.Didyouseekinformalcounselling?
0.00%
10.00%
20.00%
30.00%
40.00%
50.00%
60.00%
70.00%
SeperatedDivorced
32.4%
0.00% 10.00% 20.00% 30.00% 40.00% 50.00% 60.00% 70.00%
Yes
No 34.9%
65.1%
67.6%
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15.Whatarethereasonsofyourmarriageproblems?
Spousedoesnot
standbesideme
when"accusations"
areleveledagainst
mebytherelatives,
47.10%
Spouselisteningtoown
parents,sistersor
brothers,67.60%
Spousebecomesviolent
afterdrinkingor
consumingdrugs,
35.30%
Spousesidingwith
children,38.20%
Spousehavingan
affair,32.40%
Spouse overwork,
17.60%
Spouseaway
from
home
formorethantwodays/
week,17.60%
Oneor both
spousesengagedin
shiftwork,20.60%
Spouse
addictedto
alcoholor
drugs,32.40%
Spousebecomesviolent
,61.80%
Toomuchofinlaws
interference,58.80%
Toomuchvalues
differencebetween
spouses,50%
Spousesnolonger
compatible,44.10%
marriageproblemsas
resultofImmigration
issuse,11.80% Spouse
demanding
drowy,
23.50%
Marriageof
convience,14.70%
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16.Whocounselledyouinformallyinitially?
17.Didyouseekformal(Professional)counselling?
18.Didyouseekformalcounsellingfrom..............?
0.00%
10.00%
20.00%
30.00%
40.00%
50.00%
60.00%
70.00%
80.00%
Parents Relatives Elders Friends Work
Colleagues
64.7%
32.4% 47.1%
23.5%
41.50%
58.50%
Yes No
Social
Worker
56%Marriage
Counsellor
32%
Psycholog
ist
12%
ChartTitle
73.5%
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19.Whatwerethereasonsforyouseparation/divorce?
Spousedoesnot
standbesideme
when
"accusations"are
leveledagainstme
bytherelatives
47.1%Spouselisteningtoown
parents,sistersor
brothers
67.6%
Spousebecomes
violentafterdrinkingor
consumingdrugs
35.3%
Spousesiding
with
children
38.2%
Spousehavingan
affair
32.4%
Spouse
overwork
17.6%
Spouseawayfrom
homeformorethan
twodays/week
17.6%
Oneor bothspouses
engagedinshiftwork
20.6%
Spouse
addictedto
alcohol
or
drugs
32.4%
Spousebecomes
violent
61.8%
Toomuchofinlaws
interference
58.8%
Toomuchvalues
differencebetween
spouses
50%
Spousesnolonger
compatible44.1%
marriageproblems
asresultof
Immigrationissuse
11.8%
Spousedemanding
drowy
23.5%
Marriageof
convience
14.7%
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20.Ineveryreligionmarriagefallapart,isthistruefortheSikhreligioninCanada?
21.Do
you
think
Sikh
couples
seek
informal
counselling?
22.Ifyes,fromwhom;
0.00% 20.00% 40.00% 60.00% 80.00% 100.00%
Yes
No
95.2%
4.8%
0% 20% 40% 60% 80%
Yes
No24.0%
76.0%
0% 20% 40% 60% 80% 100%
Priest
Elders
Relatives
friends
FamilyDoctors 16.9%
62.7%
83.1%
44.6%
12.0%
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23.WhatarethereasonsfortheFailedmarriages?
Spousebecome
violentafterdrinking
ortakingdrugs,
73.70%
Childrenarethe
sourcesofconflict
betweenspouses,
43.40%
Oneorbothspouses
havinganaffair,
56.60%
Oneor bothspouses
engagedinshift
work,52.50%
Spouseaway
fromhomefor
morethantwo
days/week,
35.40%
Oneorbothspouses
areoverworked no
timeforeachother,
38.40%
Spousesaddictedto
alcoholordrugs,
61.60%
Spouseisviolent
towardtheother,
60.60%
Toomuch
interferencefromIn
laws,83.80%
Valuedifference,
61.60%
Nolongercomatible,
46.50%
Immigrationissuse
arethemaon
contention,42.40%
Spouse
demanding
dowry,43.40%
Marriageof
covienence(
marriedto
come
Canada),
53.50%
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24.DoyouthinkSikhcouplesseekformalcounselling?
25.Ifyes,fromwhom?
26.WouldSikhcouplespreferaSikhmarriagecounsellorfromanothermainstreamcommunity?
0.00% 20.00% 40.00% 60.00% 80.00%
Yes
No 73.8%
26.2%
Marriage
Counselor,
82.10%
Social
Worker,
60.70%
Psycologist,
21.40%
Psychiatrist,
25.20%
Sikh
Counsellor,
87.10%
Mainstream
Counsellors,
12.90%
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27.Whatareyoursuggestionsforastrongmarriage?
spendtimewithyour
spouse,92.20%
Takecareofyour
spouse,82.50%
Berespectfultoyour
spouse,90.30%
Beresponsibleto
yourspouse,82.50%be
honest
to
your
spouse,90.30%
communicate
respectfullywith
yourspouse,89.30%
ForgiveandForgetto
yourspouse,74.80%
Tkecareofyour
childrenfirstand
foremost,74.80%
Stayintouchwith
yourreligion,74.80%
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Conclusion
On the basis of the study analysis following conclusion emerged
1. Developed the formal marriage counselling programs for Sikh couples.2.
Education and awareness programsa. Understanding the legal system
b. Understanding the social work systemc. Understanding the family involvement in the martial disputes.d. Understanding the importance of time-share as a vital code for healthy
relationship.
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