dilbert versus godzilla - how to prepare yourself to deal with monsters in the workplace
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Who hasn't encountered someone agressive, nasty, or mean in the workplace? This presentation provides proven techniques for dealing with monsters...even if that monster is you!TRANSCRIPT
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Dilbert Versus GodzillaDilbert Versus Godzilla
How to prepare yourself to deal with monsters in the workplace...
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Warning SignsWarning Signs Threatening posture
(in-your-face) Red face Lowered voice Talking through
clenched teeth Condescending tone Balled fists Slamming doors or
drawers
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Underlying Causes of ConflictUnderlying Causes of Conflict
Hurt Shame Frustration
Embarrassment Fear
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10 Conflict Fears10 Conflict Fears
1. Harm2. Rejection3. Loss of relationship4. Anger5. Failing6. Being seen as
selfish
7. Saying the wrong thing
8. Hurting someone else
9. Getting what you want: success
People avoid conflict because they fear....
10. Intimacy
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7 Conflict Choices
1. Avoidance2. Giving in3. Bully4. Compromise
5. Honor6. Passive-aggressive7. Problem solve
together
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BreakoutBreakout
Organize into small groups of 4-5. Take about 3 minutes each to highlight your most horrific work-related conflict and how you reacted
Decide among yourselves whose story is the most awesome and be ready to share with the room
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Horror Stories RevisitedHorror Stories Revisited Let’s hear from
each table. Which is the
most awesome story?
How could the situation have been resolved differently?
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Recognizing GodzillaRecognizing Godzilla
What happened or was the catalyst? What were you saying to yourself that
upset you? How did you feel about the event? What did you do in response to the
event? Is your mental response to the event
helping or hurting?
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Techniques for CopingTechniques for Coping Face the conflict Other’s perceptions are more
important than our reality Think your way through doing and not
doing something Circumnavigate facing the conflict
directly Build on small successes Be courageous and tenacious
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5 P’s of Group Escalation5 P’s of Group Escalation
1. Prevent further escalation by listening first
2. Provide an organized and timed forum for discussion
3. Present possible options for resolution
4. Project confidence in the group’s ability to reach a resolution
5. Produce by promising and delivering
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““Vent If You’re Bent...”Vent If You’re Bent...”
1. Offer to listen to a 2-minute rant.2. If needed, offer another minute.3. Don’t interrupt the person.4. Don’t tell them to calm down.5. Be empathetic...”You might be right.”6. Paraphrase what they’re saying.7. Don’t take responsibility for something that
isn’t yours.
According to Michael Staver, practice the following technique to defuse anger...
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Playing RefereePlaying Referee
Ask permission before getting involved or you may become the focus of the anger
Stay detached and remain neutral Focus on issues, not just the signs Don’t assume you know the answer Formulate an action plan
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Conflict ManagementConflict Management
Acknowledge responsibility
Seek help andchange your behavior
If you’re Godzilla:
Avoid excuse making
Forgive yourselffor being human
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Conflict ManagementConflict Management
Look and listen for escalations
Maintain confidence and assertiveness
If they’re Godzilla: Report all threats Continue normal
work patterns Allow discussion
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ConclusionConclusion
Responding to conflict effectively can bring peace and promote better
relationships
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ReferencesReferences “Dilbert” by Scott Adams www.dilbert.com “Barry’s Temple of Godzilla” www.godzillatemple.com Mastering Your Message – Conflict Resolution by Dr.
Tony Alessandra Lifescripts: What to Say to Get What You Want in
Life's Toughest Situations by Stephen M. Pollan and Mark Levine
21 Ways to Defuse Anger and Calm People Down by Michael Staver
A Coward’s Guide to Conflict by Tim Ursiny, Ph.D. Problem Solving and Decision Making – Handling
Conflict and Dealing with Change by Thomas J. Winninger, CPAE
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Contact InformationContact Information
Mary R. Van Brink Van Brink Systems, Inc. Cell: 678-313-6200 LinkedIn:
http://www.linkedin.com/pub/mary-van-brink/0/8b9/835
Email: [email protected]