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Dealing With Difficult Personalities
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Objectives
In this seminar, we will …
• Discuss what a ‘difficult person’ is
• Identify common types of difficult people
• Gain an understanding of peoples’ motivations and needs
• Learn TIPS for dealing with difficult people
• Recognize areas for personal development!
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What is a ‘Difficult Person’?
Difficult behaviour:
Bothers YOU personally, but may not bother everyone, may not be constant, and isn’t universally negative. A ‘difficult person’:
Is someone who exhibits difficult behaviour in a way that bothers MANY people, MOST of the time, and is most often unhelpful or disruptive.
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Types of Difficult Personalities
Bully Gossip
People
Pleaser
Martyr Complainer
Know-It-All
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Aggressive
More
Passive
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Bully
Motivations: POWER and LOOKING GOOD
Behaviours: Aggressive, arrogant, pushy, rude & demeaning
Helpful Tips:
• Stand up to bullying behaviour
• Respond to friendly overtures
• Don’t embarrass them
• Get the result by sharing the credit
• Stroke their ego
• Remind them to be a ‘team-player’
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Gossip
Motivations: ATTENTION and POPULARITY
Behaviours: Gossiping, backstabbing, attention-seeking
Helpful Tips:
• Share your discomfort with gossiping
• Don’t confide in them
• Don’t participate in listening to their stories
• Defend the people who aren’t present
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People Pleaser
Motivations: HELPING OTHERS and BEING LIKED
Behaviours: Passive, over committing, indecisive
Helpful Tips: • Challenge their over-commitments
• Encourage them to express their displeasure
• Coach them to stand up for themselves
• Help them to recognize when others are taking advantage
• Teach them to say ‘no’
• Remind them they can’t please everyone
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Martyr
Motivations: SYMPATHY and ATTENTION
Behaviours: Complain, melodramatic, attention-seekers
Helpful Tips:
• Cautiously offer empathy
• Say ‘no’ to their volunteering
• Help them to manage their time better
• Do not fall into the trap of feeling guilty
• Recognize any truth in their complaints and fix the situation
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Complainer
Motivations: MISERY LOVES COMPANY
Behaviours: Complaining, negativity, critical of others, worrier
Helpful Tips:
• Create an environment where complainer feels heard
• Listen without passing judgment
• Assign them to problem-solving tasks
• Protect your own attitude
• Don’t join and begin to complain yourself
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Know-It-All
Motivations: EGO, ACCURACY and CONTROL
Behaviours: Arrogant, perfectionist, wants their way, nit-picky
Helpful Tips: • Don’t be too quick to dismiss the ideas
• Acknowledge their expertise
• Know your facts
• Point out errors with care and diplomacy
• Try not to point out your own credentials & expertise
• If you think you’re right, don’t let them dominate the conversation
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General Coping Strategies
Give up the need to be right
Find some truth in the complaint/problem and admit it
Do not defend yourself
Regain control by stopping the exchange
Get help from co-worker, manager, etc.
See the positive side in others…
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See the Positive Side in Others
Every personality has inherent strengths and weaknesses…
Bully: Confident, perseverance, outgoing
Gossip: Social, makes connections
People-Pleaser: Always helps out, agreeable, nurturing
Martyr: Voices inequities in employee treatment
Complainer: ‘Devils Advocate’, spots mistakes
Know-it-All: Accurate, thorough, has expertise
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Is it possible that YOU are a ‘difficult person’ at times?
• Does any difficult “type” sound familiar to YOU?
• Ask your Manager directly for input and feedback.
• Do you have room for improvement?
• Which behaviours do you currently exhibit?
• What is one behaviour that you resolve to STOP DOING?
How Can YOU Improve?
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Summary
In this seminar, you have learned…
• What a ‘difficult person’ is
• To identify different types of difficult people
• To understand their motivations and needs
• Tips on dealing with difficult people
• To recognize areas of personal development
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Questions