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Dealing with an Emotional Affair – How to Cope When You Have Uncovered an Emotional Affair http://www.saving-relationships.com In today’s world of social media and technology, the number of people dealing with an emotional affair is as high as it has ever been. How to cope when you have uncovered an emotional affair being had by your spouse is a question that I get very frequently.

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In today’s world of social media and technology, the number of people dealing with an emotional affair is as high as it has ever been. How to cope when you have uncovered an emotional affair being had by your spouse is a question that I get very frequently.

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Dealing with an Emotional Affair – How to Cope When You Have Uncovered an Emotional Affair

http://www.saving-relationships.com

In today’s world of social media and technology, the number of people dealing with an emotional affair is as high as it has ever been. How to cope when you have uncovered an emotional affair being had by your spouse is a question that I get very frequently.

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If you are reading this, chances are you just made the discovery. Perhaps you felt as though your spouse or significant other was just not as completely plugged into your relationship as they had once been. That they were not giving you the same attention as they were earlier in your relationship. Perhaps they seemed aloof.

Often it is that feeling of lack of attention or appreciation that leads one to become tempted to check into their spouse’s texts, or Facebook, or emails. And this is when you may have made a discovery that floored you.

In learning how to deal with an emotional affair, you must first examine it closer.

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How Do I Deal With the Effects of an Emotional Relationship?

Once you have discovered a relationship that your spouse is having with someone else, you are most likely experiencing a range of emotions. Anger is certainly one of the most common, but it can also be accompanied by guilt and/or sadness.

Making this discovery can be a bit of a double-edged sword. You are hurt and feel betrayed but what you have uncovered, but feel guilty and even ashamed that you went through your spouse’s correspondence in the first place. It is not at all uncommon to wrestle with these conflicting emotions at this point. But clearly you felt led to take these actions and had a need to know the truth based on the deficiencies you felt in your relationship.

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Defining an Emotional Relationship

Defining an emotional relationship can often be a tricky thing. Often the offending spouse does not see things in the same light as those they are cheating on. The bottom line, if your spouse has developed a relationship with someone that has a high degree of intensity, it is most likely an emotional affair.

When this happens and your spouse has created an emotionally intimate connection with someone other than yourself, the intimacy that rightfully belongs within the confines of your own marriage gets diminished. This is intimacy that should not extend beyond the walls of your own relationship.

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Often when someone confronts their spouse with this newfound information, the immediate reaction is to become defensive. They may question you as to whether they are not allowed to have any friends outside of your marriage. They may just claim it is harmless flirting. But the bottom line is when someone goes outside of the relationship for fulfillment, whether it is sexual or emotional, it is considering cheating because it is not being sought after within your own marriage or relationship.

Still, you may be questioning whether or not you are right to be hurt by what you read or heard. Here are a few questions that can help you to further define whether or not what you uncovered was indeed an emotional affair:

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1) Is Your Spouse Concealing the Relationship, or Being Open About It?

When your spouse gets a text or message, do they announce it to you at least on occasion, or maybe even read it to you? Or do they never mention anything about it or even go to lengths to conceal the messages from you?

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1) Is Your Spouse Concealing the Relationship, or Being Open About It?

When your spouse gets a text or message, do they announce it to you at least on occasion, or maybe even read it to you? Or do they never mention anything about it or even go to lengths to conceal the messages from you?

2) Is Your Spouse Indicating a Certain Connection?

Another symptom or indicator of an emotional affair is that your spouse might imply that they feel special with the other person. They may even make reference to the fact that the other person just “get’s them” or really appreciates their sense of humor.

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3) Does Your Spouse React in a Guilty Fashion?

In just about every case, the cheater knows that their actions are wrong. Most people feel that having an intimate relationship outside of a marriage is not the right thing to do and often hide the fact that it is going on. That is one reason that it is common for the cheater to go on the attack when confronted with the discovery of the relationship, or at the very least become very defensive.

The bottom line is that both partners in a marriage need to be aware and conscious of actions that could damage the intimate connection that exists between each other.

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Taylor Ranidae is passionate about love and relationships and writes articles focusing on helping people save their relationships and marriages. Her articles are a must read for anyone who is looking to either salvage or further enhance their relationship.

This is just a quick overview to help you to understand the first steps to dealing with an emotional affair. To help fully overcome the affair and restore your marriage, I strongly recommend for you to download this FREE course from Dr. Frank Gunzburg. Click here now for instant access.