Dealing with A Broken HeartRelationships come and go, it is a normal part of life. While relationships can be great sometimes they have to come to an end which can leave one person or the other with a broken heart. Sometimes the break ups can seem to come out of no where which not only leaves us with a broken heart but also stumbling to regain our composure after being knocked down. How does one get over that ex boyfriend or girlfriend? How can a person move on with life? How does a person get over a broken heart? First and foremost, keep your thoughts positive. While a broken heart may hurt never think that your life is over. A lot of people go through this everyday. You are not alone. After a break up always implement the NC (No Contact) rule. It is best to end your relationship with a clean and simple break. Speaking and/or seeing each other after a break up only helps to prolong the heart break. Reconnect with old friends. Sometimes during a relationship we forget about our friends. Start talking to as many of your friends as you can.

By Deepa Kartha

Books can be useful in a breakup because they allow you to escape reality briefly and visit someone else’s world. Once you have had the proper amount of grieving time then it is time to get back into the dating scene. Start slow and don’t jump in head first. You don’t want to rush anything. While a broken heart can hurt pretty bad just remember, this isn’t the end of the world. Keep your head up and your mind off of your ex and you should come out of it with flying colors. When two people are in a relationship, it is very likely that they spend most of the time talking on the phone or chatting. This can become an addiction where you might think that you cannot stay without talking to him/her. However, once you break up with your partner, the first thing you have to do is to shut all the contact with your ex. My friends were instrumental in my survival (even if they contributed to a few hangovers in the process).

Many couples end their relationship by saying ‘let’s be friends’. However, this does not always work, as old memories may start creeping up every time you speak with him/her, leaving you with more pain. So the best thing to do is to stop calling or taking you ex’s call, which would help in healing your broken heart. Isolating yourself for some days can also be helpful to mend a broken heart. During this period, you may be filled with different emotions like anger, frustration, sadness, etc. You may be in an analyzing mode and would think about what went wrong in your relationship. Try to learn from the mistakes, but do not blame yourself for the breakup. Do things that would help you in relieving your emotions. Cry if you want to, as crying is believed to be a good way of easing one’s pain. Plus, hopefully, your friends offer voices of reason when your inner voice is unreasonable.

Though it is necessary to be alone, it does not mean that you have to remain a recluse for the rest of your life. The best people to help you in dealing with a broken heart are your friends and family. Talk to them and let out all your woes, they will surely understand you. Make plans to go out with friends and enjoy. Another way to get over a broken heart is keeping oneself occupied. If you sit in your room and brood on what happened, you will never be able to come out of it. So, do something that interests you and will keep you busy. Take up a hobby or join some course to learning a new skill, for instance a foreign language class, dance class, etc. Once you start taking interest in some new activity, there would be no time to think about old things. Shopping is another great idea to get over a relationship break up.

Shopping is said to act as a stress buster for women, however it can also be applied to men. You can either go on shopping spree, and if you have enough money, buy something that you always wanted. For instance, a house, car, musical instrument, etc. Indulge and pamper yourself and this will surely make you feel good about yourself. A broken relationship does not mean that your life is over. Start socializing and you will surely meet new and interesting people who can help you in dealing with a broken heart and forgetting old memories. Every relation-ship teaches a person important lessons, and counting them as valuable experi-ences, one should make a fresh beginning.