crucial conversations
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A summary of famous book on handling Crucial Conversations.TRANSCRIPT
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Crucial Conversations based on the book by:By Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan and Al Switzler
Geraldine Roberts-MooreWendy ZdebRochester Community Schools
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Crucial ConversationsWhat makes a conversation crucial vs. typical?First, opinions varySecond, the stakes are highThird, emotions run strong
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Crucial Conversations How do we typically handle crucial conversations:We can avoid themWe can face them and handle them poorlyWe can face them and handle them well
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Crucial ConversationsWhy dont crucial conversations tend to go well?Emotions tend to ruleYour body physically reactsWe are under pressureWe are stumpedWe act in self defeating ways
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Crucial ConversationsCommon Crucial ConversationsEnding a relationshipAsking a friend to repay a loanGiving the boss feedback about her behaviorCritiquing a colleagues workTalking to a team member who isnt keeping commitmentsTalking to a colleague who is hoarding information or resources
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Crucial ConversationsWhy it is important to master crucial conversation skills:Kick Start Your CareerImprove Your OrganizationImprove Your RelationshipsRevitalize Your CommunityImprove Your Personal Health
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Crucial Conversations
There are 8 Principles and Skills
See your chart in the handouts
Review the Law of Crucial Conversations graphic
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Get Unstuck
Spot the conversations that are keeping you stuck
Hold the right crucial conversation with CPR
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Get UnstuckPartner Discussion:What conversations am I not holding or not holding well?Share an example of a conversation which is long overdue.
Am I holding the right crucial conversations?
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Start with Heart
Work on me first
Focus on what you really want
Refuse the Suckers Choice
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Start with HeartActivity: Watch Video Clip, The Apologyhttps://www.vitalsmarts.com/skillsvideo.aspx
What do I really want? Am I behaving in ways that move me toward what I want?Am I making Suckers Choices?
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Learn to LookLook for when a conversation becomes crucialLook for silence and violenceLearn to look for your own Style Under StressActivity: Watch video clips/ labelhttps://www.vitalsmarts.com/skillsvideo.aspx
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Learn to LookAm I noticing signs that safety is at risk?
Am I moving to my Style Under Pressure?Activity: Take a few minutes to complete the survey independently.- The survey can be submitted/scored on the VitalSmarts website.
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Make It Safe
Apologize when appropriate
Contrast to fix misunderstandings
Create Mutual Purpose
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Make It SafeHave I established Mutual Purpose?Have I maintained respect?
Activity: Watch video clip. Share an example of how we can make it safe for our staff members.https://www.vitalsmarts.com/skillsvideo.aspx
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Master My StoriesSeparate facts from stories
Watch for three clever storiesVictim, Villain and Helpless
Tell the rest of the story
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Master My StoriesAm I pretending not to notice my role in the problem?Why would a reasonable, rational, and decent person do this?What should I do right now to move toward what I really want?Activity: Watch video clip, how could this same example be applied to a school setting?https://www.vitalsmarts.com/skillsvideo.aspx
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STATE My PathSTATE:Share your factsTell your storyAsk for others paths (what)Talk tentativelyEncourage testing (how)
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STATE My PathAm I really open to others views?
Am I confidently expressing my own views?
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Explore Others Paths
Explore with added AMPPs:AskMirrorParaphrasePrime
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Explore Others Paths
Am I actively exploring others views?
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Move to Action
Decide how to decide
Document who does what by when and follow-up
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Move to Action
What is the plan from here?