courage, curiosity, and connection
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Courage, Curiosity, andConnection:
Practical Tools for Creating Space andKeeping Your Head While Navigating a
Changing World
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Introduction
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Getting Stuck in Distress
• Something is going to happen
• That Happening is going to be awful
• That Something is Going to Be My Fault
• (Repeat)
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Tools of the Trade
• Uniqueness of the Practice
• Seek and Present Information
• Work on Your Own
• Avoid Risk and Find Certainty
• Think Criticially (With Skepticism, Pessimism)
• Compete
• Follow the Rules
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How Do You Use the Tools?
• Seek Compensation, Clients, Advancement
• Get Affirmation (from Clients, Decision-makers,Higher-Ups)
• Avoid Blame in a Zero-Sum Game
• Extrinsic and Linear
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How Are The Tools When ThingsDon’t Go As “Planned”?
• When The Rules Change (Or There Are NoRules)?
• In Your Personal Relationships?
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And The New Tools?
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Responses to Distress (Or thePerception of Distress)
• The need to try and control it
• Suffering=Pain x Resistance
• Getting Stuck
• The Open Loop
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What is Missing When Distress Hits?
• The Capability to Manage Emotion
• Space to Consider How to Respond And AdaptRather Than React
• Context/Awareness
• Cooperation/Collaboration/Communication(Listening)
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Another Tool
• Actively notice new things -->puts you inthe present -->makes you aware of context
• Awareness creates space (and vice versa)
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One Definition• Mindlessness- the application of yesterday's
business solutions to today's problems
• Mindfulness- attunement to today'sdemands to avoid tomorrow's problems
• If you want to change it, you have to see itfor what it really is.
- Ellen Langer
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Creativity= Curiosity>Fear
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Be Aware of Your Blind Spots
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Be Aware of Your Blind Spots
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Change Your Mind• Put some space between stimulus and
reaction
• Intrinsic Rewards
– Get quiet
– Get outside
– Get on a different schedule
– Get out and play
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Fight Perfectionism
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A Plug For Work-LifeIntegration
• Treat yourself, at work or play, the sameway
• "You must have work-life balance"
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Create Space in Your Day(Build Energy)
• Exercise
• Leisure Time – Flow
• Reduce Distractions/Build Habits andRoutines
• Allow for Rest and Recovery
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Get Some Space from Your andComputer Technology
• Attention Is Fuel, Fallible, andFinite
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What Fuels/PreservesAttention?
• Fewer Decisions
• Fewer Distractions
• Sustained Focus/Awareness
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Make Space for the Good Stuff
• Document a Process Well One Time,Never Have to Document it Again
• Documenting a Process- Fewer ?s
• Accept coaching and criticism
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Benefits of Checklists(Documented Processes)
• Delegates
• Reduces Mistakes
• Promotes and Standardizes Best Practices
• Stays with the Organization
• Encourages Revision and Improvement
• Capable of Application in Other Areas
• Rewards Input and Collaboration
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Create Space with ComputerTools
• Evernote
• Headspace
• Moment
• Podcasts
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Find Some Space By Giving Time(Connect)
• Be Generous of Your Time and Your Knowledge- WithoutExpecting Anything in Return
• If You Are Taking Care of Yourself, You Will Take Careof Others
• Build Empathy
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Questions?Jack PringleAdams and Reese LLP(803) 343-1270
[email protected]@jjpringleschttp://pringlepracticeblog.blogspot.com
1501 Main Street, 5th FloorColumbia, SC 29201www.adamsandreese.com
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Resources• Baba Shiv, How Do You Find Breakthrough Ideas?, Stanford Graduate
School of Business, http://www.gsb.stanford.edu/insights/baba-shiv-how-do-you-find-breakthrough-ideas
• The Resilient Lawyer http://theanxiouslawyer.com/rl-23-jack-pringle/
• Farnham Street https://www.farnamstreetblog.com/
• One You Feed With Michael Taft http://www.oneyoufeed.net/michael-taft/
• Tim Ferris with Brene Brownhttp://fourhourworkweek.com/2015/08/28/brene-brown-on-vulnerability-and-home-run-ted-talks/
• On Being With Ellen Langer http://www.onbeing.org/program/ellen-langer-science-of-mindlessness-and-mindfulness/6332
• You Are Not So Smart http://youarenotsosmart.libsyn.com/062-naive-realism-lee-ross-0
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More Resources
The Checklist Manifesto: How to Get Things Right, by Atul Gawande
http://www.amazon.com/Checklist-Manifesto-How-Things-Right/dp/0312430000
Smarter Than You Think: How Technology is Changing Our Minds for the Better,by Clive Thompson
http://www.amazon.com/Smarter-Than-You-Think-Technology/dp/1594204454
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D
http://www.amazon.com/Mindset-Psychology-Success-Carol-Dweck/dp/0345472322
Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success, by Adam Grant
http://www.amazon.com/Give-Take-Helping-Others-Success/dp/0143124986