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Acknowledgements

anti-Virus

The Virus 1

The AnTi-Virus 6

ChAllenge To ChAnge 10

PrinCiPles 14

ambition 16

responsibility 22

attitude 28

hard Work 34

Proper thinking 40

Pressure 46

emotions 52

restraint 58

goals 64

savings 70

common sense 76

generosity 82

contents

the

VirusThe United States has built a society where people have the freedom to live, workand make a prosperous life. This freedom depends on people obeying laws andrespecting the rights of others. People that do not respect the laws or the individualvalue of each person challenges our society and our freedoms. This challenge growsand spreads like a virus that gains strength as more and more people come intocontact with it. In order to fight the corrupting virus, some communities pass morelaws. Their goal is to punish lawbreakers and hopefully prevent others frombreaking the law. But many times we hear people, even good people, say, "Lawswere meant to be broken" or "If they don't catch me, what's the problem?" Theiractions, the choices they make, the laws they ignore speak louder than words.

The virus of corruption spreads several ways. We may go to school or work withpeople who have the virus and we come into direct contact with it. Sometimes we justsee people in the community or on the nightly news breaking laws and takingadvantage of innocent people - this indirect contact is still contagious and impactsmany people's lives. We may be infected and not even realize it. Perhaps we have notrecognized the early symptoms, or perhaps the virus has not shown itself yet. Someviruses, like HIV/AIDS can live in our body for many years before we become sick.

This book will help you find out if you have been infected with the virus ofcorruption. It will also help you discover the treatment and the anti-virus to protectyourself against further infection.

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We are seeing a lack of respect for the law. The success of a

democracy depends on people obeying laws whether the police are

present or not. “WE” are the government.

We have lost our basic moral values and we do not have the same

understanding of what is right and wrong. Moral behavior is no longer

believed to be an absolute, (something that does not change).

Instead, we think morality depends on the situation or the

circumstances. When situations are difficult or emotional, we base

our actions on whatever is necessary to get ahead rather than

morality.

We are strongly influenced by our friends and social groups. Whether

we have one friend at school or two hundred, acceptance by other

people often motivates us to disobey parents, disrespect teachers

and violate morals.

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Reasons for the Virus

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3

Important Definitions:

virus

Webster states that a virus is a corrupting influence on morals or the intellect.

It is a type of poison, which is contagious.

ePidemic

A virus out of control becomes an epidemic. Many people within a society are

exposed to the virus of corruption. Those without protection become infected

and they will suffer the consequences as well as continue to spread it.

PrinciPles

A system of absolutes and norms that will shape one’s behavior. Principles

are absolutes developed within you to help you know, in your mind, what is

right. Principles get stronger in your life each time you follow them.

values

A system of beliefs we develop as we grow up. Our family and friends

influence what we beileve is important in life. All the things we value (a home,

car, family, etc ...) become part of our belief system.

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the

Virus

Behaviors that spread the Virus

Behavior Quantity Description

corruPt a few

They have very clear

purposes, create and spread

the virus.

AccomPlice SoMe

They support corruption and

share the benefits without

getting directly involved.

confusedThe

MajoriTy

They try to resist the virus,

but seeing the apparent

prosperity of the corrupt they

question if doing the right

thing actually matters.

indifferent Several

They are not in agreement

with corrupt behavior, but

they do not take any action

to stop it.

PrinciPled Many

They are the ones doing the

right thing and enjoying the

benefits that go with this life.

Being principles protects

you from the virus and you

do not spread it to others.

5 types of behavior:

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Virus or Epidemic?

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

a great civilization is not conquered from

without until it has destroyed itself from within.

~ ariel Durant

Each person only looks out for his/her own benefit and we do not

think of ourselves as part of a community or accept responsibilty

to protect our community.

Rights and freedom do not come without responsibilities. Every

time someone does something wrong to us, we defend ourselves,

but when dealing with our parents, teachers and classmates we

mock, ignore or disobey them. We are only interested in our own

rights and no one else’s.

We have become very self-centered and think everything should

revolve around us. If we cannot see how things directly affect our

lives, then we are not interested.

The main purpose of our relationships is self-serving - we want to

receive and not give. We think only in terms of getting our wants

and needs met with no concern for others.

We are a generation without vision and specific goals. We do not

weigh the consequences of our actions even when they bring pain

and suffering to others.

Impact of Leadership

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When people infected with the virus become leaders everyone

eventually suffers. Instead of being concerned with the needs

of the students or the community, leaders infected with the virus

are only concerned about themselves. They seek fame,

popularity and awards that look good on future applications.

The needs of the school or community go unmet and the

infected leader becomes a model that many follow.

Have you had the opportunity to be a leader?

What do you expect from others? And from yourself?

At school there are many opportunities for leaders to have a

good influence. These are just a few:

Help the students show respect towards each other

Focus attention on a social issue that affects the community.

Help create a sense of community within the student body.

Good leaders are principled in their behavior. This means they

have already decided to do what is right before they hear the

details of a situation. They have pure motives, and are not

concerned with fame, fortune or power. Good leaders want

what is right and they always think about the effect their actions

have on others. Good leaders become an anti-virus!

“use power to help people because we have been

given power, not to achieve our own goals or to show

ourselves to the world and obtain a famous name.

the only purpose for power is to serve the people.”

George h. W. Bush

the

Virus

>>>>

>>

is the Virus

inFecting us?

What is the answer?

young people fighting

corruption in society by living

with integrity.

the anti-Virus

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a solid opposition to a corrupt society will definitively

reduce its influence.

Be part of the Anti-Virus!

It is you who must choose to show INTEGRITY in every

area of your life. Whether you are in public or alone, with

influential people or those less fortunate than yourself,

always stand up for what is right.

Change will never come from others. It will only come from

you! Do not expect those around you to take the lead in

doing what is right.

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the anti-VirusYoung PeoPle fighTing CorruPTion in soCieTY bY

liVing wiTh inTegriTY.

do not expect change from the people around you.

You must change first!

if we are people of integrity, we will be

Successful!

"a successful person simply has haBits of

DoinG thinGs that unsuccessful people

refuse to Do.”

the

Anti-Virus

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The Anti-virus empowers young people to stand against the

virus of dishonesty and corruption. These 12 principles

provide protective shields around your life:

The virus of corruption is highly contagious. Many of us live in

the midst of an outbreak. If we do not intentionally choose to

live life with intergrity, the virus will not only infect us, but our

family and friends as well. If it spreads throughout the

community and nation it will inevitably reach the epidemic

stage. The consequences impact everyone!

Discover the protection of living a principled life ...

Immunize Yourself:

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the

Anti-Virus

Ambition

Responsiblity

Attitude

Hard work

Proper thinking

Pressure

Emotions

Restraint

Goals

Savings

Common Sense

Generosity

challenge

to change

have you ever thought about what you would like to become?

Would you like for people to admire you for who you are?

if you were successful, what would your life be like?

It is not easy to accept challenges and it is not easy to maintain

what we achieve. In order to achieve something good, there is

always a cost.

Many times we neglect things that we should do because we are busy

doing other things that do not bring good results in our life. In order to

achieve your goals you must take advantage of the resources

available to you and not allow obstacles to get in the way. Take a

moment to list some obstacles that are preventing you from reaching

your goals:

Successful people think and act according to principles

everyone can learn. The way you think determines how

successful you will be!

How it works:

Our thoughts reflect our attitude and we adopt those attitudes when

facing life’s situations. When situations come up, good or bad, we act

out those attitudes. If we repeat our actions, our actions become

habits that lead us to results showing our success or failure.

Success depends on your thoughts!

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challenge to change

tHougHts Actions HAbits results

SucceSS!

F a i l u r e

challenge

to chAnge

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Reflection:If you wish to change the life you are living, then you need to

change the way you are thinking.

have your current thoughts brought success to your life?

if you are not acheiving the results you want, now is the

time to change your thinking.

will you accept the challenge to change?

"insanity is to continue to Do the same thinGs

hopinG to oBtain Different results.”

alBert einstein

CirCle all of The following STaTeMenTS ThaT you agree wiTh.

ChooSe one To explain To a parTner.

There is a direct correlation between behavior and rewards.

The responsibility to change begins with me.

When you make changes to better your world, you are in the

perfect place to change the world around you.

The life you live impacts generations.

What makes a difference in your life is not what happens to you,

but how you handle it.

Appreciate what you have instead of complaining about what you

do not have.

If you can believe it, you can achieve it.

What you say influences your thoughts and your behavior.

Discipline is the main ingredient for champions. You will never

become a champion without it.

Activity

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principles

mentor of ambition

thomas alVa edison

(February 11th, 1847 – October 18th, 1931) was an American Inventor and

businessman who developed many devices that greatly influenced life around the

world, including the phonograph and a long lasting light bulb. Dubbed "The Wizard

of Menlo Park" by a newspaper reporter, he was one of the first inventors to apply

the principles of mass production to the process of invention, and therefore is often

credited with the creation of the first industrial research laboratory.

Edison is considered one of the most prolific inventors in history, holding 1,093

U.S. patents in his name, as well as many patents in the United Kingdom, France

and Germany.

Along with his successes he had many failures. He only went to school three

months, his teacher called him “addled.” His inventions and ideas did not always

work out either. The idea of building with cement, putting sound into motion

pictures and coming up with a practical way to mine iron ore were just a few of

these failures. Even the light bulb took him over thirteen months of failure to

achieve success.

“everything comes to him who hustles while he waits.”

“i have not failed. i've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.”

“our greatest weakness lies in giving up. the most certain way to succeed is

always to try just one more time.”

thomas a. edison

Thomas Edison was an incredible inventor that literally gave us light. He failed,

failed and failed again. Only his ambition to succeed carried him through all his

failures. As you can see in his quotes above he was a man of determination and

for that he is our hero of ambition.

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1“A wise youth seizes the day,

but what a shame to see a

young person who sleeps away

his hour of opportunity.”

Ambition

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An obvious character trait of a successful person is their endless ambition.

They are usually known as hard workers, always concerned about getting

things done. Ambition helps them see many opportunities that less ambitious

people miss. They know life may not always go their way, but they always take

advantage of opportunities that come up.

Ambition and greed are not the same thing. Ambition is a desire to be

productive creating a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction when the

work is done. Greed is a desire for personal gain with no concern for the

impact of your actions on the welfare of others.

Ambitious people start their day with a good attitude and think, “It is a good

day and I will make it a productive one.” They do not procrastinate.

There are three ways to develop ambition:

1. Look for opportunities to bring solutions to situations or to meet a need within

your family and friends. Once you find an opportunity, act on it.

2. Consider your skills and interests. As you develop your strengths, you will be

empowered to make a positive impact.

3. Make a plan for what you want to accomplish. As you work your plan, keep

your finished results in mind. Visualize how you will feel when you have met

your goal. This will increase your motivation to keep going.

Facts about Ambition•Opportunities do not necessarily come to us, the diligent person creates

them.

• Opportunities follow the hard working, ambitious and responsible people that

have positive attitudes.

• Ambition does not come from just desiring great things; it is produced when

we have a vision and a purpose.

“a Wise youth seizes the day, but What a

shame to see a young Person Who sleePs

aWay his hour of oPPortunity.”

Ambition

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• In sports, you hear, “The ball didn’t bounce my way.” Ambitious people go

after the ball and make sure the ball comes their way. They create

opportunities by pursuing the ball. Some may claim they are lucky, but

ambitious people do not believe in luck. They only believe in preparation and

opportunity.

Benefits Ambitious people are known by the following characteristics:

• Their positive way of thinking and diligence. This will helps them discover new

opportunities. In order to take advantage of their opportunities they have

made the decision to:

-Plan their work.

-Use time wisely.

-Re-evaluate their performance and their goals on a regular

basis.

-They get a lot done.

• They increase their skills with each successful project.

• They know the truth of the old saying, “If it’s important, we will find the time!”

• They set goals because they see opportunities. They do the work because

they see the need. They plan because they know without a guideline, nothing

will get done.

Steps to Follow 1. Keep yourself motivated by pursuing your dreams and setting goals that

measure your achievements. If you do this, you will find more opportunities

along the way.

2. Go after the ball in the game of life and make opportunities come your way.

3. Be the person that people want to ask to get things done because you are

successful and productive.

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Remember

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Reflect and Respond

What are the benefits of being ambitious?

What creates ambition in you?

What opportunities do you have right now that you

should take advantage of?

1.

2.

3.

Remember

thoughts become actions. actions become

habits. habits become our destiny.

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i. How ambitious are you? 1 is not ambitious, 10 is very ambitious.

ii. Why is it important that other people think you are ambitious?

iii. How can you raise your rating this week?

Activity

Your Parentsemployer/

CoachYour Teacher A friend

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mentor of responsibility

abraham lincolnAbraham Lincoln was born on February 12, 1809 in a small town in Kentucky. He

was the sixteenth president of the United States, serving from March 4, 1861 until his

assassination on April 15, 1865. As an outspoken opponent of the expansion of slavery in

the United States, Lincoln won the Republican Party nomination in 1860 and was elected

president later that year. During his term, he helped preserve the United States by leading

the defeat of the Secessionist Confederate States of America in the Civil War. He

introduced measures that resulted in the abolition of slavery, issuing his Emancipation

Proclamation in 1863 and promoting the passage of the thirteenth amendment to the

Constitution in 1865.

Historians have concluded that he handled the factions of the Republican Party

responsibly, bringing leaders of each faction into his cabinet and forcing them to cooperate.

Lincoln successfully defused a war scare with the United Kingdom in 1861. Additionally, he

managed his own re-election in the 1864 presidential elections.

Opponents of the war (also known as “Copperheads”) criticized him for refusing to

compromise on the slavery issue. Conversely, the Radical Republicans, an abolitionist

faction of the Republican Party, also criticized him for moving too slowly in abolishing

slavery. Even with these roadblocks, Lincoln successfully rallied the public opinion through

his rhetoric and speeches.

He failed as a businessman - a storekeeper.

He failed as a farmer - he despised this work.

He failed in his first attempt to obtain political office.

Abraham Lincoln had his successes, but he had many more failures. It was his responsible

attitude during these failures that led him to become one of the greatest historical figures

the world has ever seen.

"leave nothing for tomorrow which can be done today."

abraham lincoln

If Abraham Lincoln irresponsibly had given up or quit, our country would be much different

today. He led America through one of the darkest times she has ever seen and for that he

is our hero of responsibility.

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2iT is eAsY To dodge our resPonsibiliTies,

buT we CAnnoT AVoid The ConsequenCes

for dodging our resPonsibiliTies.

JosiAh ChArles sTAmP, eConomisT

Responsibility

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The ability to think and the freedom to choose our behavior

is what makes a person independent and capable to be

responsible for their actions. To be responsible means that

you accept the consequences, good or bad, for your

thoughts as well as your actions. A responsible person is one

you can trust. Responsible people are hard to find, but when

you find them you can that see their motivation is different

compared to the rest of the world.

A responsible person wants others to trust in them. They are

willing to prove themselves dependable and stand firm in what

they know is right.They know if they do not follow through on what

they promised, others will be disappointed. Standing behind their

word is more important than personal gain, popularity and

sometimes friendships.

Responsibility motivates us to use our talents and skills to achieve

a better life. For example, a millionaire could kick back and have

a life of leisure with friends and family, but instead he keeps

pressing on to make a difference in life. He does not quit once he

makes millions, he keeps looking for ways to achieve. Some

people may think he is motivated by greed, but it is possible he

simply enjoys the thrill that comes with each success and finding

success where others have failed.

it is easy to dodge our resPonsibilities, but We

cannot avoid the consequences for dodging our

resPonsibilities.

Josiah charles stamP, economist

Responsibility

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BenefitsOthers will identify you as a person of value.

You enjoy doing what is right even when you do not have to do it.

You will gain trust of others because you are dependable. You cannot

ask people to automatically trust you. you earn trust gradually as you

fulfill your commitments. Solid relationships can only be built with

people who are trustworthy.

Ways to show Responsibility:

1. Give your best effort.

2. Do what is right because it is right, not for personal gain.

3. Do not make excuses when you fail to meet expectations and never

blame someone else for your mistakes.

4. Study, learn and grow as a person to be the best person you can be.

5. Plan ahead, be prepared for things that might go wrong or come up

unexpectedly.

6. Once you commit to a project, see it through to the end.

Responsible people frequently go beyond what is asked of them.

They enjoy the rewards and achievements for their responsibility.

They avoid getting involved with what is wrong and destructive.

Responsible people do not struggle with making bad choices

because they are disciplined in choosing what is right.

Responsible people are careful with choosing friends to hang

around with. Keep in mind, people with bad character may

corrupt your good character. Be smart!

Steps to follow:1. Take control over your own life. Be responsible for your character.

2. Become a person that people can trust.

3. Be a solution to problems.

4. Be disciplined. Take care of your health, your time and your money.

5. Be rational. Do not react out of anger or fear.

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Reflect and Respond

Think of a time when you demonstrated responsibility.

Describe the situation and how you felt afterwards.1.

RememberRemember

thoughts become actions. actions become

habits. habit becomes our destiny.

6. Be a good example for your friends and community.

7. Always base your thinking and actions on good ethics and

principles.

Responsibility is one of the most important characteristics in a

person. It is not about how educated you are or how much money

you have in the bank. If you want to succeed in your life, you

must be responsible.

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With a partner, write down six situations that fit into one of the

two categories: Accepting Responsibility (or) Not Accepting

Responsibility. Have your classmates decide which category

most accurately fits the situation.

Here are two examples:

1. You leave young siblings home alone while you go to a

party with friends.

2. Your mother told to empty the trash but a friend drops by

and wants you to go to the mall. You don't want to miss

out on a fun afternoon, so you leave without emptying the

trash figuring it will be there when you return.

3.

4.

5.

6.

Accepting Responsibility Not Accepting Responsibility

For each situation that you put in the Not Accepting

Responsibility category, find a way to change the behavior to

meet the description of the principle of Responsibility.

Activity

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mentor of attitude

albert einstein

(March 14th, 1879 – April 18, 1955) was a German-born physicist. He is best

known for his theory of relativity and specifically mass energy equivalence, E = mc2.

Einstein received the 1921 Nobel Prize in physics "for his services to Theoretical

Physics, and especially for his discovery of the law of the photoelectric effect."

Einstein's many contributions to physics include his special theory of relativity, which

reconciled mechanics with electromagnetism, and his general theory of relativity,

which extended the principle of relativity to non-uniform motion, creating a new

theory of gravitation. His other contributions include relativistic cosmology, capillary

actions, critical opalescence, classical problems of statistical mechanics and their

application to quantum theory, an explanation of the Brownian movement of

molecules, atomic transition probabilities, the quantum theory of a monatomic gas,

thermal properties of light with low radiation density (which laid the foundation for

the photon theory), a theory of radiation including stimulated emission, the

conception of a unified field theory, and the geometrization of physics.

Works by Albert Einstein include more than fifty scientific papers and also non-

scientific books. Einstein is revered by the physics community and in 1999 Time

magazine named him the "Person of the Century.” In wider culture the name

"Einstein" has become synonymous with genius.

“a person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.”

“i have no special talent. i am only passionately curious.”

“it's not that i'm so smart, it's just that i stay with problems longer.”

albert einstein

Einstein is hardly a name associated with failure, yet he dropped out of high school

and failed his college entrance exam. We know he was a genius that shaped the

way our world thinks. Only his attitude about problems pushed him to succeed.

Whether he knew it or not, his attitude made him successful and that is why he is

our hero of attitude.

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3“ATTiTude is A liTTle Thing, whiCh

mAkes A big differenCe.”winsTon ChurChill

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Attitude

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The dictionary defines attitude as a state of mind or a feeling

towards a person or subject. Your attitude determines how you will

learn, serve, listen and make changes throughout your life.

Some believe that happy people are that way because they keep

the right frame of mind. They view life and the world in a positive

manner. They believe this is their secret to remaining stable,

healthy, optimistic and thoughtful.

The right attitude requires we take charge of our mind. Being

positive is more than lip service, it takes action.

A positive attitude is the end result of disciplined thinking. Positive

thinkers do not ignore their fears, but they refuse to dwell on them.

People with a positive attitude look for solutions to problems

instead of looking for someone to blame. Keeping a positive

attitude demands courage and persistence. This state-of-mind

allows us to see life differently. It views problems as growth

opportunities. Sometimes the learning experience becomes even

more valuable than the outcome.

If we understand the outcome, our experience will be valuable,

and then our attitude towards people and circumstances will

change. Our attitude becomes positive, even though not

everything will always happen the way we are expecting. The truth

is that it is very unrealistic to believe things always have to be the

way we expect them to be. Bad things happen to everyone, those

with a good attitude find ways to turn bad situations into good

ones.

“attitude is a little thing, Which makes a big

difference.”Winston churchill

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Attitude

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BenefitsIf you develop a positive attitude, you minimize fear before you

face problems, because problems will have a purpose. If you have

a positive attitude you will:

1. Discipline your mind.

2. Define your destiny with a clear vision.

3. Know what to do and how to reach your goals.

4. Face each day with hope rather than dread.

5. Spread it to others. A positive attitude is contagious.

Maturity and success comes when you overcome attitudes of self-

pity, selfishness and other negative ways of thinking.

Steps to Follow Build a positive mental attitude by:

1. Producing a clear vision of purpose for your life. Focus and give

direction to your behavior. Look towards the future. Learn to be a

visionary, to see specifics in situations that are bringing you

closer to reaching your goals.

2. Being aware of negativity. Negativity will keep you from growing.

3. Applying the phrase, “Yes, I can do it.” Do what is right. Do not

focus on obstacles in front of you; just believe you will find a way

to overcome obstacles.

4. Bringing hope to your friends and family. Hope moves and

stimulates you and others towards action. Hope gives you the

energy to solve problems. Your positive attitude does not dwell in

the past. It brings hope for the future.

With every goal, there must be the right reason. With every

dream, there must be the right purpose. The foundation for

success is having a positive attitude.

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Reflect and Respond

Think of a time you or someone you know changed their

attitude for the better and noticed a good result.

Think of a time when someone brought you down with

their bad attitude.

What factors influence your attitude for the better or for

the worse?

What are some ways you improve your attitude?

1.

2.

3.

4.

Remember

thoughts become actions. actions become

habits. habits become our destiny.

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Self-Reflection

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How is your current attitude? On a scale from 1 to 10, rate your

attitude. (1 poor, 10 excellent)

Circle the area that is giving you the most trouble with your attitude?

Home School Work (if applied)

Discuss your rating in the class and how you can raise it. You have

one week to raise your rating.

Write a personal vow on how you want to improve your attitude. Cut

the vow out and place it where you will view it most to remind

yourself to read it several times a day. (Put it in your locker, car,

binder, computer or on your mirror, etc …)

Example Statement:I want to have a better attitude in school. I will think before I speak

and only say good things. I am a good person and I want my family,

friends and teachers to see that.

My personal attitude vow:

I.

II.

III.

IV.

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mentor of hard Work

daVid thomas

David "Dave" Thomas (July 2nd, 1932 – January 8th, 2002) was an American restaurateur and

philanthropist. Thomas was the founder and chief executive officer of Wendy’s Old-Fashioned

Hamburgers, a fast food restaurant chain specializing in hamburgers. He is also known for

appearing in more than 800 commercial advertisements for the chain from 1989 to 2002–more

than any other person in television history.

Dave developed a great hard working attitude at a very young age. At the age of fifteen, Dave

got a job as a busboy at the Hobby House restaurant in Fort Wayne, Indiana. When his family

wanted to move out of the area, Dave dropped out of high school, moved in with the owners

and helped develop the business.

After Dave’s honorable discharge from the Army, he was offered a chance to turn around a

failing KFC restaurant. He helped save the restaurant and revolutionize the fast food industry

by simplifying the menu. At the time, there were tens of items on the menu, possibly more than

one-hundred. Thomas changed this by stripping it down to just the basic fried chicken and

salads. Working with KFC founder Col. Harland Sanders, he quit soon after being hired to

pursue further dreams.

Thomas sold his KFC franchises and opened his first Wendy’s in Columbus, OH, in 1969. In

1982, Thomas resigned from his day-to-day operations at Wendy’s. However, business

mistakes would soon bring about problems and hurt sales, causing the company’s new

president to urge Thomas back into a more active role with Wendy's. Thomas began to visit

franchises and promote his hardworking, so-called “mop-bucket attitude.” Today, 23% of

American’s say Wendy’s is their favorite fast-food restaurant, well ahead of the others (poll by

Zogby International).

“i think the harder you work, the more luck you have.”

“there's no one to stop you but yourself.”

Dave thomas.

Dave Thomas admitted making a mistake by dropping out of high school, but he did not make

a mistake by developing an attitude of hard work. Dave really lived out the American dream

and because of his hard work we have Wendy’s. Thanks Dave, you are our hero of hard work.

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Hard Work

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We should always finish what we begin. It is valuable to be known as a person

who gets results. The mind of a good hard worker concentrates on a goal he

has set for himself and always strives to finish the job with excellence. In order

to feel good ourselves we must make progress towards our goals and be

proud of what we are achieving.

BenefitsThere are benefits of being a hard worker.

1. Security—We can achieve a secure position in life when we have earned

that through hard work. We can enjoy a position of influence. We can

relate with others who are in leadership. They will recognize us as good

workers and will value us.

2. Wealth— If we keep increasing our value and continue growing our

income, we will be on the road to developing true wealth.

3. Satisfaction—Since we experience personal pride through the fruit of our

work, we will receive personal satisfaction and earn a reputation of being

a hard worker.

Elements of Hard Work To become a hard worker we must develop some of these qualities:

1. Be diligent. Take advantage of opportunities to do things. Launch yourself

into various efforts and focus on completion. Do not let procrastination or

negative emotions get in the way. Concentrate on doing what has to be

done. Doing it with a smile and a good attitude will take you far.

2. Be the best. Do not be satisfied with the first result if it is not high quality

work. Go beyond what you have done before. Demand excellence of

yourself. Use the best of your strengths.

3. Be smart. Let your conscience be your guide and make principled

decisions.

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4. Be creative. Always ask yourself how can I do things better, faster, and

wiser. When you seek to be creative, you will begin to do more things.

5. Develop your strengths and your character. See the big picture and how

you can affect it. If you generate ideas and serve others, you will be

successful.

Steps to Follow Hard workers motivate themselves by seeing challenges as new

opportunities. They increase their abilities and learn new ways of doing things.

They work not just for a salary but for their future. The quality and quantity of

their work does not depend on what they receive as a salary. As a hard

worker, they are aware that those who work only for money will never be

completely satisfied. There are two attitudes that we need to avoid:

1. Laziness—Laziness has the same nature as a buzzard, it doesn’t kill or

earn its own food, and it lives on what is left over from the work of others.

If we accept laziness in our lives, it will close doors and opportunities.

2. Desire for easy money—This includes anything that is a scheme to get

rich quick. The desire or love for money can become obsessive. It leads

people down the wrong path.

Anything that cannot be used is either fixed or thrown away. Likewise, if we do

not work or will not take responsibilities, we will be set aside. We will not be

valued and we will not be needed. So, if we are a good hard worker, we will

be valued and appreciated.

Hard work is a personal quality. It impacts our community and our nation.

Keep in mind, hard work has a direct relationship to intelligence, quality and

success.

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Reflect and Respond

Do you do only the least that you are asked to do or do

you do more than what is expected?

How do you rate yourself as a hard worker?

What motivates you to be a hard worker?

How can you raise your rating this week?

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2.

3.

4.

Remember

thoughts become actions. actions become

habits. habits become our destiny.

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I. Write down one thing you have wanted to accomplish but you

have been procrastinating on getting done.

You have one week to finish it or get started.

II. Find a partner (in class) to keep you accountable in getting

the project going.

Personal Commitment

I, _________________________, will begin working on the

project I have been procrastinating on this week.

Accountability Partner Commitment

I, _________________________, will commit to holding

_______________________________ accountable this week.

Accountability Partner

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mentor of Proper thinking

walter elias disney

(December 5th, 1901-December 15th, 1966) was a multiple Academy Award-winning

American film producer, director, screenwriter, voice actor, animator, entrepreneur and

philanthropist. Disney is noted as one of the most influential and innovative figures in the

field of entertainment during the twentieth century. As the co-founder (with his brother Roy

O. Disney) of Walt Disney Productions, Disney became one of the best-known motion

picture producers in the world. The corporation he co-founded, now known as The Walt

Disney Company, today has annual revenues of approximately $35 billion.

Disney is particularly remembered for being a film producer and a popular showman, as

well as an innovator in animation and theme park design. He received fifty-nine Academy

Award nominations and won twenty-six Oscars, including a record four in one year. He

holds the record for an individual with the most awards and the most nominations. He won

seven Emmy Awards. Disney and his staff created a number of the world's most famous

fictional characters, including the one many consider Disney's alter ego, Mickey Mouse.

Mickey is the namesake for Disneyland and Walt Disney World Resort theme parks in the

United States, France, Japan and China.

Disney died of lung cancer on December 15th, 1966, a few years prior to the opening of his

Walt Disney World dream project in Orlando, Florida.

“a man should never neglect his family for business.”

“all our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.”

“laughter is america's most important export.”

“We believed in our idea - a family park where parents and children could have fun-

together.”

walt Disney

Everyone knows Walt Disney. His innovations have shaped our world. He was a good

thinker. He was a proper thinker. He wanted to bring joy to parents and children all over

the world. He valued family. Not many people think like Walt Disney and that is the reason

he is our hero of proper thinking.

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5As A mAn Thinks, so he is!

Proper Thinking

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Our mind is an amazing gift, and no one fully understands it, but we do

know two things it does: it reasons and it imagines.

Reasoning is more like calculating, which leads us to concepts, opinions

or considerations, while imagination leads us to ideas or possibilities.

Although, they both work within our mind, most of us operate more

predominately in one of the two.

We may reason well and be full of common sense; however, we may be

weak in creative thinking. Our weak creative thinking may be linked to a

bad experience or failure, which has influenced our mind to behave a

certain way. As the old proverb above states, “As a man thinks, so he is.”

This means we may determine our future by being aware of our thinking.

What we think about today is what we will become tomorrow.

Thoughts always precede actions. A person is what he thinks about, not

always what he does. Our society is the product of an environment we

create coming from our beliefs. Let’s remember this pattern: our thoughts

will produce actions, actions will form habits, habits become our character

and our character determines our destiny. Knowing this, we should

become very conscientious about what we read, what we see, what we

hear, and who we associate with.

Benefits If you do this, you will receive the following benefits:

1. You will enjoy life. As a human, you are able to choose how you will

live by the values and principles you select.

2. You will have self-control. When you take control over your thoughts

you are taking control of your decisions and their outcomes!

3. You will not have to deal with the consequences of poor choices. Your

thinking will be based on sound logic.

as a man thinks, so he is!

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So, if you want a positive future ...

•You must desire and choose to have a positive future and re-evaluate

your present state of mind. Ask yourself. “Am I becoming who I want to

be?

•You must select good and positive media. What we have been thinking

has brought us to where we are, so to get somewhere else, we must

choose different input. There is a huge difference between reality and

fantasy.

•You must consider the outcome of what you put in your mind. What

good will it bring? Your mind is like a computer and will be programmed

based on your choices.

•You must remember that your destiny is in your hands. You become

what you think about and you create your environment by the values you

promote and choose.

Change will come if you: 1. Get tired of living the way you are living and the results you are

getting.

2. Recognize it is your responsibility to change. The way you think is

your choice.

3. Seek a wise person who can mentor you, someone wit hgood morals.

Your thinking can help you make wise choices.

4. Receive help and align your behavior with thoughts well grounded in

good morals based on principles. That is aligning yourself with

absolute, life principles.

Steps to Follow 1. Make decisions based on good morals and principles. Determine to do

what is right!

2. Envision what you want to have and become in life. Control your

thoughts by focusing on your destiny and say to yourself, “If I continue

like this I will end up like this.”

3. Develop your mind with a good selection of reading, TV programs and

other media. Violent and aggressive behavior comes from the mass

media polluting your mind to create higher ratings at the expense of

moral decay. The media shapes what we believe, but in reality it is just

drama.

4. Select good quality friends.

5. Remember to develop your character following these guidelines:

Create the habit of controlling your thoughts because your character

depends on it!

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Remember

Reflect and Respond

What can you do to change negative thoughts and

cultivate proper thinking?

What do you think you should do to improve what is

going into your mind and producing your thoughts?

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2.

Remember

thoughts become actions. actions become

habits. habits become our destiny.

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Write in the box named “Need” a real need that you have in your life,

then continue answering the following boxes to find out if you are

solving your life with common sense or just going around a need

without solving it.

satisfaction

Permanent Temporary

need

Physical or Emotion

motivation

Why do you have this need?

actual situation

What is your current

situation?

Plan of action

What should I do?

obstacles

What will I be facing?

solution of

obstacles

Plan a solution!

feeling of

frustration

fulfillment

of need

mentor of Pressure

henry louis "hank" aaron

(February 5, 1934) nicknamed "Hammer", "Hammerin' Hank” or "Bad Henry”, was a retired

American baseball player whose Major League Baseball (MLB) career spanned from 1954

through 1976. Aaron started his Major League Baseball career in 1954. He played 21

seasons with the Atlanta Braves in the National League, and his last two years (1975-

1976) with the Milwaukee Brewers in the American League. Throughout his career, Aaron

had many accomplishments and records. His most notable achievement was setting the

MLB record for most career home runs with 755, which he held for 33 years until being

surpassed by San Francisco Giants outfielder Barry Bonds on August 7, 2007.

Although Aaron himself downplayed the "chase" to surpass Babe Ruth’s homerun record,

baseball enthusiasts and the national media grew increasingly excited as he closed in.

At the age of 39, Aaron managed to slug 40 home runs in 392 at-bats, ending the season

one home run short of the record. He hit home run number 713 on September 29th, 1973,

and with one day remaining in the season, many expected him to tie the record. But in his

final game that year, playing against the Houston Astros (led by manager Leo Durocher,

who had once roomed with Babe Ruth), he was unable to hit one out of the park. After the

game, Aaron stated that his only fear was that he might not live to see the 1974 season.

Over the winter, Aaron was the recipient of death threats and a large assortment of hate

mail from people who did not want to see a black man break Ruth's nearly sacrosanct home

run record. The threats extended to those providing positive press coverage of Aaron.

Lewis Grizzard, then editor of the Atlanta Journal, reported receiving numerous phone calls

calling them "nigger lovers" for covering Aaron's chase. While preparing the massive

coverage of the home run record, he quietly had an obituary written, scared that Aaron

might be murdered.

As you can see, Hank Aaron endured a tremendous amount of pressure as he closed in on

Babe Ruth’s record. If he hit a homerun, he would die. Despite the threats Hank Aaron rose

above the pressure and hit number 715. Therefore, Hank Aaron is our hero for pressure.

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6wiThouT Pressure, There won’T be AnY

Progress.

Pressure

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We all should live under pressure, but that should not be confused with

living under stress. There are two types of people: proactive and

reactive. Proactive people look ahead to anticipate what is coming next.

They put themselves and others under pressure to achieve goals and

to avoid problems. Reactive people respond after the problems are

created, which in turn brings stress in life. As we live life we must

remember there is a clear difference between pressure and stress.

Pressure is a decision we make on our own. It stretches and challenges

us. It will take us to a higher level. In sports, we push ourselves to our

limit to win. In teams, we coordinate efforts and resources to succeed.

Pressure motivates us to get something done. Stress, however,

demands from us and leaves us feeling stuck, trapped and overloaded.

For example, if you choose not to study for a major exam, you will feel

stressed when taking the test. Stress will often lead to less than

average results or total failure. Stress is hard on your body and

counterproductive. It can produce health issues, trouble sleeping,

negative thoughts and leaves you completely exhausted.

Benefits:People under pressure will expereince these benefits:

1.You will achieve your purpose.

2.You will enjoy the passion of following your dreams by overcoming

obstacles and reaching goals.

3. You will learn to turn your desires and ideas into projects.

Without Pressure, there Won’t be any

Progress.

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Characteristics of Self-Applied Pressure:• You will not need motivation from others. You will act out of the

pressure you put on yourself.

• You will plan because you know that dreams and purposes in life

require organization.

• You will have your eyes set on your objective. You are determined to

complete your mission.

• You love challenges! You will always look for them and you will find

them.

• You desire to achieve. This is a characteristic found in all of us. The

feeling of achievement strengthens your self-esteem.

It is very important to live under self-imposed pressure and not personal

stress. At times, you will have some stress; however, if you fine-tune

your goals you can manage it. Knowing your limits will help you make

the right changes to your goals.

Steps to Follow1.Be proactive, not reactive. Choose and learn to face life under

pressure and not under stress. Look ahead and be alert to what may

come. Learn to prevent last minute requests. To maintain high

standards, you have to plan.

2.Aim to excel. Do not settle for average. People that make a difference

are proactive. Make things happen and believe the pressure will pay

off.

3.See things as they could be and not as they are. If you are looking for

opportunity, you will find it. You are a creative person. Keep your mind

awake by looking for possibilities. Enjoy the rush that comes with

bigger challenges.

4. Stop being a spectator and get off your seat. Enjoy the challenges and

know that without pressure there will not be any progress.

5. Do not close your mind to the future. Without dreams and motivations

there is no initiative. Your mind will be activated through exploring,

dreaming and looking ahead. When you attain the things your mind

has explored, dreamed and projected, it will encourage you to

continue. It is a self- sustaining cycle.

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Reflect and Respond

Describe a time when you responded reactively to a

situation. How did you feel?

Describe a time when you were proactive in your

thinking or actions. How did you feel?

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2.

thoughts become actions. actions become

habits. habits become our destiny.

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i. Story of a Student in Stress ...

It is December and your teacher explained you have a three page

book report due the day you get back from Christmas break. Your

teacher has given you 30 days to get the project done. The teacher

challenged you to get the project done before break, so your break

would be report free. You have every intention to get your project

started early, but it is your tendency to procrastinate. Each day that

went by, you were determined to start the next day, but other things

always came up. It is now Christmas break and you have to have a

lot of work to get done. Your friends are calling to come over and

hang out, but you cannot go because your report is not done. You

are stressed with this project and running last minute.

ii. Describe how the student might have been feeling about himself,

the project and the teacher.

iii. Develop a plan to get all of your assignments due within the next

two weeks completed on time. Include time to study for upcoming

tests.

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mentor of emotions

dr. martin luther king

(January 15th, 1929 - April 4th, 1968) was one of the most pivotal leaders of the

American Civil Rights Movement. King was a Baptist minister, which was one of the few

leadership roles available to black men at the time. He became a civil rights activist early

in his career. He led the Montgomery Bus Boycott (1955–1956) and helped found the

Southern Christian Leadership Conference (1957), serving as its first president. His

efforts led to the 1963 March on Washington, where King delivered his “I Have a Dream”

speech. Here he raised public consciousness of the civil rights movement and

established himself as one of the greatest orators in U.S. history. In 1964, King became

the youngest person to receive the Nobel Peace Prize for his efforts to end segregation

and racial discrimination through civil disobedience and other non-violent means.

King was assassinated on April 4th, 1968, in Memphis, Tennessee. He was awarded the

Presidential Medal of Freedom by President Jimmy Carter in 1977. Martin Luther King

Jr. Day was established as a national holiday in the United States in 1986. In 2004, King

was posthumously awarded a Congressional Gold Medal.

“a man who won't die for something is not fit to live.”

“nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and

conscientious stupidity.”

“our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”

martin luther King Jr.

Martin Luther King Jr. was a man on a mission. His personal beliefs were the driving

force of that mission, but not once did he lose his cool or seem out of control. His

passionate emotions guided him peacefully through one of the biggest social

movements the world has ever seen. He used his positive emotions to better our world

today and for that he is our hero of emotions.

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7he who rules his emoTions is greATer

ThAn he ThAT TAkes A CiTY.

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Emotions

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Emotions are like gasoline – they can both be dangerous and destructive but

extremely powerful when used properly. By directing our emotional energy,

we can become more productive. It is proven when we are angry or in an

emergency situation our bodies can produce enough adrenaline to make us

twice as strong and have long stretches of endurance.

So, it is clear that our behavior is directly affected by our emotions. In order

to rule our behavior, we must control our reactions. We view reality through

our senses but we define it through our minds. Everything we hear, see,

smell, taste or touch is captured by our minds. Each situation is analyzed by

our mind and it chooses a response.

In order to activate our dreams, we must be responsible to manage our

behavior, emotions and reactions. A person who can fulfill their dreams while

being responsible and governing their emotions demonstrates true character.

Uncontrolled emotions can be very powerful and destructive.

Relationships are affected by our emotions. When we are under stress and

when our emotions get in the way of clear decision making, we will ruin good

relationships and waste opportunities. When these behaviors are frequent, we

may become branded as unreasonable and be rejected or isolated. If we learn

to calm our emotions we will be in control of situations, rather than situations

controlling us. We should remember to think before we act.

BenefitsIf you govern your emotions, you will:

1. Have clear thinking and you will not be controlled by your emotional

impulses.

2. Be viewed as a mature person and you will create a good reputation.

he Who rules his emotions is greater than

he that takes a city.

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3. Attract others to you.

4. Be able to identify problems and find solutions.

Actions and non-verbal body language are almost always much more

powerful than words. The way we dress, walk and behave all transmit a

message. Our expressions and our actions communicate much more than

words by themselves.

People who handle their emotions can be recognized by these traits:

1. They are consistent with their moods and attitudes. They communicate with

their behavior and example, and then use words if necessary.

2. They have good judgement about people because they hold them up to an

objective standard.

Steps to FollowIn order to control your emotions:

1. Program your mind to master your emotions. The only way you can control

your mind is if you think on good values and sound principles. This will help

your mind advise you properly. The mind is primarily a processor and will

recommend responses based on how it has been programmed.

2. Remind yourself of the danger or cost of extreme emotional stress. The

better you control your emotions, the healthier you will be.

3. Learn to recognize your emotions and govern their energy. Ask yourself why

you sometimes have such quick reactions. Give yourself some time before

reacting. Ask yourself if this situation is worth your reaction and if it is, give it

your full attention and energy … choose your battles wisely.

4. Eliminate moodiness. Know yourself well enough to recognize what situations

can set-off your emotions. Moody and unstable behavior can bring as much

harm to you as to others. This instability may be the result of internal hurts

that need resolved.

5. Learn to be more tolerant and do not judge others so quickly. Do not expect

perfection from yourself or from other people around you. Just remember no

one likes to be judged!

Emotions are good and necessary to our daily life. They energize our

convictions and actions. Once we know what is right we need to give it all of

our energy. Apply them to what you know you should do: be kind to others,

respect your teachers, family and friends and be honest with yourself.

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Reflect and Respond

What circumstances have made it difficult for you to

control your emotions in the past?

How has it affected you when others have failed to

control their emotions?

How do you usually communicate how you feel? Do

others understand you or are there usually barriers

between you and others because of your emotions?

Which of the Steps to Follow do you want to commit to?

1.

2.

3.

4.

Remember

thoughts become actions. actions become

habits. habits become our destiny.

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i. Make a list of people who have hurt you.

Circle the name of the person that you have the hardest time forgiving.

ii. Write a letter to this person telling him/her what they did to hurt you

and that you forgive them for their actions. It does not need to be a long

letter, but it needs to be enough to get your emotion out.

iii. Seal your letter in an envelope.

iv. Action Step**

You may give this letter to that person you are forgiving or you may

choose to destroy the letter as a sign that you are letting go of your hurt.

** note: Do not keep this letter. This activity is designed to let go of past hurts, so you

can move forward and be a success.

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mentor of restraint

Viktor Frankl, m.d., ph.d(March 26, 1905 - September 2, 1997) was a Jewish, Austrian neurologist, psychiatrist and

a Holocaust survivor. He studied medicine and specialized in neurology and psychiatry,

concentrating on the topics of depression and suicide. Frankl’s book, Man's Search for

Meaning, was first published in 1946. The book explains his horrible experiences as a

concentration camp inmate and describes his search to find a reason to continue living.

Frankl concluded that you can overcome life by developing your own values and self-

meaning.

Frankl studied medicine at the University of Vienna. Frankl specialized in helping people

with major emotional and life-threatening troubles. He was very successful at his practice.

In 1938, Frankl was prohibited from treating patients due to his Jewish ethnicity. In 1940,

he started practicing as a brain surgeon. The hospital he worked at was the only one in

Vienna admitting Jews. Several times, his medical opinions saved patients from being

killed by the Nazis rule.

In the Autumn of 1942, he, his wife, and his parents were deported to the ghetto of

Theresienstadt, which was a concentration camp. Although he was assigned to be a

general practitioner, Frankl tried to help mentally distraught prisoners and prevent suicides.

This treatment was forbidden by the Nazis, so in October of 1944, he was transported to a

Nazi death camp. Meanwhile, his wife had been transferred to another camp, where she

died. Frankl’s father and mother had been sent to Auschwitz and they died there, as well.

In April of 1945, Frankl was liberated by the Americans. Among his immediate relatives, the

only survivor was his sister, who had escaped by immigrating to Australia. In 1955, he was

awarded a professorship at University of Vienna, and was a visiting professor at Harvard

University.

“there are only two kinds of races: corrupt and non-corrupt.”

viktor frankl

It was due to Frankl and other Jews suffering that he came to his conclusion that even in

the most awful, painful and dehumanized situations, life has meaning. Frankl restrained

from believing that he was nothing. He developed his own will to live and he refused to die

for the sake of anger. For this reason, Viktor Frankl is our hero of restraint.

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Restraint

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Many times, a wound in the body can take years of healing but

wounds to our soul can last a lifetime. We need to recognize the

power of words. Words can bury dreams, demolish self-esteem, and

destroy potential. This can happen daily in many homes and

schools. It is easy to see faults and bad habits of people but

sometimes we fail to recognize their talents and potential. This

discourages people and brings them down. Remember that

everything we say will come back to us. Words can either bring

solutions or problems. It is ironic we will think twice before we would

punch someone but many times we will not think twice before we

speak out in anger with cruel and insulting words.

Words have a direct relationship to the law of sowing and reaping.

Sometimes we may say wrong things about others. This is a form of

gossip. After we think about it, sometimes we may even try to repair

the damage by blaming others or by justifying our actions. This

begins a vicious circle that is never ending. Sometimes it takes years

to recover from hurtful words that were so quickly spoken.

Remember, we do not have to say everything we think. Words can

be quick and instant. That is why it is important to filter the words we

choose and the attitude we have when delivering them. The principle

of Restraint means to hold back our words, learning to keep our

mouths shut so that we will not become embarrassed or hurt others.

Once you say something you can’t take it back but you can control

unspoken words.

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Benefits: 1.When we are slow to speak we avoid the consequences of

saying something negative.

2.We will learn to express our minds in an encouraging way.

3.We will become wise and learn that words have life.

Basics:People with restraint have three major attributes:

1.Wisdom. Restraint helps us grow in our ability to analyze. We will

learn to hold something inside our mind and not allow it to spill

out of our mouth. This will make us good listeners and we will

gain good insight into people and situations.

2.Integrity. Because we restrain our thoughts and words, we will be

consistent. Many times our integrity falls short because there is

no unity in our thoughts or words. The person who has integrity

has a unity of thought, word and action. They recognize that what

they believe is in their words.

3.Humility. A very common answer of wise people is simply, “I don’t

know.” That may be a good answer. Many people are reluctant to

admit that they don’t know. They always want to give an answer.

There is nothing wrong with saying, “I don’t know.”

Steps to FollowRestraint is a discipline that is achieved through steady and diligent

practice. This is how to start:

1.Understand the power of your words. You have the ability to do

good or bad through the power of your words. Your future is

affected by your words.

2.Practice being kind. Congratulate others and encourage them,

this will build them up. Recognize the lasting effect of inspiration.

On many occasions, this could transform lives, circumstances

and destiny.

3.Recognize the long-term effects of your words. Words are very

important because they remain in the minds of people. When in a

conflict, it is better to write down what we want to say because

we can look over it and find a better way to say it. Our words are

forever remembered.

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Reflect and Respond

How do you react when someone hurts you?

Have you ever hurt someone because you did not

practice restraint?

Why is it hard to restrain yourself and filter your words

and actions?

What happens when you think before you speak?

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2.

3.

4.

Remember

thoughts become actions. actions become

habits. habits become our destiny.

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i. With a partner write a two minute skit where one character

demonstrates restraint and one character does not. Present your skit

to another team.

ii. Rate each skit on a scale of one to ten for how well it demonstrates

the principle of restraint.

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mentor of goals

tiger woods

Eldrick "Tiger" Woods is an American professional golfer whose achievements to date

rank him among the most successful golfers of all time. Currently the World’s No. 1,

Woods was the highest-paid professional athlete in 2006, having earned an estimated

$100 million from winnings and endorsements. Golf Digest predicts Woods will become

the world's first billionaire athlete in 2010.

Woods has won thirteen professional major golf championships, the second highest of

any male player, and 64 PGA Tour events, tied for third all time. He has more career

major wins and career PGA tour wins than any other active golfer. He is the youngest

player to achieve the career Grand Slam and the youngest and fastest to win 50

tournaments on Tour. Woods has held the number one position in the world rankings for

the most consecutive weeks and for the greatest total number of weeks. He has been

awarded PGA player of the year a record nine times, the Byron Nelson Award for lowest

adjusted scoring average a record eight times, and has tied Jack Nicklaus’s record of

leading the money list in eight different seasons. He has been named Associated Press

male athlete of the year four times, a record he shares with Lance Armstrong.

“i want to be what i've always wanted to be: dominant.”

“you can always become better.”

tiger Woods

You would think Tiger has reached all his goals. Nope! He is currently developing his

own golf course in Dubai. He is never satisfied and is continually working on his game.

He is a goal-setter and a goal-achiever. Tiger, you are our hero for goals.

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“A journey of 1000 miles starts with one step.” One way to measure is

to establish clear goals for short, medium and long range plans. Once

we know where we want to end up, we can then chart our journey to

get there. Long-term goals may take several years to accomplish and

will undoubtly include obstacles that must be overcome. The highest

mountains on earth have been climbed one step at a time.

Whatever you do in life should be done based on your goals. First, you

have to decide what you want to be or achieve. Then you can

determine short-term strategies and establish a plan. This plan lays out

step-by-step what needs to be done in order to arrive at the end. You

may need to learn new skills or perfect ones you already know. Goals

should be challenging but reachable. Once you experience some

success you can re-evaluate your goal. Things don’t just happen. You

can dream of many possibilities and have desires but you won’t reach

them without a plan.

Benefits Establishing goals will give you many important things such as:

• A way to measure progress towards your goals.

• Increased personal value and confidence.

• More control of your life, because you are firmly holding on to your

dreams and future.

• A sense of accomplishment as you overcome difficulties.

• Purpose and direction for your life.

When goals are not established, you feel like life is full of random

a Wise Person thinks ahead; a foolish one

doesn’t and even brags about it!

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Goals 9A wise Person Thinks AheAd; A foolish

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situations and constant drama. Keep in mind, when you shoot at

nothing, you will be sure to hit it! If you do not have a target, you have

no way to measure your progress.

Characteristics of Goal-setters: 1. They keep records in writing. They define certain duties attached to

specific time frames.

2. They concentrate on their goals.

3. They review their progress on a consistent basis.

4. Their plans are flexible. They review their goals and make

adjustments as needed.

5. They achieve their goals and experience success!

Steps to Follow There are seven basic steps to apply to be successful:

1. Write your dreams down! Dreams become goals when you find a

way to make them happen.

2. Write down how much it is going to cost. If you are going to

achieve it, you must find out and examine the cost, the resources

and the time required.

3. Understand there is a price to pay to see dreams come true.

Sometimes the price and the sacrifice to make dreams come true

are higher than expected. Adjusting goals may be necessary for

your life to progress.

4. Pace yourself! When you write down and specify what you are

going to do in a week, a month and in a year, be realistic in how

much can be acheived.

5. Keep focused on your goals. Review your goals frequently and pay

attention to your progress.

6. Create your own strategy. Just remember that when you properly

set goals and the right sequence for them, they will take you to your

desired destiny.

7. Always follow ethical principles to develop your character.

The fulfillment of a goal is only assured when wemake a commitment to do it.

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Reflect and Respond

When was the last time you wrote down a goal and

accomplished it? How did that make you feel?

What would it take to turn one of your dreams into a

goal?

Where could you find someone to help you accomplish

your goals by giving you support, accountability and

encouragement?

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2.

3.

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RememberRemember

thoughts become actions. actions become

habits. habits become our destiny.

i. write out one personal goal.

ii. what are three immediate steps you can take to

reach that goal?

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2.

3.

iii. which action steps can you take this week?

iv.* as a class, select one goal to work together. Choose

something challenging that will require the class to

work together to achieve. Develop an action plan to

measure progress towards the goal.

v. Celebrate your success together!

*see how many principles you can incorporate into your

goal.

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mentor of savings

samuel walton(March 29th, 1918 – April 5th, 1992) Samuel Moore Walton, was an American

businessman and entrepreneur born in Kingfisher, Oklahoma, who founded two

American retailers: Wal-Mart and Sam’s Club. He was the patriarch of the Walton

Family, one of the richest families in the world.

In 1945, after leaving the military, Walton decided he wanted to own a department store

but would settle for a variety store. With some help from his father-in-law with a loan of

$20,000, plus $5000 he had saved from his time in the Army, Walton purchased a Ben

Franklin variety store in Newport, Arkansas. The store was a franchise of the Butler

Brothers chain.

It was here that Walton pioneered many concepts that would prove to be crucial to his

success. Walton made sure the shelves were consistently stocked with a wide range of

goods at low prices. His store also stayed open later than most other stores, especially

during the Christmas season. He also pioneered the practice of discount merchandising

by buying wholesale goods from the lowest priced supplier. This allowed him to pass

on savings to his customers, which drove up his sales volume. Higher volumes allowed

him to negotiate even lower purchase prices with the wholesaler on subsequent

purchases. Walton's store led in sales and profits in the Butler Brothers' six-state

region.

Walton's first large discount store was opened under the Wal-Mart name in 1962 in

Rogers, Arkansas. It had only 25 employees and was less than one-fifth the size of

modern Wal-Mart stores. Wal-Mart is now the world's largest retailer, with more than

4,100 stores in the United States and 3,100 more overseas.

“capital isn't scarce; vision is.”

Sam walton

Sam Walton not only saved money himself but he also saved his customers money, and

that legacy has influenced our nation to this day. Sam was a master of savings, he was

a good steward and for that reason he is our hero of savings.

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The wise will sAVe for The fuTure, buT

The foolish will sPend eVerYThing TheY

hAVe And more.

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Years ago, people were judged by their ability to save and protect their

personal belongings. It did not matter whether these belongings were

small or valuable, they would take care of them. These people

understood the importance of saving for the future. People were used

to spending only the money remaining after bills were paid. There was

no option of having a credit card and a popular saying was, “A penny

saved is a penny earned.” Wasting money was shameful. They saved

for their annual expenses and always kept a reserve for life

emergencies. Many parents tried to have money saved to leave to their

children as an inheritance.

Today, it is the opposite. We no longer live by the principle of savings.

It has become acceptable to be greedy with our money or to waste all

we have, but these extremes are unhealthy. We need to be balanced

with a solid budget. So, before spending money we need to earn it.

Our media is full of advertisements that try to make us desire more

things. Commercials trap us into thinking that if we have a certain style

and the latest brands we will be popular, happy or sexy.

Our financial system has made it easy to get loans and use credit

cards. Every day we are bombarded with pre-approved credit cards and

sneaky schemes advertising no interest for six months. You may be

thinking this does not apply to you right now but you need to know

young adults are one of the biggest targets for credit cards. These

schemes trick us into thinking we are making a deal but in reality they

set us up for financial disaster. Impulsive spending will rob you of your

freedom and become a barrier to achieving your goals. Many young

people in the world spend years trying to recover from these schemes

and the financial stresses are known to cause health and family issues.

the Wise Will save for the future, but the

foolish Will sPend everything they have and

more.

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Benefits1. Savings develops an attitude of value. When you patiently save to buy

something, you understand what something is worth. Our thoughts will

be on preserving things, making things last longer, keeping things

repaired, and getting more mileage out of the things we already own.

2. The value of saving will create an attitude of appreciation for what you

have vs. what can you buy.

3. You will be able to restrain yourself from impulsive buying. Your

attitude toward savings eliminates waste.

Characteristics of Savers: • They manage their credit wisely.

• They invest for their future.

• When the economy gets tough, they do not sweat because they are

financially secure.

• They have managed their money in a right way, which helps them avoid

financial stress.

Steps to FollowBefore buying something we should ask ourselves these questions:

1. Do I need it?

2. Can I afford it?

3. Why do I want it?

4. When should I have it?

We have developed a throw-away, self-serving society, and we are

programmed to think, “If I want it, I’ll get it. I deserve it now. I’ll charge

it and make those easy monthly payments.” So, we spend, spend, and

spend, trying to satisfy ourselves and keep up with everyone else. We

foolishly spend not only what we have, but what we do not have as well.

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Reflect and Respond

Think of a time you saved your money in order to make

a specific purchase. Describe how you felt during the

time devoted to saving as well as how you felt when you

made your purchase.

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thoughts become actions. actions become

habits. habits become our destiny.

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i. write down three items you want to buy either for

yourself or for someone else. pick items you really

want, but cost more money than what you have.

1.

2.

3.

ii. out of your list of three, choose the one you want

the most.

iii. explain how you will save money for your

purchase.

iv. Create a class chart to see how much money your

entire class has saved.

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Activity

Was an American botany researcher and agronomy educator who worked in agricultural

expansion at the Tuskegee Institute, in Tuskegee, Alabama, teaching former slaves

farming techniques for self-sufficiency. His exact birth day and year are unknown, yet he

knew it was some time before slavery was abolished in Missouri in January, 1865. To

commemorate his life, George Washington Carver Recognition Day is celebrated every

January 5th, on the day Carver died.

To bring education to farmers, Carver designed a mobile school, called a Jesup Wagon

after the New York financier, Morris Ketchum Jesup, who provided funding. In 1921,

Carver spoke in favor of a peanut tariff before the Ways and Means Committee of the

United States House of Representatives. Given the racial discrimination of the time, it

was unusual for a black person to be called as an expert. Carver's well received

testimony earned him national attention, and he became an unofficial spokesman for the

peanut industry. Carver wrote 44 practical agricultural bulletins for farmers.

In the Reconstruction South, an agricultural monoculture of cotton depleted the soil;

and, in the early 20th century, the boll weevil destroyed much of the cotton crop. Much

of Carver's fame was based on his research and promotion of alternative crops to

cotton, such as peanuts and sweet potatoes. He wanted poor farmers to grow

alternative crops as both a source of their own food and a cash crop. His most popular

bulletin contained 105 existing food recipes that used peanuts. His most famous method

of promoting the peanut involved his creation of about 100 existing industrial products

from peanuts, including cosmetics, dyes, paints, plastics, gasoline and nitroglycerin. His

industrial products from peanuts excited the public imagination but none was a

successful commercial product.

“When you do the common things in life in an uncommon way, you will

command the attention of the world.”

george washington Carver

George Washington Carver was educated but not over-educated. It was his ability to

reason and see common problems that others could not see that enabled him to

practically change the world around him. Carver used his brains and his practical

reasoning and that is the reason he is our hero of common sense.

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mentor of common sensegeorge washington carVer

11AnY suCCessful enTerPrise is builT bY

Common sense.

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Common Sense

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Common sense is sound logic, practical sense and good reasoning. It

is searching for simple, but very useful ways of getting things done to

solve problems or complete projects. We are all born with the ability to

think, create and solve problems. Whenever we combine this thinking

with the resources around us we use common sense.

Common sense is not old-fashioned or opposed to technological

changes. We adapt our thinking to the current situation and take

advantage of tools, knowledge and whatever other resources might be

available to us. When we lack common sense we make decisons based

on emotions rather than logic.

Benefits When we practice common sense we:

1. Are better prepared to adapt to change in the way we do things.

2. Stay alert to the changes in the world.

3. Will detect gimmicks or when someone is over representing their

products.

4. Will not be easily fooled because we value transparency and

honesty.

People that use common sense in life teach us: a. The value of a practical mind

b. To have an open mind

We must remember we were born with our eyes closed and our mouths

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open. It takes a lifetime to reverse it.

Steps to Follow 1. Always be open to changes or adjustments. This does not mean all

change is good but you can discover things as you move along.

Common sense will speak to your heart. It is sometimes called the

gut feeling. It is a commonly accepted fact that no family, company

or nation can survive without being part of a plan, but this shouldn’t

be so rigid that we close our minds to listening to the heart when it

suggests using common sense.

2. Keep contact with reality. If we lose common sense, we lost contact

with reality. Common sense helps us to keep balance. Think twice

before you act. This gives your common sense an opportunity to

speak.

3. Do what you know is right. The opposite of common sense is

foolishness. There is a saying that states, “The person without

common sense may wind up dead.”

5. Avoid remaining in a situation that may have the tendency to cause

you to be mediocre or corrupt. Learn to be transparent with your

thoughts and actions. Break any barriers you may feel by using

common sense.

Life was not intended to be complicated. If we separate ourselves from

common sense, simplicity may disappear and then we may get lost in

confusion. There are moments in life in which we lose balance because

of the different arenas of our lives. It might be because our minds are

under a lot of pressure. In these moments, stop and ask yourself, “What

is the right thing to do?” Common sense will make some

recommendations.

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Reflect and Respond

What is the difference between common sense and

knowledge?

Share a situation in which you have used common

sense.

What were the results?

How can you develop more common sense?

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2.

3.

4.

Remember

thoughts become actions. actions

become habits. habits become our

destiny.

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i. Think of a situation or problem you are facing in school today.

Discuss some “common sense” ways to address the problem.

ii. As a class, draft a letter to your school newspaper and student

council recommending your approach to the situation.

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mentor of generosity

mother teresa(August 26th, 1910 – September 5th 1997) Mother Teresa was an Albanian Roman

Catholic Nun who founded the Missionaries of Charity in Calcutta, India in 1950. For

over forty years she ministered to the poor, sick, orphaned, and dying, while guiding the

Missionaries of Charity's expansion, first throughout India and then in other countries.

By the 1970’s she had become internationally famed as a humanitarian and advocate

for the poor and helpless, due in part to a documentary and book, Something Beautiful

for God by Malcolm Muggeridge. She won the Nobel Peace Prize in 1979 for her

humanitarian work. Mother Teresa's Missionaries of Charity continued to expand and at

the time of her death it was operating 610 missions in 123 countries, including hospices

and homes for people with HIV/AIDS, leprosy and tuberculosis, soup kitchens,

children's and family counseling programs, orphanages and schools.

Following her death she was beatified by Pope John Paul the II and given the title

Blessed Teresa of Calcutta.

“Good works are links that form a chain of love.”

“if you can't feed a hundred people, then feed just one.”

“one of the greatest diseases is to be nobody to anybody.”

mother theresa

Mother Theresa did not have a lot of money and material resources, yet she was one

of the most generous people of our time. She realized that she could make a difference

just by being generous with her time and her heart. She accomplished great feats and

was generous to everyone she came in contact with and for that reason she is our hero

of generosity.

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Generosity 12bY wATering oThers You will

wATer Yourself.

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Generosity means to be willing to help others graciously and unselfishly. It is

giving of our time, talent and resourses to help others. Many people think

generosity is just giving money or giving things we do not use anymore. True

generosity is much more. It means we give because of who we are.

If we are only interested in our own needs, we will neglect the needs of others.

Giving of ourselves is the highest form of generosity. We were not born just to

serve ourselves.

Generous people look for opportunities to give and even derive a sense of

satisfaction from the act of giving. In giving to others we “invest” in them and

affirm their value as human beings. Generous people always see potential in the

people and organizations they support.

When society closes its eyes to the needy, or has an indifferent attitude towards

the poor, it leads to increased poverty and moral decay. Communities that

practice true generosity can greatly reduce poverty in their city. As more people

find ways to help others then more people become successful and work their

way toward prosperity.

Benefits:1. When we are generous, we actually create a reward system for ourselves.

2. It is always better to be a small portion of something big, than to be all of

something small.

3. Being generous helps your community.

Basics:1. It is important we develop generosity in ourselves and others. When we look at

the poor we should see them as people with potential. It is important we do not

look at poverty as a permanent condition.

by Watering others you Will Water

yourself.

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2. If we understand generosity, we understand it is not just giving people what

they need, it is teaching them how to get it for themselves. A generous

person looks ahead for long-term solutions.

3. If a person is greedy they do not invest in others. They hold onto their

resources instead of releasing them. Therefore, they do not share in the

prosperity and success of others.

Steps to FollowPractice these qualities, if you want to be a generous person:

1. Look for the potential in others. Recognize what they can become.

Concentrate on the best aspects of others.

2. Be sensitive to other people’s needs. Try understanding people’s needs and

administer hope to elevate them.

3. Share your knowledge, ideas and experience. Talk to your family, friends and

peers. Make yourself available.

4. Volunteer your work and time. Everyone has problems. Don’t expect others

to fix the problems, get involved!

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Remember

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Remember

thoughts become actions. actions

become habits. habits become our

destiny.

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Reflect and Respond

What opportunities have you had recently to give to

others? (Time, money or possessions)

How well do rate yourself on this principle?

What time, talent or treasure do you have right now that

you can give to someone, even if it is a very small

amount?

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2.

3.

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Plan a community project together.

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