CONSENT

CONSENT IS….

• Showing enthusiasm for, & desire to participate in the sexual activity

• free from manipulation or coercion

• clearly understood by everyone participating

• Always required

Communication is sexy.

Consent is mandatory.

CONSENT SOUNDS LIKE….

Yes!

I’d like to……….

I love you/this/it

It feels good when you………

Would you please……

I want to keep doing this

I’m enjoying this

CONSENT LOOKS LIKE

Pulling someone closer

Nodding yes

Making direct eye contact

Laughing or smiling

Actively touching someone

Initiating sexual activity

ASKING FOR CONSENT IS SEXY……….. May I…………?

I’d like to…….would you like to? If not, what would you like to do?

How do you feel about doing…….?

Is there anything you need to feel comfortable or safe when we...?

I'm really interested in doing …….with you. Do you want to do that?

I'd like to have sex tonight, would you?

What do you want to do or try tonight?

CONSENT DOES NOT SOUND LIKE….. Silence

I’m not ready

Can we just……

I’m not sure

I don’t like this

This doesn’t feel right/good

CONSENT DOES NOT LOOK LIKE….. Turning away

Looking down/avoiding eye contact

Pushing someone away

Lying still, not participating

Avoiding touch/not touching you

CONSENT IS AN ONGOING CONVERSATION

I’m not feeling……..tonight. Can we do…..instead?

I know we……before, but tonight I’d like to…….instead

Are there things you don’t want to do: what are they? Mine are………

I like…..more than…..

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