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Carol Look, EFT Masterwww.AttractingAbundance.com

Rick Wilkes, Emotional Freedom Coachwww.ThrivingNow.com

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Table of Contents2isclaimer..........................................................................................3

&ecording 45......................................................................................6The 7asics About Clutter...................................................................6/hysical 'pace and Clutter................................................................6Abundance and Clutter.....................................................................8Technological 'pace and Clutter........................................................."Emotional Clutter...........................................................................5!/hysical 7ody and Clutter................................................................5'piritual Clutter..............................................................................590here 2oes Clutter Come From:......................................................53Needing 'ome /lace *or the 'tu** to ;o.............................................58'carcity and #ac$...........................................................................!

#ac$ o* #ove..................................................................................

&ecording 4....................................................................................6Clearing Emotions, Events, and Con*licts............................................6The Feeling o* ..........................................................8Tapping on the Feeling o* .........................................."Tapping on 2ecision1Ma$ing.............................................................99More Tapping on ......................................................96The Fear o* Facing Clutter................................................................9?The Fear o* Facing +0hatever @T @s............................................9"Tapping on the Fear o* Facing ....................................................3!

Tapping on &e*using to Face ......................................................3Tapping on the Fear o* Facing 0hen Theres ................33Tapping on 7eing Too 7usy..............................................................3BThe @tch o* 'carcity........................................................................3?Tapping on 'carcity........................................................................6!Tapping on .................................................................65

&ecording 49....................................................................................63Abandonment, urt, and Clutter.......................................................63Tapping on Abandonment................................................................68Tapping on &eDection......................................................................6"

Tapping on Clinging........................................................................B5Tapping on Anger...........................................................................B8Tapping on &ebelliousness...............................................................B"Tapping on ...............................................8!Tapping on Anger...........................................................................8Tapping on ;uilt.............................................................................83Tapping on Family Clutter................................................................86

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Tapping on ;uilt and Money.............................................................?!

&ecording 43....................................................................................?;uilt, 'hame, and Clutter................................................................?Tapping on 'hame in ;eneral..........................................................?3Tapping on 'hame *rom /arents.......................................................?BTapping on 'hame About Clutter......................................................?8The abit o* Clutter........................................................................"!Tapping on a 7ad abit o* Cluttering................................................."9'peci*ic Events Tied to Clutter.........................................................."3Tapping on 'peci*ic Events 1 0hat 'omeone 2id................................."?Tapping on &ebelliousness.............................................................5!!Tapping on 'peci*ic Events 1 0hat 'omeone 'aid..............................5!5

&ecording 46..................................................................................5!60hat Clutters =ur (ibration:..........................................................5!6Tapping on 0hat =thers Thin$........................................................5!8

Tapping on Eternal Approval.........................................................5!"Tapping on @ntrusive 7ehavior *rom #oved =nes................................55Tapping on the /ast......................................................................553Tapping on the Future +/art 5.......................................................558Tapping on the Future +/art .......................................................55?Tapping on the abit o* Negativity..................................................59Tapping on Appreciating Goursel*....................................................56

&ecording 4B..................................................................................5?&eview o* /hysical % Emotional Clutter............................................5?Tapping on 7eing 7usy..................................................................595

Tapping on 0here to 'tart.............................................................593Tapping on Emotional @nter*erence..................................................59BTapping on 7ac$sliding..................................................................59?Tapping on 7uilding abits.............................................................53!Tapping on Needing More..............................................................53B


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Recording #1

The Basics About Clutter*starts + -/01

Carol Look: 0elcome, everyoneH This is &ecording 45, our introductionand de*inition about the basics about clutter. 0elcome, &ic$H

Rick Wilkes: i, CarolH

Carol: 2e*inition o* clutter 1 we have lots o* people listening who haveclutter in all parts o* their lives, and @ thought we would go through somedescriptions and eamples and Dust get peoples heads around di**erentversions o* clutter in their li*e. 'ome people are going to be listening whodont Iuite thin$ they have much, but theyre interested, and @ thin$ we canpiIue their interest even more.

Rick: A lot o* people also thin$ o* clutter as that physical stu** thats in yourli*e and were going to be tal$ing here about some o* the other aspects o*clutter in your emotional space, in your body, and in other aspects in yourli*e as well.

Physical Space and Clutter*starts + 2//1

Carol: #ets start with the physical space, because thats the obvious onethat is bringing most people to the recordings and that come to us *orcoaching in our practices. /hysical space clutter lets give some obviouseamples. The tables with mail on it. /iles and piles o* mail that peoplewal$ by and it changes your energy when its cluttered. /iles and piles o*

boo$s in the corners o* o**ices, on tables and couches 1 what else: ;ivesome other eamples that are obvious.

Rick: 0ell, to me, the physical clutter 1 what de*ines it as clutter is itscausing you some distress. Goure loo$ing at it, and it doesnt *eel right. @tchanges the space in a way that isnt pleasing to you. @ts not com*ortable.Gou have Dudgments about it. Gou loo$ at it, and it doesnt loo$ organiJed.


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0hen you want to go into the space and get something, you *eel moredistressed about it than you normally would have i* you went in to *indsomething in that space that might even be very *ull, but isnt cluttered.Gou thin$ about a library. There is organiJational structure to that thatallows us to go in, *ind it, ta$e it o** the shel*, bring it bac$, and you $now

where its going to go. @n a lot o* peoples spaces, there is either noorganiJation or the organiJation is so chaoticthat it causes them to stress. @separate that *rom someone that has a Iuote thats all theirown, that doesnt cause them distress. @ dont necessarily thin$ thatsomebodys des$, which has a bunch o* piles on it, is necessarily cluttered i*they have a system and its not causing them distress, and theyre notspending a lot o* emotional or intellectual energy worrying about it. ThatsDust a di**erent $ind o* space. 7ut we $now that, i* you have a space that isnot energetically *eeling sa*e, com*ortable, and *lowing to you, that thats aproblem. And also, to me, in physical space, as peoples lives change and astheir vibration changes, a space that might have been com*ortable to yoube*ore, might start *eeling cluttered or overwhelming as your vibrationchanges. As you start *eeling more abundant, interestingly enough, youo*ten want to simpli*y your spaces, so clutter in a physical space loo$s li$ethat to me. And also big spaces where you are hoarding things, $eepingthem aside *or one day 1 . Thegarage that you cant get into and you dont even $now whats in therebecause its holding all the stu** that you didnt *eel emotionally *ree enoughand sa*e enough to let go o*.

Carol: @ thin$ is a $ey word here, because youre right. @ can go

into your place and thin$ its cluttered, and you can come into mine andthin$ its cluttered, but i* it doesnt create a chaotic response inside youenergetically, then its not cluttered. @t doesnt get to be called .My des$ 1 some people wouldnt be able to *ind anything. @ $now eactlywhere everything is on thatdes$. And thats really important 1 that notiono* chaos. 0hen you loo$ at your pile or your des$ or the corner or thegarage, does it give you that electrical charge that doesnt *eel good: @ waswor$ing with someone on the abundance tapes and he said, he said, That was clutter.

Rick: Ges.

Carol: That was chaotic clutter to his energy. Then again, somebody elsemight loo$ at it and not have that reaction. @ thin$ one thing that does seemto happen is people get used to it, and they get that shudder in their body,and they ignore it. @ts still having an energetic e**ect on them thats


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negative, but they $ind o* pretend they dont see it or they ignore it or theyloo$ over it, and thats not good *or us energetically either.

Rick: @ do believe that peoples spaces o*ten are a mirror to what theirinner li*e is li$e. And, i* you wal$ into a space as someone who is normally

pretty balanced and com*ortable, and it *eels chaotic, discordant, chancesare the owner o* that space is living in that energy all the time. There arepractices li$e *eng shui and the energetic tuning o* spaces, but almosteverybody can wal$ into a space and get a *eeling o*L*or me 2i**erent spacescan have di**erent energies. Gou may want a space that has a very creative,energiJing e**ect. Gou may want a physical space that has a relaing,nurturing, cuddle1me $ind o* *eeling to it. The clutter aspect o* it is, Thats oneo* the things were going to help people with.

Another aspect to me, Carol, is the entropy rule about the universe that inany space, it will tend toward disorder. And *or me, clutter is somethingthat there is always going to be a gap between the per*ect organiJation o*the space and where it is in that moment. 0e want to help people *eelsurprisingly com*ortable with a space that has got some wor$ to be done onit and*eel surprisingly com*ortable moving *orward and cleaning up thespace, organiJing it in a very relaed, natural pace, without having to havethat pressure on ourselves to get it done . 'ometimes we dont have the time to do that right inthat moment.

Abundance and Clutter*starts + /31

Carol: 7e*ore we tal$ about emotional, bodily, and spiritual clutter, letstal$ a little bit about how it inter*eres with abundance, because you and @ dida podcast on this which was very eciting, and we both agree that i* you arecluttered and energetically *eel that energy which seems negative and o** orchaotic, that will a**ect your vibration. And we are all about changing yourvibration, raising your vibration to be able to attract and $eep abundance inyour li*e moving and *lowing, to be able to attract and $eep it in your li*e.And i* you wal$ into your home or your o**ice and you Dust close your eyesout o* disgust *or your own clutter, you are not in an energetic place that isabundant. 'o part o* why we decided to do this together was aboutabundance and what gets in our way, and clutter is one o* the main things.


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And again, well tal$ more about emotional, bodily, and spiritual clutter.0eve already tal$ed about the physical space clutter, but its critical to ourbeing able to receiveabundance, @ believe.

Rick: &eceiving abundance *inancially and eperiencing it emotionally has a

lot to do with the state o* being that a space evo$es within us. Thats what @was tal$ing about. =ne o* the things that we are going to want you to loo$at as a part o* this program is, *or each o* your spaces, what $ind o* state o*being does it naturally evo$e, and anything that doesnt *it within that, i* youcall it clutter, we can help you start shi*ting that space, shi*ting the energyo* that space so that it *eels more pleasing to you, that it is evo$ing thatstate o* being. To me, abundance is about a wide variety o* states o* being,including *eeling very com*ortable as well as *eeling energiJed, eager, andcurious. As @ wal$ into my o**ice, @ *eel overwhelmed instantly. 0ell, thatsnot an emotion o* abundance, and so its hard *or me to tune intoabundance. That means that @m not going to be loo$ing *or opportunity 1open to opportunity 1 as much as @m Dust going to be trying to tread waterand get it all ta$en care o* 1 getting it all ta$en care o*, trying to ma$e dowith the mess. That uses a lot more energy actually than creatingsomething new that might bring *inancial abundance in, that might open uprelationships. Those types o* things actually ta$e less energy than all o* theother stu**, usually, *or a lot o* people that are struggling with clutter.

Carol: &ight 1 its Dust li$e youre trying to catch up by cleaning up. Catchup, catch up, and then you never sit down. Also, @ believe it can be used asa way to procrastinate. @ts a good ecuse. Gou $now the old Do$e about being inschool, when youve got a term paper, you suddenly clean up your roomH

Rick: +laughing

Carol: And @ thin$ it can Dust be woven into ourlives in a dys*unctional way, in everything.


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Technological Space and Clutter*starts + /-01

Rick: 0e have to address, in terms o* physical space, also the technologicalspaces that we have.

Carol: Than$ you.

Rick: 0hen you are loo$ing at your inbo, and it gives you the same sensethat it would i* each one o* those emails was printed out and strewn out allover your o**ice. @* thats the same $ind o* *eeling you get, then it iscluttered and having as much o* a drain on your *ocus, choices, as anything.@* your hard drives, i* your documents, and all o* those areas are causingyou those same types o* distress, techniIues that we are going to be

teaching you, they will also be able to help you to shi*t those areas. Andagain, procrastination applies there. 'ome people spend a lot o* timemassaging their inboes rather than moving *orward in the areas that arepriorities that gives them that *eeling o* abundance. That is using clutter asthat bloc$ to doing the other things. Thats why what were going to bedoing is not Dust tal$ing about howto clean it up, but loo$ing at how doyouclean it up: 0hat ways, when you get into one o* your cleanup binges, is itreally serving you, or is it maybe a higher vibration way o* doing that thatwill be more sustainable, more pleasing to you, give you a sense o* a*oundation that can support all the other aspects o* your li*e.

Carol: 0ith one clic$ o* a button, @ deleted 58,!!! emails one day. @ hadto reallythin$ about it. and well get into that more later with the emotional pieces, but @havent turned bac$, havent missed them *or one minute, and that wasseveral months ago. There was an interesting eercise *or me about that$ind o* clutter on the computer. Computers havent saved me anything as*ar as clutter. @ have more paperwor$ and more emails and more stu** andDun$ than ever. That was an interesting eercise.


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Emotional Clutter*starts + /2041

Carol: Now, emotional clutter some o* these are obvious, but we Dustwant to tal$ about these. @t was very help*ul *or us with each other, &ic$and @, when we were planning this, to tal$ through some o* these stages o*clutter. Now, emotional clutter we are eperts in helping people releasesome o* that, Dust in basic EFT and Dust in coaching sessions, and sometimespeople come to us, and they Dust say, @n helping them with EFT to maybe categoriJe, or say,, and ,, , , < 0hats the boss issue:> That alone can help someone*eel less cluttered emotionally. Now, some people hold on to every *eeling.

@* thats a good image *or you, the way you might hold on to every piece o*paper, hold on to every boo$ or every pamphlet you get *rom a wor$shop,and you have too much o* it. /eople can hold on to emotions that way,whether its nursing grudges, or they Dust thin$ too much about all the*eelings they have toward everybody, and theyre not clear. And i* yourenot clear, youre not ta$ing the net right step toward your own abundance 1and that could be an abundance o* love, an abundance o* money, anabundance o* priority 1 an abundance o* anything. 'o clarity *or us is $ey inour wor$. 'o emotional clutter can come in many, many *orms too many*eelings, too many thoughts, not being able to turn it o** at night, to turn o**

your mon$ey mind.

Rick: Ges.

Carol: #ots o* ways to have emotional clutter. Goure $ind o* too upset andtoo anious about what other people thin$ about you 1 @ *ind that cluttering*or people. There are lots o* ways that some o* you listening sayL>0ell, myo**ice is very neat, and my home is very clean.> 7ut emotionally, theres, so much noise that they really cant ta$e a step. Thats critical, to loo$at the emotional clutter that we all have.

Rick: Emotional clutter, to me, impacts our relationships in enormous ways.@* @ thin$ about a particular person, and @ve held on to a lot o* di**erentnegative eperiences that we might have had 1 little ones, big ones 1 @cannot be *ully present with that person. Goure going to have in your heartand around you all the di**erent emotions that you are holding as you relateto that person. =ne o* the things that attracted me most to EFT was being


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able to clear that emotional clutter so that @ could be very simple andpresent with the people in my li*e without having to have all o* this othernoise. Emotional noise $eeps you *rom hearing what someone is reallycommunicating to you. Emotional clutter acts as heavy weights on ourheart, the senses o* big and little betrayals, the senses o* not being heard,

manipulated 1 all o* those things play into the tapestry that we have aroundthe people in our lives, *rom our bosses to our mates. That $ind o* clutter,you can *eel it. 0hen you thin$ o* people, do you have a very simple,upli*ted *eeling about them, or do you remember this, that, and the otherthing that and i* you have a long list o* +blan$s, then you have emotionalclutter. The other problem with emotional clutter is that it holds people tothe past that they had. @t would be li$e i* you were seeing them throughnegative movies that you had around them *rom a year ago, or *ive yearsago, or twenty years ago, or *i*ty years ago. Goure seeing them as thatperson. Each one o* us is changing moment to moment. 0ith some peoplethats very obvious, and theyre moving up the (ibrational 'cale with somepeople, less so. 7ut the emotional clutter, as you clear that, suddenly nowyoure relating to the person that is, right here, right now, rather than theperson that wasthree years ago.

Carol: Now thats a great point and angle that you bring up. @* you and @met each other in person, and we havent seen each other in a while, and weare bringing clutter to each other abouteach other. @ was thin$ing in termso* Dust clutter in general in your mind emotionally. Gou also cant bepresent.

Rick: No.

Carol: 0ell, @ may want to be present to you, and be totally clear about thetwo o* us in our relationship, but i* @ve got clutter about everybody else inmy li*e, in business, in a business deal, and a *uture thing @m doing with a*amily member, @m also not present. 'o again, bac$ to that clarity and thatability to be present and listen and pay attention. @ts actually an interestingsign. @* someones tal$ing to you and theyre not there, where are they:

Rick: +laughing Theyre o** in their emotional clutter.

Carol: Theyre in their emotional clutter.


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Physical Body and Clutter*starts + /031

Carol: =$ay, how about we do the physical body and clutter: 7ecause @

thin$ this can come out in some pretty interesting ways. A basic might be*or some people, @ had a client say she *elt that way with her weight loss.There was all this etra stu** she was holding on to, on her body, and shewas almost ready to let it go. 'he *elt li$e it might as well have been hermessy o**ice. @t was an interesting image and angle *rom which to see it.That was interesting *or her, Dust saying,

Rick: @ believe that ecess weight 1 when you really *eel li$e you have moreweight than you need 1 the primitive brain has been carrying around thepantry with you. /erhaps 5!,!!! years ago when we didnt have grocerystores, it was important *or survival, i* you were under stress a lot, to carrywith you a lot o* stu**. A lot o* those things had an epiration date a long,long time ago, and i* we can help clear those energies and *ree them up tobe reinvested in some way, in the same way that, i* you had a coin collectionthat was gathering dust, and you *elt li$e you wanted to go on vacation, thatthat would be a better eperience, i* you sold the coin collection and too$the money to have that eperience, youd be reinvesting one *orm o* energyinto a di**erent *orm o* energy 1 *rom the physical coin collection to aneperience. Clutter in the body in terms o* stored energy, in the *orm o* *at,is one way that, as you clear that out, youre reinvesting that in other things

in your li*e movement, vitality, creativity. Theres also those pains andtraumas that are stored in a hip, in a $nee. They can be spea$ing to usconstantly. Gou and @, through our program , loo$ingat these speci*ic events and where they can be stored in the body as well asthe emotional things that $eep coming up, coming up, coming up.'ometimes i* you listen to the body and ta$e inventory o* the areas thatyoure paying attention to in a negative way and start addressing thesespeci*ic events and big and little traumas o* your li*e, it clears the clutter*rom the energy *low in your body. @ts li$e ta$ing a cree$ and ta$ing the bigroc$s and the logs and the rotted stumps out o* it. @t gets your energymoving more smoothly. )ust li$e a room has a *low o* energy, your bodyhas an even more dynamic *low o* energy. Clearing the clutter *rom thatma$es an enormous di**erence in your eperience o* li*e.

Carol:&ight, you have more energy. @ts li$e sleeping. @* your mind iscluttered, you wont sleep well. And i* you dont sleep well, you dont havemuch energy. They all come together.


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Spiritual Clutter*starts + 3321

Carol: 'o how about spiritual clutter: #ets tal$ a little bit about that andhow does that show up with someone.

Rick: 'piritual clutter, in the *orm o* the inner critic.

Carol: Mmm1hmm.

Rick: 0hen someone has an inner critic, or a whole team o* inner criticsthat are yapping at you all the time, its hard to hear inner guidance. is a so*t, still, Iuieter, less assertive energy. @t guides more gently

than . 'o, as you address those critical, sel*1critical, sel*1hating$inds o* energies 1 as you Iuiet yoursel* 1 as you allow yoursel* to go to astate o* peace*ul simplicity and awareness, now youve got that connectionto source energy, which provides power. @t provides guidance. Thats what@ *ind 1 when people have a lot o* clutter around that connection, clearingthat clutter so that they can power*ully and consciously and intentionallyconnect to source energy. +%ick takes a deep breath.

Carol: 0hen people have the , @ $now they have spiritual clutter.

Rick: +laughing

Carol: Theyre not connected, as you say. 0hen , , and 1 o$ay, but what doesyour guidance say:

Rick: is the way @ describe it.The , , 1 that shuts us o** *rom spiritualguidance, which is much more attuned to and doesnt use , , and in order to guideus and let us go with that *low.

Carol: 7e*ore we ta$e a brie* brea$, be*ore we tal$ about where it all comes*rom, lets tal$ about the Iuestion, @ thin$, *oreveryone listening, that would be a valuable Iuestion. #ets say you havephysical space clutter. ow does it serve you: @s there any upside: #etssay you have bodily clutter, whether in the *orm o* pain or weight or arthritis


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in your $nees. ow does it serve you: @s there any upside to it: 2oes ithelp you do something or get a need met: @s there anything positive aboutit: 7ecause i* there is, and we Dust try to tap it away, youll ta$e it bac$because you need to be sa*e with it. 7eing sa*e with it is more importantthan letting it go. 'o @ thin$ thats a valuable Iuestion. ow does it serve

you to have this spiritual clutter:

Rick: Gou taught me the Iuestion, Thats a very power*ul Iuestion to as$. A lot o* times, @ cant see theupside o* $eeping the clutter, but i* @ imagine it gone, all o* a sudden now @$now that there are things that are maybe outside o* my com*ort Jone that @have been putting o**, @ dont want to loo$ at, @ dont *eel supported loo$ingat, that are unsa*e, ris$y, etc. @t may not ma$e logical sense at all. @n *act,o*ten times they dont.

Carol: 0ell $eep as$ing that Iuestion as we go through eercises, tal$more about where clutter comes *rom, and do the EFT eercises with all o*you. 0ell continue to as$, , and then o* course useEFT *or the energy o* that.

here Does Clutter Come !rom"*starts + 35/61

Carol: 'o, &ic$, where does clutter come *rom:

Rick: =ne o* the places that it comes *rom is *rom our *amily history andthe type o* *amily that we are. @ picture a *amily o* hunters thousands o*years ago. They probably traveled pretty light. They had to be able to pac$up and carry with them everything that they owned. That meant a certainsimplicity 1 that everything had a very strict *unction to it, and i* it wasntvaluable, it wasnt worth carrying. And then other groups that weregeographically located could start collecting lots and lots o* things, and therewere cultures where acIuisitions and wealth and Dewels and other thingswere the way that you established your status within the tribe. Those thingshave gone with us and evolved through time. 0e all $now people wherewhat you own is the de*inition o* who you are.


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Carol: ow much stu** do you have:

Rick: @ used to have a t1shirt @gave that away when my energy shi*ted around thatH That was one o* thethings that is a drum beat that @ heard and @ listened to, and @ said, 'o that was one o* the*amily history types o* things. @t also comes *rom contrast, doesnt it, Carol:

Carol: The contrast o* scarcity:

Rick: @* you grew up without it, you may want a lot o* things, thin$ing thatthat was the answer.

Carol: 7oth can happen, so you and @ tal$ about modeled habits. 'o, i*your parents modeled holding on to stu**, you can either *ollow that modelbecause you thin$ thats right, or you might get repulsed by that and giveeverything away as a result. @* your parents *elt a scarcity issue, they heldon to stu** that wasnt valuable because they thought that would help them*eel valued.

Rick: &ight.

Carol: Gou $now, you can go both directions. Gou $now, my *avoriteepression is, i* you grew up in France, you spea$ French. 0ell, i* you growup in a household, whatever you see at home, we usually ta$e with us 1 ourparents attitudes, their patterns, our grandparents attitudes about stu**.

@ts about Dewelry, boo$s, paper, clothing, carpets, art wor$, television sets 1anything 1 chairs, dining room tables. Gou also get involved in that . 0ell, its bro$enH . @ts bro$enH @ts not worth anything. Andthat *eeling o* you cant possibly get rid o* anything that waspart o* the *amily, that comes *rom a whole emotional energy there, too.'o, you and @ tal$ a lot about Now, is that *rom your parents: @s that *rom one eperience: Maybe therewas an event in your li*e 1 and well use EFT with many speci*ic events 1maybe there was an event that taught you . Gou$now the old Do$e about,

Rick: That thought is in the air. 0eve all heard it. As soon as you havethat eperience, it will rein*orce that statement, that idea, that as soon asyou get rid o* it, youll need it. @* that happens to you once, you will tend towant to move away *rom the pain o* *eeling li$e


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awayL> Addressing that in the moment with EFT can be a big help, $eepingyou *rom changing your behavior in a way that is not pleasing to you. @thin$ o* children who were told to share and maybe they had candy thatthey wanted to $eep, or they had certain things that they wanted that wereta$en *rom them, li$e a toy that was ta$en prematurely *or some reason.

Thosethings, we dont $now *or sure whether it causes a desire to hold on, holdon, hold on. 7ut i* you start having memories li$e that, as you thin$ aboutthe things that are cluttering your li*e and youve got a resistance *romletting go o* the thing that so clearly, logically, no1one would accuse you o*doing anything silly by getting rid o* it. @* you still have a *eeling o* holdingon, guess what: There are almost certainly some events *rom your li*e thatcould be used e**ectively with EFT to shi*t that *eeling.

Carol: And maybe you heard someone tal$ about that. Maybe you were eight and heard an auntor an uncle or a parent say that. Maybe you did it yoursel*, and maybe youwere ordered to clean up your room at age ten and you threw something outthat you wish you hadnt thrown out. There are so many small instances aswell as enormous ones that could leadto the need to hold on. 'o weregoing to be very *leible, go all the way to both sides o* the continuum aboutwhy emotionally we might *eel the need to hold on to material obDects,boo$s, clothing, scarvesLyou $now how many people have a bo o* etramittens, right: Fi*teen etra pairs o* one1sided mittens, because you mightneed them one dayH

Rick: =r how about that soc$ that doesnt have a match: Gou $eep waiting*or it to reappear a*ter its vacation *or two years, and you still have thoseunmatched soc$s, rather than Dust ta$ing the whole bas$et and dumping itout and buying another set *or O5."" at the store: Those are things thatgive us insight into our energy. Gou dont have to ta$e necessarily the bigones. Gou can ta$e the small ones, the silly ones, and that will give you adoorway that were going to show you how to use that to a**ect the rest o*your li*e, too. 'ometimes its the simple stu**, isnt it, Carol: 0hen youshi*t the simple things, the bigger ones start becoming easier and easier and

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Carol: Ges, absolutely, and also this reminds me o* something else. @t alsohas to have someplace to go. 0hen @ *ound a *antastic second1hand shopthat @ could bring bags and bags o* clothing and soc$s and boo$s 1 they ta$eeverything. Theyll ta$e an old picture *rame 1 theyll ta$e anything. 0hen @*ound that, that changed how @ handled clutter, believe it or not. There wasa sense o* @t sounds odd, but that shi*ted somethingenergetically. That, and my o**ice building, hal* a year ago, put in anenormous industrial shredder in our lobby o* our building by the mailboholders. 'o, @ now *eel totally *ree. @ ta$e reams o* paper and paperwor$and old wor$shop *lyers and things and bills and things that @ dont need and

shred it. Now, some people are thin$ing, No, @ needed a place to put it where @ *elt sa*e getting rid o*it.

Rick: Ges.

Carol: And having a second1hand store that is *antastic where @ can ta$epiles and piles and having a shredderLit changed the *eeling o* being able tolet go. Now, @ wouldnt have been open to that had @ not been doing all o*my energy EFT wor$ on letting go. 'o that had to come *irst, then lo and

behold, @ mean @ve been doing this ta$ing things to the second1hand store.Gou helped me with that one time *inancially when @ said, Gou helped merealiJe about the abundance about it, that youre giving it to someone else.@ts not being thrown in the garbage. @t is being given to someone else.Ta$e it to the second1hand store. ;ive the couch *or no money. ;ive itaway, whatever you hold on to, whether its *urniture or boo$s. @m startingto give away boo$s, and it *eels good. @t *eels reallygood.

Rick: @ used to hold on to my boo$s. @ used to hold on to clothes. @ usedto hold on to so many things, and @ thin$ youre right on with that. 0e needto *eel good and sa*e in the recyclingPreuse process. Most o* the things thatwe have that we thin$ are clutter are not Dust trash.

Carol: &ight.

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people that say they have a cluttered house, its not necessarily a dirtyplace, its Dust that there are things that they are not ready to move on. @agree with you 1 in terms o* paperwor$, *or me, dumping it out in a bin thatwas on its way to the county dump, and @ $new somebody was not going tobe able to go through it, that provided a measure o* sa*ety. 'hredding it is

great because most o* the shredded materials end up being recycled andend up in toilet paper and stu** li$e that. @ts wonder*ul. 'o, @ believe thatthere are ways o* allowing that energy to trans*orm and move and *low, butli$e you said, you wont see them. Goull ma$e ecuses why its not going towor$ *or you. Gou wont even see the ta deduction that you get *romdonating clothes and boo$s and the li$e, which can be very considerable.Gou wont see those things i* your programming is,

Carol: =ne time @ was ta$ing a whole load o* clothes to a 'alvation Army,and in it 1 the 'alvation Army was actually built li$e a store as well 1 therewas some seventeen1year1old $id who *ound a blac$ suit or a tuedo *or hisprom, and he bought it *or li$e two dollars. 'ome man gave a tuedo thatprobably cost hundreds o* dollars, and this seventeen1year1old $id paid threedollars *or it, and he was beamingH @ was li$e, suddenly energetically, That sense o* or , there are millions o* people who can use the boo$ youread and loved, who can use that sweater that, you $now what, its not yourstyle any more. Gouve moved to a di**erentL

Rick: Gour energy has changedH Every time someones energy changes,the clothes that used to wor$ *or you are not going to wor$ *or you. Andunless you bac$pedaled to Dunior high school, chances are youre not goingto be interested in wearing those clothes any more. @ had always wonderedwhat the shop did with the clothes that nobody seemed to buy.They went o** to ;uatemala. Every year, some o* the local surgeons wouldgo down and do *ree surgery down in ;uatemala, and when they did, theywould ta$e shipping crates worth o* clothes and materials and other thingsthat were appropriate *or the villagers that they would be seeing. And theywere li$e 'anta Claus *or these people 1 the shirts and soc$s and things that

we may not be happy with, there are people in di**erent places in terms o**inancial abundance that can be happy with it. @* you *ind that that ideama$es you tense and uncom*ortable, were delighted to have you listen,because that is the energy that, i* it shi*ts, you will *ind a lot o* things start*lowing in your li*e. And its o$ay to be there. 0e all pic$ these things up.0e can pic$ them up *rom movies, *rom our *amily, *rom bosses, *riends 1Dust the eperience o* living can say, From a *low standpoint, thats not true.


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Carol: @ remember *irst being in New Gor$, and living in these tinyapartments and not having enough *urniture or a little ceramic thing *or thetable 1 @ mean, @ didnt have anything. 'o @ would $ind o* collect stu** thatwas neither my style, my pre*erence, my taste, @ didnt buy it. @* someone

was throwing something out, @ was happy to have it. @ dont mean grungystu**, but you $now 1 someone would say, , and its li$e, well, @ wasnt smo$ing any more, but

Rick: +laughing

Carol: 7ecause @ had nothing. @ was living in a studio apartment. @ wasluc$y to have a couple o* chairs. 'o that *eeling too$ a while to let go o*.That sense 1 we have categories 1 that needing to hold on, the insecurity,, . /eople do that with overeating, too.Theres not enough *ood, so theyll eat more o* something they dont li$ebecause there might not be enough *ood tomorrow. 0ell, we do that withitems 1 with material obDects. 0e *ear that theres not going to be enough*or us and we hold on.

Rick: Then there is the game. , what i*,what i*, what i*, what i* 1 all the negative what1i*s that you can as$ around aspeci*ic thing that has you put it bac$ instead o* letting it move on.

Carol: &ight. 'o, the *ear o* , , 1 thats connected to regret. 0hat were going to getmore into the emotions, the lac$ o*, and how our emotions ma$e us hold onrather than a li*e eperience o* That 1 @ hear that over andover and over again in this society. /eople tease about it. @ts a clichQ /eople tal$ about that even when theydont really believe it. Thats a very common topic. Theyre teasing. Theyre tal$ing around the water cooler @ thin$ thats a very common topic o*

conversation.

Rick: @ thin$ its also a way o* covering *or the emotional discom*ort thatpeople have about letting it go. @ say, , and @cant argue with it. &ight: Gou might need that carburetor *rom that 5"83Chevy (ega that you havent owned *or 56 years. Thats the other side o* it.


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Carol: Thats the abundanceL

Rick: 7ut are they really something that youre enDoying

having in your space and in your li*e: Gou can always go bac$ and re1buythem, i* you want, and i* youre in a place o* abundance, thats one o* themeasures i* something really isnt li*e or death, and its right to let go o*, i*you cant, then to me, thats a sign that youve got an energy around it thatisnt as healthy and use*ul and resource*ul.

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Carol: Ges, and that its being used *or the wrong reasons. 'o lets tal$about scarcity and lac$.

Rick: =$ay.

Carol: @n scarcity and lac$, maybe you dont have your physical needs met.Maybe you grew up in poverty and you really didnt have enough clothes orenough warmth or enough shoes. Thats a serious, real physical lac$ andscarcity. 7ut now youve grown up and you have a Dob, and you actually areproviding *or yoursel* and you have enough. @t may not *eel plenti*ul, but

you have clothes and shoes and a roo* over your head. Gou $now, its hardto grow out o* that, where one dayL @ve always had clients tal$ to meabout how they grew up so poor, and theyre wealthy now, or wealthy bycomparison.

Rick: Ges.

Carol: They have a Dob and they do have a home, and theyre so a*raid thattheyre going to go bac$ to being poor, the way they were as a child. Theycant let go o* that. All the signs are there that theyve changed that energy1 they have an income and they have a salary and theyre ta$ing care o*themselves much better than the previous generation, but that energy is inthem. @ts very power*ul.

Rick: Gou didnt have a pair o* shoes that *it, so now you cant even let goo* the shoes that are so well worn out, or that you will never wear again.Gou were short o* *ood *or a while, legitimately, and it was pain*ul 1


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traumatic, even. 'o now, your pantry has to be stoc$ed to over*lowing, andyour re*rigerator has to be stoc$ed to over*lowing. Gou dont *eelcom*ortable unless it is. Those are signs o* that scarcity and lac$. @ts not amentality only 1 we call it a mentality 1 but its a *eeling in the body. @ts awhole1body eperience o* discom*ort when you thin$ about changing that.

&ecogniJe that its not a behavior thats serving you, that may have led youto this program. Now, what were going to be doing is help you *eelcom*ortable shi*ting that, by ac$nowledging and doing a little detective wor$about where that lac$ o* physical needs being met early in your li*e is stillbeing run and eperienced now 1 and run amo$, to a certain etent.

Carol: And by the way, i* your energy is in that lac$ because o* what yougrew up with +or didnt grow up with, stoc$ing the re*rigerator and thepantry doesnt scratch the itch. @* you didnt grow up with enough shoes andsoc$s and clothing or enough warmth, having *i*teen thousand sweatersdoesnt actually do the Dob, but we are under the illusion that it does.

Rick: @ thin$ it does sel*1medicate, but its a sel*1medication that lasts *or avery short period o* time. @ts really a case where any change in thenegative direction is a trend that youre sensitive to. 'o as long as youreaccumulating more and more and more and more, youre com*ortable, butas soon as that trend starts changing, where you start *eeling li$e stu** ismoving out rather than more and more and more stu** being accumulated 1whoa, now weve got the problem. Thats the trigger. @t doesnt matterwhether youre starting *rom a thousand pair o* shoes or ten. @* you have anissue around needing lots o* physical things, i* the trend shi*ts the other

wayLuh1oh. Gour being will start sabotaging any e**ort 1 sometimes ratherdramatically sabotaging.

Carol: No one ever accumulates unless they have an energetic place o* lac$that theyre trying to *ill. @ts not normal to accumulate *or no reason, Dust*or security. @n other words, it comes *rom an emotion. @t comes *romenergy. Goure not readingthe boo$. Gou couldnt possibly read thethousands o* boo$s. Gou couldnt possibly go through all those papers. @used to hold on to all the old wor$shop brochures that @ put out, or my !1and 9!1page pamphlets that @ gave to people *rom 5""?, my *irst EFT

wor$shops, 5""8 1 and @ got to the point where @ realiJed, 7ut it was an insecurity o* @ have so moved on *rom that time period in my li*e, and evenhow @ teach EFT, but @ had to really wrap my head around that, and it waswonder*ully cleansing when @ did. 0ere o**ering people a way to clear andto cleanse, because @ must say that its very hard to do it by yoursel*. @*youve had the lac$ o* *ood and the lac$ o* physical needs 1 and what about


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lac$ o* love: #ets tal$ about that *or a little bit. @* youve eperienced alac$ o* love, what might you hold on to in your li*e:

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Rick: Anything that gives you com*ort. Anything that ma$es you *eel loved.The person that had a lac$ o* love generally, but *elt loved when ;randmabrought her some chocolate chip coo$ies, will want to hoard chocolate chipcoo$ies as well as other *ood and things that evo$e the same energy. @* you*elt loved and sa*e escaping into boo$s 1 and a lot o* people did as children 1they would be able to pic$ up a boo$ and escape into it, and it would allowthem to not be in their body and in their current li*e. 0ell, why in the worldwould you ever want to get rid o* a single boo$: 7ecause the boo$s

represented not only love, but sa*ety. Those are, *or me, some o* the $eyeamples. 0hat do you thin$ o* when you see people compensate *or lac$o* love with clutter:

Carol: 7e*ore @ say that, @ want to go bac$ to one o* your earlier pointsthat, i* you have a beauti*ul library o* a thousand boo$s, and you wal$ in andyou *eel happy there 1 not energetically disturbed or chaotic 1 then thats notclutter.

Rick: @t isnt.

Carol: Reep your lovely, beauti*ul boo$sH Goure not sel*1medicating 1 its*antasticH @ Dust want to ma$e that point again. @ts about your reactionandyour responseto the stu** in your li*e. 7ut regarding love, @ have *oundpeople literally hold on to and get cluttered with relationships.

Rick: =h.

Carol: The relationships that arent serving them anymore, therelationships that are a drag on their energy, but they $eep up. @ thin$, 'o they have two hundred closeacIuaintancesL

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Carol: Lwhich ma$es them *eel special. 'o i* that love issue 1 i* yourestarving, i* youre starved *rom love and com*ort and care and a**ection *romyour *amily, you may grow up and mista$e and con*use Iuantity withIuality.

Rick: Can it also be that somebody ma$es a statement to themselves as ayounger child, that they *elt reDectedand let go o*.

Carol: Ges.

Rick: They say, Thats a very good point about relationshipclutter. @ also thin$ about groups. @ hear about people that are on so manydi**erent committeesL

Carol: &ight.

Rick: Lthat they have all o* these di**erent areas where the ways thattheyre trying to contribute to society is so cluttered, they dont *eel goodanymore. Theyre Dust doing too much. Again, @ thin$ it comes down to thatloo$ing at on some level. 0hat rule would you bebrea$ing i* you let go o* this:

Carol: &ight, and i* you only *eel valued because you contribute: @ believein contribution, absolutely, and doing service, but i* you dont *eel valuedwithout it, then youll be on *ourteen committees, three local societalorganiJationsLand you will be stretched beyond your capacity and not begiving to yoursel* or your *amily anymore. That would de*eat the purpose.This is what you and @ alwayssee in our coaching practices and in ourwor$shops with people whoL theyre trying to get a need met, but theyregoing about it bac$wards, the wrong way. @t doesnt meet the need, ecept*or very temporarily, and then they end up more hungry later.

Rick: @ thin$ you Dust de*ined what clutter is.

Carol: @m so glad people are listening to this, because we $new it wascomplicated. Gou $now, everybody teases, @t is very comple. @ wont saycomplicated 1 its complex, energetically. 0e believe *rom our personal andpro*essional eperiences that you can ma$e hugeprogress using EFT to clearthe clutter emotionally, spiritually, physically, in your body, with


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relationships. Gou $now those people who, their last 8 girl*riends orboy*riends are still buddies: 'till pals: And @ thin$, but they dont want to let go o* anybody. 0hat are you doing: 0hats the point:0hat is the point o* $eeping in touch with everyone: 0hat is that serving:

0ere bac$ to ow is that really ta$ing care o*you: Maybe its ta$ing care o* you because you *eel sa*er that you haventlost touch with anybody because some *amily member lost touch with yourparents or your grandparents, and its a *amily story. Again, *amily storiesand *amily patterns and habits are where we learn. Thats our *irstlanguage.

Rick: 'o, on the other side o* clutter, theres sa*ety, theres simplicity,theres a , and theres an emotional *reedom that allowsyou to choose the things to be in your li*e that *eel really delicious, that giveyou that sense o* abundance, that let you live a li*e that is thriving,enDoyable 1 that you can be eager about without dragging with you stu** thatreally can be le*t behind *or someone else or recycling, composting, whathave you.

Carol: And you can be so much more creative when youre not cluttered.Again, cluttered on any level, li$e what youre saying with sa*ety andsimplicity on the other side. And creativity 1 there can be some realbrilliance and inspiration on the other side when your energy isnt beingdampened by stu**.

Rick: Than$ you, Carol.

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Clearing Emotions) E'ents) and Conflicts

Carol: First thing, &ic$ 0e need to decide whether were clearing anemotion, an event, or a con*lict, because we treat those di**erently with EFT.

Rick: 2o you want to give us a little bac$ground on what you mean by that,Carol:

Carol: 0ith the emotion, i* someone says, thats in the now. &ight now, theythin$ about all the wor$ they have to do and the *eeling comes up in theirbody. Thats our target. Maybe they *eel clutter because o* an event intheir li*e. Maybe something happened in their *amily, in their high school, intheir college. Maybe something happened that somehow triggered this*eeling o* overwhelm and clutter. Then we go bac$ to, and we tap on that. 0e have di**erenttargets.

Rick: Ges. &ight.

Carol: A con*lict might beLyou $now how people say, : 'ome people thin$ they shouldbe all neat and tidy and noncluttered, but they really dont wor$ that way.@ts o$ay to have some, and honestly, their system does wor$ *or them. 'othat would be a con*lict. 'o then wed use , 1 so then thats important, too.

Rick: &ight. 0hen people are doing it *or the wrong reasons, theyre doingit because everyone else loo$s at them and Dudges themL

Carol: Ges.

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Rick: 1 because organiJation is a timeinvestment. @t is.

Carol: Absolutely.

Rick: Things tend toward disorganiJation. The amount that you invest inthe organiJation o* various areas o* your home, various areas o* your o**iceand your li*e, will depend both on your own personality and what wor$s *orthe way that your brain is structuredL

Carol: &ight.

Rick: Las well as some compromise with other people in your li*e. 0hatsthe balance: @* you clear the con*lict there, then youll be able to get clarityabout whats a GE' *or you.

Carol: @ thin$ thats important because you and @ are really having *undoing this, and thats really helping me with my clutter, and really, thingsare changing. owever, no one needs to do it our way. That sense o* yousaying, 1 were Dust o**ering stu** to help you. @*they want to shi*t the clutter and EFT energetically, well shi*t the reason youhave ecess clutter thats ma$ing you unhappy. @* your clutter is ma$ingyou unhappy, thats a problem. @* youre happy with your clutter, you $nowwhat: 0or$ on something else.

Rick: +laughing Chances are youre not listening to this anywayH

Carol: +laughing True, true, true. 'o @ thought we could start with theemotions, because they seem to be all over the place *or everyone. 0ehave so many emotions that we could tap on that would clear the clutter inthe mind and in the energy. 0e have all sorts o* emotions hereoverwhelm, *ear, scarcity, abandonment, anger, guilt, shame. 2o you havea pre*erence on where to start:

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Carol: =verwhelm: =$ay.

Rick: Things that are inherent in clutter is that you loo$ at it and there is noorganiJation to it. Gou *eel o*ten that its clutter because its too much to getyour hands around 1 too much to get through. 'omething that doesnt *eelthat way, @m not sure is even clutter.

Carol: &ight.

Rick: 'o thats why, to me, starting with overwhelm 1 the *eeling that,. @ thin$ well go *rom that emotion to some o* the other

subsidiary ones that are all around how you *eel when you connect to thereality that is your clutter.

Carol: Ges, and @ thin$ whats hard *or people and is so challenging is i* you*eel overwhelmed by your clutter, you cant start cleaning it.

Rick: No.

Carol: 'o theres this terrible cycle that happens, where 0hat you need to do to get less overwhelmed is to clean the

garbageH Gou cant clean the clutter because youre overwhelmedH 'oagain, EFT would be *abulous, and @ve certainly done it with mysel* and withothers *or that overwhelming emotional *eeling. Maybe your overwhelm isactually about your li*e and emotions, so then you become cluttered becauseyoure not paying attention to that, and its not overwhelm about loo$ing atyour clutter. Those are two separate trac$s also.

Rick: &ight.

Carol: 'hall @ lead you through one:

Rick: That would be greatH

Carol: All right. As all o* you $now, we start on the Rarate Chop point, andthen go through the regular points, tapping.

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Carol: #ets have people loo$ at their clutter and get that *eeling o*, and then were going to tap on that and then we might do with *eelings in their li*e 1 what *eels li$e clutter in theiremotional li*e.

Rick: ;ot it.

Carol: Theyre two separate ones. =$ay:

Rick: @ve got a big pile o* stu** that @ put in a place where it has been pilingup. @ added to it this morning. @ even have an empty bo sitting there,tooL

Carol: +laughing

Rick: +laughing L@ve got all $inds o* a mi o* stu** there.

Carol: @ love using props.

Rick: @ can *eel it coming alreadyH

Carol: ;reatH Gou and @ love using props with EFT, right:

Rick: &ight.

Carol: 'o the prop is in your o**ice or your home or your purse or your

brie*case or whatever. #oo$ at the clutter. 0hat does it do to youphysiologically:

Rick: The idea here is to build some intensity.

Carol: Ges.

Rick: 0e have gotten used to, many times, ignoring it 1 Dust not seeing it.Thats to avoid the overwhelm *eeling.

Carol: Ges.

Rick: &ight now, wed li$e you to loo$ at it, and i* youre going to *eeloverwhelmed, let that *eeling come up right now while we tap together.

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Rick: ;reat.

Carol: Lsee i* you get a place in your body.

Rick: GesH

Carol: 0here does the overwhelm show up *or you in your body:

Rick: Mine is at the base o* my throat 1 upper chest, base o* my throat.@m *eeling that as @ loo$ at these things and, really 1 KghH

Carol: And mine right now is de*initely upper chest. @ hadnt even noticedit was there until @ was as$ing the listeners to do that.

Tapping on the !eeling of *+'er,helmed-*starts + 0031

Carol:=$ay.

Karate Chop point: Even though @ *eel overwhelmed when @ loo$ at all thisstu**LLand @ dont $now what to do with it allLLand @ dont $now how to even get started.

@ deeply and pro*oundlyLLaccept mysel* anyway.

Even though @ *eel overwhelmed by my own clutterLLand @ can *eel it in my body right nowLL@ deeply and pro*oundlyLLaccept all o* me anyway.

Even though @m critical o* mysel*LLbecause o* all my clutterLL@ accept who @ amLLno matter what.

Eyebrow: @ *eel overwhelmed by my own clutter.Side of the eye: @m overwhelmed by my own clutter.nder the eye. Theres too muchHnder the nose: Too much clutterHChin: @t ma$es me *eel overwhelmed.


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Collarbone: @ *eel overwhelmed by my own clutter.nder the ar!: @ts too much, and @ *eel it in my body.Top of the head: @ Dust want to run away.Lor ignore it.

Carol: Ta$e a breath.

Rick:"hhhhhh8 *deep breath1 &ight be*ore we *inished, it actually gotmore intense. @ could *eel it become more sharp in my upper chest. @ wasdoing that intentionally. @ was loo$ing at these things and really *eelingwhat it meant to me in terms o* overwhelm. @ could use another round.

Carol: Ges. Absolutely.

Round Two " #$%erwhel!ed&

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Karate Chop: Even though @ still *eel overwhelmed by my clutterLLand @ *eel it in my bodyLL@ deeply and pro*oundly accept mysel* anyway.

Even though @ am overwhelmed by my own clutterLLand @ am embarrassed by itLL@ accept who @ amLLno matter what.

Even though @ hate this overwhelming *eelingLLall this clutterLLall this clutter in my li*eL@ accept who @ am right now.

Eyebrow: This remaining overwhelming *eeling.Side of the eye: @ loo$ at my clutter and @ *eel overwhelmed.nder the eye: No wonder @ cant do anything about it.nder the nose: No wonder @ cant do anything about it.Chin: All this clutter is overwhelming me.

Collarbone: @m overwhelmed by my own clutter.nder the ar!: @ dont even want to loo$ at it.Top of the head: @ dont even want to loo$ at it.

Carol: @ thought wed stop there.

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Carol: 0e could always do a positive round, $ind o* a clearing round, but @thought wed stop there and Dust chec$ in.

Rick: 0hats interesting is that @ now am seeing individual items, andtheres a speci*ic action associated with at least two o* the items. The bo 1

easily thrown away.

Carol: Mmm1hmm.

Rick: And theres a spray bottle *or cleaning the screen on my computer.And @ *eel li$e, now, @ see it, and @ $now that thats right to Dust clean it andthen put away that spray bottle. Those two things are di**erent than when @*irst loo$ed at it. As @ now loo$ at it, @m pic$ing out certain things that *eelli$e theyre heavy, that theres an obligation involved with doing somethingwith it. Thats part o* the overwhelm. Now, as @ start seeing the individualitems, my overwhelm sees that there is a C2 sitting here that someone gaveme. @t *eels li$e, and

Carol: Mmm1hmm.

Rick: Thats part o* the overwhelm process to me,i* @ start loo$ing really at it. @s there something we can do *or that:

Carol: 0ell, yes. =ne thing @ was going to say is that @ *orgot to as$ youyournumber at loo$ing at the pile, because things are di**erent. This is very

important energetically *or you to be able to see things. Things are poppingout at you, and thats what happens. @* someone is overwhelmed about arelationship, theyre not loo$ing at the relationship either. They do sometapping, and suddenly pieces o* the relationship start to show themselves,and they understand what they can do. 'o @ *orgot to as$ you the number.@m sorry about that. 7ut what @ can tell you about mychest 1 you $now, @was saying that it was in my upper chest as @m loo$ing at this particularcorner 1 is that has de*initely gone down in me.

Rick: Ges. Around the whole pile, its probably gone *rom a 8 to a .

Carol: =$ay.

Rick: Around one o* the speci*ic things that is sitting here in the *ront, $indo* on the topL

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Rick: Lthe C2, @ dont have clarity. @t *eels li$e, Gou $now: 'o those are eamples o* nowwere at speci*ics.

Carol: And decisions. 0hat $ind o* decisions should you ma$e:

Rick: 2ecisions. And thats an aspect o* clutter.

Carol: =$ay.

Rick: @* @ could reduce the overwhelm *eeling around evenone speci*ic item on there, @ sense that everything might shi*t a bit. @ *eelthat when my breathing gets constricted.

Carol: =$ay.

Rick: @m sharing this with everyone because this is the type o* thing thatwill happen. Gour body reaction may be di**erent.

Carol: &ight.

Rick: Gou may want to run.

Carol: &ight, right.

Rick: @ *eel li$e @ want to release this tension, so @m staying very *ocused

on it.

Carol: And !15!, the tension *or you about this particular item is what:

Rick: @t Dust *eels overwhelming at about an ?.

Carol: Mmm1hmm.

Rick: @ts not that important to meL

Carol: Mmm1hmm.

Rick: Lwhich actually ma$es it more overwhelming. @* it was reallyimportant, then it would be something that @ would *it into my day, but itsnot that important to me.

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Rick: @m loo$ing at the last two ban$ statements that @ havent reconciled.@n terms o* the grand scheme o* things, @m already $ind o* electronically upto date. 7ut they7resitting there.

Carol: &ight.

Rick: And what do you do when something *eels overwhelming: @t *eelsli$e $ind o* a chaotic, L +laughing

Carol: And not being able to ma$e decisions about small things, becauseyoure overwhelmed. @ mean, we could do B audio C2 tapes on beingoverwhelmedperiod with no etra contentL

Rick: &ight.

Carol: Land it would help people because it is such a common issue. =$ay.'o the overwhelming tension is about an ?:

Rick: @n my breathing, it is.

Carol: =$ay.

Rick: Not in my mind. @n my mind, @ve got pretty goodL@ could come upwith something logical. 7ut in my breathing, in my body, theres not analignment between the part o* me that says, versus leaving it here in my to1do, big, huge pile.

Tapping on Decision/0a&ing*starts + /3091

Karate Chop: Even though @ dont $now what to doLLand thats tightening up my breathingLL@ deeply and pro*oundlyLLaccept mysel* anyway.

Even though @ cant ma$e a decision about thisLLand its ma$ing my breathing all tightLL@ accept who @ am no matter what.

Even though @ *eel overwhelmed when @ cant ma$e decisionsLLand @ dont $now what to doL


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L@ accept who @ amLLno matter what.

Eyebrow: @ *eel overwhelmed again.Side of the eye: 0hat do @ do with this stu**:

nder the eye: @ cant ma$e a decision.'ose: @ dont $now what to doLChin: Land my breathing is so tight.Collarbone: @ dont $now what to do with this stu**Lnder the ar!: Land its ma$ing me tense.Top of the head: @ dont $now what to do with this stu**.

Rick:"hhhhhh8+deep breath My breathing has relaed dramatically.Theres still a point in my upper chest on my right1hand side. 0e o*ten seethis, where well rela in one area and it might become more noticeablyconstricted in another place.

Carol: Mmm1hmm.

Rick: 0hats interesting is that @ dont *eel as overwhelmed about that. @twas a gi*t, and @m starting to connect to the energy o* the gi*t rather thanthe obligationL

Carol: Mmm1hmm.

Rick: Lto dosomething. @ had a rule. This person sent me something. @ts

nice. @ts actually appreciated. @ dont $now eactly when @ll listen to it, butits got a good energy to it.

Carol: Mmm1hmm.

Rick: @m shi*ting. @ can *eel the shi*t around this. 0hats interesting, too,is that everything else doesnt *eel heavy to me.

Carol: Nice.

Rick: @m getting to that resource*ul state. There are some eceptions @mthin$ing o*, in terms o* overwhelming now, Iuite a bit.

Carol: Nice.

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0ore Tapping on *+'er,helmed-*starts + /0/31

Carol: 0ant to do Dust a Iuic$ remaining on the eyebrow:

Eyebrow:This remaining *eeling o* overwhelmedLSide of the eye: Lthis remaining tensionLnder the eye: Lthis remaining tensionL'ose: Lthis remaining tensionLChin: Lthe remaining tightnessLCollarbone: @ can handle it.nder the ar!: @ can ma$e the right decisions.Top of the head:@ can ma$e the right decisionsLLand @ love being calm and peace*ul.

Carol: Ta$e a breath.

Rick:"hhhhh8 *deep breath1

Carol: @* youre calm and peace*ul when you loo$ at your overwhelm, youcan do something about it. Gou cant when you go into a state o* shoc$. @noverwhelm, and too much noise, and too much static, you cant dosomething. That puts us into paralysis o* some $ind. 0e really cantoperate under that.

Rick: @ts li$e the clutter creates a repetitive, traumatic responseL

Carol: Absolutely.

Rick: Lwhere you loo$ at something and youre saying, and that overwhelm to me is @m *roJen.

Carol: Ges.

Rick: @ cannot engage the higher mind in ma$ing decisionsL

Carol: &ight.

Rick: Labout what to do. There are really only a *ew decisions. @m goingto *ile it, @m going to discard itL

Carol: &ight.


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Rick: L@m going to put it in a calendar *or some time in the *uture, @ maygive it to somebody else. Theres not that many things that we can do witha particular piece o* in*ormation, or a particular item. There are not manythings that you have to decide, but when youre *roJen, @ *elt it. @ could *eel*roJen around it. &ight now, @m not *eeling *roJen around it. Theres still

tightness, honestly, but its about a .

Carol: Mmm1hmm. is a very di**erent energy.

Rick: @ thin$ thats probably around some o* the other emotions that wellstart tapping on now.

Carol: Mmm1hmm. And whats interesting is @m noticing, and @ didntnotice it be*ore, but net to the pile that @ use as my prop, *irst o* all itstotally changed. +@snt that *unny: @ts down in my stomach, and its not ashigh at all. 7ut @m noticing this enormous area under a hanging boo$casethat @ completely cleaned up wee$s ago, and @ have not gone bac$ to it. Gou$now, whenever there is a hole or a space in my o**ice, @ put something in it.@ have not done that, and thats new *or meH @ clean up, and then a wee$later, something is in the same space that @ Dust cleaned up. @ have keptthis. 'o @m now noticing a new space that is clean, noncluttered, and @malso noticing some real progress. @ve done a $ind o* decluttering where @mnot Dust having to put things bac$ in a di**erent place.

Rick: That starts *eeling li$e appreciation.

Carol: Ges. Absolutely.

Rick: Thats *eeling li$e @m noticing the ways that @ am on a Dourneytoward a space that is more and more and more to my li$ing. @s that *eelingin the stomach overwhelm still, or is that another emotion:

Carol: No. @snt that *unny:

Rick:Not really. To me, when the place in the body where it changes,usually in my eperience the emotion has changed.

Carol: @t was interesting as you were tal$ing, my *irst thought was, and then it turned out its not aniety.@ts ecitement.

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Carol: @ts in the same place, but @m ecited to get going on this and to$eep doing this because it reminds me o* another topic @ wanted to ma$esure we tal$ about. @ts the idea o* a deep1clean clutter versus the sur*ace.'ome people only have sur*ace clutter, and its a matter o* time. They cleanit up, and its *ine. @ have, and have had, a deep1cleaning problem. @ need

to go into the drawers and get the old Dun$ out, so the right stu** goes inthere that is chronologically appropriate there, but it needs to be a deepclean *or me. 0hen @ deep1clean, everything changes. For me to do sur*aceclutter 1 whats the point: &ight: Three days later, the mail is piled upagain. 'o, @ want people to really evaluate *or themselves 7ecause i*you dont go to the deep cleaning, your problem will not get *ied. @ts alittle bit li$e i* you dont go to the core issue emotionally with EFT, it willcome bac$ because something will trigger it.

Rick: Absolutely.

Carol: This last year or two @ve been doing deep cleaning and decluttering,and thats whats ma$ing a di**erence. The idea o* Dust ta$ing stu** o** thetop shelves once a wee$ 1 thats not what @ need in myli*e, but other peoplemay have that.

Rick: For most people, @ thin$, its a combination o* things. @* you want toma$e an energetic shi*t in your li*e 1 to *eel more abundant, *or eample 1those areas which youre not *acingL For eample, you have a *ear o* *acingthat closet. Gou have a *ear o* *acing the mess in your relationship. Gou

have a *ear o* *acing anything. 0e can become good at not *acing itL

Carol: &ight.

Rick: Lbut our subconscious is still staring it right in the *ace.

Carol: Eactly.

Rick: Theres no aspect o* our li*e that, i* were not *acing it, that a part o*our energy system isnt giving it .

Carol: &ightH @ guess youre right.

Rick: 0hen we tal$ about the vibration, people learning about the #aw o*Attraction o*ten *ocus on that which is only in their conscious mind, whereasyour vibration is primarily a vibration that is holistic those things whichyoure not *acing 1 which youre not loo$ing at 1 as well as those thingswhich are right in *ront o* your *ace.


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Carol: &ight. @ call it that . Theres always Dust thatone thingthat bugs you. Goure trying to ignore it or deny it, but its there.Ecellent. 'hall we go on to another emotion:

Rick: Gou want to do the *ear o* *acing it:

Carol: Ges, why dont we Dust segue right into that.

The !ear of !acing Clutter*starts + 3/51

Rick: 'o what are some o* the aspects o* that, Carol:

Carol: 0ell, @ thin$ one thing that @ve noticed that comes up *or people is,what might you uncover: The *ear is, i* you uncover clutter in your li*e, yourrelationship, your health, your eercise program, the clutter in your emails,the clutter in your o**iceLwhat might you uncover underneath it: Thats thesame *or everybody. @* you smo$e two pac$s a day, and you get rid o* thatclutter, whats going to come up: @* your o**ice is neat and clean, whatemotionally might sur*ace *or you: 'o theres some dread and *ear aboutwhats underneath the clutter, *ear o* really *acing this issue *or you.

Rick: Theres an emotional aspect, o* course. @* you go through, lets say acloset that youve been not loo$ing at, and there are +Iuote .Gou $now them. Theyre either pain*ul now to loo$ at 1 those items thatmay have come *rom a happy time which is no longer happy. @m po$ingpeople a little bit here because its part o* understanding that this isnt Dustan organiJational issue. @* it was Dust an organiJational issue, you could hirean organiJational epert to come in and help you very Iuic$ly ta$e care o* it.7ut the *ear o* *acing it says there are things in there which, when @ loo$ atthem, are going to remind me o* a time gone by, or some other emotion.Thats where, i* you start tapping on the *ear o* *acing it, you might getsome insight about some o* those emotions. Address those with EFT, andthen you wont have as much o* a *ear o* *acing it. Thats my theory.

Carol: &ight. And also, clutter, when it ma$es you *eel overwhelmed orun*ocusedL@ was wor$ing with a client about whats the upside o* beingun*ocused, and he got to it, and it was pretty upsetting. @t really helped himsabotage and helped him be ashamed o* himsel*, and all this. 'o, i* yourclutter is doing something good *or you, meaning it ma$es you un*ocused


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because youre a*raid o* success and abundance, and as long as yourecluttered, then you can say, 'o, whatsunderneath the clutter: That scares people because they dont wanttomove *orward. 0e all have limiting belie*s about moving *orward and beingsuccess*ul. 'o theres a lot underneath the clutter, metaphorically. Theres

a lot underneath the reason you have it. As you and @ tal$ed about be*ore,whether you learned it in the honest way *rom your *amily or whether youvedeveloped that habit, theres a lot that we can loo$ at around the *ear. 'o @thin$ the *ear o* *acing it1 *acing the clutter 1 is a wonder*ul eercise *orpeople.

Rick: 'hall we do some tapping:

Carol: Absolutely.

The !ear of !acing *T- 2hate'er T s3*starts + 3-241

Rick: Now, in this particular case, as you start tapping on the *ear o*, you might choose the and get very clear on what that means to you 1 in your body, how intense it *eels, and i* you get anemotion around it S that isnt Dust the *ear o* . 0rite that down.Ma$e it speci*ic.

Carol: Now @ Dust got an emotional hit that @ thin$ is important Dust *or meto say it out loud, which is my *ear when youre as$ing. My *ear seems to be 1 a little bit o* that thatpeople have when theyve Iuit smo$ing or lost the weight and they alwaysgain it bac$.

Rick: 'ure.

Carol: And @ thin$, well, @ve done this be*ore. Now @ $now that, in the lasttwo years 1 @m a di**erent human being because o* what @ve done in thelast two years with decluttering. 7ut @ didnt realiJe that @ have that touch o* and tell people @ve done it, because then it willcome bac$ again. @ will Dust slip into my old ways. And @m saying it outloud, and @m thin$ing, so actually @ dont thin$ thats true and @m doing a di**erent $indo* decluttering. 'o thats not true, but thats interesting. @ dont honestly


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thin$ thats going to happen 1 that its going to come bac$ 1 but @ Dust gotthat tightening in the stomach.

Rick: Gou *eel li$e its a bit o* a +Iuote .

Carol: Mmm1hmm. 0hats the point:

Rick: The things that come in and out o* our li*e are li$e the *ood thatcomes in and out o* our system. @ts di**erent when it comes out than whenit goes in. 'o the things that come in and are delicious in your li*e 1 whenyoure done with them, they *eel di**erent. And yet, the letting1 go processis either a wonder*ul process o* noticing the things that are no longer *or youand allowing them to move out, saving those things in an appropriate way,but again, this is an emotional process. @ts not Dust a physical action, andits not even Dust a s$ill o* how to organiJe. Theres an emotion attached toeverything. Thats how we $now what it is. 0hats the emotionalattachment to it: Gou hear that around mementos and other things. Are you emotionally attached because o*the *ear: 2oes it evo$e in you a really positive *eeling: @* you thin$ aboutwhat your li*e loo$s li$e, do the things that you have in it evo$e a positive*eeling versus a *eeling o* being heavy or down: Thats also part o* whatwere encouraging as we loo$ at all the energies in your li*e allowing thosethings that no longer upli*t you to be released, li$e were doing with theseemotions.

Carol: ;reatH Fear o* *acing it. @m ready.

Tapping on the !ear of !acing *T-*starts + 35-1

Rick: =$ay.

Karate Chop: Even though @m a*raid o* what @ll *ind underneathLL@m open to *eeling surprisingly calm and con*ident anyway.

Even though @ have all this *earLLtheres Dust too much to *aceLLand @m not even sure what all is there.@ deeply and completely accept mysel* anyway.

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L@ want to let stu** go.That doesnt serve me any more.@m a*raid to *ace itLLand @ ac$nowledge and respect this con*lict.

Eyebrow: @ want to let it go.Side of the eye: No, @ dont.nder the eye: @m ready to *ace it.nder the nose: No, @m not.Chin: @m ready to *ace it.Collarbone: No, @m not.nder the ar!: And you cant ma$e me.Top of the head: @ re*use to *ace it.

Eyebrow:@ re*use to *ace the clutter.Side of the eye: @ dont $now i* @ can handle whats underneath.nder the eye: @ re*use to *ace the clutter.nder the nose: @ want to clean the clutter.Chin: @ re*use to *ace whats underneath.Collarbone: @ have this con*lict.nder the ar!: @ really have a con*lict here.Top of the head: And thats o$ay.L@ accept mysel* anyway.

Rick: Ta$e a deep breath. "hhhhh8 *deep breath1

Carol: +yawning A yawns been trying to come out since the beginningH

Rick:"hhhhh8 *deep breath1 'ha$e your hands out, maybe...

Carol: Mmm1hmm.

Rick: ;et some energy moving.

Carol: Mmm1hmm.

Rick: 0hat do you thin$ might come up *or someone a*ter that $ind o*round:

Carol: Maybe getting an o* what they area*raid o*, because o*course its overwhelming to be a*raid o* something and you dont $now whatit is. 7ut i* you get the clarity, at least youve got an answer. 'o maybepeople got some answers. Maybe they got an Maybe that came up.


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Rick: #ets do a round on . )ust doanother round, assuming that some things have become a little moreconcrete *or people about what theyre a*raid to *ace here.

Carol: =$ay.

Rick: @ li$e to do the re*usal tapping.

Carol: Ges, @ love it.

Rick: Theres something @m not doing that @ want to do. @ re*use to, @re*use to, @ re*use to 1 and thats giving ourselves bac$ some control. Thatswhere were standing anyway.

Carol: #ove itH My *avorite tappingH

Rick: Me, too.

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Karate Chop: Even though @m a*raid to *ace this thingL

Land @ have my reasonsLL@ deeply and completely accept mysel* anyway.

Even though @ am not Iuite ready to *ace thisLL@m letting go o* the emotionLLbit by bitLLat the per*ect pace *or me.

Even though @m not going to Dump in and *ace this right nowLL@ ac$nowledge its emotional painLLand @ deeply and completely accept mysel* anyway.

Eyebrow: This is pain*ul to *ace.Side of the eye: @ts too pain*ul to *ace.nder the eye: @ts been too pain*ul to *ace.nder the nose: @ts becoming less pain*ul to *ace.Chin: @ accept that.Collarbone: Maybe @ can *ace this.


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nder the ar!: Maybe not nowLTop of the head: Land thats o$ay.

Eyebrow: @ give mysel* permissionLSide of the eye: Lto address the emotions o* this...

nder the eye: Land then let go o* the clutter.nder the nose: That would be di**erent.Chin: @t might even be surprisingly easy.Collarbone: @ am so ready *or it to be easy.nder the ar!: @ ac$nowledge the emotions in all these things.Top of the head: And @ choose to be calm and con*ident anyway.

Rick:"hhhhh8 *deep breath1

Carol:"hhhhh8 *yawn11 *inally 1 big yawn coming out. 0hat wasinteresting *or me 1 that wasnt hitting home with me, but it was still helpingbecause all these other ideas were coming up. All these reasons *or the oldclutter, ac$nowledging the changing @ have done in the last couple o* years,loo$ing at the clutter di**erently 1 there was a moment o* shame, and thenthere was a moment li$e, Energetically, @ was able to see that, *or me, at themoment there is a time crunch. ;ive me two wee$s, and its done. That isvery, very di**erent *or me. 'o hope*ully the listeners, even i* some o* ourrounds that were doing today dont hit , it doesnt matterH Reeptapping with us, because it will bring up something else. That was reallygood *or me, to have all the chains o* *eelings that were going on *or me,

and the ideas coming up.

Rick: Thats part o* what were teaching through this program. @ts not Dusta treatment. @t is a teaching. @* you ta$e whats coming up in *ront o* you,or even i* you listen to tapping rounds on something that isnt directlyrelated, but you *eel that relie* in your body, the tension level in your bodychanges and you *ind yoursel* yawning. That is teaching your system howto be surprisingly calm and con*ident, no matter what, whether youre *acingclutter, or *acing whats coming up in your li*e. These are energy eercises,ta$ing things which are common to all o* us. Every one o* us has things

coming into our li*e that *eel li$e clutter. #i$e you said, weve noticed thatwhen we go bac$ and listened to recordings that we made a year ago, or simonths ago, or last wee$, the energies that come up are o*ten di**erent andthey get s

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