Characteristics of Healthy

and Unhealthy Relationships

Healthy Unhealthy Have fun together

more often than not Enjoy spending

time separately, with own friends, as well as together

Feel safe together Trust each other

Jealousy is present in the relationship

Acting controlling or possessive

Put downs, name calling, yelling etc…

One person is afraid of the others temper

Healthy Unhealthy Support each

others goals Respect each

others opinions – even when different

Can solve conflict without put downs, yelling, etc…

Apologize when wrong

Doesn’t take the other person or things that are important to them seriously

Critical of the others friends or family

Don’t listen when the other talks

Pressure for sex or going further than the other is comfortable with

Healthy Unhealthy Proud of each other Encourage each

others interests, like sports – music etc…

Respect each others privacy – phone, texts, diary etc..

Friends and family support the relationship

Threatens to hurt the other person

Threatens to hurt themselves

Cheating Blaming other

person for their own behavior

Healthy Unhealthy

Have communicated and decided on physical boundaries in their relationship

No pressure for going further sexually than you have decided

Allows each other space when needed

Smashes, throws things, etc…

One person makes all the decisions about the relationship

Mind games, manipulation

Goes back on promises

Healthy Unhealthy

Uses alcohol or drugs as an excuse for hurtful behavior

Ignores or withdraws as a way of punishing the other

Depends completely on other person for everything

Can’t spend time apart