chapter 5 helping children cooperate
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Chapter 5 Helping Children Cooperate. Cooperation is Working Together!. Learning Cooperation for life Parent’s Teaching Job Parent’s Model A happy home environment. Problem Ownership. Parent or Child? Ownership first step Sets the strategy Independent Children Parent Ownership/Action. - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
Chapter 5 Helping Children Cooperate
Cooperation is Working Together!
Learning Cooperation for life
Parent’s Teaching JobParent’s ModelA happy home environment
Problem Ownership
Parent or Child?Ownership first stepSets the strategyIndependent ChildrenParent Ownership/Action
From Problem to Solution
Determine Who Owns the Problem
4 Questions RHPA determine ownership:
1. Rights?
2. Harm?
3. Property?
4. Age Responsibility?
Determine Who Owns the Problem
4 What are the four questions?:
1. Rights?
2. Harm?
3. Property?
4. Age Responsibility?
Who owns the problem?
Bill and Joey did not ask John to play ball. John’s is upset.
John is being rude to his mother and calling her names.
John lost the leaves for his class project.
John is kicked off the bus for fighting.
Group Activity
Who owns the problem?
Solving Problems Together
ChoicesIgnore itReflective listeningI-messageChoices and ConsequencesExploring Alternatives
Solving Problems Together
What are the Choices?Ignore itReflective listeningI-messageChoices and ConsequencesExploring Alternatives
Steps to Exploring Alternatives
Understand itBrainstorm Discuss Choose pg 90Implement
What are the steps?
Understand itBrainstorm Discuss Choose pg 90Implement
Using Open Questions
Get them talking – not Dragnet!
Solving the wrong problem
Problem identification5WH
Deadlock – Now What?
Find common groundRespectfulthe real problemAgree not to fightTime-outResume discussion later
Deadlock – Now What?
Find common groundRespectfulthe real problemAgree not to fightTime-outResume discussion later
Family Meetings
Why have a family meeting?
Finding the Time
Review schedulesMeet ConsistentlySchedule appropriate amount of time
Ground Rules
All need to participateLimit complainingNo interruptions (phone calls, texting etc.)
TV offKeep to the time limit & topics
Structured or Non-Structured?
You Decide
Agenda /Topics
Family RulesChoresHomeworkWeek/Weekend PlansRecognition
Real Issues
Agenda/Topics
Plan Family ActivityTopics suggested by childrenFire Escape PlanCurrent EventsMoral Dilemma
Discuss & Plan
Build a Bridge to Cooperation
Problem Situation
Tony and Ruby have three children. Alex is 10, Tonia is 9, and Paula is 6. The parents want to begin having family meetings. They decide to start by planning something fun to do together.
The family talks about what to do. Alex and
Paula want to go to a movie. Tonia wants to go to a carnival. Mom likes the movie idea. Dad thinks the carnival would be fun, but he is willing to do what the rest of the family decides. Tonia refuses to go to a movie.
Hand Out
Problem Solving
What are the problems here?What guidelines for family meetings could help?
How might this family cooperate to solve these problems?