bullying--a view from both sides
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January 19, 2012 - Workshop presented at Indian Springs Elementary for Parent University; Facilitator: Dr. Angeline Stuckey, CounterAction.OrgTRANSCRIPT
Bullying: A View from Bullying: A View from Both SidesBoth Sides
Bullying: A View from Bullying: A View from Both SidesBoth Sides
Sponsored by CounterAction.OrgSponsored by CounterAction.Org
Dr. Angeline StuckeyDr. Angeline Stuckey
In this Workshop
1. Define bullying, language of bulling
2. A perspective from both sides3. Research based definition4. Possible causes and
consequences5. Course of actions and solutions
What is Bullying?
Give your definition of bullying.
A View from both sides involves
Children who are bullying and those who are bullied and those who are
both at various time periods
Research Based Definition
Repeated and Continuous…• Physical violence and/or verbal abuse
(tease, gossip, social exclusion, obscene gestures) attacks resulting in physical pain and bruising, feelings of anger/rage, intimidation
(fear/anxiety) and worry.
Repeated/continuous aggressive attacks
Bullying; Behavior or Identity
The language of bullyingBeing bulliedShe is a bully
Acting like a bullyHe is being bullied
Involved with bullyingShe is a victim of bullying
How should we talk about bullying?
Causes for Both Sides…
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Write one thing that might cause each side of it.
Being BulliedStress and Fear and Anxiety
Headaches, stomach pains, irritability, and
a disinterest in toys and games, low energy,
day- dreaming, fearful, nervous in general
Stress-induced; divorce, separation, death,
developmental periods, unwanted changes
Doing the Bullying
Anger-hostile behaviorsPhysical fights, repeated arguments with adults, loss of temper, anger and resentment, placing blame on others
Stress-induced; divorce, separation, death,
developmental periods, unwanted changes
Does my child have this issue?
• Classroom• Gym• Lunchroom• Playground
• Home• YMCA• Church• Web
Multiple environments
Look and Listen For…
• Peer rejection (not even one friend)• Poor grades in favorite subjects• Aggressive social strategies (hollering,
hitting, throwing things, pushing, naming–calling, etc.)
• Symptoms of poor mental health [extreme stress (worry, negative anticipation), sadness, fear, anger, panic, day-dreaming, hostility, disagreeable
Write what you might do if suspect bullying
(group)
I might
Suspected of doing bullying (group)
I might
First…• Relax, think and brainstorm• Seek teacher’s advice and help• Write down a stepwise plan of
action• Take the actions planned • List outcomes wanted• Monitor results/revise plan• Expect good results (outcomes)
What Parents (teachers) Do?
Teach…• Social Skills (verbal skills)• Friendship Dynamics (friend/foe?)• Leadership Skills (helping strategies)• Social Values (school, home,
community)• Emotional Recognition/Regulation• Self Esteem and Self Worth
Social Skills (verbal habits)
Be seen and heard…Excuse me, Thank you, Please,
May I have that? Can I talk to you? Please don’t do that to me! I don’tlike that. Teach kids to be expressive
Friendship Dynamics (friend/foe?)
• Is kind to me• Cares about my feelings• Show an interest in my stuff• Compliments me when I am good• Stands close to me a lot• Like to play with me
Leadership Skills (helping verbal
techniques)
Can I help you do that? Can I try it too? May I show you how to do this.
Let them help a lot at home, so they will
be used to helping
Social Values (school, home,
community)
• Speak well of people in general• Difference in being/doing• Look for the good in others and
expect to be treated well by others
Emotional Recognition/Regulatio
n
Fear, anger, sad, happy
Teach about feelings and how to manage feelings by thinking
things through before acting
Identity Development
ArtistSingerSwimmerDancerBikerSkaterBowler
ACT: List other titles1. Cookie cook helper
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Self Esteem/Worth1. Set achievement goals for maturity• Intellectual (book reading, grades)• Physical (sports participation)• Emotional/spiritual/social (show caring)
2. Identity Development (you are a good…)http://store.samhsa.gov/home, upload Self Esteem Building Guide (use with the kids) (http://store.samhsa.gov/shin/content//SMA-3715/SMA-3715.pdf)
References and Citations
• Bradshaw, C. P., et., (2007)• Espelage, D. & Swearer, S. M. (2003)• Pellegrini, A. D. & Long, J. D. (2002)• Stop Bullying. Govhttp://www.stopbullying.gov/index.html• National Mental Health Information
Center (upload self esteem building guide to use with the kids)
http://tinyurl.com/brddzq
Visit CounterAction.Org• http://www.counteraction.us • Contact Dr. Angeline Stuckey
Questions?
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