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1. Holli Kenley M.A.Marriage and Family Therapistwww.hollikenley.com 2. Issues may surface around betrayal. Background on betrayal concept. Present day perspective on betrayal. 3. I. Knowledge and Awareness.A. What is betrayal?B. Betrayal What am I feeling and why?C. Betrayal How long and to what degree will Ifeel this way and why? 4. II. Other recovery considerations.A. Betrayal and Codependency.B. Betrayal and Grief. 5. 1. An investment into someone or something metwith rejection and/or abandonment.Examples 6. 2. A profound trust in someone or something thatis profoundly violated.Important two kinds of trust. 7. A. One kind of trust = within us.Examples 8. B. Second kind of trust = an extension of us.Examples 9. 3. A truth that becomes a lie / a belief that isshattered.Examples 10. Goal: Connect with understanding and awareness. Client centered. Share narratives (handout - pgs.3-4). Life messages exercise (handout pgs.5-7). 11. States A state of being; who we are as definedby our betrayal.Truths Adopting new beliefs or perceptions toredefine ourselves. 12. 3 States of Being. 3 Truths. 13. 1. State of Confusion: WHY? Symptoms and manifestations. What we feel. What we embrace a new truth. 14. 1. State of Confusion: TX approaches: Client centered. Cognitive behavioral (handout pgs.8-9). 15. 2. State of Worthlessness: Robbed, Redefined,Relinquished Symptoms and manifestations. What we feel. What we embrace a new truth. 16. 2. State of Worthlessness: TX approaches: Client centered. Cognitive behavioral (handout pgs.8-9). 17. 3. State of Powerlessness: Two extremes Symptoms and manifestations. What we feel. What we embrace a new truth. 18. 3. State of Powerlessness: TX approaches: Client centered. Cognitive behavioral (handout pgs.8-9). 19. A. Anatomy of betrayal. Underlying principle of degree. Relationship to occurrence. 20. Underlying principle of degree:The degree to which we invest, believe, or trust insomeone or something is directly proportional to ourdegree of injury from betrayal. Examples 21. Relationship to occurrence:Occurrence means the degree of exposure to thebetrayer or the betrayal environment. Examples 22. Client centered. Cognitive Behavioral (handout pgs. 10-11). 23. Pause Questions? Input? Other thinking? 24. A. Betrayal and Codependency The relationship. Codependency is an issue of over-investmentinto someone or something. 25. Implications for clients. Treatment implications. 26. B. Betrayal and Grief The relationship. The connection with grief is obvious theelement of loss. 27. Distinct and separate considerations. Implications for treatment. 28. Is the client breaking through? Trappings of betrayal. Change of focus. 29. Invest again Trust again Find truth againFirstSecond 30. Right YourselfBelieve and Be WellHolli Kenley