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BODY = BRAINPart 2: Embodying Social & Emotional Intelligence

Communication

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Purposeful Action Personal QualitiesInterpersonal Skills

SI: empathy, social skillsSomatic competency: Presence

= YOU ARE HERE

Roadmap

Communication Coordination Conflict ResolutionConnection

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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Self-Awareness Self-Mastery

Empathy

Self- Motivation

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Awareness Action

adapted from Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence

Social Skills

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COMMUNICATION

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ATTUNEMENT “FEELING FELT”

Presence

Limbic Resonance

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Feeling Me

Feeling You

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http://www.jad-journal.com/article/S0165-0327%2807%2900084-5/abstract

http://www.jad-journal.com/article/S0165-0327%2807%2900084-5/abstract

http://www.osovo.com/diagram/braindiagram.htm

http://www.osovo.com/diagram/braindiagram.htm

http://www.abcbodybuilding.com/magazine04/psycho.htm

http://www.abcbodybuilding.com/magazine04/psycho.htm

http://desktopsbyme.blogspot.com/2009_01_01_archive.html

http://desktopsbyme.blogspot.com/2009_01_01_archive.html

http://www.brainfacts.org/Sensing-Thinking-Behaving/Senses-and-Perception/Articles/2012/Barn-Owls

http://www.brainfacts.org/Sensing-Thinking-Behaving/Senses-and-Perception/Articles/2012/Barn-Owls

http://www.europeanurology.com/article/S1569-9056%2807%2900217-5/fulltext





MIDDLE PREFRONTAL CORTEX

http://mybrainnotes.com/memory-brain-stress.html

Functions of MPFCinsight into yourselfintuitionability to regulate the body------emotional balanceresponse flexibilityability to extinguish fear-----empathymoralityability to attune to others

DMPFC: cognitive self-awarenessVMPFC: embodied self-awareness

Structure: ties neocortex to limbic system

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Centered & Present

Empathy & ESA

Communication Skills

CONTINGENT COMMUNICATION

“OH, YOU GET ME”

Receptive

Understanding

Responsive


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BUILDING TRUST

Presence+ Resonance+ Attunement

Builds TRUST

Source: Siegel (2010)

TRUST =

Sincerity+ Reliability

+ Competence

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GARETH’S STORY

http://www.glaquarium.org/plan-visit/special-events/meetings/

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Goal

People &Relationships

Psychoneurobiology

This is never

not at play


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PSYCHOBIOLOGICAL OBSTACLES TO CLEAR COMMUNICATION

implicit memory

armoring

level 2 interoception

response under pressurehttp://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/

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http://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/nll/?cat=42

http://languagelog.ldc.upenn.edu/nll/?cat=42


ANTIDOTES TO OBSTACLES

implicit memory

armoring

level 2 interoception

response under pressure

somatic opening

embodied self awareness

resilience

communication skills

Obstacles Antidotes

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SPEECH ACTS

Assertions

Requests & Offers

Declaration

Promises

Assessments

http://www.emeraldinsight.com/journals.htm?articleid=1411236&show=html

The window is open. That table is made of glass. It’s 9:00.

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Proprioception

Emotion

Conceptual

Exteroception

Interoception

Sensation + EmotionLimbic & Interoceptive

Movement / Gesture

Movement & Motor Cortex

SpeechLinguistic & Conceptual

in RelationshipExteroceptive

CO-ACTIVATE


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Proprioception

Emotion

Conceptual

Exteroception

Interoception

Proprioception

Emotion

Conceptual

Exteroception

Interoception

Your World Other’s Worldsomatic / sensory

listening

extension

INTERACTIVE MINDFULNESS


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THE BIG IDEA

Contingent communication relies upon presence, limbic resonance, and attunement; these all contribute to building TRUST

Our psychobiology is at play in every interaction

Armoring, implicit memory, level 2 interoception, and our reaction under pressure can all interfere with and disrupt communication

To communicate well, you need to be able to take action with language - including those actions that trigger you

Building this capacity requires activating all aspects of your psychobiology while interacting with others

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PRINCIPLES FOR PRACTICE

First, strengthen the capacity to feel and to center under pressure

Discover your embodied habits of communication

Through somatic practice and / or conversation

Where do you get thrown off center?

Practice speaking, moving, feeling, and interacting all at once

Build resilience around the speech acts that are hard

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REFLECTION / FIELDWORK

Where are the places you and / or your clients are challenged to speak freely and communicate clearly?

Choose one of those.

Design a practice to help yourself or your client build the capacity for greater presence and more clear and contingent communication.

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RESOURCES & REFERENCES

Carter, R, et. al. (2009) The Human Brain Book, DK

Goleman, D (2007) Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships, Bantam

Iacoboni, M (2008) Mirroring People: The New Science of How We Connect With Others, Farrar, Straus and Giroux

Senge, P, et. al. (2008) Presence: Human Purpose and the Field of the Future, Crown

Siegel, D (2010) Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation, Bantam

Siegel, D (2010) The Mindful Therapist: A Clinician’s Guide to Mindsight and Neural Integration, Norton

Strozzi-Heckler, R, (2007) The Leadership Dojo: Build Your Foundation As An Exemplary Leader, Frog Books

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Purposeful Action Personal QualitiesInterpersonal Skills

SI: empathy, social skillsSomatic competency: Presence

= YOU ARE HERE

Roadmap

Communication Coordination Conflict ResolutionConnection

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