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BETTER CONVERSATIONS BETTER COACHING
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instructionalcoaching.comWebsites
radicallearners.comTwitter
@jimknight99#instructionalcoaching
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instructionalcoaching.comWebsites
radicallearners.comTwitter
@jimknight99#instructionalcoaching
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PARTNERS
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What does it look like to get better?
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What are you trying to get better at?
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Better is possible. It does not take genius. It takes diligence. It takes moral clarity. It takes ingenuity. And above all it takes a
willingness to try. Atul Gawande
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6 Beliefs 10 Habits
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6 Beliefs
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Why?
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We are living through a
communication crisis
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1.
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Communication is central to
school improvement.
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We have found that the single factor common to every successful change initiative is that relationships improve. If relationships improve, things get better. If they remain the same or get worse, ground is lost. Thus leaders must be consummate relationship builders with diverse people and groups – especially with people different than themselves.
-Michael Fullan
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2.
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Effective communication is an essential
skill for a fulfilled life.
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We are experiencing a radical brokenness in all of existence. Times are out of joint. Alienation and disharmony, conflict and turmoil, enmity and hatred characterize so much of life.
-Desmond Tutu, No Future Without Forgiveness
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1 in 3“Loneliness Among Older Adults,”
AARP, September 2010
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There is reason for
hope
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Complex, fulfilling relationships don’t suddenly appear in our lives fully formed. Rather, they develop one encounter at a time.
-Gottman (2001) The relationship cure
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3.
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Better conversations is a movement toward a more authentic
version of yourself
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image: Wikipedia
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image: Wikipedia
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To be authentic, you need to know what you
believe.
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How important do you think it is to get better at communication?
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6 Beliefs
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Belief One
I see others as equal partners in conversations.
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Identify someone who truly sees others as equals.
What do they do that shows that they see others as equals?
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Identify someone who truly sees others as equals.
What do they do that shows that they see others as equals?
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Belief Two
I want to hear what others have to say.
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What people need is a good listening to.
-Marylou Casey
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Belief Two
I want to hear what others have to say.
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Belief Three
I believe others should have a lot of autonomy.
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Autonomy
• Control doesn’t work
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control is an easy answer. It . . . sounds tough, so it feels reassuring to people who believe things have gone awry . . . however, it has become increasingly clear that the approach simply does not work . . . the widespread reliance on rewards and punishments to motivate responsibility has failed to yield the desired results. Indeed, mounting evidence suggests that these so-called solutions, based on the principle of rigid authority, are exacerbating rather than ameliorating the problems. (pp. 1–2)
-Edward Deci, Why We Do What We Do
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Autonomy
• Control doesn’t work
• Control diminishes people
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Saying no is the fundamental way we have of differentiating ourselves. To take away my right to say no is to claim sovereignty over me … if we cannot say no, then saying yes has no meaning.
-Peter Block
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The opposite of love is control.
-Donald Miller
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Autonomy• Control doesn’t work
• Control diminishes people
• Autonomy doesn’t mean people can choose to be unprofessional
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Autonomy• Control doesn’t work
• Control diminishes people
• Autonomy doesn’t mean people can choose to be unprofessional
• Autonomy involves responsible accountability
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Belief Three
I believe others should have a lot of autonomy.
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Belief Three
I believe others should have a lot of autonomy.
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Belief Four
I don’t judge my conversation partners.
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It’s not our differences that divide us. It’s our judgments about each other.
-Margaret Wheatley, Turning to One Another
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There are many ways we can roll our eyes that don’t involve our eyes.
-Michael Fullan
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Belief Four
I don’t judge my conversation partners.
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Belief Five
Our conversation should be back and forth.
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1. Humility 2. Hope 3. Faith 4. Critical Thinking 5. Love
*Paulo Freire
Conditions for Dialogue*
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Love
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Engaging the will for the good of another
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Ultimately, our greatest joy
is when we seek to do good for others.
Archbishop Desmond Tutu The Book of Joy
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I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.
Dr. Martin Luther King
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How easy is it for you to choose love over hate? How easy is it for you to engage your will for the good of another?
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Belief Six
Conversation should be life-giving.
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Life-alienating• moralistic judgments
• making comparisons
• making demands
• denial
• labeling others
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How would your life be different if … you walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day … speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.
-Steve Maraboli
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Belief Six
Conversation should be life-giving.
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6 Beliefs1. I see others as equal partners in conversations.
2. I believe people should have a lot of autonomy.
3. I want to hear what others have to say.
4. I don’t judge my conversation partners.
5. Conversation should be back and forth.
6. Conversation should be life-giving.
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6 Beliefs1. I see others as equal partners in conversations.
2. I believe people should have a lot of autonomy.
3. I want to hear what others have to say.
4. I don’t judge my conversation partners.
5. Conversation should be back and forth.
6. Conversation should be life-giving.
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Most … intense partisans … believe the opposing party’s policies “are so misguided that they threaten the nation’s well-being”
—Political Polarization in the American Public, Pew Research Center (2014)
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