BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUESTECHNIQUES

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BEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUESBEHAVIOR MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUES

Famous Doris Sanford Quote:Famous Doris Sanford Quote:

We are going to be talking about We are going to be talking about techniques for dealing with behavior techniques for dealing with behavior issues, but remember that issues, but remember that ““love is more love is more important than technique!important than technique!””

““Love is more important Love is more important than technique!than technique!””

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10 - 10 - 8010 - 10 - 80 About 10% of the kids will be compliant, About 10% of the kids will be compliant,

wonderful angels.wonderful angels.

About 10% of the kids will have issues About 10% of the kids will have issues with behavior, anger, bitterness or with behavior, anger, bitterness or rejection and will be a lot of work.rejection and will be a lot of work.

The other 80% will have some issues but The other 80% will have some issues but will get along and go along.will get along and go along.

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At RFKC we give At RFKC we give AA’’ssActivitiesActivities AttentionAttentionAffirmation Affirmation ApplauseApplauseAffectionAffection andandAppropriate guidelines.Appropriate guidelines.

Kids need structure!Kids need structure!

Behavior Management is nurturing rather than controlling.

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TouchTouch

Take InTake In TalkTalk

Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are indistinguishable.person they are indistinguishable.

The 3 TThe 3 T’’s of s of Esteem Building Esteem Building

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When another person is speakingWhen another person is speaking-Eye contact – side by side or their level-Eye contact – side by side or their level-Silent Listening-Silent Listening-Don-Don’’t fix itt fix it-Be present -Be present -Accept what is being said-Accept what is being said-Restate using content/feeling -Restate using content/feeling

How to ListenHow to Listen

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What is it? What is it? Behavior management tool.Behavior management tool. When to Praise.When to Praise. Immediately – Instant gratification Immediately – Instant gratification

How to praise.How to praise. Specifically? General - could be high fiveSpecifically? General - could be high five How should you NOT praise. How should you NOT praise. Hug, slap, sarcasm…Hug, slap, sarcasm…

PRAISEPRAISE

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Behaviors about FoodBehaviors about Food

Food should be:Food should be: Eaten for nourishmentEaten for nourishment A time for promoting personal choiceA time for promoting personal choice

Food Should Food Should NOTNOT be: be: With held as punishmentWith held as punishment Used for motivationUsed for motivation Used as a treatUsed as a treat

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Campers will test you.Campers will test you. Do you mean what you say?Do you mean what you say? To get what he/she wants.To get what he/she wants. To force you to punish him/her.To force you to punish him/her.

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Stay calm and firmStay calm and firm Have the childHave the child’’s attentions attention Give clear directions and guide linesGive clear directions and guide lines Tell, donTell, don’’t ask, unless there is a choicet ask, unless there is a choice Set up situations to succeedSet up situations to succeed

Steps for Setting LimitsSteps for Setting Limits

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What WorksWhat Works

These are techniques but remember,

Love prevails over “technique””

Example/Modeling

Prevention & Early Intervention

Communication

Reward Positive Behavior

Ignore (petty issues)

Natural Consequences

Prayer

Discipline

Ask Staff for HELP!

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What DoesnWhat Doesn’’t Workt Work Is it better to operate Is it better to operate ““under the law?under the law?””

or or ““under Grace?under Grace?”” How do you want people to treat you? How do you want people to treat you?

Under the law or under grace?Under the law or under grace?

Biggest problems?Biggest problems?- No love or empathy- No love or empathy- Impatient - Impatient - Favoritism- Favoritism- Rewarding misbehavior (i.e. roughhousing with hyperactive - Rewarding misbehavior (i.e. roughhousing with hyperactive

child; labeling a child as shy, etc.)child; labeling a child as shy, etc.)- Ignoring - harmful, disruptive behavior or ignoring the - Ignoring - harmful, disruptive behavior or ignoring the

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What is allowed for discipline by your What is allowed for discipline by your local Social Services?local Social Services?

WhatWhat’’s s NOTNOT allowed by your local Social allowed by your local Social Services?Services?

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Consistency is KEYConsistency is KEY

Limit your battlesLimit your battles

Focus on only 2-3 specific behaviorsFocus on only 2-3 specific behaviors

Time out- one minute per yearTime out- one minute per year

Time OutsTime Outs

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ChartsCharts Mini –passportsMini –passports Time-trialsTime-trials HumorHumor Appropriate channels for feelingAppropriate channels for feeling Schedule and rules posted in the cabinSchedule and rules posted in the cabin Other – give lots of graceOther – give lots of grace

Positive things that can helpPositive things that can help

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LoveLovePraisePraiseDivertDivert IgnoreIgnore

Deal with itDeal with itGet helpGet help

LoveLove

Key Success FactorsKey Success Factors

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Before we move on…Before we move on…

LetLet’’s have s have threethree questions questions about this section.about this section.

AND / ORAND / ORthreethree Take-a-ways Take-a-ways

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