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Authentic Manhood. Winning at Work & Home. WELCOME!. Be Strong and Courageous. •Our Greeting “Be strong and courageous. As for me and my household we will serve the LORD.”. Be Strong and Courageous. •Our Scripture Joshua 1:6-9 & 24:14-15 - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
Authentic ManhoodWinning at Work &
HomeWELCOME!
Be Strong and Courageous
• Our Greeting
“Be strong and courageous. As for me and my household we will serve the LORD.”
Be Strong and Courageous
• Our Scripture Joshua 1:6-9 & 24:14-15
Be strong and courageous, because you will lead these people to inherit the land I swore to their forefathers to give them. Josh 1:6 (NIV)
Be Strong and Courageous
• Our Scripture Joshua 1:6-9 & 24:14-15
Be strong and very courageous. Be careful to obey all the law my servant Moses gave you; do not turn from it to the right or to the left, that you may be successful wherever you go. Josh 1:7 (NIV)
Authentic ManhoodWinning at Work &
HomeSession 5:Improving Your
Sex Life
Gen 2:24“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh”
Men, Women, and Sex
The Question:How do you manage your sexuality?
What Every Husband WishesHis Wife Understood
A. My sex drive is powerful, persistent, and ... normal.B. Sex is to me what affection is to you: my #1 need. One empowers the meeting of the other.
Sex
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Affection
What Every Husband WishesHis Wife Understood
C. Sex, for me, is a “grand oasis” in the midst of everyday life. It’s a place where I can escape and still experience a moment of pure fun.
A. My sex drive is powerful, persistent, and ... normal.B. Sex is to me what affection is to you: my #1 need. One empowers the meeting of the other.
D. Satisfying sex reassures me in my manhood.E. Real sexual fulfillment for me is impossible unless I can sexually fulfill you.
Before Play: The Feminine Viagra
A. Key Principle: Husbands need sex to feel close to their wives, but wives need daily closeness to feel like having sex with their husbands.B. Everyday ways to keep your wife excited about sex with you:
1. Reassure her with words and displays of affection.2. Daily practice “the romance” of one, small sacrifice.3. Give her regular, focused attention.
4. Speak her love language often.5. Surprise her with a gift out of the ordinary.6. Surprise her by initiating something she likes to do.7. Stay actively involved in loving your children.8. Keep your relationship free of unresolved conflict.
Before Play: The Feminine Viagra
1 Cor 7: 3-5“The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife and like wise the wife to her husband. The wife body does not belong to her along but also to her husband. In the same way the husbands body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self control.”
C. The above is the beginning point of sex for every wife.• “If you want things to come alive at
night, you’ve got to die a little during the day.”
Before Play: The Feminine Viagra
Gen 2:25“And they were both naked and they were no ashamed”
How to Help Your Wife Enjoy Sex With You
A. Start with the perspective that my wife and I are not at the same place sexually.1. Many wives enter marriage
sexually inexperienced.2. Many husbands enter marriage believing his wife enjoys sex at the same level he does.
How to Help Your Wife Enjoy Sex With You
B. Keep the perspective that arousal is the key to your wife’s sexual experience with you.
A simple formula to remember:1. Arousal for you ... 10 seconds!2. Arousal for her ... 10 points!
C. Establish a track record of being safe in bed.
1. Never force anything.2. Stay pain free.3. Know what she likes and what she doesn’t.4. Don’t rush or overly concentrate on hot spots.5. Use words to compliment and reassure.
How to Help Your Wife Enjoy Sex With You
Some Final ThoughtsA. You are the keeper of your sex life:
1. You get what you give.2. Initiate conversation about your sexual needs with each other outside the bedroom.3. Keep growing in your sexual understanding and insight. Great books are available to read together.4. Don’t sell out to fantasy.5. Seek outside help for sexual roadblocks you can’t work through.
B. Remember: THE BEST SEX IS NOT JUST AN ACT; IT IS TWO LIVES IN COMMUNITY. This sex will grow richer and more satisfying with time.
Some Final Thoughts