AUTHENTIC LEADERSHIPAUTHENTIC LEADERSHIP

CHOICE OF TOPICCHOICE OF TOPICPASSION FOR EXCELLENCEPASSION FOR EXCELLENCEINTRODUCE AM AND HER DIFFERENT INTRODUCE AM AND HER DIFFERENT ROLESROLES– MOTHER OF 3MOTHER OF 3– WIFEWIFE– SISTERSISTER– AUNTAUNT– GRANDMOTHERGRANDMOTHER– BUSINESSWOMAN: M&A AND BWABUSINESSWOMAN: M&A AND BWA

AUTHENTIC LEADERSHIPAUTHENTIC LEADERSHIP

DEFINITIONDEFINITIONAUTHENTIC: Known to be true or genuine.AUTHENTIC: Known to be true or genuine.

– Reliable, trustworthyReliable, trustworthy

FUNCTIONS OF LEADERSHIP (Dr Johnny Matshabaphala)FUNCTIONS OF LEADERSHIP (Dr Johnny Matshabaphala)– CaringCaring– DirectionDirection– Corrective actionCorrective action– Motivation or inspirationMotivation or inspiration– Getting the best out of othersGetting the best out of others– Concerned with the futureConcerned with the future– Brand development and maintenanceBrand development and maintenance– WHAT WOMEN DO EVERYDAY!!WHAT WOMEN DO EVERYDAY!!– LIVE OUT YOUR TRUE POTENTIAL – THAT IS AUTHENTIC LIVE OUT YOUR TRUE POTENTIAL – THAT IS AUTHENTIC

LEADERSHIPLEADERSHIP

PERSONAL PHILOSOPHY OF PERSONAL PHILOSOPHY OF AUTHENTIC LEADERSAUTHENTIC LEADERS

Live in accordance with timeless principles, Live in accordance with timeless principles, universal principles that bring joy, peace of mind universal principles that bring joy, peace of mind and an enhanced feeling of worthand an enhanced feeling of worth

Emotional intelligence: What one does when Emotional intelligence: What one does when provoked – paralyse your enemies with loveprovoked – paralyse your enemies with love

Be aware of feelings and act to change themBe aware of feelings and act to change them

Take control of your own life Take control of your own life

Be your own brandBe your own brand

Immortalise your lifeImmortalise your life

ORGANIZATIONAL PHILOSOPHYORGANIZATIONAL PHILOSOPHY

Competence for working with othersCompetence for working with others

Team development – similar to family Team development – similar to family developmentdevelopment

Coaching – get the best out of othersCoaching – get the best out of others– MotivatingMotivating– CorrectingCorrecting

MentoringMentoring

AUTHENTIC LEADERS AND AUTHENTIC LEADERS AND CONTINUOUS LEARNINGCONTINUOUS LEARNING

CONSTANTLY ASK YOURSELFCONSTANTLY ASK YOURSELF– What is being said?What is being said?– What does it mean to me?What does it mean to me?– How can I use this to be better?How can I use this to be better?– Make informed choices and and decisionsMake informed choices and and decisions– Use every available opportunity to influence and be Use every available opportunity to influence and be

influenced by othersinfluenced by others– CONTINUOUS SELF-EMPOWERMENT: “to have a CONTINUOUS SELF-EMPOWERMENT: “to have a

sense of strength and personal control within …. sense of strength and personal control within …. Taking full responsibility for your life and no longer Taking full responsibility for your life and no longer blaming others, or circumstances for your situation.” blaming others, or circumstances for your situation.” (Dr Linda Friedman – SELF)(Dr Linda Friedman – SELF)

PERSONAL EFECTIVENESSPERSONAL EFECTIVENESS

HOW DO WE BECOME AUTHENTIC HOW DO WE BECOME AUTHENTIC LEADERS?LEADERS?– We need to constantly re-examine our effectiveness We need to constantly re-examine our effectiveness

on a personal and professional basis to see how it on a personal and professional basis to see how it can be enhancedcan be enhanced

– We need to eliminate self-defeating behaviour in all We need to eliminate self-defeating behaviour in all areas of our lives – at home and at workareas of our lives – at home and at work

– The best way to improve our organizations is to The best way to improve our organizations is to improve ourselvesimprove ourselves

– The best way to empower our organizations is to The best way to empower our organizations is to empower ourselvesempower ourselves

AUTHENTIC LEADERS AND THE POWER AUTHENTIC LEADERS AND THE POWER OF INDEPENDENT WILLOF INDEPENDENT WILL

Independent will makes effective self-Independent will makes effective self-management possiblemanagement possible

This is measured by our personal integrityThis is measured by our personal integrity– The quality of being honest and morally The quality of being honest and morally

uprightupright– Our ability to make and keep commitments to Our ability to make and keep commitments to

ourselves, to “walk the talk”ourselves, to “walk the talk”– It is honour with self which leads to honour It is honour with self which leads to honour

with otherswith others

ACHIEVING PERSONAL SUCCESSACHIEVING PERSONAL SUCCESS

Excellence must be a way of lifeExcellence must be a way of lifeBatho pele: Service delivery in whatever sphere we Batho pele: Service delivery in whatever sphere we operate inoperate inMake a commitment to brighten the corner where you Make a commitment to brighten the corner where you are are I shall pass this way but once – make a differenceI shall pass this way but once – make a differenceWomen’s role in transformation is critical – women who Women’s role in transformation is critical – women who marched to the Union Buildings in protest during the very marched to the Union Buildings in protest during the very dark days of apartheiddark days of apartheidGifts and callings are given to us according to our Gifts and callings are given to us according to our abilitiesabilitiesImmortalise your name – leave a legacyImmortalise your name – leave a legacy

7 HABITS OF AUTHENTIC LEADERS7 HABITS OF AUTHENTIC LEADERS

Dr Stephen R CoveyDr Stephen R Covey– Recognized as one of Time magazines 25 Recognized as one of Time magazines 25

most influential Americansmost influential Americans– His book “Seven Habits of Highly Effective His book “Seven Habits of Highly Effective

People” sold 15 million copiesPeople” sold 15 million copies– Attended first course in 1996 and have Attended first course in 1996 and have

applied his principles since thenapplied his principles since then

HABIT 1HABIT 1

BE PRO ACTIVEBE PRO ACTIVE– I take responsibility for my attitude and I take responsibility for my attitude and

actionsactions– I am a product of my values and decisionsI am a product of my values and decisions– I am not a victim of my moods and I am not a victim of my moods and

circumstancescircumstances– In every situation I have the opportunity to In every situation I have the opportunity to

choose how I will respondchoose how I will respond– I have a response-ability to make things I have a response-ability to make things

happenhappen

HABIT 1 (Cont.)HABIT 1 (Cont.)

Lord, grant me the serenity Lord, grant me the serenity

To accept the things I cannot changeTo accept the things I cannot change

The courage to change the things I canThe courage to change the things I can

And the wisdom to know the differenceAnd the wisdom to know the difference

HABIT 2HABIT 2

BEGIN WITH THE END IN MINDBEGIN WITH THE END IN MINDWhat is the centre of my life – spouse, What is the centre of my life – spouse, family, possessions, work, money, church, family, possessions, work, money, church, sport, friends, etcsport, friends, etcDo these centres give me a sense of self-Do these centres give me a sense of self-worth all the timeworth all the timeDo I frequently put aside family, etc, Do I frequently put aside family, etc, assuming that everyone will understand assuming that everyone will understand that earning money comes firstthat earning money comes first

HABIT 2 (Cont.)HABIT 2 (Cont.)

At the end of my life, what do I want to At the end of my life, what do I want to have accomplishedhave accomplished

Write a personal mission statementWrite a personal mission statement

My Personal Mission StatementMy Personal Mission StatementWritten in March 1996Written in March 1996

“To Live, to Love, to Leave a Legacy”“To Live, to Love, to Leave a Legacy”

To live in harmony with all mankindTo live in harmony with all mankindTo influence those around me in a positive wayTo influence those around me in a positive wayTo appreciate life exactly as it isTo appreciate life exactly as it isTo build my Christian values to the fullestTo build my Christian values to the fullestTo be a positive role model to younger peopleTo be a positive role model to younger peopleTo lift myself when I fall and continue on life’s journeyTo lift myself when I fall and continue on life’s journeyTo appreciate the good that is inherent in all God’s childrenTo appreciate the good that is inherent in all God’s childrenTo express my feelings in a positive and constructive wayTo express my feelings in a positive and constructive wayTo use very opportunity to utilise my talents and abilitiesTo use very opportunity to utilise my talents and abilitiesTo curb my tongue when something sharp is pushing to escape from itTo curb my tongue when something sharp is pushing to escape from itTo always remember where I came from by giving a helping hand to those who are To always remember where I came from by giving a helping hand to those who are less fortunate than I amless fortunate than I amTo be a pleasant and happy old personTo be a pleasant and happy old personTo die peacefully knowing that my being in this world has made a little difference to To die peacefully knowing that my being in this world has made a little difference to someone’s life – then I will lived, loved and left a legacysomeone’s life – then I will lived, loved and left a legacy

ANGIE MAKWETLAANGIE MAKWETLA

HABIT 2 (Cont.)HABIT 2 (Cont.)

We need to identify our values and goals – We need to identify our values and goals – if you don’t know where you are going, you if you don’t know where you are going, you cannot make informed decisionscannot make informed decisions

Identify the different roles in your life and Identify the different roles in your life and write one or two goals for each rolewrite one or two goals for each role

What do you want from lifeWhat do you want from life

What do you valueWhat do you value

What are your gifts and talentsWhat are your gifts and talents

HABIT 2 (Cont.)HABIT 2 (Cont.)

Work on your goals each dayWork on your goals each day

Accept that you cannot achieve your goals Accept that you cannot achieve your goals in every role every day or every weekin every role every day or every week

PrioritisePrioritise

Be the change that you wantBe the change that you want

Be the leader that you wantBe the leader that you want

HABIT 3HABIT 3

PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTPUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTHaving decided what is important in my Having decided what is important in my life, I make sure that those people and life, I make sure that those people and things are not sidelined by what seems things are not sidelined by what seems urgent, or by other people’s agendasurgent, or by other people’s agendasWe reap what we sowWe reap what we sowCannot sow potatoes and reap tomatoesCannot sow potatoes and reap tomatoesThere are things that are urgent, but not There are things that are urgent, but not importantimportant

HABIT 3 (Cont.)HABIT 3 (Cont.)

Some things are important but not urgentSome things are important but not urgentThat is why goals are important to help us That is why goals are important to help us identify what is important in our livesidentify what is important in our livesImportant things are those that contribute Important things are those that contribute to our mission, our values, our goalsto our mission, our values, our goalsThey require us to be pro-active, to plan They require us to be pro-active, to plan ahead and be ready to seize opportunitiesahead and be ready to seize opportunitiesThrough doing them consistently we will Through doing them consistently we will produce desired resultsproduce desired results

HABIT 3 (Cont.)HABIT 3 (Cont.)

If we keep doing what we are doing, we will keep If we keep doing what we are doing, we will keep getting what we are gettinggetting what we are gettingEffective personal management meansEffective personal management means– Dealing with things that are important but not urgentDealing with things that are important but not urgent– Eg, building relationships, writing a personal mission Eg, building relationships, writing a personal mission

statement, doing long term planning, sharpening the statement, doing long term planning, sharpening the saw (reading, going to gym, etc)saw (reading, going to gym, etc)

– Long term maintenanceLong term maintenance– These are all things that we know we need to do, but These are all things that we know we need to do, but

seldom get around to doing, because they are not seldom get around to doing, because they are not urgenturgent

HABIT 4HABIT 4

THINK WIN WINTHINK WIN WINI learn to cooperate with others in a way that I learn to cooperate with others in a way that builds trust, ensures our mutual benefit, success builds trust, ensures our mutual benefit, success and effectiveness, and allows everyone to be a and effectiveness, and allows everyone to be a winnerwinnerWhat makes us not to acknowledge the potential What makes us not to acknowledge the potential in others and affirm their unique gifts?in others and affirm their unique gifts?What makes us not to affirm others unique gifts, What makes us not to affirm others unique gifts, encourage their individual potential and to want encourage their individual potential and to want the best for them?the best for them?What makes us not be able to love What makes us not be able to love unconditionally?unconditionally?

HABIT 4 (Cont.)HABIT 4 (Cont.)

Is it an insecurity in ourselves which prevents us Is it an insecurity in ourselves which prevents us from cooperating with others, from being from cooperating with others, from being prepared to combine our talents and share the prepared to combine our talents and share the credit for the greater benefit of all?credit for the greater benefit of all?Win win is a way of thinking that regards Win win is a way of thinking that regards relationships as more important than issuesrelationships as more important than issuesMost of life is not a competitionMost of life is not a competitionWe don’t have to live each day competing with We don’t have to live each day competing with our spouse, our children, our colleagues, our our spouse, our children, our colleagues, our neighbours or our friendsneighbours or our friends

HABIT 4 (Cont.)HABIT 4 (Cont.)

““Who is winning in your marriage” is a ridiculous questionWho is winning in your marriage” is a ridiculous questionIf both people in a relationship are not winning, then both If both people in a relationship are not winning, then both are losingare losingAs a pro active person, you can choose your responses As a pro active person, you can choose your responses and rise above your win/lose conditioningand rise above your win/lose conditioningConsider ongoing relationships and the building of trust Consider ongoing relationships and the building of trust as more important than issuesas more important than issuesStay in communication and seek a better way, a more Stay in communication and seek a better way, a more generous waygenerous wayReplace meanness with generosity of spiritReplace meanness with generosity of spirit

HABIT 5HABIT 5

SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOODTO BE UNDERSTOOD

I learn to listen, with genuine intent to I learn to listen, with genuine intent to understand what matters to the other understand what matters to the other person, before expecting him or her to person, before expecting him or her to listen to melisten to me

HABIT 5 (Cont.)HABIT 5 (Cont.)

When we are truly interested in what When we are truly interested in what another person is saying, 3 important another person is saying, 3 important things happenthings happen– We give them a sense of self-worthWe give them a sense of self-worth– Trust is built upTrust is built up– We can decide what to do on the basis of We can decide what to do on the basis of

knowledge rather than assumption or knowledge rather than assumption or ignoranceignorance

HABIT 5 (Cont.)HABIT 5 (Cont.)

WHAT PREVENTS US FROM LISTENING WHAT PREVENTS US FROM LISTENING WITH EMPATHY?WITH EMPATHY?– Desire to be appreciated for offering a wise solutionDesire to be appreciated for offering a wise solution– ImpatienceImpatience– Need to defend my positionNeed to defend my position– Feeling of superiorityFeeling of superiority– Assume that I know what you are going to sayAssume that I know what you are going to say– Been there, done that – let me tell you about meBeen there, done that – let me tell you about me– Thinking of my replyThinking of my reply

Habit 5 (Cont.)Habit 5 (Cont.)

Seek first to understand is a correct principleSeek first to understand is a correct principleIt is practiced by effective doctors, lawyers, It is practiced by effective doctors, lawyers, executives, managers, parents, students and executives, managers, parents, students and many others whose success depends on first many others whose success depends on first understanding symptoms, instructions, etcunderstanding symptoms, instructions, etcOnce you have proved that you understand the Once you have proved that you understand the other person in depth, he or she will be more other person in depth, he or she will be more willing to listen to youwilling to listen to youWhen both parties understand both When both parties understand both perspectives, we find ourselves on the same perspectives, we find ourselves on the same side looking for solutions togetherside looking for solutions together

HABIT 5(Cont.)HABIT 5(Cont.)

Lord make me an instrument of your peaceLord make me an instrument of your peaceWhere there is hatred, let me sow loveWhere there is hatred, let me sow loveWhere there is injury, pardonWhere there is injury, pardonWhere there is discord, unionWhere there is discord, unionWhere there is doubt, faithWhere there is doubt, faithWhere there is darkness, lightWhere there is darkness, lightWhere there is sadness, joyWhere there is sadness, joyLord, grant that we may not so much seekLord, grant that we may not so much seekTo be consoled as to consoleTo be consoled as to consoleTo be understood as to understandTo be understood as to understandTo be loved as to loveTo be loved as to loveFor it is in giving that we receiveFor it is in giving that we receiveIt is in pardoning that we are pardonedIt is in pardoning that we are pardonedAnd it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

HABIT 6HABIT 6

SYNERGISESYNERGISEI learn that by working together we can achieve far more I learn that by working together we can achieve far more than either one of us could achieve on our ownthan either one of us could achieve on our own1 + 1 = 3 or more1 + 1 = 3 or moreThe combined actions of a group of bodily organsThe combined actions of a group of bodily organsEach part of our bodies fulfils a particular functionEach part of our bodies fulfils a particular functionOur health and well being depends on all the parts Our health and well being depends on all the parts combining in their different strengths and weaknessescombining in their different strengths and weaknessesConsider the peaceful transition of SA to a democracy – Consider the peaceful transition of SA to a democracy – it is called a miracleit is called a miracleSynergy is the essence of miraclesSynergy is the essence of miracles

HABIT 6 (Cont.)HABIT 6 (Cont.)

Through mutual cooperation and teamwork we Through mutual cooperation and teamwork we can accomplish what would otherwise be can accomplish what would otherwise be impossibleimpossible

Create shared mission statementsCreate shared mission statements– Within my circle of influence I will share the Within my circle of influence I will share the

responsibility for the economic well-being and quality responsibility for the economic well-being and quality of life for everyoneof life for everyone

– By example, create a culture of learning and By example, create a culture of learning and productivity; accountability and the effective use of productivity; accountability and the effective use of resources; develop high trust levels and synergyresources; develop high trust levels and synergy

HABIT 7HABIT 7

SHARPEN THE SAWSHARPEN THE SAW

SPIRITUAL GROWTHSPIRITUAL GROWTH– PrayPray– ListenListen– Keep silentKeep silent– Read the bible and other spiritual booksRead the bible and other spiritual books– Dream dreams and envisionDream dreams and envision– Give thanksGive thanks

HABIT 7 (Cont.)HABIT 7 (Cont.)

PHYSICAL HEALTHPHYSICAL HEALTH– Balanced dietBalanced diet– ExerciseExercise– Get sufficient sleep and restGet sufficient sleep and rest

MENTAL ALERTNESSMENTAL ALERTNESS– Continue learningContinue learning– ReadRead– WriteWrite– ThinkThink

HABIT 7 (Cont.)HABIT 7 (Cont.)

RELATIONSHIPS – EMOTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS – EMOTIONAL DEPOSITSDEPOSITS– Keep promisesKeep promises– Honour commitmentsHonour commitments– ApologiseApologise– Be loyalBe loyal– Be kind and caringBe kind and caring– Be generousBe generous– Give time and creditGive time and credit

CONCLUSIONCONCLUSION

We are responsible for our own destinyWe are responsible for our own destiny

Take responsibility for your own successTake responsibility for your own success

Empower those below youEmpower those below you

Live, love, leave a legacyLive, love, leave a legacy

BECOME AN AUTHENTIC LEADERBECOME AN AUTHENTIC LEADER

THANK YOUTHANK YOU