Happiness Matters Art of Indelible Impressions

“They won’t tell you when you misread their signals, you

simply lose opportunities…”

So what are we really saying to people, and what language are they speaking to us?

The Secrets of Social

Fluency and Flirting ….

"Would you take offense if I had the gall to plant a kiss on this beautiful shoulder?“ "You'll figure that out soon enough after the deed."

My Name is Zoe Sexton

I am a founder of Maguffin, a strategic consulting firm, and I have over 25 years experience in the areas of human behavior, cultural and business communications. I have a Masters Degree in Strategic Leadership and have focused on helping entrepreneurs and individuals in developing leadership, partners and strategy in their personal lives and their businesses.

I’ve been told, that my reach and influence have positively created change, and instilled a sense of confidence in my clients, students, colleagues and friends worldwide.

But I’ll let you be the judge of that.

What We Will Do

• Discover the secrets and subtle signs of body language

• Learn to control tone of voice • Learn non-verbal communication and allowing • Learn to establish deep rapport quickly. • Learn to flirt for any occasion with social grace

and eloquence. • Discover how to expand your vitality at will • Make an indelible first impression. • Have fun!

Let’s Talk About Erotic Capital Define it, develop it, apply it

• Beauty

• Physical Body

• Social Grace

• Vitality

• Presentation

• Intimacy Skills

• Fertility of the Mind

• Nurture

'Eroticism, unlike simple sexual activity, is a psychological quest...eroticism is assenting to life even in death'. (Bataille, Eroticism p. 11)

Its about Communication

What Your Communication Style Says About

You, Why It Matters, and How

to Manage Everyone Else’s

Social Fluency & Flirting

• A primary combination of social grace, vitality, presentation

• A secondary combination of intimacy, creativity, nurture

• A third aspect is of physical body awareness

Everyone Has a Story

Our communication style affects how others’ react to and perceive us.

Knowing your communication style and understanding the communication styles of others can improve your ability to connect. At work, it can reduce conflict, improve morale and increase collaboration.

Expressive Systematic

Sympathetic Direct

What is Your Style?

Presentation

• Body types- clothes that fit

• Ordinary item worn in extra-ordinary way

• One unusual item that stands out from rest

• 85% of men do not notice maniucures, but women do

• Make-up, the right way for your face

• Shoes and bags

• Millions of articles of clothing- just like people-NEXT

It’s a matter of style, hair, clothing, make-up, look, image, accessories, shoes, jewelry …

Flirting

• Speaking and behaving in a way suggesting MILDLY greater intimacy than the actual relationship between the parties would justify,

within the rules of social etiquette.

• Involves Body Language

• Involves Tone of Voice

• Defined by Culture and Context

Flirting Can Be Used to Develop Rapport

In Any Situation- But how do we know the difference between a potential mate and a business opportunity?

Humor & the Brain

• Key ingredient to a Healthy Human

• Good medicine

• Releases endorphins

• Triggers Immune system

Smiling

• Smiling is something that you give and you receive

• When you engage with a smile you are providing comfort

• Smiling is not flirting

• Flirting makes smiling fun

Adapt Your Message Your Audience

Types of Flirting

• Physical – Body language, emotional connection

• Traditional – Passive and often misunderstand non-flirting as flirting – Holding back

• Polite – Manner-driven and non-sexual – Judge flirtatious behavior

• Sincere – Confident, emotional – Chemistry

• Playful – Little sexual interest – fun – Flirt often and casually – Open enhances self-esteem

Knowing the Right Type

• Eye contact (smile + eye contact = energy)

• From afar, level, direction and length

• In conversation, direct and relaxed – Eye contact says you are paying attention; do so

– Clarity of eyes is a sign of beauty & fertility (Darwin)

– Smiling, hair, touching neck (vulnerability), lips, laughter, nodding, teasing, touching, flexing arms or elbows (movement)

Conversation

• Understand what they are saying

• Look at their body language

• Look straight at them, eyes on theirs

• Stance, posture

• Energy, feel and adjust yours

• Tone, adapt tone of compassion and attention

• Mouth, jaw, neck

Key Body Language Signs

• Body is directed where?

• Feet are directed where?

• Eyes, where are they going?

• Arms, what are they doing?

• Neck, where is it bent?

• Face: lips up or down?

• Face: placid or animated?

Vitality - Energy

• Expanding your vitality at will

• Visualization

• Fill body with oxygen

• Exhale fully

• Feel yourself flower, peel open

• Move body to open position, stance, hands, mouth, eyes, lips, mind

• Open to the possibility

Body Awareness

• Breath

• Stimulation Points

• Movement

• Your Own Behaviors

The separation of the brains has to be overcome; the dreamer and doer must become one."

Manners & Etiquette

Dining & Food

• Place settings

• Food Placement

• Spitting it out

No neutral movements

• Posture

• Sitting down, walking

• Poise

Flirtatious Food

When you chose, eating can be SEXY

When you chose, eating can be REFINED

Formal Place Setting

Before Any Event

• Keep your eye on the ball? Well sort of.

• Visualize yourself, at ease, laughing and fill yourself with internal

power and energy. Smile it up.