Now we are in the Noughties or "Naughties"more single people are worried aboutfinding love. Why? They’ve spent thenineties racing to achieve career success.Now they are asking themselves ‘is thisworth anything without someone to share itwith?’ The answer is often ‘no’.

You won’t find love unless you’re out thereinteracting with people. And when you do,you need to be able to interact with thatperson in a way that allows you to discoverif they are right for you and for you toradiate the best of yourself so that they areattracted to you.

Apart from love, most of us want to enjoysuccessful, fulfilling careers and have goodfriends around us. The type of flirting I

promote is one that can either be very sexual or simply very social or a mixture ofboth. And great flirting, when practised appropriately and with the right attitude, is agateway to more romance, deeper friendship, enhanced professional relationships anda definite feel-good sensation in you and the people you flirt with.

WORKPLACE3 PLANS FOR THE BUSINESS OF FLIRTING

BenefitsMost people know that when you want to winpeople over, a little flirting goes a long way. Theperson who consistently makes other people feelgood by smiling at them, paying attention to them,showing they are interested and telling them whenthey do something well is the person who is mostlikely to succeed. If it’s a choice between you andsomeone with the same abilities, you’ll win everytime because you bring that added feel-goodfactor to your work and clients

Warning!To get the most from workplace flirting followthese recommendations: don’t be an overtsexual flirt, you might give the impression you’llexchange sex for business favours such aspromotion or to get someone to do somethingfor you. Your colleagues will resent you andyou might end up getting more than youbargained for. Turn down your sexual pilotlight to the lowest setting when flirting inprofessional situations, until you know how faryou can go with the person.

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PLACES TO FLIRT YOUR HEART OUT

Tips1. Always start with very mild flirtation. Somepeople will appear as outrageous flirts andothers won’t approve. Turn up the heataccordingly.

2. Keep a friendly fact file on work colleaguesand clients. Record birthdays, interests, familyinformation, dreams, passions and snippets ofinfo that tell you about them. You are takingan interest in people. Use that information tostart a conversation, cheer them up, or pass ona contact or article that will be useful to them,they will feel special and valued and rememberyou as the instigator of those feelings

3. Here’s a simple way to flirt with everyone youmeet at your work. Decide that you are goingto talk to as many different people as possiblein the day. Each time you pass someone in thecorridor, make eye contact, smile and just sayHi, or greet them in some general way. Be theperson who makes people smile with acompliment or a timely joke or a suggestion oroffer of help. This will pay off in many different ways.

SUPERMARKETS3 SURE-FIRE WAYS TO PULL THE APPLEOF YOUR EYE

BenefitsEve was wandering around the aisles of EdenGarden supermarket when she spied a luscious,round, juicy, Pink Lady® apple. She plucked itfrom the shelf, took a bite and so wonderfulwas it that she immediately offered it to Adam.Unable to resist her wiles, Adam tasted theforbidden fruit and well you know the rest. Do you want to tempt your Adam or your Eve?Supermarkets are the ideal location.

Everyone has to shop, so at one time oranother most of the singles who live locally toyou will be found wandering the aisles of theirlocal grocery store. If you don’t find what youwant in one, visit another. Pick a supermarketthat has a good coffee bar, where you couldinvite someone for a quick post-shop coffee.

Tips1. Checkout their shopping. No baby products,small portions of anything and ready meals insingle servings in a hand basket are sure signsof a singleton shopper.

2. Use produce as props. Pick up a Pink Lady®

apple and say to someone – ‘Did you knowthese apples are meant to be flirty?’ while youmake eye contact and smile.

3. Be curious and friendly. Ask about an item intheir trolley – is that any good? Start a smalltalk conversation.

CAFÉS AND BARS 3 RECIPES FOR FRIVOLOUS FLIRTING

BenefitsCafés and bars are people containers and linkedto social activities. Generally people go there torelax, meet friends and eat. People visit coffeeshops to pass the time of day. They’re casualand a fairly good place to make a move! Mostsingle people feel OK about sitting alone with acoffee. Bars tend to be more problematic ifthey are too crowded or play loud music. Avoidthese venues as flirtation spots especially onFridays and Saturdays.

Tips1. Set the scene. As you walk into a café/barhold up your head, sashay your hips; men, pullback your shoulders a little and smile. Make eyecontact with as many people as possible as youmove to your seat. Now they are all aware ofyou and you won’t seem such a stranger if youchoose to make a move.

2. Pick your position. Make sure you sit at atable with the widest view of the restaurant. Ifin a coffee bar, sit somewhere everyone has topass to get their coffee or even go to the loo. Ifyou’re by the loo talk to them on the way out,not on the way in! If you’re a bit of a comedianyou can really have fun with this one and getaway with it.

3. The 3-step flirt. If you see someone you likeacross a crowded room, check out the bodylanguage to see if they’re with someone. Youdon’t want red wine all over that white shirt orslinky dress, do you! Make eye contact whilesmiling and incline or raise your glass towardsthem. Look away. Repeat two or three times.Note their reaction. If they smile back, raisetheir glass back, the flirtation has begun.

Eat your food sensually, use your tongueoccasionally to lick your lips. Make eye contactas you open your mouth to spoon in somethingdelicious. Think about sharing it with them.They’ll get a strong sexy signal from you.

Find an excuse to go somewhere where theycan initiate a conversation with you comfortablyand look at them and tilt your head in thedirection you are moving in and smile. If they’reinterested they may feel inspired to follow youand make a move. If not, have the waiter passthem a note with your mobile or pager numberor you could do it yourself. Wait briefly, untillook at it, then just smile at them and leave.

TRAVELLING3 ROUTES FOR A FLIRTY JOURNEY

BenefitsMany single people travel alone. It’s thegreatest way to meet new people and explorewithout being tied down. A traveller is expected to approach people so that makes iteasier. When you are in a foreign country oraway from home it’s easier to let out the realyou. You don’t worry about people judging youbecause they don’t know you and you might notmeet again.

Talking to other travellers is a great way ofpassing time on a long journey and who knowsyou might make a good friend or find out someuseful information or even more.

Tips1. Travelling involves reading maps, finding yourway. It’s a great opportunity to ask someoneyou fancy to help you.

2. Carry a Pink Lady® (or two) with you at alltimes. If you’re with a foreigner, tell them aboutthese wonderful apples that are supposed to beflirty. And when you’re done with it as a flirtingprop, Pink Lady® is a perfect energising travelsnack and you can offer the second one to your flirtee!

3. Tell your flirtee you’re thinking about writinga traveller’s guide to flirting and ask them ifthey’ve had any flirting successes whiletravelling. It’s a great conversation opener and

you’ll probably end up with enough stories towrite the guide or at least to amuse yourfriends and who knows, getting them into aflirty mood might open the door to more!

SOCIAL EVENTS FLIRTING FOR THE FUN OF IT

BenefitsBeing able to flirt with many people at a socialevent is great for building positive connectionsthat other people want to continue. Even whenyou don’t have much time with one person, youcan flirt with them in such a way that they’llremember you. You can flirt with a lot ofpeople briefly and still manage to set the scenefor further contact or an invitation.

Tips1. If you want to break into a group, hover onthe edge and listen carefully to what they say.If it seems alien to you move onto another group. Think ofthem as friendly people whoare just as keen as you tomake new contacts. Look atthe person talking if you canand make brief eye contactwith the rest of the group.Smile as you do this. If apoint in the discussion arriveswhere you have something toadd that might be useful, thenwait till one person’s finished,and start in. You could beginby saying ‘that’s reallyinteresting… andagree/disagree or make yourcomment. The eye contact andsmiles will make the groupopen to listening to you andletting you in.

2. Move around the event/partychecking out and scanning allthe rooms making lots of eyecontact and extending it if yousee someone you like. Try toget a sense of who is coupledand who is alone while you dothis. You don’t want to makeeyes at someone and find their

husband/wife breathing down your neck, doyou? When you find the position where mostpeople pass by, station yourself there. Say helloto people as they come by. After all it’s a socialgathering, it’s expected! You’re giving them asignal that you are open to meeting. Have yourpersonal and business cards to hand and easilyreachable. Always be prepared to hand themout and tell someone that you’d like to seethem again and make it clear why.

3. If someone is boring you, it’s easy to getaway, by making a gesture like a cough andbriefly looking away towards a group of peopleand back again saying, ‘Would you excuse me? Ihave to speak to someone – nice meeting you’.It’s vague and acceptable enough to get you outgracefully.

So, it’s as simple as that! Why don’t you adoptand adapt some of the rules above to fit intoyour own flirting agenda?