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NUPTIALSBringing Bliss and Dreams Together
WARNING signs of marriage meltdown
ANNIVERSARY EDITION
Stacey Clarke PhotographyDESIGNS BY NISHY
CoverPhoto Credits: Miss Stacey Clarke
Editor’s Corner
One year already! This issue is in celebration of our ONE YEAR anniversary. We are humbled at the performance of this brand and readership growth over the past year.
We say a big thank you to all our partners and readers for embracing and reaching out to Nuptials Magazine.
We must also recognize our friends at Scotiabank Jamaica Limited; who reached out to Nuptials Magazine at a time when our name was merely emerging.
We are truly blessed to have achieved this milestone and looks forward to an improved and strengthened brand in the coming year.
Our celebration could not be complete; had we failed to recognize the work of our Mar-keting and Communications Team; who in celebration of our ONE year anniversary; will release a new and more sophisticated website environment. Thanks TEAM!
From all of us here at Nuptials Jamaica & Nup-tials Magazine; a big thank you.
Send us your feedback atfacebook.com/nuptialsjamaicaor twitter/nuptialsjamaica
Blessings,
Jennifer
CreditsPublishers:
Nuptials JamaicaHellshire, Greater Portmore P.O., St. Catherine
CEO & Editor-In-ChiefJennifer [email protected]
Marketing Manager & Creative DirectorJason [email protected]
Contributors:Designs by NishelStacey Clarke Photography
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Table of Content Stacey Clarke Photography
Designs by Nishy
Warning Signs of Marriage Meltdown
10 Tips to Consider when Selecting your Photographer
Ital Blends
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WARNING signs of marriage meltdown
Signs of deteriorationBrian Craig
According to research by Relationships Aus-tralia, there are nine common warning signs that emotional distance is developing in a marriage.
Complaints of loss of feeling. It’s quite com-mon for one or both partners to complain that they no longer are in love with the other partner. Frequently, this loss of feeling is related to the fact that their lack of activity and fears have been “bottled up” and not expressed – or feelings of resentment, bitterness and hatred have been harbored by one against the other.
Recurring arguments that are not resolved. Research by Gottman, Markman and others; underscores the damaging effects that negativ-ity and recurring patterns of conflict have on a marital relationship.
Loss of interest in sex. Sex provides a useful barometer for the relative health of – and/or dys-
function - in marriage. Couples typically will show a lack of interest in or attraction to each other when they don’t feel emotionally close to one another.
Signs of depression or withdrawal by one of the partners. Feelings of dissatisfaction, un-happiness and helplessness, or a fear of losing the relationship, may cause one the partners to with-draw and become depressed. A lack of sympa-thetic attention may account for a loss of enthusi-asm and optimism more than stress or work.
The abandonment of joint activities. Where partners begin to live parallel lives, there is little opportunity for them to spend time together or share in pleasurable activities that increase feel-ings of attachment and bonding.
An affair. Becoming emotionally and sexually involved with someone outside the marriage can be a “cry for help” and a plea for both partners to acknowledge that the relationship is flounder-ing and in trouble.
Preoccupation with interests and activi-ties outside the marriage. The investment of time and energy by one partner in career, work, church, or other interests and activities may leave the other partner feeling neglected and be-trayed.
Arguments over child rearing. Another significant warning sign is when fights erupt that divide the couple over their methods and commitment to rearing children. These dis-ruptions can sometimes lead individual parents to form an alliance with one or a number of the children against the other partner.
Increased fatigue and the reduced ability to meet responsibilities at work.
This may signal that a lot of emotional energy is being expanded on negative relational issues.
Signs of a healthy marriageIn this article, “Bounce Back!” John H. Thur-man mentions seven traits of couples who do not easily give in to problems that come up in mar-ried life.1. Spouses are aware of marital challeng-es.They know that conflicts are an unavoidable part of the relationship and that conflicts are also nec-essary if couples wish to grow together.
2. They seek outside help when needed.Whether it is professional help or simply the sup-port of the church or friends, they do not hesitate to obtain counsel in moments of crisis. 3. They focus on the positive.Whether it is the happy moments of their mar-riage, or the qualities of their spouse, these cou-ples prefer to focus on the good things that bring them together and not the bad things that sepa-rate them.
4. They accept their differences.Instead of trying to change their partner, each one accepts the other as he or she is. They even see differences as a way of enhancing their rela-tionship.
5. They control their emotions. Each one does everything possible not to “fly off the handle” when discussing differences of opin-ion.
6. They use past mistakes to introduce positive changes, not to hold grudges or to conveniently throw them back in their spouses face.
7. They believe that with the help of God, they can overcome their difficulties. They do not give up easily and, in moments of crisis, do their part trusting that God will help them
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WARNING signs of marriage meltdown
Signs of deteriorationBrian Craig
According to research by Relationships Aus-tralia, there are nine common warning signs that emotional distance is developing in a marriage.
Complaints of loss of feeling. It’s quite com-mon for one or both partners to complain that they no longer are in love with the other partner. Frequently, this loss of feeling is related to the fact that their lack of activity and fears have been “bottled up” and not expressed – or feelings of resentment, bitterness and hatred have been harbored by one against the other.
Recurring arguments that are not resolved. Research by Gottman, Markman and others; underscores the damaging effects that negativ-ity and recurring patterns of conflict have on a marital relationship.
Loss of interest in sex. Sex provides a useful barometer for the relative health of – and/or dys-
function - in marriage. Couples typically will show a lack of interest in or attraction to each other when they don’t feel emotionally close to one another.
Signs of depression or withdrawal by one of the partners. Feelings of dissatisfaction, un-happiness and helplessness, or a fear of losing the relationship, may cause one the partners to with-draw and become depressed. A lack of sympa-thetic attention may account for a loss of enthusi-asm and optimism more than stress or work.
The abandonment of joint activities. Where partners begin to live parallel lives, there is little opportunity for them to spend time together or share in pleasurable activities that increase feel-ings of attachment and bonding.
An affair. Becoming emotionally and sexually involved with someone outside the marriage can be a “cry for help” and a plea for both partners to acknowledge that the relationship is flounder-ing and in trouble.
Preoccupation with interests and activi-ties outside the marriage. The investment of time and energy by one partner in career, work, church, or other interests and activities may leave the other partner feeling neglected and be-trayed.
Arguments over child rearing. Another significant warning sign is when fights erupt that divide the couple over their methods and commitment to rearing children. These dis-ruptions can sometimes lead individual parents to form an alliance with one or a number of the children against the other partner.
Increased fatigue and the reduced ability to meet responsibilities at work.
This may signal that a lot of emotional energy is being expanded on negative relational issues.
Signs of a healthy marriageIn this article, “Bounce Back!” John H. Thur-man mentions seven traits of couples who do not easily give in to problems that come up in mar-ried life.1. Spouses are aware of marital challeng-es.They know that conflicts are an unavoidable part of the relationship and that conflicts are also nec-essary if couples wish to grow together.
2. They seek outside help when needed.Whether it is professional help or simply the sup-port of the church or friends, they do not hesitate to obtain counsel in moments of crisis. 3. They focus on the positive.Whether it is the happy moments of their mar-riage, or the qualities of their spouse, these cou-ples prefer to focus on the good things that bring them together and not the bad things that sepa-rate them.
4. They accept their differences.Instead of trying to change their partner, each one accepts the other as he or she is. They even see differences as a way of enhancing their rela-tionship.
5. They control their emotions. Each one does everything possible not to “fly off the handle” when discussing differences of opin-ion.
6. They use past mistakes to introduce positive changes, not to hold grudges or to conveniently throw them back in their spouses face.
7. They believe that with the help of God, they can overcome their difficulties. They do not give up easily and, in moments of crisis, do their part trusting that God will help them
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10 TIPS TO CONSIDER WHEN SELECTING YOURPHOTOGRAPHER
Stacey Clarke
1. Make sure you get references for your photographer. Past brides will always give an honest opinion. You can also re-search your photographers on bridal/wedding forums. Does your photographer carry back up equipment? What kind of equipment do they use? These answers will help put your mind at ease!
2. Details! Details! Details! I know it can get a little stressful! Why not take some well deserved down time and have some fun with hubby-to-be; by doing an engagement shoot or even better yet a boudoir session! It’s a good opportunity to meet your photographer before hand.
3. Most photographers these days shoot with a photojournalistic style which is fantastic. Capturing your day as it unfolds! You may also want to consider just a few formal pictures for keep sake or the parents as you know they LOVE to print and display them for all to see.
4. What time is your florist setting up on your wedding day? It is a good idea to have them set up a little earlier for pre-ceremony pictures. Especially if you plan on doing a first meet/family pictures before the ceremony.
5. If you are worried that your photographer may not notice all of the details you have put so much time and effort into; why not make a photo list for them of must have shots. Don’t worry it’s not too much. I occasionally ask my couples to do this.
6. Candid shots are the norm at weddings now, just forget all about the cameras and just enjoy yourself. You will be surprised when you get your images at what some people are doing!
7. Getting ready images are a must have now especially with larger groups. There are always lots of antics going on in the room. When you look back at these pictures you will know just what the other was up to before you met at the end of the aisle.
8. If you would like your parents to be involved in the getting ready process, it may be a good idea to get ready a little ear-lier. So when he/she comes to your room to help they will be camera ready.
9. If you have lots planned on your wedding day, ask you pho-tographers to coordinate with your planner. That way they will know what is planned and what time it will be happening. No opportunities for missed shots.
10. Having your family and friends pictures taken can some-times be a bit overwhelming for you especially if there are a lot of them. Write up a photo list of groups or couples that you want to get and then ask your MOH or friend to read out the names for pictures. The process will go a lot smoother and faster
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