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The 8 D’s of DYSLEXIC WELLBEING

PENNIE ASTONGroOops SPECIALIST DYSLEXIA AWARE COUNSELLOR

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THE 8 D’s of DYSLEXIC WELLBEING

• Dilemmas – Things we can’t do too much about.

• Dramas – Things we make bigger than they are.

• DVD – Put a sock in it.

• Discussions – In order to get understanding

• Dont’s

• Do’s

• Delight – When everything fits.

= iDentity

1. DYSLEXIC DILEMMASThings we generally have to deal with.

• Not great at remembering things.

• Easily overwhelmed.• Find it hard to find the right

words.• Environment - Sensitive to light,

sound, temperature.• Exhausting simultaneous

visual thinking.• Find change difficult.

• Disorganisation or OCD tendencies.

2. DYSLEXIC DRAMAS• Catastrophic thinking.• Procrastination.• Over thinking.• Ruminating.• Always right.• Feeling stupid.• Self pity.• Relationship tangles.• Misunderstandings.

THE VORTEX

3. DVD The Dyslexic Person’s worst enemy.

5. DYSLEXIC DON’TsDon’t use Don’ts .....Turn them into Do’s........

• Isolate yourself. • Find others.

• Self pity – self blame - whining. • Learn from mistakes

• Avoidance.• Acceptance

• Rumination.• Get it out of your head.

• Give up.• Keep going.

• Blame someone else.• Accept your contribution, learn from and move on.

• Deny how you’re feeling.• Accept difficult feelings.

6. DYSLEXIC DO’sThings you can do to make your life a little bit easier.

a. Lists.... Lists..... Lists.(or book or post it’s).b. Take breaks – Downtime.c. Develop active listening - Clarify, repeat – have you understood correctly?d. Develop Self Discipline.e. Centering/Groundingf. Be mindful of how you are feeling.g. Feed your mind, body and soul.h. Make yourself your own ‘me’ project.i. Find a community.j. Be gentle with yourself.k. Find ways to LAUGH – It really is the best medicine.

l. Do it!

7. DYSLEXIC iDENTITYObjective is to:

• Know who I am.• Know my strengths and weaknesses.• Accept myself as I am – I do not need to be

fixed – I can work on myself.• Accept mistakes are made - Question what

you have learnt from it.• Accept others in the same way.• Care for myself – Mind, Body, Soul approach.

8. DYSLEXIC DELIGHT• Balance• Community• Communication• Self knowledge• Trust in self and others• Resilient when things go pear shaped• Knowing you can survive difficult situations.

Difficult SituationsQuestions to ask yourself

• What were the circumstances?• What was my contribution?• Is there a pattern?• How do I feel about myself?• What would I do differently now?• What am I learning from this?• Have I discussed it with anyone (different

view)?

CASE STUDYREVIEW

DRAMAS DONT’S & DO’S• Catastrophic

thinking.• Procrastination.• Over thinking.• Ruminating.• Always right.• Feeling stupid.• Self pity.• Relationship

tangles.• Misunderstandings.

DIFFICULT SITUATIONS

• What were the circumstances?

• What was my contribution?

• Is there a pattern?• How do I feel about

myself?• What would I do

differently now?• What am I learning from

this?• Have I discussed it with

anyone (different view)?

Isolate yourself. Find others.

Self pity – self blame - whining. Learn from mistakes

Avoidance.Acceptance

Rumination.Get it out of your head.

Give up.Keep going.

Blame someone else.Accept your contribution,

learn from and move on.Deny how you’re feeling.Accept difficult feelings.

TRUST - Personal Case Study

Everybody is a genius but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree it

will live its whole life believing it is stupid......ALBERT EINSTEIN

Gaining WELLBEING is moving from this.........

To this..........

CONCLUSION

• Wellbeing is about looking after yourself in every area – Mind Body and Soul

• Wellbeing is about knowing yourself and accepting yourself and others.

• Wellbeing is a LIFE-LONG work in progress.

Enjoy the journey...

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