social skill lesson plan: disagreeing appropriately · 2018. 12. 18. · social skill lesson plan:...

SOCIALSKILLLESSONPLAN:"DISAGREEINGAPPROPRIATELY"INTRODUCETHESKILLWhat? Whatisadisagreement?Isanargumentorafightadisagreement?Howdoyoufeel

afterafightorargument?When? Whenmightpeopledisagree?Who? Whoaresomeofthepeoplewithwhomwemightdisagree?

DESCRIBESKILLSTEPS 1. Reassuretheotherperson.Dothisby:

• lookingatthem.Thisshowsyouarelisteninganditshowsrespecttotheotherperson.Thisisgreatsocialpracticeandgoodforbuildingself-confidence.*

• keepingacalmvoiceandacalmface.Thisshowsthatyouareincontrolofyouremotions.Italsoshowsthatyouarereadytotalkandlisten.

• saying“IthinkIknowhowyoufeel.”Thisisahighlevelcommunicationskill:Seekfirsttounderstand,thentobeunderstood.

2. Listentotheotherperson’sperspective(opportunitytodiscusswhatthistermmeans). 3. Tellthemwhyyoufeeldifferently,andgiveareason.Thisgivesyouachanceto

practicereasoningandproblemsolving. 4. Discusspossiblesolutionsandbereadytoacceptthe‘Yes’or‘No’answerfrom

theotherperson.Thisappliestoparents,adults,andpeers.*Becautiousaboutthiswithstudentsfromculturesthatdonotsharetheoutlookthateyecontactisrespectful.

RATIONALEBenefit Whenyoudisagreeappropriately,youaremorelikelytogetyourwayandlesslikely

toneedanadulttohelp.Otherswillconsideryouropinionsifyoupresentthemcalmly;otherswillgiveyoutherespectyoudeserve.

NegativeConsequence

Otherswon'twanttotalktoyouandyoumightlosefriendsifyoudisagreeinappropriately.

PRACTICE RoleplayaP.E.situation,game,orsport.Practicebodylanguage(howtostand,

handposition,proximity).Theteachershoulddemonstrateavarietyofvoicetones.Studentspracticecorrectly.

FEEDBACK Youdidagreatjobofpracticing"DisagreeingAppropriately!"(Praisespecificsteps

followedandgivespecificfeedbackforareasofimprovement.)

POSITIVECONSEQUENCE(optional) Becauseyoupracticedsowell,youhaveearned10minutesofextrafreetime(or

otherpositiveconsequencesthatareappropriateforthetimelikepennycandyorplayingagame.)

FOLLOW-UPPRACTICE Lettheclassknowthatyouwillbeobservingtheclassto"catchthem"usingtheskill

"DisagreeingAppropriately."Continuetopraisecorrectuseoftheskillandre-teachasneeded.

DISAGREEING APPROPRIATELY

Reassure the other person. ü Lookatthem.

ü Calmvoiceandface.ü Say“IthinkIknowhowyou

feel.”

Listen to the other person.

Say why you feel differently.

Give a reason.

Discuss ideas. Be ready to accept ‘Yes’ or ‘No.’