part 2 why marriage fails so often. what is failure in marriage ? divorce does not have to end in...

Part 2Why Marriage Fails Why Marriage Fails

so Oftenso Often

What is failure in marriage ?

Divorce Does not have to end in divorce to be a failure. If it does not prepare us

for heaven !

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Heb. 13:4

God designedUs for marriage

God gave lawsFor marriage

Why Marriage Fails so Often

1. The persons involved fail

Inadequate persons are not guided by the BIBLE.

Both must be adequate partners

It takes TWO adequate partners to have a successful marriage.

2. Fail to understand the commitment

Marriage ceremonyMarriage ceremony Till death Sickness and in health Prosperity & Adversity

3. Because of Immaturity

Dependence

Independence

Inter-dependence

=Childhood

=Adolescence

=Maturity

Selfishness

4. Unfair or Harsh Criticism

One or both fall into the habit of criticizing

Ends in self-righteousness

Not the way of ChristConcentrate on the good

5. Too Sensitive

Sensitive in wrong or right way

No one is perfect – Phil.3:12-13

Criticism can help us do better

Refuse to criticize when you are criticized

6. Torn asunder by inner Conflicts

House divided against itself

Civil war within – conflicts

Makes for inadequate partners

Beatitudes in Matthew 5

7. Lack of trust in one another

Jealousy = destructive

Must be worthy of trust

Song of Solomon 8:6 “jealousy is cruel as the grave”

1 Cor.13:7 “believeth all things”

8. Failure in physical intimacy

Sex is the added language given by God to married couples

Unmarried attempt to speak this language – ends in sorrow

Heb. 13:4 “honorable”

9. Failure in kindness, courtesy and thoughtfulness

1 Cor. 13 = Love

Col. 3:19 “Be not bitter”

When you love your companion you will not be unkind because “LOVE IS KIND”

10. Do not learn how to Resolve conflict

Will be differences

Rom. 12:10

Sometimes wife wants to boss

Eph. 5:25 “husband is head”

11. Financial Problems

Not as much moneyOverspend their incomeTempers flareA battle results

12. The husband and wife are Not united in Christ

Need each other spiritually

Discuss before marriage

1 Pet. 3:1-2 “may be won”

Let love come into your lives and let it grow and grow.

Love is the foundation of marriage.

Love One Another.

Part 2Why Marriage Fails Why Marriage Fails

so Oftenso Often

Sermon by Arthur Pigman

Evans Church of Christ

515 Gibbs Road

Evans, Ga. 30809

706-855-1249

evanscoc@bellsouth.netevanscoc@bellsouth.net

www.evansgachurchofchrist.orgwww.evansgachurchofchrist.org

Sunday Evening Feb. 8, 2009