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How to Find Victories in a How to Find Victories in a Losing SeasonLosing Season

Dave Tikker- Dave Tikker- Executive Director- WSSAAAExecutive Director- WSSAAA

dtikker@mead.k12.wa.usdtikker@mead.k12.wa.us

Why This Topic?

Our Patrons, Parents, and Athletes Need to See Value

in All Season, Not Just Winning Ones

We have activities because of We have activities because of there educational value-there educational value-

The value is measured by our The value is measured by our respective communities during our respective communities during our seasonsseasons

Ultimately they determine if that Ultimately they determine if that value is worth the costs of the value is worth the costs of the program program

What did the parents perceive to be What did the parents perceive to be the value of your last season?the value of your last season?

Ultimate Goal of Educationally Based AthleticsBetter Citizens

First Coaching Job

Goals Mistakes Lesson Learned

What was the Value How do you put season in perspective Banquet is Everthing

My Worst Season

5-5 Dr Stephens- speaks to the value of

sport, not winning I don’t remember my record of the coach

I loved the most- I just wanted to be in the gym with the guy because I wanted to go through the wall for him.

Only banquet I ever had at 9th grade with parents

1. What made them different? 2. Was it all about winning? 3. What did you learn from them? 4. Healthy Perspective and Balance? 5. Demanding yet fair?

Your Favorite Coach- Discussion

Sports are a "Character Breeding Ground” Every situation, properly perceived,

becomes an opportunityHelen Schucman

Undefeated season playing 5 kids more important then the growth and your relationship with # 8

My #8 kid during my 0-10 season eventually became my family doctor-

Reason he Played

Had Fun Liked his teammates I lifted him up with our relationship-

made him feel worthy Because I had earned his respect by

developing the relationship he found value playing.

Perseverance and Hard Work To here him tell it these were the

character issues that helped him through a very tough first year at medical school

Glad he made it- saved my best friends life with an early diagnosis

Victories in Sport

Life Changing Relationships Resiliency Understanding we Being a better listener Understanding “Grace” Fun Fitness Commitment Work Ethic Challenge Improvement

Life Changing Relationships

Whether you win or lose you are going to impact lives.

Athletes are going to take something out of the season- what would you choose to have them take?

How do you want them to see you 5 years from now?

You were there for them and never gave up on them.

Resiliency

How do you bounce back from a 64-4 drubbing?

One practice at a time- with your teammates

Never, ever, ever, give up. Definition of success: Picking yourself off

the ground one more time then you fall.

Understanding We

The greater good and sacrifice that it takes from all to get there is like no other feeling in the world.

To experience the concept of team is life changing if the coach has a healthy perspective

Being a Better Listener

Gives credibility and builds understanding

Everyone has a need to belong- nuture that by being a better listener

Understanding Grace

We all make mistake- everyone needs a second chance

Humbling yourself at times is good for the soul

your kid who missed the winning layup- how do you give that moment grace.

Here is how I always handled that:

Fitness

Life altering if you can instill a continued discipline for fitness, diet, and health.

All 3 of my daughters schedule in daily activity- learned about the value of that in sports

Work Ethic

This goes along with commitment I had the slowest, shortest, non-athletic

point guard in the history of basketball. His basketball skills took him no where

but his work ethic and “never give up attitude” as made him a tremendously successful business man.

Challenge

Green and growing or ripe and rotting Growth is optional based on your desire

to work What is your potential? Who helps you

know that?

Improvement

Henry Miller- Basketball Kendra Collier- x-country

No one crushed their dreams- encouraged and continued to improve

Many stories like that out there Where do some generate the desire to

improve without an encouraging coach

Winning Isn’t reflected in the scoreboard Most important part of the season?

School Based Athletics

School Based Athletics

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“Kids First……Winning Second”

Gauging a Successful Season If we didn’t have state tournaments how

would gauge your season? The answer to that is what gives us the educational value we put on athletics.