family wisdom

FAMILY WISDOM

WHO, WHEN, WHERE

Robin Sharma

Published by Jaico Publishing House; Mumbai; 1993 in arrangement with Harper Collins Publishers Limited; Toronto; Canada

Available in Marathi, Malayalam and Gujarati

www.jaicobooks.com

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WHO IS ROBIN SHARMA?

An internationally respected authority on leadership, peak performance and life management.

  A globally celebrated author of 11

international bestselling books on leadership published in over 60 countries and in nearly 70 languages including The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari

The founder and CEO of Sharma Leadership International Inc., a global consultancy that helps people in organizations Lead Without a Title. 

Visit www.robinsharma .com to know more

INTERESTING FACT: Robin's fans + endorsers include Nobel

Prize winner Desmond Tutu, rock star Jon Bon Jovi, a member of The British Royal family and heads of state from around the world. 

Sources: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robin_Sharma, http://www.robinsharma.com/about-robin

SYNOPSIS

The book aims to teach us… how to liberate the natural leadership potential of our children while creating a richer, more rewarding life for ourselves in the process. 

The story

What can the book really do for us:

“A one-of-a-kind handbook for personal fulfillment in a hectic age” – Scott DeGarmo, Past Publisher, Success magazine

“….sheds light on life’s big questions” – The Edmonton Journal

CONTENTSCHAPTER Pg. No.

MY GREAT AWAKENING 1

THE BEST WORST EXPERIENCE OF MY LIFE 9

THE GIFT OF LIFE 14

A MONK COMES TO VISIT 26

THE MIRACULOUS JOURNEY OF THEGREAT JULIAN MANTLE 32

THE FIRST MASTERY OF THE FAMILY LEADER™ 54

THE SECOND MASTERY OF THE FAMILY LEADER™ 96

THE THIRD MASTERY OF THE FAMILY LEADER™ 125

THE FOURTH MASTERY OF THE FAMILY LEADER™ 160

THE FIFTH MASTERY OF THE FAMILY LEADER™ 183

ABOUT THE AUTHOR 19

MY GREAT AWAKENING

“We are generally afraid to become that which we can glimpse in our most perfect moments”

- Abraham Maslow

Catherine Cruz

“We fail to truly live while we are alive…leave a legacy”

  “Success cannot be pursued, it is

a by product of a life spent enriching the lives of others”

  Top of her class, VP by 35

MY GREAT AWAKENING Started bravelife.com, commercial success  Still miserable in life  Marriage Jon Cruz- 7 years, 2 kids – Porter and Sarita  “Life is a nothing more than a series of windows of opportunity strung

together to form a whole”  Realized her kids needed her, but they truly came in second to her career

THE BEST WORST EXPERIENCE OF MY LIFE

Awakening to the true meaning of life, will it come at the last moment?

Stop living by default, start living by design

Plane incident

The Things That Truly Count - The big things turned to little things, and the apparently small, unimportant things became the important ones

“All I could think about was my family…my family mattered most”

The only thing we can take with us is our memories

THE GIFT OF LIFE

Hospitalized; Jack and Ross; Family

Crash- An Epiphany, Return to TTTC

The wheelchair and the butterfly

The life and death of Julian Mantle

 A MONK COMES TO VISIT

“The happiness or unhappiness of a man does not depend upon the amount of property or gold he wins. Happiness or misery is in one’s soul. A wise man feels at home in every country. The entire universe is the home of a noble soul.”

- Democritus  

Julian Mantle returns with the second butterfly

 THE MIRACULOUS JOURNEY OF THE GREAT JULIAN MANTLE

"Only one clear quality marks an action as good or evil: If it increases the amount of love in this world, it is good. If it separates people and creates animosity among them it is bad”

- Leo Tolstoy Julian’s physical transformation

We wear a social mask that hides our true selves, we end up living not our destined lives but the lives of other people, domestication

Wounds - Wisdom, Stumbling blocks- Stepping Stones, Setbacks – Strengths 

Everything we do must speak of love. “Work is love made visible” Kahlil Gibran

 THE MIRACULOUS JOURNEY OF THE GREAT JULIAN MANTLE

Happiness doesn’t come from achievements, it comes from thoughts

  The Abundance Principle – The more you give to

others, the more you will ultimately receive

The search for the Great Sages of Sivana“Some succeed because they are destined to, most succeed because they are determined to”

- Anatole France

THE FIRST MASTERY OF THE FAMILY LEADERLEADERSHIP IN LIFE BEGINS WITH LEADERSHIP AT

HOME

Families like organisations need leadership to prosper

Catherine Cruz makes a home office, Julian moves in

Family Vision Agreement

Put it in writing – Great leaders think in seclusion

“If children grew up according to early indications, we should have nothing but geniuses”

- Goethe

THE FIRST MASTERY OF THE FAMILY LEADERLEADERSHIP IN LIFE BEGINS WITH LEADERSHIP AT

HOME Clean and airy home with lots of

sunlight

Create a culture of learning

Speak the truth, else the wound will fester – The harder you are on yourself, the gentler life will be on you

Of sunsets, big dreams and stimulating conversations. Reconnect!!!

Flowers

“The family that plays together, is the family that stays together”, the importance of laughter

THE SECOND MASTERY OF THE FAMILY LEADERSHIFT FROM SCOLDING THE CHILD, TO MOULDING THE

LEADER

Change and acceptance of change - a gradual process

True leadership involves commending people not condemning them

True happiness = Lovely memories + special moments

“Make it a rule, to never if possible to lie down at night without ever being able to say, “I have made one human being at least a little wiser, a little happier or a little better this day.””

- Charles Kingsley

THE SECOND MASTERY OF THE FAMILY LEADERSHIFT FROM SCOLDING THE CHILD, TO MOULDING THE

LEADER Behaviour that is rewarded

is behaviour that is repeated

Good parents build trust & reward excellent failures

Building trust means Being honest Keeping promises and being

selective when making them Listening aggressively

THE THIRD MASTERY OF THE FAMILY LEADERFOCUS YOUR CHILD ON GREATNESS, NOT WEAKNESS

Specialise

The ultimate purpose in life

“The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it but that our aim is too low and we reach it”

- Michealangelo

THE THIRD MASTERY OF THE FAMILY LEADERFOCUS YOUR CHILD ON GREATNESS, NOT WEAKNESS

The 4 Disciplines of Personal Greatness-

Envision Daily

Set Goals Weekly

Walk With Giants Regularly

Giving graciously

THE FOURTH MASTERY OF THE FAMILY LEADERTO BE AN EXCELLENT PARENT, BECOME AN EXCELLENT

PERSON

“There is nothing noble in being superior to others, true nobility lies in being superior to your former self’ – Ancient Indian Proverb

Regeneration and Renewal

People who lead big lives – never satisfied with themselves

Leadership on the outside begins with leadership on the inside

THE FOURTH MASTERY OF THE FAMILY LEADERTO BE AN EXCELLENT PARENT, BECOME AN EXCELLENT

PERSONTo be a better person –

Get up early (5 am)

Look after the temple – ‘Men sana in corpore sano’

“Besides the noble art of getting things done, master the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of the non essentials.”

- Lin Yutang, Chinese mystic

Keep a journal

Take a weekly sabbatical

THE FIFTH MASTERY OF THE FAMILY LEADERGIVE YOUR CHILD IMMORTALITY THROUGH THE GIFT OF A LEGACY

Oseola McCarty

Do the little things with great love and affection and the big things will take care of themselves.

Peoples destiny is to live for something more important than themselves - they live on in the hearts of the people whom they have touched

The inners whispers of our heart lead us to our destiny

Greatness comes from beginning something in our lives, that does not end with us

CONCLUSION

Key Learnings - In order to lead a 'valuable' life, we need to put family first, savour the simple things in life, highlight a child's greatness by encouraging him/her to specialize in his talents, take weekly sabbaticals to renew oneself and finally, leave a legacy behind - one that keeps us alive even after our death.

The reason I like this book is because of the simple instructive way the author counsels us about life. On the downside, there are moments in the book which test the patience of the reader because of the dragging narration.

Reading it certainly adds value to the our life by improving the quality of our mind, and enriching us with a generous use of quotes and the famous words of great authors. It also emphasizes the value of time, family and contentment.

“Small daily improvements over time lead to stunning results.”

THANK YOU!!!