bullying: relational aggression

Bullying:Relational Aggression

Grade 7Mrs. Glasgow

Bullying S behavr dats intendD 2 cauZ mNtL distress n.or fizikL harm, exists ina R/Ship n wich there's an imbalance of pwr n str, n S repEted ovr tym

Define: BullyingBullying is behavior that :

Is intended to cause mental distress and/or physical harm

Exists in a relationship in which there is an imbalance of power and strength

Is repeated over time

Relational Aggression Definition

Designed to hurt someone

Harms relationships with others

Tends to be mistaken or overlooked for minor argument

DsignD 2 hurt SOME1 Harms relationships w othas Tends 2b

mistaken o overlooked 4

minor argumnt

RelationshipsUsed as weaponsCreates imbalance of powerGain controlHarms self-esteem of

bulliedIncreases social status of

bullySeek revenge by bully

Frequency

RepetitiveContinuous

Gender Specific?No!Girls more likelyBoys do participate

EffectsLifelong

Victim & Aggressor peer

Relational Aggression

Withholding friendship

Cliques/Exclusive clubs

Ignoring/excluding others

Building Alliances

Verbal insults

Spreading rumors/gossiping

Relational Aggression

Relational Aggression

InfluencingTalking people into

peer rejection of another child

Relational Aggression

CyberbullyingBullying with the

use of social media

Relational Aggression Effects -- Victim

Lower self-esteemLonelinessAnxiety/depressionSchool attendance dropsAvoid social situationsSeek revenge

becomes an aggressor

Relational Aggression Effects – Aggressive Person

LonelinessIsolationLess accepted by peersDepression/withdrawal/

social avoidance/anxietyProblems social as adult

•Loneliness•Isolation•Less accepted by peers•Depression•Withdrawal•Social avoidance•Anxiety•Problems social as adult

•Lower self-esteem•Loneliness•Anxiety•Depression•School attendance drops•Avoid social situations•Seek revenge • becomes aggressor

creating new victims

Victim Aggressor

Where?Unstructured areas

RecessCafeteriaLocker RoomsHallwaysWalk/Bus HomeRestrooms

Physical vs. Relational

Occurs in all locations ClassroomGym classExtra-curricular

activitiesAfter School Sports

ReportingLess likely to be reportedSigns

Mean note in classExcluding at lunchtablesEyes that catch and

narrow

Relational AggressorSocial butterflyPopularHigh self-esteemMasters of manipulation

To adults student appears innocent

Good reputationsPositive attention from Adults

Difficult for Adults to ID

What to do?Best-friends change

Private info stays privateDo not share info that can be

used to hurt youDO NOT SHARE

Locker comboCrushes

CHOOSE FRIENDS WISELY

Be a Floater!!

Self-worth does not equal friendships

Does not excludeNot tied to one group

of friendsAccepted for who they

are

CompassionDon’t be a bystander

No teasing/gossip

FriendshipsFriends = same interests

Friends ≠ social status

Actions

Actions have consequences and impact on others

Strategies to Help:Stay calm and

confidentNo emotionNo retaliationIgnore & Walk away

Internet – No response

Strategies to Help:Keep Records

NotesEmailsTextsJournal of events

Verbal/Nonverbal

Strategies to Help:

You are not a loser

Relational aggressor has problems

Strategies to Help:Remember

Definition of RARA’s weakness

Knowledge of behavior

Go to a trusted AdultEvidence

Strategies to Help:

Counseling for long term problems

A story of middle school cyberbullying as seen through the eyes of:Zebby… she just wants to tell the truth.Amr… he wants people to understand that he is just as American as anyone else.Lilly… she wants to be popular.Hayley… she IS popular.Brianna… she wants to be Hayley’s B.F.F.Trevor… he just wants to be left alone

The Truth About Truman School by Dori Hillestad Butler