“affair proofing your marriage” values that build strong families - part 7

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  • AFFAIR PROOFING YOUR MARRIAGE VALUES THAT BUILD STRONG FAMILIES - PART 7
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  • Exodus 20:14 You shall not commit adultery.
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  • I. THE PROBLEM WHAT CAUSES AFFAIRS / ADULTERY? Lack of intimacyLack of intimacy Excessive separationExcessive separation Overly scheduled and busy livesOverly scheduled and busy lives Poor Sex lifePoor Sex life The I Have a Right to Be Happy existential philosophyThe I Have a Right to Be Happy existential philosophy Relaxed Divorce LawsRelaxed Divorce Laws Unresolved Marital ChallengesUnresolved Marital Challenges Unrealistic ExpectationsUnrealistic Expectations
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  • Hebrews 13:5 "Husbands and wives be faithful to each other. God will judge those who are immoral and commit adultery."
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  • Proverbs 22:14 (GNB) "Adultery is a trap..."
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  • II. THE PREVENTION: SIX STEPS 1. MAKE A COMMITMENT TO GOD'S STANDARDS. Ps. 119:9 How can a person keep his way pure? By living according to Your word. Proverbs 5:15b says "Be faithful to your own wife. Give your love to her alone."
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  • 2. MAGNIFY THE CONSEQUENCES Proverbs 6:32 "The one who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys his own soul." Proverbs 6:26 (GNB) "...adultery will cost a man all he has."
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  • 3. MAINTAIN YOUR MARRIAGE 1 Corinthians 7:3 "A man should fulfil his duty as a husband, a wife should fulfil her duty as a wife and each should satisfy the other's needs."
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  • THE TOP FIVE NEEDS OF MOST MEN ARE: 1. Sexual fulfilment 2. Recreational companionship 3. An attractive spouse 4. Domestic support 5. Admiration THE TOP FIVE NEEDS OF MOST WOMEN ARE: 1. Affection 2. Conversation 3. Honesty and openness 4. Financial support 5. Family commitment
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  • 1 Corinthians 7:5 Do not cheat each other of normal sexual intercourse or you will expose yourselves to the obvious temptation of Satan.
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  • 4. MANAGE MY MIND STEP ONE. ACCEPTING SINFUL THOUGHTS IN MY MIND. James 1:14-15 "Temptation is the pull of a person's own evil thoughts and wishes. These evil thoughts lead to evil actions, and afterwards to death." 2 Timothy 2:22 Turn your back on lustful desires and give your positive attention to goodness, integrity, love and peace. Romans 16:19 "I want you to be wise about what is good and innocent about evil."
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  • STEP TWO: EMOTIONAL NON-PHYSICAL INVOLVEMENT. STEP THREE: PHYSICAL INVOLVEMENT STEP FOUR: RATIONALIZING THE AFFAIR Jeremiah 17:9 "The heart is deceitful and desperately wicked. Who can know it?"
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  • 5. MAINTAIN PROPER RELATIONSHIPS. 1. DON'T LISTEN TO A MEMBER OF THE OPPOSITE SEX TELL YOU HIS OR HER MARRIAGE PROBLEMS. 2. DO NOT GO FISHING FOR COMPLIMENTS. 3. BE AWARE OF A SENSE OF ELECTRICITY BETWEEN YOU AND A MEMBER OF THE OPPOSITE SEX. 4. AVOID A PROLONGED STARE. 5. AVOID A LINGERING TOUCH. Ephesians 5:3 "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality."
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  • 6. MINIMIZE THE OPPORTUNITY 1 Corinthians 10:12 (LB) "So be careful! If you are thinking, Oh, I would never behave like that: let this be a warning to you. For you too may fall into sin." 1 Corinthians 15:33 "Bad company corrupts good character." Malachi 2:15 "Guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with your wife."
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  • III. THE PATHWAY BACK TO PURITY Three steps: 1. ACKNOWLEDGE THE SIN. 2. END THE RELATIONSHIP IMMEDIATELY. 3. AVOID ALL CONTACT WITH THAT PERSON FROM NOW ON.
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