A Journey towards Effective Parenting

Parenting from the Heart

Parenting is a gift of God

Parenting is Gardening The Universe blossoms in face of child. By bringing out the best in your child, you bring

out the best in this universe.

Parenting is TrustThe biggest trust is being entrusted with a life.

The biggest responsibility is to live that trust through out your life.

Parenting is Labor of Love The sleepless nights, the career sacrifices, the

postponing of your so many activities. The prize of parenting comes at a price.

Parenting is EnjoyingSmiling together, singing songs, playing together

with your child…..are most enjoyable moments of life.

Overview• Practical Meaning of Parenting• Myths and Facts related to Parenting• Different Parenting Styles and their outcomes• Effective Parenting Skills (A-Z of Effective

Parenting)

Practically, Parenting is……

• Meeting the child’s needs to age of 18 or sometimes longer.• Guiding the child toward the goal of becoming a competent

adult.

Parenting Myths and Realities

Myth #1: All parenting skills are instinctive

Facts:No one is born with all the preparation

needed to be an effective parentMany parenting skills must be learned

through gaining knowledge and experience

Myth# 2: A mature adult can be a perfect parent A mature adult can be a perfect parent

adult can be a perfect parent

A mature adult can be a perfect parentA mature adult can be a perfect parent

Facts:Humans are not perfect, so no one can be

a perfect parentMature adults should strive to become

competent parents, not perfect parents

Myth 3#: Good parenting guarantees good children

Facts:Influences outside the family, such as peers,

adults other than parents, and media affect children in healthy or unhealthy ways

Myth #4:Parenting is always fun

• Facts:– Like any other job, parenting can be fun, sad,

exciting, boring, satisfying, and frustrating– Adults should have realistic expectations about

parenting

Parenting Styles and Outcomes

Authoritarian: Limits without Freedom

These parents are extremely strict and are

often cold. They communicate

through lectures, yelling,

punishment, and one-sided

discussions.

OUTCOME

•Obedient•Distrustful•No expression of freedom•Withdrawn•Unhappy•Hostile•Not High Achievers

Permissive: Freedom without limits

On the other extreme of the parenting spectrum is permissive parenting. As the name suggests, permissive parenting is more of an "anything goes" attitude. These

parents do not attempt to exert any sort of control

over their children.

OUTCOME

•Aggressive•Least self—reliant•Least self-controlled•Least exploratory•Most unhappy

Democratic: Freedom within limits

Democratic parenting is the middle ground

approach and is often considered

the parenting ideal. Democratic parenting is based on warmth, love,

guidance, and positive discipline.

Outcome•Happy•Mostly self-reliant•Mostly self-controlled•Content, friendly, generous•Cooperative•High-achiever’

A-Z of Parenting

A-Accept your child for the wonderful person he or she is

B-Be a good role model in all you say and do.

C- Communicate respectfully and listen attentively to your child.

D- Discipline fairly, firmly and with love

E- Encourage good eating habits

F- Find ways to get and stay fit together

G- Give chores that built responsibility

H- Hug your child to build self-worth

I- Instill respect for other people

J- Join PTMs and other school activities to assess child’s progress

K- Keep your promise or do not make them

L- Laugh together and enjoy each other’s company

M- Make family rules and enforce them consistently

N- Never Use physical force on your child

O- Offer your help whenever it’s needed

P- Praise your child for achievements as well as for efforts

Q- Quickly stop your child from harmful activities.

R- Read together often and make reading fun

S- Show patience and remember nobody is perfect

T- Teach health and safety rules.

U- Use every opportunity to show your love

V- Value your child’s thoughts and opinion

W- Wait until you cool down before disciplining your child

X- Xerox and save records of your child’s achievements

Y- You can make a difference in your child’s life….so parent with pride.

Z- Zoom over this ABC again and again.

What are some appropriate solutions to the following situations?

• Your daughter/son is throwing a ball in the living room and knocks over a lamp.

• Your daughter/son leaves dirty clothes on the floor instead of putting them in the bucket where they are supposed to go.

• Your child refuses to do homework and keeps on watching television.

• Your son takes her brother’s money from his piggy bank and spends it.

Parent’s Pledge

I Promise…I will show my

children I LOVE them.

I will listen and value what my children say.

I will praise my child’s efforts

towards accomplishment.

I will respect my children as

individuals.

And…..I will enjoy with

my children everyday.

HAPPY PARENTING