A unique challenge to Indian American Parents

Two careers and two culturesTwo careers create very little timeTwo cultures create unique challenges

Parenting is a journeyWe learn:• about ourselves• Our values• Our childhood• Our spouseand we can:• Shape the future• Mold a global citizen• Contribute to humanity

Raising a culturally balanced childExposure to the American culture and

language is organicExposure to the Indian culture will have to be

created

What is culture?Indian culture is complex It is also very fluid – like a river it is ever

changing – just slightly (as it assimilates from the surrounding, there is also a sense of continuity)

ObstaclesLack of timeLack of clarity about what to teachLack of resourcesSpouse with a different idea about cultureLack of training – especially in

communicationComplexity of Indian culture

You and your spouseAre you two on the same page?Or at least reading from the same book?

What do you consider culture?Respect and reverenceSocial skillsLanguageReligionArtMusicliterature

What is most important to you?Visualize your child as an adultWhat would you like him or her to be doing?

Assimilation or Alienation?Lunch: Indian or Western?Which language to teach?DressActivities

How do you do it?Giving samskara is a slow process You have to do it day in and day outYou have to be the role model of what you

want to preachBe open - create an environment for learningArt of communication

CommunicationSensitivityPatienceRespectSense of humorSharingTiming

Day to day lifeUse of prayersBooksMusicStoriesBreathing techniquesyoga

FestivalsBe creativeChoose one family festival Involve children in a true senseHave fun

TraditionsWhat are the benefits of some traditions?Do you have one?Can you create one?What are traditions?

Indian art or musicEnroll in one of the classesUnderstand the long term value of it

A small window of timeThe first 7 years of your child’s life We can stretch it to may be ten yearsBut our time is limited