A NEW KIND OF CUPID

By: Tatiana Isaza

How Facebook Guides Relationships

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Mark Zuckerberg has assumed a variety of roles in our culture;

he can now add the title of computer-age Cupid

Source: Tom Jacobs, I Now Pronounce you FBO: Facebook Official Image: mekimz (deviantART)

at least in the initial stages of getting to know

Facebookis a positive factor for young people

in the dating pool–

potential partnerSource: Tom Jacobs, I Now Pronounce You Fbo: Facebook Official Image: m.flikie.com

Facebook users can avoid the tension of having to directly express relational interest in the first meeting by asking for a phone number,

Rather, they can retreat to the nearest computer or smart phone and look the person up on Facebook

Image: Lapideo (Flickr)Source: Tom Jacobs, I Now Pronounce You FBO: Facebook Official

“The idea of ‘Facebook stalking’ a prospective date isn’t new”

Source: Allison McCann, How Facebook Ruined Dating (And Breaking Up Too)

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Part of me wanted us to be Facebook friends, because somehow in my

mind that meant we were SOLIDIFYING something

Image: thegraesheep.deviantart.comSource: Kelly, Mixing Dating and Facebook: Is it Smart?

Participants almost universally cited Facebook as their primary tool

for interaction early in the experimenting stage of romantic

relationship development.”

Source: Tom Jacobs, I Now Pronounce You FBO: Facebook Official Image: Pixabay.com

Goodbye butterflies and excitement, I already know everything about you

Source: Allison McCann, How Facebook Ruined Dating (And Breaking Up Too) Image: exoart (deviantArt)

Can I admit to knowing things you’ve done

(BASED ON YOUR PICS)

BEFORE we go on dates?”

Image: Destructive Compliments (Flickr)Source: Allison McCann, How Facebook Ruined Dating (And Breaking Up Too)

DECIDING TO GO FBO MEANS LAYING YOUR EMOTIONAL CARDS ON THE TABLE FACE UP

Source: Tom Jacobs, I Now Pronounce You FBO: Facebook Official Image: Qisur (Flickr)

This status is a new MILESTONE for couples

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Source: Tom Jacobs, I Now Pronounce You FBO: Facebook Official

How well we negotiate electronic communication in our personal

relationships can

make or break them

Image: MarioMancuso (Flickr)Source: Elizabeth Bernstein, He Texts She Tweets- Are They E-Compatible

Why hire an engraver when a

couple of clicks will do?

Image: Minxlj (Flickr)Source: Tom Jacobs, I Now Pronounce You Facebook Official

If you don't include social media behavior in a PRENUP (which Meyers ‘highly recommends’),

at least sit down and consider specific areas of concern

Image: Sarah ParrottSource: Bill Bradley, Is Facebook Ruining Your Relationship?

One’s relationship can end up being “SHAPED by

its actual and perceived audience”

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Source: Tom Jacobs, I Now Pronounce You FBO: Facebook Official

Before Facebook,

ending a relationship actually

meant the end of

communication

Image: tantrum dan (Flickr)Source: Allison McCann, How Facebook Ruined Dating (And Breaking Up Too)

Facebook really is altering, or at least reflecting,

new relationship patterns, even how people break up. Or more accurately, don’t break up

Image: www.stockvault.netSource: Allison, McCann, How Facebook Ruined Dating (And Breaking Up Too)

when they have their partner

Peoplefeel more PRESSURE from friends and family to stay together

andRELATIONSHIP STATUS

In PROFILE PICTURE

Image: Charm2010 (Flickr)Source: Allison McCann, How Facebook Ruined Dating (And Breaking Up Too)

Those that displayed their significant other in their profile picture and were listed as “in a relationship” were more likely to stay together

and less likely to have cheated when she checked back with them six months later

Image: thezartorialist.com (Flickr)Source: Allison McCann, How Facebook Ruined Dating (And Breaking Up Too)

Over one third of DIVORCE filings in 2011 contained the word "Facebook”

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Source: Bill Bradley, Is Facebook Ruining Your Relationship

Once you finally manage to sever offline ties, there’s

really no way to avoid virtual run-ins with your ex

unless you’re off of Facebook entirely.

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Source: Allison McCann, How Facebook Ruined Dating (And Breaking Up Too)

Facebook gives them automatic

window into an ex’s

relationship

Source: ScienceDaily,Facebook and Romantic Relationships

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Facebook friends with an ex delayed emotional recovery and led to greater distress

over the breakup,

negative feelings, sexual desire and longing for the EX-PARTNER

Image: engintepe (Flickr)Source: Allison McCann, How Facebook Ruined Dating (And Breaking Up Too)