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A COACH’S TOUR OF THE PERSONALITY
Margaret Moore, aka Coach Meg
Co-Founder, Co-Director of Institute of Coaching
CEO, Wellcoaches Corporation
Co-Founder, National Board for Certifying Health & Wellness Coaches
Faculty, Harvard Extension School, Harvard Medical School
Harvard Health author: Organize Your Emotions, Optimize Your Life
www.coachmeg.com
AGENDA
• background• personality tour• inner family tour• coaching principles• Q&A
ORIGINAL WORKPLEASE CITE
© COACH MEG
ONE CAN HAVE NO GREATER MASTERY
THAN MASTERY OF
ONESELF
L E O N A R D O D A V I N C I
Richard Schwartz, Internal Family Systems
the personality is a complex system
INNER FAMILY
• needs
• drives
• values
• strengths
• capacities
DAN SIEGEL, MDMIND?
• self-organizing
• emergent
• complex system
• embodied process
• relational process
• conscious + unconscious
• regulates energy + info flow
MINDFUL SELF?
C OAC H IN G T H E M U LT IP L IC IT Y O F M IN D :
A S T R E N G T H S - B A S E D A P P R OAC H J U LY 20 13
HARVARD HEALTH BOOK PUBLISHED BY
WILLIAM MORROW
2016
TALK TO EMOTIONS IN 3 RD PERSON TO GAIN WISDOM
A PART OF ME IS ANGRY
Kross, E., Grossmann. (2012). Boosting Wisdom: Distance from the self enhances wise reasoning, attitudes, and behavior. Journal of Experimental Psychology. Vol. 141, No. 1, 43-48
Coach Meg’s inner family
yes! BRAIN BREAKS no!
Jung functions & Inner Family
Introverted Extraverted
Beebe (2016) Energies and Patterns in Psychological Types
Feeling A - AutonomyIntuition MM - Meaning Maker Sensing BR - Body RegulatorThinking EM - Executive Manager
Feeling R - RelationalIntuition Cre - CreativeSensing Adv - AdventurerThinking Ss - Standard Setter
INNER FAMILY & ENNEAGRAM TYPES
1. Reformer Autonomy2. Helper Relational3. Achiever Standard Setter4. Individualist Creative5. Investigator Executive Manager6. Loyalist Body Regulator7. Enthusiast Adventurer8. Challenger Confidence9. Peacemaker Meaning-Maker
INNER FAMILY & HOWARD GARDNER INTELLIGENCES
1. Intrapersonal Autonomy2. Interpersonal Relational3. Linguistic Standard Setter4. Visual Creative5. Musical Meaning-Maker6. Logical Executive Manager7. Kinesthetic Body Regulator8. Naturalist Adventurer
Carl Jung mental processes
Howard Gardner intelligences
Enneagram personality style
Inner Family needs & values
introverted feeling intrapersonal 1 reformer Autonomy
extraverted feeling interpersonal 2 helper Relational
introverted intuition musical 9 peacemaker Meaning Maker
extraverted intuition visual 4 individualist Creative
introverted sensing kinesthetic 6 loyalist Body Regulator
extraverted sensing naturalist 7 enthusiast Adventurer
introverted thinking logical 5 investigator Executive Manager
extraverted thinking linguistic 3 achiever Standard Setter
memory and action? memory? 8 challenger Confidence
RESOURCES
Carl Jung functions/processes www.cognitiveprocesses.com
Myers-Briggs types www.myersbriggs.org
Howard Gardner intelligences www.multipleintelligencesoasis.org
Enneagram types www.enneagramspectrum.comwww.enneagraminstitute.com
Inner family www.organizeyouremotions.com
MYERS BRIGGS PERSONALITY TYPES
MM Introverted Intuition Ss Extraverted ThinkingA Introverted FeelingAdv Extraverted Sensing
Enneagram 3 – AchieverEnneagram 8 - Challenger
Cre Extraverted IntuitionEx Introverted ThinkingR Extraverted Feeling BR Introverted Sensing
Gardner intelligence – logical
COACH MEG - INTJ
DOMINANT LESS DOMINANT
FIVE-FACTOR PERSONALITY TRAITS
1. Openness Adventurer Extraverted Sensing
2. Conscientiousness Standard SetterExtraverted Thinking
3. Extraversion CreativeExtraverted Intuition
4. Agreeableness RelationalExtraverted Feeling
5. Neuroticism Confidence?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Five_personality_traits
INNER FAMILY & VIA CHARACTER STRENGTHS
Autonomy Bravery, Honesty
Relational Fairness, Kindness, Love, Social Intelligence, Teamwork
Body Regulator Prudence
Adventurer Curiosity, Open-mindedness, Zest
Executive Manager Judgment, Self-regulation
Standard Setter Humility, Leadership, Perseverance
Creative Creativity, Humor, Appreciation of Beauty
Meaning-Maker Gratitude, Perspective, Spirituality
Confidence Hope, Love of learning
http://www.viacharacter.org/www/Character-Strengths/VIA-Classification
INNER FAMILY & GALLUP STRENGTHSFINDER
Autonomy Belief, Individualization
Relational Empathy, Includer, Relator, Winning Others Over
Body Regulator Consistency, Deliberative, Discipline, Restorative
Adventurer Adaptability, Input, Learner, Positivity
Executive Manager Analytical, Arranger, Focus, Intellection
Standard Setter Achiever, Maximizer, Responsibility, Significance
Creative Communication, Futurist, Ideation, Strategic
Meaning-Maker Connectedness, Context, Developer, Harmony
Confidence Activator, Command, Competition, Self-Assurance
www.gallupstrengthscenter.com
INNER FAMILY & MAJOR CHAKRAS
Chakra 1 Root Body Regulator
Chakra 2 Navel Adventurer
Chakra 3 Solar Plexus Standard SetterConfidence
Chakra 4 Heart Relational
Chakra 5 Voice Autonomy
Chakra 6 Third Eye Executive ManagerCreative
Chakra 7 Crown Meaning-Maker
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chakra
INNER FAMILY & MASLOW’S HIERARCHY OF NEEDS
Self-Actualization AutonomyAdventurerMeaning MakerExecutive ManagerCreative
Esteem Standard SetterConfidence
Social RelationalSafety Body RegulatorPhysiological Body Regulator
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs
meet the inner family
AUTONOMY
• self interests first• self-determination• march to own drummer• authenticity• aligned with values• inner compass• freedom to choose
Deci, Ryan, (2000).The What and Why of Goal Pursuits. Psychological Inquiry. Vol 11. No. 4. 227-268
autonomyJung function introverted feelingEnneagram 1. reformerVIA Strengths bravery, honestyStrengthsFinder belief, individualizationGardner intrapersonal
RELATIONAL
• others first• benevolence• compassion• connection• loyalty• trust
relationalJung function extraverted feelingEnneagram 2. helperVIA Strengths kindness, love, social intelligence, teamworkStrengthsFinder empathy, includer, relator, Win Others OverGardner interpersonal
BODY REGULATOR
• vitality• health• balance• stability• sustainability
body regulatorJung function introverted sensingEnneagram 6. loyalistVIA Strengths prudenceStrengthsFinder consistency, discipline, deliberative, restorativeGardner kinesthetic
ADVENTURER
• curiosity• novelty• risk• adventure• change• zest
adventurerJung function extraverted sensingEnneagram 7. enthusiastVIA Strengths curiosity, open-mindedness, zest StrengthsFinder adaptability, input, learner, positivityGardner naturalist
• organize
• order
• focus
• understand, clarify
• strategize
• be productive
• manage time
• self-regulate
EXECUTIVE MANAGER
executive managerJung function introverted thinkingEnneagram 5. investigatorVIA Strengths judgment, self-regulationStrengthsFinder analytical, arranger, focus, intellectionGardner logical, mathematics
• sets the bar• measures• achieves• ambitious• compares• judges • self-worth
STANDARD SETTER
standard setterJung function extraverted thinkingEnneagram 3. achieverVIA Strengths humility, leadership, perseveranceStrengthsFinder achiever, maximizer, responsibility, significanceGardner linguistic
CREATIVE
• spontaneous• nonlinear thinking• imaginative• generate ideas• invent• humor• beauty•
creativeJung function extraverted intuitionEnneagram 4. individualistVIA Strengths beauty, creativity, humorStrengthsFinder communication, futurist, ideation,strategicGardner visual
MEANING MAKER• quest• zoom out• higher purpose• gratitude• awe• wisdom• inner coach!•
meaning makerJung function introverted intuitionEnneagram 9. peacemakerVIA Strengths gratitude, perspective, spiritualityStrengthsFinder connectedness, context, developer, harmonyGardner musical
CONFIDENCE
• strength• competence• confidence• power
confidenceJung function ??Enneagram 8. challengerVIA Strengths hope, love of learningStrengthsFinder activator, command, competition, self-assuranceGardner ??
COACHINGPRINCIPLES
1. know your strengths
2. navigate inner conflict
3. seek more balance
4. seek more wholeness
5. transform self
PRINCIPLE #1: KNOW YOUR STRENGTHS
PRINCIPLE #2: NAVIGATE INNER CONFLICT
PR I N C I PL E # 3
S E E K M O R E B A L A N C E
P R I N C I P L E # 4
S E E K M O R E W H O L E N E S S
P RINC IP L E #5
T R A N S F O R M S E L F
A COACH’S TOUR OF THE PERSONALITY
Margaret Moore, aka Coach Meg
Co-Founder, Co-Director of Institute of Coaching
CEO, Wellcoaches Corporation
Co-Founder, National Board for Certifying Health & Wellness Coaches
Faculty, Harvard Extension School, Harvard Medical School
Harvard Health author: Organize Your Emotions, Optimize Your Life
www.coachmeg.com